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- At what age were you married? What was it like?
- At what age did you first share sexual intimacy with your spouse? How did your age affect you?
- At what age did you first masturbate? What happened?
- At what age were you the most horny? Why do you say that?
- At what age did you have your most memorable or romantic sexual encounter with your spouse? What happened?
- At what age did you and your spouse experience the most significant sexual breakthrough or exploration together? What triggered that?
- At what age did you first feel completely comfortable discussing your sexual desires and fantasies with your spouse? How did you get the courage?
At the age of 24, we had only been married for three months. I remember this moment with crystal-clear precision, and it will forever be etched in my mind. She called out to me from the bathroom, where she had just finished shaving. With a simple gesture, she motioned for me to kneel in front of her. My eyes couldn't help but linger on her freshly-shaven pussy as I moved closer. Without a word, she guided my head towards her, and I began teasing her outer lips and thighs with my tongue. Her reactions told me that she was still getting used to the heightened sensations from being hairless in that area.
Gradually, I focused all of my attention on her clitoris, causing her to subtly squeal in response. She whispered encouragement for me to continue licking her sweet spot, driving me wild with desire. As I looked up at her while pleasuring her, I saw a breathtaking expression on my wife's face – one that I will never forget. Nothing compares to the look on her face right before she reaches orgasm. With her eyes squeezed shut and hands gripping her nipples while wrapping her legs tightly around my head, she let out a quiet scream of pleasure as she climaxed. After she came down from her high, I stood up and undressed myself. Even with her eyes still closed, I lifted her up and gently slid inside of her slippery wetness
Answers:
1. I was 20, she was 21. We met in October, I proposed the following February, we married at the end of May.
2. Our first sexual intimacy: I was 20.
This was my first sexual intercourse. I knew the basics, but was rather inept, but the desire was raging! I wanted sex at every opportunity!
3. I was ten years old when I learned to mastubate! What a discovery! The boys I learned from were old enough to ejaculate, but I couldn’t. It was a little frustrating. But I kept it up! Throughout my high school years and beyond I would masturbate almost every day.
4. I was probably most horny from 19 to 27, but the ardor did not fade too much for 20 years after that!
5. Oh! There are so many memorable times! One of my favorites was between 45 and 50 years old, having a picnic in a mountain meadow, by a stream. We were enjoying the sunshine naked and I could not resist eating my wife’s pussy! I love sex outdoors in the sunshine!
6. Between 25 and 30 years old we started to try oral sex for the first time. How glorious was that! I love to lick my wife’s pussy! She only achieves orgasm by clitoral stimulation, so it was such a wonderful addition to our sex play! I had always wanted her to suck my dick, but things took awhile.
7. Comfort in discussing things of a sexual nature….. We are still working on that! At age 72!
1: I was 23. She was 21.
2: PIV, was on our wedding night, but the prior years to that we were real handsy. Handjobs both ways!
3: 10 or so I guess. I was looking at nudie books, and got a good boner. It was uncomfortable, so I took off my clothes to let myself loose. I kept lookin’ at all the tits in the nudie books, while I straddled a big bolster pillow, and I finally went BLAMMO!
4: From that first time I shot a load on…..
5: Probably 24, maybe 25. I got home from a job, and we got naked and in a rolling pile. I was going to pull out before I came in her, and lick her to orgasm like usual, the she comes first routine, but I lost it and blew my load in her before she was really getting tuned up. Whoops. I thought about it a few seconds, and decided to go down on her anyway.
Best move I ever made! She had the most powerful and long orgasm I’d ever seen her have! It was sure messy for me, and I was beyond looking like a glazed donut, but I was sure proud of myself!
6: Same as #5. I repeated the deed several times, and then I had to ask, what was making her cum like that. Turns out she had fantasized about me doing that for a couple of years…..every time I went down on her.
7: See #6. We had discussed lots of sexual things before that, including oral and masturbation, but that one conversation broke all the inhibitions and shyness!
