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Blow Jobs 101 From A Home Schooling Wife

Blow Jobs 101

I like to give my husband blow jobs – OK I admit it.  I have been married for 16 years to my wonderful husband. I am a stay-at-home mom, trying to balance homeschooling my four children and supporting my husband as he runs his business. I’m involved in different ministries, children’s education, women’s ministry, and working once a week at a young mothers crisis home. Needless to say, life is extremely busy.

My husband works very hard also, He works night and day to take care of our family, Even though he is extremely busy he puts extensive effort to make sure he actively dates me. He knows how easy it is to lose sight of the purpose of our marriage. He takes the time to learn how to win my love. He gets excited when I’m excited. Because of his constant pursuit of my heart he has inspired me to do the same. I have tried hard not to let myself go and be lazy about how I dress and how I carry myself.

My husband enjoys blow jobs (What a surprise) and over the years I have developed some techniques that he enjoys very much. He always boasts about how great I serve him and how if others knew how great I was they would be jealous. Of course, this sounds a bit prideful, and I feel quite foolish speaking this about myself. My husband for years has wanted me to share tips with other women, but this is too personal for me.  Marriageheat has given me the place to share my tips anonymously and encourage many wives out there.

I will say this before I start, when I was young I didn’t care for blow jobs much. I did them occasionally as a special treat for my husband, and I never wanted him to cum in my mouth. Honestly, I still don’t care for it much but the more I focus on his pleasure, the more I enjoy giving them to him. Maybe it’s true “it is better to give than to receive.” Really the more I try, the more he tries. I enjoy him eating me, touching me and rubbing me. He gets excited when he turns me on why should I not get excited also when I turn him on.

Note: you men, who are pushy to your wives to do more, are going about it all wrong. My husband has slowly caressed me and guided me into the sex life we share; it has been a building of friendship, intimacy, and love. This information is not for men to bully their wives into getting what they want. It is to give a little encouragement to women who would like to pleasure their husbands better.

My husband and I have sat around talking about what he likes and what gets him going. I have also done extensive internet research on this subject of blow jobs and many other sex topics. Note: it’s next to impossible to find information like this without hitting many nasty websites. I avoid try to porn sites and would like to help wives do the same, so here it is…

Prelude to Perfect Blow Jobs – Turning Him On

If you want to give amazing blow jobs to him, setting the mood is a great way to start. Use your “God given gifts” of teasing and sensuality to start off a blow job with as much eroticism as possible. Use your fingers, hands, lips, tongue, mouth and, perhaps most importantly, your eyes (more to come on eyes) This is the perfect way to turn him on, get him hard and give him a little preview of the passionate blowjobs to come.

Ladies, it’s all about attitude: Take your time with Blow jobs

While giving blowjobs to him, take it slow. Rushing him anytime during the act will only give him the impression that you want to be done with him as soon as possible, pressuring him into finishing quickly and making him less able to enjoy the moment; it could even kill his arousal. Just enjoy every second you share together. Don’t worry about how much time has passed since you started. Don’t focus on making him cum. A blow job is all about how you get him there; just concentrate on his pleasure, on licking, sucking and kissing every part of him and exploring all the ways to make him tick. If you find yourself getting tired, try different techniques. Use your hands, your fingers. Stop here and there, take a few seconds to show him your body. Look into his eyes, move and tease him.

Make it last!

Building Anticipation: Teasing Over Underwear to begin Blowjobs

I love to create an atmosphere of anticipation as part of a beautiful blow job experience, so I want to give you the tools to have that same build up of desire. One way to emphasize this kind of seduction is by using his underwear as a way to build before the blow job. Use your fingers, palms, lips and tongue to tease through his underwear; you can even enjoy this kind of stimulation through pants. Fabric gives some indication of what’s to come but leaves a lot to the imagination.

