How Often ???

Hello, all. Just a question to the community…

Those of you who masturbate, how often do you do it? Especially any of you who might be widows or widowers, or otherwise single?

Thanks, everyone!! This is an awesome community!!

Dale3

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62 replies
  1. Old Lover says:

    Married for nearly 50 years and over 65 years old. Answering for both of us.

    Old Lover
    Once a week solo
    Once or twice a week mutual

    Anne
    Twice a month solo
    Once a week mutual

  2. Sarge says:

    For years my wife and I didn’t discuss masturbation, it was the religious stigma that caused us to be embarrassed about our self pleasure. Well I can’t really remember what brought up our masturbation habits as youths, but one day we talked about it. She asked me how often I did it as a teenager and I honestly said about once a day. Now I asked her, and to my astonishment she said about two to three times, a day! I was floored an turned on at the same time. We had been good friends in high school, so my mind immediately traveled back in time to envision that hot, hot girl I knew back in 1974/75, rubbing three off a day.
    Well that day began our masturbation journey together until she passed away. We loved to masturbate together, and later on it was our only source of sex for her due to a rare skin disease she had on and around her genitalia. But dang we had a lot of fun jillin’ and jackin’ off together. Now as a widower I do it about once a week while remembering her in our prime. She was an amazing wife and adventurous lover, and dang she gave great head.
    Stay horney my friend, and remember your wife fondly.

    • Dale3 says:

      Hi, Sarge…thanks for your insights ..It seems you and I are in a similar place…Sorry, again, for the loss of your wife !! Sounds like you had a great life together !! And thanx, again, for the words of support !!

  3. Tulsa says:

    Years ago, my wife and I got to talking about sexual things, and got into a conversation about how we learned and did it the first time. One of those eye-opening conversations, where we both said "REALLY??"….like that.
    Best part was, we showed each other! 😉
    Led to more than masturbation, that's for sure!
    Mutual Masturbation got to be a regular thing after that!

    Yup! Stay horny!

  4. Horny_boy says:

    Lately, masturbation is almost pretty much part of my life and most of the time I do it multiple times a day… I'm 20 and engaged with my girlfriend and every time during our make out session I get pretty horny just by kissing. There's something about her saliva and femininity that drives me crazy. In fact, I'm getting aroused right now just thinking about her. I really have a strong sex drive and when I get home or at work, I just have to release my sexual urges that just built, I also I love to read one of MH's stories and is amazing the intensity of my orgasm!

  5. JAM777 says:

    It depends for me…
    I'm 29 and single. I had stopped doing it for about 8 years which was annoying because they would hurt alot and my body would "realise" while I was sleeping or even while I was just talking to a girl by itself with no stimulation. I use to have a lot of unwanted sex dreams and wake up to mess.
    After I started up again, my body couldn't get enough and I have released 5 times in my day before.
    It slowly dwindled and now I can daily if I choose to. Get too busy sometimes with reading or working on my book series to take the time.

  6. Beachlover Guy says:

    While I was single, I masturbated just about every day and got off in the morning in bed or in the shower. Recently remarried, so now solo masturbation has decreased a bit to maybe three times a week. Wife enjoys joining in as well as just watching me and letting me cum on her tits, which she licks off or I will if I'm extra horny. I discovered licking my own cum late in life, and I love doing that now whether solo or sharing it with my wife.

  7. MajorMajor says:

    My wife and I used to do it a lot – it all started one day when I got really turned on after I asked her when and how she started to masturbate. "Oh", she smiled, "I was a late developer…" She told me that she was 17 when she had her first orgasm. She used to play with herself but never quite managed to get beyond a certain level until one day they had gymnastics at school (she was in the school team) and suddenly as she was practicing a move, it dawned on her what was missing.
    "I could hardly wait to get home", she said, "that was all I could think about on the bus. I rushed to my bedroom, flopped myself on the bed, like I was, school clothes and everything, pulled my panties off, lay on my front, put a finger inside me and started rubbing my clit at the same time. What I had been missing was the pressure on my front and having a finger inside while I was rubbing off."
    Then we both got turned on and I asked her if she would do it in front of me and she went a bit shy but eventually agreed on condition that I would join in. We started a bit hesitantly but got more and more excited and had a perfect simultaneous orgasm. We found the whole experience so exciting it became part of our sex life. To top it all she was quite happy for me to come all over her body, something that had always been a secret fantasy for me.