I will answer some of the questions:
1. We married when I was in my early thirties and this was my second marriage. I was a single father.
My wife, Melody, was in her early 40s but looked mid to early 30s. Except during sexual arousal then she looked 19.
2. Age of first sex together- Same ages as number one. Our ages were irrelevant as far as desire n performance. We had frequent and intense sex… & often in long lovemaking sessions.
Her libido calmed down after a few years & we argued occasionally about sex frequency and sometimes about frequency of oral sex.… but a real problem came at my retirement. I was not tired from work anymore and I wanted more frequent sex. We saw a sex therapist and made a schedule/deal. We had sex every other day n she would usually go for an orgasm every other time. But frequently me and her body talked her into an orgasm. We also made a deal that she’d give me fellatio on holidays each month. On off days for sex my wife usually helps me have an orgasm by licking my man-nips as I pump to a climax.
Now we have sex every third day. We both almost always come. And she still helps me come almost every day.
4. I have always been hypersexually horny. Age has slowed me down some. For instance in my 30s & early 40s I could climax 5 times in a sex session. Now it’s usually only twice. My wife could climax usually 2-3 times in a sex session but now it’s usually just once… & occasionally twice – in 1 sex session.
5. Day after wedding because we had not fully consummated our marriage yet. My beautiful Melody woke me at 5:30 am. She was lying on her side nude in all her curvy busty glory n she said, “Let’s DO this!” Then she gifted me her virginity. I finally wrote about that a few months ago n posted it here on MH. It’s a two part story- Melody’s First Time.
6. At retirement with me in mid 50s n her in mid 60s we had our greatest breakthrough. I wrote about that in question two. It tells of us making a sex schedule and that was a great breakthrough! Also, my then therapist recommended that I keep a sex journal. That journal has helped me REALLY appreciate the sexual and relationship blessings that my wife n I share.
1. We got married early 20's. It was a bit scary I guess, not sure what to expect or what the future would be like.
2. Early 20's. I don't think age affected at all, just seemed the right time.
3. I started masturbating all the way to orgasm by age 10, but didn't make semen for another couple of years. From that time until I married, I did it nearly everyday.
4. Not sure exactly, but there was a time as a teenager I was extremely horny! I have read most males get a very high surge of hormones for a period of time and it makes them grow and horny. I could orgasm and be ready and horny again in 15 to 30 minutes.
I think our best sex has been since age 55ish. More relaxed and open with each other. We ask for what we want or don't want. We enjoy being naked together, spooning, massaging and taking our time. We openly masturbate in front of each other all the time.
1. I was 21 and my wife was 20. And it was boring…until we became more adventurous.
2. Same as above and naive.
3. 10. I just started to play with myself and haven’t stopped. 😃
4. 66, I’m widowed.
5. There were many times, but coming home from deployments was awesome!!!!
6. My wife developed a condition called lichen sclerosis at age 45. We then resorted to masturbation and oral sex, but not on her because my beard stubble hurt her vagina.
7. Around 24, and we just talked about new types of sex to try. Anal sex was a no go for both of us.
Hubbie here. This “micro-story” is written from my perspective, with Queen’s anecdotes as she felt led. I changed the order of the questions to reflect more of our own chronology. (Yes, I’m like that.)
(3) I masturbated kind of early, perhaps 10 years old? As soon as I figured out what that thing did, I did it. A lot! I had steady girlfriends in Jr High and HS, and orgasms by them (oral or “handies”) weekly. Also daily by my own handiwork!
Queen did not masturbate until recently in married life. When we were dating in college, and away from each other on break or holiday, I regularly masturbated, lusting for her after our phone calls! She was, and is, cum-worthy!
(Queen: I did not have good instruction or knowledge passed down from my mother. Additionally, my sisters and friends never talked about sexual things. I grew up in an “asexual” environment, so to speak. So dating Hubbie was an eye-opener!
It’s only been in the recent several years when I have started to take matters into my own hands to explore and nurture my sexuality. I see the importance of it, and I love it. I am making up for lost time!)