Teaching Touch: Masturbation as Part of Blow Jobs

He knows his body best! Masturbation can be an excellent tool for learning how to give great blow jobs to him. Sometimes the best way to get yourself on the same page as your husband is about letting him show you how he masturbates so that you can later modify your techniques and include them in handjobs and oral sex. Study him, watch him carefully, how and when does he use his hands. Your interest will drive him crazy. It’s a greatly intimate experience, and it can go both ways so that both of you can learn and gain pleasure. Communication is the key…Note to men: don’t drop a new idea right at the moment, sometimes women will do something at the moment but not feel comfortable with what’s happening. This is very bad for your future sex life.

Eye Contact in Blow Jobs

This is one of the most overlooked (no pun intended) techniques. The gateway to the soul is through the eyes. Almost nothing compares to a woman who looks at a man longingly with deep desire in her eyes. Look straight into his eyes confidently as you flick, suck, and tease his shaft. Stare for long moments, but don’t make the mistake of thinking you have to be doing everything at once. Many times I have given my husband one long gaze, and he loses control, picks me up, and has his way with me. I love thinking of the power of simple eye contact.
Gaze intently and earnestly into his eyes!

A Gentle Breeze

What makes a blow job memorable is all in the little details, and there’s nothing like teasing to focus on all the good sensations. One of my favorite techniques is to start by slowly licking parts of the shaft, making it wet all over. Then put a little distance between you and it, taking the time to get some good eye contact before deciding where to blow. Your smooth lips come closer together, first blowing very softly. The saliva slowly dries creating the sensation of a fresh breeze, almost slightly cold. When you put the length of his shaft in your mouth, the coolness disappears, and the warmth and wetness of your mouth feel much more intense.

Dripping Desire: Playing with Precum

Precum is VERY sexy. I love seeing that dribble of pure desire coming out before I even get to the blow job. But what is precum, how do you stimulate it and how can you interact with it as part of the anticipation? I like to act surprised when I see it. I like to give long, drawn-out interactions with precum. I’ll touch it with my finger tip and then softly press it between my thumb and index finger. Sometimes I’ll take it off slowly with my finger or tongue directly from the tip of his penis and leave a glistening string to connect us together. Other times I will use my index finger and paint it down his shaft and then proceed to use it as a lubricant. He enjoys this erotic expression of arousal.

Tactile Teasing: Fingertip Foreplay

Let your fingers do the walking on the penis. I’m talking about using the fingertips as part of a beautiful blow job. They can be used independently to tease, pet, stroke and circle, or you can combine that with the mouth for a finger-focused blow job. My husband loves the different techniques he loves graceful hands and a talented mouth to tease and please him. I have him wrapped around my little finger, and he’s mine to command. 😉

Basic, But Brilliant: Working the Head

This may be something that may seems obvious, but is much more nuanced than you may think. Working the head is a very important part of a blowjob experience, as it’s often quite sensitive and its stimulation is often what ushers forth an orgasm or helps with erection. Use a variety of techniques, from kissing to licking to sucking and more. This will remind you that sometimes simple pleasures are the best when it comes to a sensual blowjob. I like to place all my fingers at the top of his head and then in a downward motion let my them graze the bottom side of his shaft wile my four other fingers go down the top side of the shaft and stropping when his head presses against my palm.

Overlooked Pleasures: Enjoying the Fundiform Ligament

People often don’t know about the fundiform ligament because it’s quite a technical term and idea, but they all know the pleasures of touching the sensitive area above the base of the penis. I like to tease and please this area using my tongue, my lips, my fingers and the palms of my hands. Use these different techniques to explore his body and add a wonderfully delicate sensation to break up the more intense elements of a blowjob experience. I’ll get right between his legs gently grab the top of his penis and then tilt it to the side so he can get a good view and flick my tung on all over the base of his shaft.

