Experiences with Voyeurism or Exhibitionism
First time posting! I am wondering if anyone has watched others have sex or has been watched having sex? I would love to hear your story! I find this to be a huge turn-on.
I am open to other viewpoints on this, but I also recognize that for thousands of years, couples would have sex with only a sheet separating rooms. Others could easily hear a couple having sex. Sorta like if you were camping and your tent was right next to another tent. I do think that sex was a more normal part of their daily life and was not a taboo topic. When a royal newlywed couple got married, there was an audience to watch the consummation of the marriage. In Europe, there are many nude beaches, and it’s the norm, and everyone is respectful. In America, the beaches would be overrun with perverts and creeps.
All this to say, I’d love to hear your thoughts and stories. If it’s fiction, please say so.
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I don’t have a problem with watching or being watched, but of course, certain boundaries should apply.
In a certain context, I think it would be hot to observe or be observed, but I have never experienced either.
Since we're looking at this earlier, I have debated as to whether to comment on this or not. We had been talking a lot about what we contribute here. What is our purpose. Are we writing to help and to educate or are we writing this through up less than desire in the reader.
From our point of view the entire porn industry is predicated upon this very kink of exhibition and voyeurism.
A very wise woman who I had known for years and has taught me so much sexually told me we all have certain kinks or fetishes. The question is where do they come from? Are they from experiences, are they from needs, or have they been put there by suggestion from what we've allowed our eyes to see in our ears to hear. I've made it no secret that I have my share of kinks. That I consider myself bisexual, because of my attraction for other women (although never having the full experience). And that I also have a fetish for women's feet My friend help me determine where those originated in my life.
Over our years yes, we have had experiences of both being exhibitionistic and voyeuristic, And I'm not going to lie about it It is extremely exciting and arousing, It has enhanced the sex 100 fold.
But, when is it right and when is it wrong. Almost anywhere you go there are local laws that prohibit public nudity or lewdness and voyeurism in the form of peeping or creeping as it's called today. All of us as Christians should have our first and foremost and governing of our choices be the fact that the holy Spirit dwells with it in us as believers and what sexual endeavor we engage in we have to bear that in mind.
Now there is no doubt about it that sex within the parameters of marriage can be completely amazing, as amazing as two people want to make it.
But if we engage others what are we actually engaging in? Are we causing them to be tempted and to have thoughts and possibly commit actions which would be contrary to which we know to be right?
At the time of heated passion there are so many things that we can do in a cautious way in order to amplify the experience. I think that from our writing you have a good idea.
I'll leave it at that, I'm not going to illustrate the experiences specifically.
I agree w you, the idea of being seen/watched is hot. We used to have floor to ceiling windows and hubby definitely took me from behind, leaning on the window, more than once. I never noticed anyone watching us though. The only time we were aware of being watched was during a bar hook up role play. We ended up fucking on the backseat of our car, tinted windows but somehow we got some whistles of passers-by..
we need to compare notes on the bar hook up – it's Jim and my very favorite exhibithonist game.
Among the things that We have experience together and look back on sometimes shaking our heads in this belief that it was us that did this.
Multiple times on vacation We have either had sex in a hotel window My hands pressed flat or my back and ass against.
Although we were always careful about being seen and running the risk of the wrong eyes seeing us. It was the excitement of being seen that added to the passion.
And there are many times while driving down the highway I have been had my husband's erection in my wrapped fist stroking it while cars and trucks went by not to mention it at times leaning over with my mouth filled with his length.
One of my favorite times was during the heavy rain in a crowded store parking lot. Cars all around us and people hurrying in and out of the store. It began with kissing and not long after the windows fogged up. I remember vividly my jeans and panties off and my top pulled up over my breasts with my breast out of The cups of my bra. His jeans down around his knees with me riding on top of him My arms wrapped tightly around his neck in my face buried in it kissing. Afraid that we would be seen but at the same time hoping that we would be. The feel of rising and falling on his shaft magnified by the moment..
Lady L
My stance would be similar to yours. I understand that sex was considered more "normal" in early eras, and it's been conflated to two extremes in America. Watching videos of real couples have sex radically helped me to see sex and marital intimacy as beautiful, not disgusting (as I once thought it was). If I overheard or accidentally witnessed a married couple making love, I would just be so happy for their love. If I was married, I would find it rather arousing if my husband and I were overheard or observed by accident. I think the "sex is dirty and we don't talk or think about it or view anything related to it" message has done a lot of harm. If it was treated as normal and good (in marriage) and an expected thing to learn about, a lot of the temptation and sin around it would be rendered powerless.
A few years ago MH asked our wish for the new year. I wanted to make love to my wife outside again. My wish came true.