(2) We met in college when I was a sophomore and Queen a freshman, so 19 & 18. We were soon making out and mild petting, and that moved to more serious cock and pussy petting. We never had intercourse, but were vibratingly eager for it!
(5) We’ve had several most memorable or romantic sexual encounters (tough to pick just one), which included …
In college, dating, so 18’s to 22’s, pre-marriage:
* In my junior year, we were each totally naked, making out and petting on my “sky-bed” (bed up on dresser and desk/cinder blocks, to make more dorm space).
* In my senior year, we slept together (actual sleep, not intercourse) when my roommate was away. But with her panties as the final barrier, I’m convinced my cock was pressing into her pussy. Not actual penetration, but so close!
* Sometime in college, we went to a local state park, and heavy-petted on a blanket near a river, with people scattered around! She was flooded wet, and accessible in cut-off jeans shorts. I was hard as granite!
And wonderfully, just recently as a married couple, so early to mid 60’s! These tales are (or soon to be) posted here on Marriage Heat:
* in our Nude Beach adventures
* https://marriageheat.com/2023/12/07/nude-beach-part-1/
* In The Great North Woods adventures
* https://marriageheat.com/2023/11/16/in-the-great-north-woods-part-1/
* https://marriageheat.com/2023/12/28/in-the-great-north-woods-part-2/
(1) We were married when I was 23 and Queen was 22. It was so wonderful. I knew from “Day One” that Queen was the one for me. One look, and I knew it. Queen was less quickly convinced, but we decided pretty early on that marriage was for us!
(4) I was typically hormonally horny (“chem-game”) as a pre-teen, teen, etc. But more importantly, now at 67, with low-T and ED, I CHOOSE to be even more horny (brain game). Queen is learning to “choose horny” more recently.
(Queen: I don’t know if I was ever wildly, hormonally horny, per se. I see the strong pull of passion in Hubbie, here on MH, and the world, and I don’t naturally have that. Also, I am easily distracted by hobbies, chores, church obligations, and friends.
If I don’t actively choose passion, and seek ways to seduce Hubbie over the day, then I would get to the end of it, realizing I have not made any attempt to be sexual and passionate with him.
I choose to not let our passion just be an item on my to-do list, but to focus on and nurture my love and sexual desire for this man God has blessed me with. This Intentional pursuit of passion contributes to a strong marriage for us.)
(6) Our most significant sexual breakthrough/exploration together was in our last 5 years (each early to mid 60’s). We are retired, empty-nesters, and neither are soaking in hormones, given our ages.
We decided we either give up, or choose passion. We chose passion!
I reasoned that society has taken sex way out of control, and unfortunately most of the institutional church has taken it way too controlled. The Bible is pretty clear on what is Out Of Bounds (OOB), and we call this “The Six”.
As long as we’re not OOB, we can pursue whatever we want sexually! What freedom that brings! It’s like playing soccer. You play the whole field, including the lines, but just stay “in bounds”. This has lead to break-through after break-through!
(7) Again, in the last 5 years, thinking carefully about the very few sexual things actually prohibited in the Bible, has led us to be OK with saying what we want. The “courage” came from the combination of a few other “theories” of mine.
First, I believe there is unique power in sex, created by God. He put it in the “crucible” of marriage, for the benefit of monogamous marriage. We see the mess that happens when it’s “used” outside of marriage. We wanted that power for our marriage!
Second, we are always in the state of “running out of time”. There is never a better time to go after what will benefit our marriage than right now! So these and other “thinkings” gave us the drive, energy, focus, and courage to pursue what we want.
In summary, we are going full speed towards “Intentionality” and away from “Complacency”. Socrates said “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
We are building passion intentionality!
(Queen: Hubbie’s “theories” have been so helpful in refocusing my life. They’ve opened up my views of sex in marriage and brought energy and passion to our marriage. Passion is not just for the young!
I believe God is pleased with our passion focus for each other, and He intends it to last a lifetime.)
Here, here!! This inspires me so much!
Thank you for sharing your openness with each other! That is so lacking in many relationships!