Focused Feeling: Playing With the Frenulum

The frenulum is the focus of blow jobs often. It’s a particularly sensitive part of the penis, which can be very exciting to play with. There are a lot of different ways to engage with the frenulum, both with the mouth and the hands. You can be a snake charmer, so to speak, and use just the hint of connection to get him incredibly hard. Just light teasing is enough to feel overwhelming pleasure. When it comes to actually making contact, there’s kissing, licking, flicking, and circling. Include frenulum play as part of a larger blowjob experience and make sure to break up frenulum play with other sensations.

Slippery Sensuality: Using Saliva

I like to talk on a lesser-used tool in the blow job arsenal: saliva. While it is great for beautiful blowjobs in your marriage, lot of wives forget just how amazing oral sex can be when you get creative and free with your saliva. Get it all wet with and slowly drip onto the cockhead and down the shaft, use the slickness of your spit to give a fantastic handjob/blow job combination and create a saliva string to connect yourself to his cock. most men like it a little messy and love to see it warm, wet, and slippery.

Double Your Pleasure: Using Both Hands while giving blowjobs

My Husband taught me this element to the blow job: hands. Specifically, this is about using both hands in addition to the mouth to create a euphoric blow job experience for those who tend to enjoy (or even prefer) manual stimulation. Blending these two techniques is a wonderful way to make oral pleasure (and even orgasms from oral sex) possible for people who are less familiar with blowjobs. This technique requires lots of lubricant. place both hands on his shaft, one hand above the other and rotates them in opposite directions. I usually add this at the end because it’s a sure was to see fireworks. the head of his cock will be just barley peeping out and He loves it when I bob my lips over his mushroom top head.

Extras

Here are some more advanced techniques that you might enjoy playing with. After you’ve mastered the basics.

Freezing Feeling: Using Ice

Usually blow jobs are all about getting things heated up, but for those who enjoy a bit of temperature play, ice can add a very sexy element to the oral experience. `Occasionally I like to use an ice cube to add an entirely different sensation, cooling things down as I trace it all over his penis and balls before popping it into my mouth to give a refreshingly chilled out blowjob.

Heating Blowjobs up: grab a hot beverage

I stumbled upon this accidentally one winter night after drinking a hot cup of coco. It has now become a tool in my box of sexy surprises. I’ll take a sip of the hot beverage, set it on the night stand, and slide my soft worm lips over his head and take as much of him in my worm mouth as possible. He goes crazy!

Put a Ring on it: Cock Rings for Blowjobs

We don’t think about sex toys for penises nearly enough, so I wanted to shed the spotlight on cock rings. Here are some tips on finding the right cock ring, trying it out for short bursts, slipping it on just right and including it as part of a sensual blow job. They can keep him hard and change up sensations, so take some inspiration and include a cock ring for a new take on oral sex. I like to put it on him when he’s soft and then take his soft member into my mouth and watch it grow, the ring stays at the bottom of the shaft and tightens around him as he gets hard. Note: watch out sometimes this makes him squirt twice as far.

An Intense Sensation: Ball Sucking blow Jobs

Focus on the testicles, suck on them to derive unbelievable pleasure as part of a blow job. focusing on sucking the balls individually, together and sucking on both balls while also sucking on the penis. Note: my husband and I keep trimmed up for each other. When he’s cleaned up it’s much more desirable for me to give him oral sex. Once, at a dinner party, I whispered into my husband’s ear “If you’ll shave your balls I’ll pay particular attention to them later tonight.” when he got out of the shower he was a clean as a whistle and I blew it!

Stirring the Senses: Ball Licking Blow jobs

Uses your tongue to stir the senses with a little ball licking. Alternates techniques, focusing on each individual ball, then licking along the seam and finally exploring the underside of the balls towards the perineum. Using the tongue to explore the balls is the perfect way to add variety to a blowjob.

How to Deep Throat: An Introduction

Focuses on the basics of deep throating. Deep throating is a technique women find challenging. By starting off slowly, focusing on your breathing, being aware of your limitations and not being too hard on yourself over missteps, you’ll find yourself progressing towards mastering this advanced blowjob technique.

