Comfortable Anal Sex Positions?
I’ve been a lurker for a while, and I love the hot Christian married sex stories and discussions on here! My husband and I recently celebrated our 18th anniversary. We have experimented with anal from time to time over the past 18 years. I find my orgasms can be incredibly intense with his hard cock pulsing in my tight ass.
I’ve noticed certain positions are more painful than others – regardless of copious amounts of lube and regardless of how slow and patient and considerate my man is. However, we engage in it so infrequently that I haven’t quite figured out the best position and best angle for the most pain-free experience.
The intensity of my anal orgasms makes me crave anal sex more often, and I know hubby would be happy to oblige. I’d love anal to become our “new normal” during the days of the month that I’m menstruating.
Can you help a horny gal out? Can you save me from learning the worst positions/angles the hard and painful way? What are your tried and true positions/angles for a glorious anal fucking from your beloved?
I have had some experience in this area as my hubby has a very large and thick cock that can be, to put it mildly, painful while initiating anal sex – but I LOVE it when he is buried deep and I am able to relax all those surrounding muscles!
Now, to get to your question; for us, after applying LOTS of lube, Jim will eat me while working two, then three fingers into what by then is my very creamy pussy. This will inevitably bring on a first explosive orgasm for me, and, at the same time, after this initial muscle spasm, it will relax my lower workings.
At this point we will slide down our bed so I am on my tummy with my ass pointing to the ceiling with my knees at the beds edge, affording Jim the perfect entry to my hungry ass. Note: I always suck him really hard just before to get his rod as stiff as possible, which is essential.
In this position I have open access to my pussy to Jill a bit while he slowly takes the plunge into my ass; he starts slow, a little deeper with each thrust, until he pounds me like a jackhammer, and like you, I begin to experience at least one very intense orgasm.
Hope this helps!
[From MH: This comment was made in reply to a now-deleted comment.]
@Sandradove, I'm glad that approach worked for you, and that you were able to explore this new pleasure with your husband.
But really, it worked in spite of your mom's advice, not because of it. "Get really drunk and ram it in" is absolutely TERRIBLE advice for any kind of sex, especially anal sex, and especially with a larger-than-average penis I don't at all mean to criticize, just I don't want anyone getting the idea that this is the way to do it, because it is absolutely not! Taking a large object and ramming it into an unprepared anus, especially with senses impaired by alcohol, is a recipe for a very painful experience and a very embarrassing emergency room visit!
The best way to stretch open the anus for anal sex is to use a series of toys of increasing size, with plenty of lube, and allow yourself multiple sessions over the course of several weeks or even months. This is the most pleasurable and the safest way to do it. I know from personal experience! Toy kits for this purpose (with 3-5 pieces) can be found online at quite affordable prices. For nice-feeling, body-safe materials, I would recommend glass (for ease of cleaning) or silicone (for a little softness).
Hello CreamyPatty, I'm a male virgin who is still trying to understand female orgasms. I could really use your help, and your husband's, to understand.
If you don't mind sharing by answering my questions:
How big is your husband in inches?
Also, when & how did you become willing to try anal sex as a woman?
What were the mental challenges you had to overcome?
Did religion's differences in opinion/belief cause a problem in how you viewed anal sex?
What were your techniques to enjoy anal as a woman?
What were the mental & physical techniques your husband used for you to enjoy penetrating comfortably into your bum?
Where exactly do you feel orgasms during anal & where in the body? Is there some sort of sweet spot?
How & what sensations about anal do you enjoy & love?
What is the emotional & sexual enjoyment you enjoy as a woman when he is "jackhammering" you?
Jim can you describe for me how to do that?
How do you control your penis like that? Is there a breathing technique? Do you use some numbing gels?
If the above questions were not too much, can you ask your husband: What does it feel like to enter your beautiful bum? Like what does his penis feel upon entry, the passage of time to get you to stretch, and then his technique that you love while jackhammering you?
I am sorry if I come across as weird. I am a virgin, and I am very curious to want to have a wife & be a husband like you and Jim. I would appreciate your prayers, too. I am currently fighting depression, and at times I think killing myself would solve my problems by going back to my Lord & Savior & GOD.
But your story above gave me some hope and comfort. For that I thank you.
I guess the peace of the Lord Jesus be with you and me. Please consider answering my questions. I am seeking counselling help.
@CamoGotAmmo
My brother, I'm so sorry to hear what you're struggling with. I've hard dark seasons in my life too, including thoughts that I'd rather be with my Savior than continue struggling in this life. But having come out into the light, I can encourage you that He is always with us, and he put us on this earth for a reason. He has missions for us to accomplish, and He will not leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). He will always be with us and give us the strength to do all things he has planned for us (Philippians 4:13).
I will be praying for you, my brother in Christ! Definitely continue seeking counseling help, and good Christian community wherever you can.
My comment isn’t really related to position, but have you tried wearing butt plugs? They come in different sizes and you could “train” your ass to be more accommodating to his cock.
Hubbie here: good post, MsGem, and congrats on your 18th anniversary! Well done!
Queen and I are both surprised at the lack of response posts herein, especially from women. Thanks, CreamyPatty for kicking in! Glad you came through for us!
I’d suggest a few guidelines based on our experience. Some (or all?) you may already know …
* everyone is built slightly different, and so whatever position works for you is the ultimate answer. Whether it’s doggie, missionary, and/or sideways anal, you find it and rock it. And maybe more than one works.
* to get personal, our first time was sideways anal, and that worked pretty well. We’ve found that Queen is most “open” when she’s HDAU, and I can get in easiest that way. Once we’ve done this, we can switch to missionary, and I can get back in.
* finding it is the fun part, so practice makes perfect, and enables comfort and familiarity with “entry back there”. Let’s tell it like it is. It’s easy to tense up when someone is putting a cock in your ass! We’ve found that the more we do it, the easier it gets. (For both of us!)
* it sounds like your husband has the lube and “slow and patient” stuff covered, so good for that. A good rule of thumb is “When you think it’s too much lube, it’s almost enough!”
* I think KM is right about butt plugs and we’ve just got Queen a crystal pink butt plug, which has been helpful to get her use to “stuff” back there, and opening up more (KM’s “training”?).
* finally for now, your horniness is a big key. The more hungry you are to be fucked in the ass, the more “accommodating” your butt will be. Our “brain game” is so powerful!
Just some thoughts from a guy, but reflecting on Queen’s and my experience in this. Best of luck, and I hope other ladies will follow Creamy’s example and add their valuable experience.