  8. kmg902 says:

    On average, daily. In a good mood or on a vacation/weekend, twice a day. I would love nothing more than to have mutual masturbation be a part of my future marriage and to marry a woman who was equally enthusiastic and frequent in her self exploration. It's something I genuinely hope for and dream of.

  9. Thickish says:

    I'm married almost 23 years now. I was pretty much a daily Jack before getting married. I've masturbated a little since, when my wife isn't in the mood, but prefer to wait for an opportunity to plant it in my girl and the orgasm is that much bigger for waiting.
    The past year has brought a new resurgence of masturbation in our marriage bed. I love my wife getting super excited and grabbing my penis. She really enjoys jacking me off, and often we mutually masturbate each other at the same time.
    My baby grew up thinking masturbation was wrong and wicked. I couldn't get her to touch herself. Thanks to the stories in MH she has had a change of heart. I notice that if I lace our fingers as I'm stroking and fingering her pussy, she gets noticably wetter. In fact, this last week, I got her to rub her clit and finger bang herself. She loves it. I'm going to ask her to make herself come with her fingers while I watch. I love watching her in video or watching her lovingly suck my cock. To see her connect with herself will be a great joy.

  10. Ben G. says:

    I thoroughly enjoy masturbating. I often like to jack off in the shower before heading off to work. Masturbating with my sweet Gina is always a hot experience that we enjoy often.

  11. Westcoast says:

    We usually have sex every other day when I’m at home. I travel a lot for work, so I usually masturbate at the same intervals when I’m away, about every other day. Sometimes every day if i miss the sex and I’m horny for my wife who is at home.

    My wife masturbates a lot less. Maybe just once or a few times a month…

    We usually don’t masturbate in front of each other more than as foreplay, since both of us love intercourse and orgasm with my penis deep inside my wife’s vagina so much. Sometimes we masturbate each other to orgasm instead of intercourse, and that’s also very hot. I would really like to masturbate together with the other watching more.

    A few times we have masturbated together on FaceTime when I’ve been away. Very hot and arousing. I would like to do that more often too…

    I’m 50+ and my wife is 40+ and married almost 20 years.

  12. Dale3 says:

    I'd like to thank everyone here for their feedback ! This truly is a great community !! It feels like a safe place to share…As some may know, from my first post, I recently lost my wife of 42+ years to cancer. We were both brought up Catholic, so masturbation wasn't something we did, except myself, once, in all our years….It still carries that 'taboo' , which you folks have helped me overcome !! I think I may, oddly enough, have some 'survivor guilt' going on …I know it sounds weird, but enjoying things that she can't makes me feel bad…I know I'm messed up, but this grief is a strange thing. But, like I said, I don't see myself with anyone else, and I still feel sexual urges at times, so I guess I'll adjust to this new normal of 'solo sex' ..and feel 'normal' about it !!! Thank You again !! Dale3

  13. Happy Husband says:

    I am married and I have orgasms with my wife probably 2-4 times per week. If that is happening I will masturbate at least one other time per week. On down weeks I might masturbate 2-3 times. Generally I am cumming 4-5 times per week with or without spousal help! My wife has an orgasm probably twice per week, but claims to never masturbate. If my wife is out of town on a trip (she sometimes does mission work for 7-9 days once a year) I find that during those times I am masturbating every day or at least every other day. By the way, in the last year we have incorporated me jacking off onto her naked body after she has cum as a intimate part of our play. It lets her relax in the afterglow of her orgasm and it is pretty erotic for me to shoot my cum all over her naked body…and she likes it. She loves sucking my cock, but she doesn't mind watching the show!

  14. TPC says:

    Dale3,
    I'm so sorry to hear that your wife has passed. I can only imagine your grief. Thankful to hear you were married 42 years. Wife and I are working on 25 and one of my biggest fears is having to say goodbye. May the Lord comfort you and bless you.