The finish:

My husband has always been very respectful and never cum in my mouth without permission. It’s not my cup of tea but he does enjoy cumming in my mouth. I let him do it on occasion. One day he let me know “When you give such and amazing blow job I don’t care ware I cum!” So we have a deal, I tease him and tell him to cum in my mouth to turn him on and when he’s about to explode he lets me know and at the very last minute I pull off and let it fly in the air or over my breasts.

Facials:

My husband was too afraid to ask to cum on my face and it wasn’t a practice of ours for the first ten years of marriage. On one occasion I had gotten a little on my chin and he admitted it turned him on. Again I’m not a big fan of facials but honestly, I’d rather have a facial than it in my mouth. So when I want to give him a special treat but not in the mood to taste it I’ll invite him to give me a special skin treatment for my face.

Let it out:

I’m not a fan of seeing my juices so I thought it would be the same for him…wrong! most men really enjoy seeing their own cum. Once after a birthday treat I was holding it in my mouth to make a trip to the bathroom (I’m not a swallower) my husband informed me that it was just as hot to spray it in and watch it all fall out again down over his cock. This made it easier for me to pleasure him because as I’ve said, I don’t enjoy cum in my mouth very much.

After years of focused perfection my enjoyment of pleasuring my husband has increased. The things I used to think I didn’t like I like more now. My husband says that even though he doesn’t share the details with his buddies he knows that “none of them have a wife as great as his”. This makes me feel proud and sexy. I love pleasing my Husband, and he loves pleasing me. I am my beloved’s and he is mine!

Have fun practicing!

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26 replies
  1. hornyGG
    hornyGG says:

    Great post Christmakesithot! You put out some really great tips.

    I love giving my husband Ben blowjobs as well. I personally love the taste of my husbands cum, so I love for him to cum in my mouth and I eagerly swallow every drop.

    Over the years I have become quite the cocksucker and know how to get his balls churning with my hot little mouth. Like you said it is important to take your time and enjoy every moment spent with your husband.

    I like to deep throat. My husband has a rather long cock, so it took sometime to work through my gag reflex. I still tend to gag a little at first but not as bad.

    I also agree with you in that masturbation is a great way to learn what your man likes. Plus I just think it is hot just watching him jerk off.

    Well, I have rattled on long enough. Thanks again, God bless and stay horny always.

    • MeganMakesLove
      MeganMakesLove says:

      Hi GG…. I'm fairly new to this site so don't mind my ignorance. Lol. I have a question for you. I love sucking my husbands dick…. I love it! We have been married for 5 years now and I suck him off almost daily….usually just before he leaves for work. I love swallowing his cum. It turns me on so much! Sometimes I wonder if my obsession with sucking his cock his unhealthy? Like, should I spend more time on other kinds of foreplay? What are your thoughts? Also, it's so great to heat you amazing women share your thoughts and help educate us all. I'm 24 years old and personally have a dear friend who is now 60 who helped guide me since just before my marriage up until now on how to be a great wife and lover. So thanks.

  2. Anonymous
    Anonymous says:

    Excellent post! Very hot! My wife also loves blow jobs, almost as much as I love sucking her to orgasm. After 40 years, she's also begun mastering deep throat. This is no mean feat because she has a small mouth (according to dentists) and I'm quite a bit longer and thicker than average. Amazingly, she's been able to manage about 2/3rds of me so far. Looking forward to future deep throat tips to help her with that other 1/3rd, if you have them.

  3. Juicy
    Juicy says:

    I want my husband to enjoy a blow job and get so hot that he can barely stand it. That is why I never rush it and only do it when we have the time to really focus. My husband compliments me on my skills and by reading this, I am fairly up to par here with you! Seeing as my husband has been my only partner, I often wonder if my skills in the bedroom are up to snuff (not that I would wander outside of my marriage to find out!), but reading this story, and other stories here on MH, I realize that I got skills!

