My Fetish?
Hello, all.
I recently discovered that I have a fetish for hairiness. I asked my wife to grow her underarm hair because it pushes my sex drive sky-high. I believe the driving concept is that I want to enjoy a mature woman, not feel child-like skin. I also tell her to let her pubic hair grow, and I do the same. I enjoy being naked and hairy with her.
My question: Is this usual? It seems from many stories here that the norm is to be bare or at least trimmed down below. Underarm hair isn’t often mentioned, so I wonder if I am an outlier on this issue. Many thanks for your input.
Hair or not is really for me a combination of what feels best for me and what my spouse enjoys and increases pleasure for her. My wife prefers hair on me and on herself but not in her armpits. I can go either way.
Nothing is wrong (or a fetish) within a marriage as long as both are in agreement. Whether you and your wife want her to have pubic hair or not is your decision. Except in rare circumstances or unless you are nudist, no one outside of your marriage will ever know. However, in our American culture, having your wife shave her underarms is a bit different. As we approach spring and summer, she may want to wear a halter top or a sleeveless shirt that exposes her underarms. Having hairy underarms may embarrass her. Remember this is the woman God requires you to love. Pushing her to do something that she doesn’t want to do is not a loving act.
Frankie, I agree with you 100%
I can understand that. I think going all natural makes you feel more earthy and natural. Sex is natural, so maybe that is the connection.
No worries. So long as it is in between two consenting adults, and in the safety of marriage go for it.
So that you’re a little more comfortable let me tell you one of my fetishes. I actually have one where my future wife really sweet and ministering to me and then when we are alone, does a 180 and basically uses me as a personal toy.
It's all good in love and marriage! Most days, however, I far prefer licking my sweet wife's totally shaved pussy, and she loves it too. She resisted, and now she will never go back. Not even a tuft!
I guess I'm just too conditioned by American beauty standards. To me, all body hair on a woman (except arms and maybe some very light facial peach fuzz) looks bad. It's my personal nemesis. Shaving,waxing, and every other method to remove hair gets tiring and has little effect on me. I do keep some pubic hair, because if I shave it clean it grows back very scratchy and itchy. I like hair on men, but I like a guy's smooth chest too. It must just be preference. If your wife likes it, then great!
I feel ya! I don't know if you would call it a "fetish" or perhaps just a preference. But I prefer my lovely wife (Gina) to have a nice full carpet of pubic hair. I know it may not be a popular thing nowadays with most going shaved or having just a small patch or landing strip. But to me, I just like the natural appearance of it. It just looks really sexy in my opinion. Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with " baldness " down there. As a matter of fact, my Gina has shaved her pussy a couple of times, and it is hot and has a definite different feel. I guess you can label it as a " fetish", but a woman with a nice full bush is really hot.
I never gave much thought about the underarm thing as Gina has always kept her underarms shaven. It just doesn't do anything for me, and I seriously doubt Gina would ever consider doing it.
Anyway, God bless and thank you for the post.
I don’t consider your hair preferences a fetish; it’s more a simple grooming preference. Me, I really love the feel of my naked pussy, and so does Jim. Plus, when I masturbate, I prefer to have my clean, slightly-oiled pussy free of any impediments in order to see and feel what I’m doing. And Jim totally loves my clean box—I flashed him the other night on the couch when I picked up a popcorn bowl from the coffee table, revealing my pantyless ass. Next thing I knew, his face was buried in my ass and pussy!
My wife has very fine body & pubic hair that is very soft. Her body hair is so light and grows so slowly that she only has to shave her legs and armpits a few times a year. When her pubic hair is shaved she is like LLL. Melodie about goes insane with the itching.
In fact, I prefer her with her soft pubic hair. I guess it’s not a fetish, but it IS my preference.
I agree with Frankie’s advice here. A fetish within marriage that you both enjoy is perfectly acceptable. There may actually be a fine line between fetish and preferences in marital sex. And there are things I love to do that my wife learned to enjoy as part of our lovemaking. The reverse is true, too; there are things she likes to do that I have learned to enjoy. We still have agreed-upon boundaries too.