Hubbie here: Thanks, CHL! I'm thrilled that it hit for you. If there's anything in particular, please let us know. There's always more "depth" about my stuff. I'm never at a loss for "theories"!
Blessings and passion.
I appreciate the intentionality, especially on Queen's part. It's easy to let the urgent distract us from the important. And sex and sexiness with our spouse is Important with a capital I—for our bodies, our psyches, our emotional and relational connection with this one person and no one else on Earth. I admire how Queen chooses to explore and grow with you.
Hubbie here: Thanks to you as well, OWB. Sharing and open communication is so important! Especially around a subject so shrouded with unnecessary silence and embarrassment!
Blessings and passion to you.
1. We were 25 & 24 respectively. We were ready for that new chapter!
2. Around month 5-6 of dating, we started making out to orgasm, usually thru dry humping. We were mature enough to enjoy it while not going “too far.”
3. I was a late bloomer and first masturbated at age 14 & 1/2. Didn’t know what I was doing. Rubbed my dick head on my inner thigh until I came, and had no clue what the cum was. Had to look it up in my HS Health textbook. Learned the traditional hand jerk motion while all soaped up in the bath about 2 months later.
4. I had a recent drop in libido due to some health and medication reasons. Prior to that, my horniness was pretty consistent for 30 years.
5. The most memorable moments are when “new” things happened. Most recently was our first time having sex in an outdoor hot tub (2022).
6. The most significant was in 2006, when we masturbated in front of each other for the first time. It happened right after a miscarriage.
7. I think I didn’t feel comfortable until my early-mid 40s. I think my sexual ethics evolved and expanded so I felt more at ease with my own fantasies.
1. She had just turned 21 and I was three months from 21 when we married over 50 years ago! We were married before our senior year in college; different colleges just five miles apart. We studied a lot – I’m smart and she’s brilliant – and we had sex every day! As a three-sport athlete, I was always training and playing. We spent just $25 on groceries per week. Most of my meals were covered through student work in food service. She did part time work as a bank teller. We had sex every day and she got pregnant on Valentine’s Day that spring! We lived in love on little money and had a blast!
2. By God’s grace we were virgins on our wedding night! We dated steadily from our junior year in high school. Five years of heavy petting, cumming in my shorts, finger fucking her, and masturbating on the phone from dorm room to dorm room left nothing to our imaginations. She had/has a sexy body and her perky, suckable titis are still as hot today as they were when she was in her teens/twenties! I well remember the night that I finger fucked her so deeply that I popped her cherry. It was not a happy moment for either of us. On our wedding night, I could hardly get through a beautiful dinner for two; I was rock hard and my face was flushed. She wore a lacy teddy and our foreplay lasted about a nanosecond. Her pussy was dripping wet and begging for my hard, pulsing cock. We came together that first time, most likely because we knew each other’s bodies and needs so well after years of lots of fooling around. It was amazing!
3. I remember having plenty of wet dreams before I intentionally stroked my cock and came at about 12 years of age. In fact, the first time that I consciously experienced an orgasm was when I was about 11 and several of my cousins and nieces and nephews (I’m the youngest of a large family) were playing ‘pile on pyramid’ to see how much the person on the bottom of the pile could take. As we were getting into it, I realized that I was feeling ‘funny’ and it felt really, really good. Then suddenly I was in ecstasy! I didn’t realize what had happened until I felt a warm gush of warm wetness. After we unpiled, I’m saw a huge wet spot on my jeans a wet spot on the back of my niece’s dress! I hoped no one else noticed! Nothing was ever said nor has been mentioned after 60 plus years!
4. My mother was very sex positive and she never shied away from talking about sex to her many children – girls and boys, I remember her telling me not to be embarrassed about my pjs being wet in the morning. She explained about a wet dream and that it’s normal for boys. That’s why when I discovered at the age of 12 that by stroking my hard cock after I came while ‘piling on’ that I love to masturbate! I learned how to wrap toilet paper around my cock and crimp down the end of it to catch my hot, cum spurts! During my teen years I jacked off every day sometimes two or three times in a day. I loved it then and I love it now!