  4. Gracie
    Gracie says:

    What a great post christlikesithot! I'm always looking for some great tips and ways to improve on pleasing my husband, so this was very helpful. Thanks for sharing!

    • christmakesithot
      christmakesithot says:

      Thanks Gracie. glad I could help. My husband has been very proud of me and reading all the comments has been very stimulating.

  5. ServantLeader
    ServantLeader says:

    Thank you for taking the time to educate. Your honesty and expertise is admirable. As the husband, fellatio feels so good it's hard not to focus on the receiving. But if we men can focus on giving our body to our wives to enjoy however they desire, our marriages will be even more blessed.

  6. CMLove
    CMLove says:

    Thank you so much for sharing, Christmakesithot! This post is so appreciated! As you mentioned above, looking for information on how to give a good blow job is hard to find without running into open sites. Your advice and encouragement was so helpful, and it got me excited to practice with my hubby! Thanks again, sister!

  7. PacMan
    PacMan says:

    I only get a blow job 2-3 times a year. My wife just recently became a swallower, and it is a deep level of intimacy that's hard to describe. I can tell you this… Mr.Happy is craving a blow job tonight after reading this post!

  8. hubbabubba
    hubbabubba says:

    How do I get my wife who doesn't love BJ's to read this? It would be awesome, but I am not sure that suggesting this link would be a good idea or way to get things started.

    • christmakesithot
      christmakesithot says:

      well… there's not an easy answer. Like I said in the article, my Husband works hard to guide me and spends a lot of time in prayer, consideration, and servant-hood to win my approval and gain my trust. You probably won't have success just copying my husband but here's our story to MarriageHeat.com. My husband new about this site long before I did. He got the Idea from marriage heat and wrote some stories and fantasies about our relationship and gave them to me only. I didn't know it but that was the start of all this. He gave them to me when we were separated because of busyness trips.
      Before our anniversary he told me he found a Christian site that had sex ideas for couples and he explained why he liked it and how it encouraged him to desire me more. He said he had printed out a sex game he wanted to try with me on out anniversary. I was hesitant but interested in the game. it was Sexy/Kinky Game: Queen and Slave by Ella Feeney. This game was all about me and I loved it!!! We had a lot of fun and I gave him permission to look for some more. He always waited on me and was never pushy. you might not think it but I am very conservative and not really into internet stuff.

    • christmakesithot
      christmakesithot says:

      He always looks for ways to encourage me. In all this I still hadn't checked out MarriageHeat. another thing my husband does is he waits for moments when we're very close. He almost never brings up things, he wants, when he's frustrated about them. He waits and prays and serves.
      One night we were visiting and he explained to me why he liked the site. He also said there was some things he disagreed with on the site but over all he was thankful for it. He explained the the creators of the site explained that sexual expression is a gift from God and that it looks different in couples relationships. They suggested avoiding the stories that you don't agree with and let the ones that you enjoy bless you marriage. Another time he explained "you know how when we shop on amazon for lingerie, we just slide quickly when we see something inappropriate, that's what I do on this site.
      Again I still didn't go on the website, I was terribly bad about getting his hints. One day he asked to show me a page of marriageHeat wisdom. It seemed to me the people giving advice were very wise. I enjoyed the articles we read together. He asked me to look around on the site and see what I thought. We had some interesting conversations but I was now part of the Marriage Heat family. My husband did want me to read stories and get horny but he was never pushy and introduced me slowly over a period of two years…Now that's patience and that's why I love pleasuring him, because he cares for me so much…do that and you'll figure it out.

    • Lovinghusband
      Lovinghusband says:

      Your testimony here is so encouraging. My wife is very shy and on the reserved side – yet is a horny wife – a wonderful combination! A homeschool mom, too. We talk about things from MH – but she prefers to not write. But, who knows – it may happen – but I have no agenda to push her into writing. It is not her comfort zone. Yet, she likes how MH motivates me to bring things up that we talk about. We talked about and prayed for Jessica and the kids, too.