  15. Dale3 says:

    Hi, TPC;
    Thanx for your reply , and words of sympathy… Including dating, we were together 44 years ….She was / is the better half of this union !! You and your wife, just keep making every day count!! You'll be there before you know it!!
    Try to avoid worrying about saying goodbye….I don't think there's anything you can do to prepare…Just say I love you before bed every night, say the same thing when you get up!! Take every opportunity to do what you can for her!! I don't mean to preach, cuz I was not the best I could be all the time!! I learned!! And we had many more years after diagnosis than most people do!! But I miss her terribly!! Thank You , again, and God Bless!!!

  16. Mercury7 says:

    As a teen, it was almost daily, or sometimes even more than once a day. I had/have a very high sex drive. For the first 30 years or so of our marriage, in addition to our frequent lovemaking (4-6 times a week) I also felt the need to masturbate and did it maybe 3-5 times a week. Now I rarely ever masturbate alone – only with her present.

  17. mature male says:

    Dale, I masturbate almost every day. Married almost 48 years. My wife has been ill for some years, and I enjoy
    thinking of the great sex we've had over our lives. It has been a wonderful gift!

  18. PoolPerson says:

    Yes, I do

    I actually have taken to keeping a tally.

    Last year:
    Self pleasure-49 times.
    Sex with my Wife-54 times including 11 times in our pool between May 10 and September 15

    ?‍♀️?‍♂️

  19. Waggs1 says:

    Back in my single days (highschool and college) it was average once a day.

    That changed a LOT when we got married, unfortunately not for the better. We had sex very infrequently and she insisted that I NOT self pleasure. So it dropped down to a few times a year and has been there ever since.

  20. Waggs1 says:

    Not one answer for that Q. It has varied a lot over time.

    As a horny teen in highschool and college, it averaged once a day.

    After I got married, it dropped down to a few times a month; but then went back up again after several months as DW was very uncomfortable with sex due to bad teaching from her mom and church, and frequent abuse from a teenage relative.

    About 10 years into the marriage, DW said for me not to do it at all. EVER. According to 1 Cor 7.4b, she had that authority. So the next 5 years or so were pure torture. Finally she realized that, and I went back to doing the deed a couple of times a week.

  21. Mr.Lover says:

    For any single folks, what do you think about when masterbating?

    For any former single folks, what did you think about when masterbating?

    As a single guy, I have sometimes thought about a girl that I was interested in and personally think that this is okay as long as she is single.

    What are you're opinions?

    • Fearless Lunk says:

      When I was single, I mostly thought about things my FW would do to me… or just think about the naked female form (maybe actresses I had seen in movies). I honestly don’t think there are boundaries on your personal fantasy life. Masturbating to the thought of a married woman (let’s say) is not the kind of “lust” Jesus talked about…. unless that fantasy spills over into your real life and it causes you to want that person in the flesh. I think there is plenty of room for fantasy to just remain fantasy, which actually gives you total freedom to use your imagination however you want.

  22. Mr.Lover says:

    My highest amount of weekly masturbation is everyday, three times a day. This was when I was a teen and my hormones were really crazy. Now in my late 20's, I usually masturbate twice a day or twice every second day, depending on how horny I am. Sometimes, I like to go several days/weeks without masturbating so that I will have big explosion of cum. My masterbation style is 50% edging and 50% really fast.

    My biggest fantasies are the following: 1) Catching a woman/future girlfriend/future wife masturbating, 2) Being caught masturbating by a woman/future girlfriend/future wife, 3) Catching a couple having sex would be hot just like in The Watchers story, and 4) Getting screwed really good by my future wife. I also would not mind hearing a woman masteurbate or hearing a couple having sex like I did in the story called The Listener.

  23. Mr.Lover says:

    I remember in one MH story SecondMarge stated that she had a friend who during the pandamic had been masturbating up to three times a day. That is hot. Just thinking about woman masturbating multiple times a day has me so horny. I wonder how that would go. Once with fingers, once with a dildo and once with a vibrator sounds fun.

    • alwayswet101 says:

      This is me right now. Three is about the amount that I do since being knocked up, however on a good day, sometimes I’m riding that dildo a little more often. ? I love masturbating and honestly can’t do without me-time during the day, but when my husband comes home he can hardly resist my pregnant body. And I can hardly resist his big cock that has been stuck in his work pants all day. I definitely use my fingers, dildo, and vibrator and get off to all of them!

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