From our wedding night on we both have actually really enjoyed and/or have had a fetish for each other’s nipples and orally loving on them, AND we both love being on the receiving end of nipple play too! In the very rare times that we have sex without us both getting some nipple play, we have to end with that to feel satisfied!
I agree with Creamy, it's not a fetish at all, just your preference. You like body hair. Personally, I've never understood women wanting hairy pits. I don't even like men with hairy pits. haha My husband works out and has always shaved his chest and pits. I love it. AND…he started shaving all of his pubic hair off a couple of years ago and I love that too! Love the look and the feel of a completely bald cock and balls! I've had a bald pussy for a very long time and have no intention of ever going back to bush! I shave it every day along with my legs so there's never any problem with itching etc. I'm always smooth. Oh, and if you gals ever have problems with ingrown hairs, try a product called Tend Skin. Works like a charm!
Speaking of pubic hair, isn't it interesting how different our bushes are from each other? Some sparse. Some dense. Some thick. Some thin. Mine was always the thickest right at the top of my slit, but more sparse above that (on my mons).
I’m surprised you had no comment on my story, sweetie.😎
What does your bush look like? Thick? Sparse? Dense? Wild? Soft? Curly? Fine hair?
I've seen some really nice-looking landing strips because the hair is full throughout the strip, if you know what I mean? Personally, I don't think I could pull off the strip because of how my bush grows. Would look more like an exclamation point! (with the dot being right above my slit haha)
I feel like you could equate it to beards versus clean-shaven for men. You might want to consider your wife's preferences, but your grooming choices are yours.
I wish my husband would try out having facial hair, but he won't.
Also, I actually prefer to be clean shaven, but am shaving a lot less often because it was causing me to get in-grown hairs too frequently. So there can be health factors to consider.
My hubby loves for me to walk around the house topless showing my underarm hair. He likes me to keep my pussy shaved but something about the arm pitt hair makes him wild. He loves me to raise my arms above my head so he can lick. That usually winds up in him taking me to bed.
I am not a fan of armpit hair on a gal but the French ladies were still beautiful when I was there some years ago. That said, I have seen some extremely sexy women with belly hair from their navel downwards. That was very sensual!
I don’t like hair; neither does my hubby. In our opinions, the only place a woman should have hair is her head.
I have never shaved my pubes, armpit hair I stopped shaving during lockdown, as did many other girls.
I had heard that body hair traps pheromones and that having hair makes one sexier, more easily aroused, libido going up, leading to more sex and masturbation. Yes, I do masturbate myself more than I did three years ago, so it is true for me. I have at times encouraged other women to also grow out their hair, at least pubes, armpit too sometimes. It is not 100%, but generally it has had positive results for their body image, sexuality and libido.
My hair is thick and not long, so looks tidy. I do think very hairy looks weird, but for me and most women, natural looks fine.
My dear Anne only trims her pussy, and I love it. When I go down on her, the fragrance and pheromones emanate from her pussy hair and really turn me on. Those aromas combined with the taste her fresh, sweet pussy juice as I eat her out produce lots of precum that both of us can enjoy together, furthering our erotic, sexual intensity!
I've tried a lot of different things. From high school forward, I shaved legs and pits because my mom did and all the other girls I knew. At around age 35, I tried au natural for some of the same reasons likaself mentioned, and was shocked the first time I felt wind ruffling the hair on my legs—gave me goosebumps! What sensations I had been missing!
As for the pubic area, I shaved bare occasionally as a treat for my husband early in marriage, then the au natural phase, then waxing (which we both really like the look and feel of), then tried a home laser treatment that only did about half the job. My bush is light versus heavy now but looks nice, I think. I bought my own waxing set-up, so I may go back to waxing again if he helps me. We tried it once, and I think it takes practice.
All this to say, variety is the spice of life! Don't feel bad that you like your wife the way God made her; embrace your attraction to her! That the two of you agree or at lovingly accommodate each other's preferences is all that matters, imho.
The bottom line is, you like what you like. If some underarm hair turns you on, it turns you on. And if your wife is willing to indulge this desire, then lucky you!