On an unusually warm spring day we went birding at a wildlife refuge. On the drive my Melody started flashing her boobs at me. Once we were on the more isolated road of the refuge I stopped multiple times to suck her nipples. Before long she wanted me to pull over. So she pulled down her pants (her shirt was up around her neck) and I went outside of her side of the car. She kneeled on the seat and I started fucking her sweet wet pussy from behind with me standing outside the car.
There were hundreds of loud trumpeter swans 🦢 in their mating season nearby. It was a doubly beautiful sight!
Then we noticed the motorcycle about half a mile away. Rather than pull out Melody begged me to finish in her pussy. I went into a frantic pounding pace and had an epic orgasm as I filled her pussy with her present!
I slid out n quickly pulled up my pants. Melody slid out of the car and pulled her shirt down n her pants up. Then the couple on their motorcycle drove by on the other side of our car. I don’t know if they saw what was going on as they approached but I’ll admit that there was a thrill at the thought of maybe getting caught.
We continued our drive but kept stopping to have me lick n suck her tits. When we got home we had more powerful pounding sex and we both came multiple times!
This is as close as we’ve cum to being seen, I think. Early in our marriage we watched a married couple sex instruction video and that is as close as we’ve cum together to seeing other couples having sex. (The video was helpful… and a few books with sex position illustrations helped too!)
We’ve done other risky sexy things but I don’t think we were seen… but possibly heard.
Getting watched on purpose.
Unintentionally, yes, it has happened, and more than once.
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During my younger years, I never really thought about it too much.
But, as I've gotten older, I see that I enjoy both watching and being watched. (Unfortunately, at present, I do not have anyone to do it with.)
I think that it would be fine if two Christian married couples were good friends and they ended up having sex in the same room and watching each other. I think that it would be especially hot if they had casual conversation while doing it — "comparing notes", so to speak. As long as each couple kept to themselves, no line has been crossed.
I have some other thoughts on this topic, but I will practice restraint at the moment. 😉
I have very similar thoughts and fantasies. I like the thought of 'same room no swap' exactly how you describe it. I also have fantasized about my wife and I walking naked at a nude beach. I don't know if this will ever become a reality but at least for now I have entertained these thoughts. I have also fantasized that my wife and I would talk about these things while mutually masturbating
Being members of a nudist club we see people of both sexes every day, all day. Nudism is not normally a sexual activity. We all do regular things anyone would do, but we just do it nude. However, being loving couples away from home we have urges just like if anyone would have in a hotel or wherever.
Hubby and I love nude tent camping. Being in California we leave the rain fly off the screens. I can be pretty certain people see us fucking freely and without shame. Hopefully, if they decide to view they do it with the attitude we have as well. I have seen couples also in tents and out in the woods and my thoughts were how beautiful their uninhibited lovemaking is. I would like to tell them thank you, but I always think better of myself, LOL, and leave they to their privacy.
My wife and I have been to a couple of nude campgrounds and I was very surprised at how "normal" people were. While there was no overt attempts by anyone to exhibit behavior that would be considered exhibitionistic, there was an undercurrent of sex that affected my wife specifically. It was not unusual for us to have sex 2-3 times per day.
With the tents being relatively close together you could hear couples in the morning and at night. Typically during the day my wife would pull me aside from the pool activities to go back to the tent to satisfy her increased need for my male member.
I never saw any untoward interactions on the part of anyone else while we were there. Good times I would love to go back, but my wife is a bit self conscious about her body now adays.
I’ve actually been doing a little research on the sex lives of couples who lived in shared spaces. A sheer between rooms would have been a luxury for lots of couples in many earlier cultures. Take westward expansion in the US for example. A one room cabin was extremely common and mom and dad still managed to have sex frequently enough to keep their labor force growing. It sounds like staying up late and doing it quietly in bed while their children “slept” was just normal. Now they weren’t breaking out the blindfolds and restraints in that situation, it was a lot of missionary position and trying to be discreet. But it certainly happened. I don’t know that sex was more “normal” but procreation was critical. It was very much not spoken of, but it was also not unknown.
Personally I’m happy for closed doors and locks that allow us to be more deliberate and exploratory in sex, and it sure does help my wife relax and enjoy it far more than the alternative. But it is a fascination of mine. Some of my hottest memories involve being walked in on or heard in the act, so there is at least a part of me that knows I want to be watched.
OK, here is the thought that I did not post the last time.
If a married couple wants to watch themselves (on video), then they would need a cameraman. One of my fantasies is to be their cameraman. They get to keep the video, and I get to keep the memories. (Now, if they offer me a copy of the video, then who am I to refuse their hospitality?) 😉
Although this might put my toes right up to the line, I think that it still keeps the "marriage bed undefiled" — because I did not say that I wanted to jump into bed with them. (Nor would I want to, for that very reason.)