      Anyway, I think you have some things in common with my bride. I hope I have been as non-pushy as your husband. God bless you both. LH

  9. SouthernGent
    SouthernGent says:

    Great post…I would add the following:
    1) Oral sex is mentioned in Song of Solomon so its clearly on the God menu!
    2) A man's penis is not like a clitoris…once a man is hard, you can be firmer, rougher and more aggressive.
    3) Positions that allow him to see what you are doing are double the pleasure
    4) Making a humming sound while your mouth is on his shaft is an amazing and pleasurable thing.

  10. Happy Husband
    Happy Husband says:

    I would have to add in very great endorsement of the need for eye contact. My wife loves to give me blow jobs, but she rarely positions herself to provide eye contact and, when she is positioned, she rarely does it. I certainly enjoy her skills, but I notice that when she is sucking or stroking me her looks are all around the room, out the window, etc. It takes away quite a bit from the experience and makes me feel like she is completing a task, not pleasuring her lover. When I go down on her or pleasure her, my focus is totally on her. I admit to a fair degree of frustration about the differences in our approach.

  11. Sadman
    Sadman says:

    Wife never lets me finish in her mouth on the very rare occasion that she does give oral sex. I suggested using flavored condoms. That way nothing gets in her mouth and she can choose the flavor she does like. But to no avail, she has extremely low sex drive and makes comments about my requests for oral sex being "selfish". On the other hand I love to perform oral sex on her but she thinks it is gross. Struggling with this after reading all the posts on the site. I know our intimate life could be so much better.I have feelings of profound sadness because of our poor sex life. She refuses to see counselors or outside help of any kind. I can only pray and ask God to open her heart and mind to the intimate life he's design for us through marriage.

    • Happy Husband
      Happy Husband says:

      Please note, that this is not meant to be a complaint, but an observation. I love the way that my wife makes me feel and how she pleasures me, but the eye contact would really be wonderful.

    • hotforhusband
      hotforhusband says:

      Sadman,
      I'm no sex counselor, just a wife who has been through low-libido days. As a mother of 4 often by the end of the day the last thing I need when finally getting to bed is another demand on my body. I had to work my attitude out as will she, but that is out of your control. I would begin with non-demand kissing and petting, massage etc just to get in the habit of enjoying each other without any pressure to perform. "No sex, let's just enjoy touching each other" Oddly, whenever my husband did this I would usually get so turned on we would consummate anyway. But the pressure was gone.

  12. christmakesithot
    christmakesithot says:

    Thanks to all of you, I feel so honored that my advice was posted and so many of you have responded. As I gain courage, I hope to post more advice in the future.

  13. Luvinhusband45
    Luvinhusband45 says:

    Thank you for this very thoughtful and thought provoking post. In our over 40 years of marriage, my wife and I have long enjoyed oral love making, both giving and receiving. You provide some great new ideas to consider.

    One that has us wondering though, is how you position yourselves to give oral attention to your husband's testicles?

    As well written as this is, would you ever consider writing a similar post with your husband on tips for husbands going down on their wives. I am always looking for new ways to please my Honey.

    Keep on unselfishly loving each other, life only gets better as you do. Thanks again.

  14. christmakesithot
    christmakesithot says:

    Thank you for your comments, luvinhusband, We'd love to post that some time life's been extremely busy lately and it might be a while. but we hope to soon. I like to st between his legs while his sits at a chair or on the side of the bed. it gives him the best view. Although we he does lay on his back at times with his head propped up.

  15. J_
    J_ says:

    I love anytime my wife will blow me, and everything you said was spot on. She is similar to you in a lot of ways, especially about cum in her mouth. But she also understands how much I love it and serves me like you do your husband! Thanks for sharing, it’s encouraging hearing about other couples like us.

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