There is one more "level" to my fantasy, and I think that most of you MH members can see where this is headed. But, I will stop here and ask for your comments.
Overheard – probably way more frequently than I know. Watched by others – accidentally a few times. Both times occurred on vacation in resort type of motel and hotel where passersby our room got a show. One was the maid service. She paused at the window briefly and we kept going. Watch others in person – never.
Been caught and watched once in a hotel room while I was solo, waiting on the bed butt naked except for a blind fold on and a pair of lacy pants , heard the door open and started to touch myself to get me ready for action for my wife comming yo get me after her spa session. W
I said come and get me and after a few what felt like minutes there was no movement took my blindfold off and looked up at the maid with her standing inside door trousers around ankle pleasing herself too. As soon as as I seen her I erupted after another few stokes and she turned around never to be seen again.
I did tell my wife not sure if she believed me or not.
My wife and I have a fantasy to find another christian couple who are fun and spicy with each other to have a cabin getaway weekend where each couple can be as sexy with their own spouse as they want. My wife wants to make me coffee naked in the morning? She's free to with everyone around. We are outside in the jacuzzi and my wife wants to give me a blowjob in front of everyone she's allowed to. I want to bend her over the side in return? Im allowed to. Vice versa for everyone.
Its a weekend with no inhibition with their respective spouse. no touching or swapping allowed just with their own spouses and having a weekend where we are allowed to express our sexual love how we wish with the other couple doing the same with themselves. Maybe one day!
favoritecouple287,
That sounds like a LOT of fun!!
"Great minds think alike." 😉
It would be great to have a no inhibition friend couple.
@KingdomMan Would be really great to find a committed friend couple like this who holds boundaries but enjoys one another and likes the idea of friendly exhibition. Now bringing up the topic to another couple is a whole other ball game.
The only time that recall doing it when others could (and probably were) aware is when my wife was going through an unusual phase of her life when she was particularly horny most of the time. At the time our step son and our daughter were living at our house as well as a friend of my daughter's and her son.
During this period, my wife was desperate to have sex. She loved me to pound her. The only problem was that to accomplish that required some "hard hitting" action that would cause our bed to really squeak, and to do so somewhat loudly. I was sure that we could be heard by everyone else in the house.
At one point I asked her if it bothered her to know that everyone else in the house could hear the bed squeaking and would know what we were doing, and she responded something like, "Nope, doesn't bother me at all." Normally, even now, she would be embarrassed for others to know we were having sex and we had always been somewhat quiet in the bedroom.. But not then.
Hello Marriedman40, can you tell us where those nude camp grounds are?
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Not everybody will agree with this but that’s okay. When we got married we were getting counseled by a much older couple in our church. We were nervous about exploring in our new sexual relationship and they suggested that they could help teach us. They would start the sessions by sharing with us a position that they enjoyed in their sex life. We would ask questions and they would share how they pleasured each other. Then we would turn the lights off and they would do the position and we would too. We couldn’t see each other but we could hear each other. They would tell us step by step what to do and check in to see if it was feeling good and give us tips. […] If we were having trouble they would offer encouragement and tips. For example, one time my husbands penis would not go into my pussy bc I was clenching up. The husband told my husband to lift my hips and gently rub his thumb on my clit. The wife encouraged me to take deep breaths and just relax and let my body go. […] When my husbands penis slipped a few inches into my vagina my pussy squeezed him and I cried out. They were so sweet and told me I was doing a good job. They coached us through and encouraged me to give my body to my husband. […] I relaxed my pussy and let my knees fall to the side, and let my husbands penis slide fully into me. I yelled out and my pussy pulsed around his hard penis. It hurt but felt so good to finally have his whole penis inside my pussy. I wiggled my hips until I came so hard and we were so loud and my husband squirted probably 5 or 6 times deep in my pussy. The older couple breathed a sigh of relief with us when we finished. They felt our joy in pleasure bc they had just experienced their own pleasure and helped us get there. We will always remember them.
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I never have either way, but I did hear my parents have sex quite often. Why wouldn't I be willing to listen to 2 people I love make love?
During my military career, I was living off-base for a few months during a year overseas. To keep thing affordable, I had a roommate. We each had our own bedroom. We shared a kitchen and living room. He had a girlfriend, I did not.
At one point, I met a woman. She was not the most beautiful, but also not bad. It became obvious that we found each other attractive. BUT, I also began to suspect that she was a spy, and that she was getting close to me only in hopes of learning some type of secret.
One evening, all of us were eating, drinking beer, and socializing in my roommate's room. Both couples were making out intermittently. I had not been laid in a long time, and I just kept going. It was a bit of an extra thrill to think that I was fucking a spy while my roommate and his girlfriend were watching from only a couple of feet away. I had expected them to get naked and start fucking, also, but they never did.