5. I was a very horny during my teen years, as mentioned above, and loved to jack and cum! My wife would say that I’ve always been a horny boy – and she loves it, more so as we’ve aged. During my early 30s though, my horniness compelled me to initiate more creative elements into our sex life. Pussy shaving (she’d beg me to shave her completely in the heat of foreplay to heighten our ultimate orgasms), light bondage, AS/AP, etc. Even a little exhibitionism.
6. She enjoyed a bit of exhibitionism, as well, when took control on a chaise lounge on a resort balcony in Cozumel. There was no question that a few couples could see and watch us fuck each other to orgasmic abandon!
7. Within the past decade or so, we have increasingly becum more comfortable with our sexual selves and each other’s sexuality. If I went to her after typing this story and said that I was horny and wanted to jack off, she’d drop everything and join me, sexily spurring me on with her hand, lips, tongue and sexy voice. She loves to watch me jack in front of a mirror or jizz all over her pussy, tummy, and tits!
8. We’ve always been comfortable to talk about sex and our individual desires. She also loves to masturbate and we often encourage each other to jill and jack. I love hearing that she experienced an amazing cum session by herself!! That said, there is one desire that I haven’t fully shared with her and that is to have her finger fuck me and massage my prostate to an orgasm. I believe that she’d do it, I just need to find the right moment for me and her. As we’ve aged, my horny meter has dipped a bit and so has hers. I’ve learned that asking for that delight requires the right moment for both of us.
1. I was 23 and she was 22 when we got married. Definitely seemed like a couple young dumb kids, have learned a lot since then.
2. We were both 18 the first time we had sex. At that age it was all very exciting and erotic but it was a very horny endeavor and not exactly a holy focus.
3. It was the preteen years, probably 12? Don’t really remember what happened, but we figured it out and never looked back.
4. I don’t know what age I was the most horny. I don’t think I stand out as hornier than average, but there were some eras where sex was a bigger priority. Early 20’s when we were living alone and naked a lot were super fun, early 30’s trying to get out of some ruts, and again recently trying to reclaim our sex lives from the sex trophies.
5. Snuck off one New Year's weekend and just played a game to see how many times we could fuck, and we hit about 7 times in 4 hours. Not the most romantic, but that was lots of fun.
6. Not too sure about this one.
7. Honestly still working on this one. Plenty of areas we are both comfortable, but a couple things I just haven’t quite gotten to yet.
1.) I was 29 when I married, my wife 25. We are now 72 and 68. It was lovely to be naked in each others arms in bed together in our own home and being able to express ourselves with abandonment as we fucked. We no longer had to be concerned about being overheard when we were sexually aroused. Oh the joy of being intimate gets me hard now just thinking about it!
2.) We had our first intimacy a year before that with deep french kissing after our dates with mutual oral sex on our third date in her parents' living room once they had gone up to bed. We did ‘go all the way’ shortly after, which once started was difficult to abstain from on further dates.
3.) I started masturbating when I was about 7 or 8 and thoroughly enjoyed the ticklish feeling when reaching orgasm. The colourless fluid erupted around 11 or 12 and the thick white sperm came some months later.
4.) I was the most horny when dating her.
5.) The most memorable sexual encounters were on her parents' sofa.
7.) We always found it easy to ‘talk dirty’ to each other (which she loved). I would tell her when French kissing to imagine my tongue was my penis as I probed her mouth, and I told her that I was imagining her lips and mouth were her wet vulva and vagina. This got us totally lost in the ‘joy of sex’ together, which we felt very comfortable about. She and I were very comfortable masturbating in front of each other. The expression on her face as she fingered herself was a huge turn on for me!
1. At what age were you married? What was it like?
I was in my mid 20's, she was 19. It was a beautiful ceremony in our church, but really bad weather. We Honeymooned that night, but didn't have much money so we stayed sort of local, and I had to be back to work within a few days.
2. At what age did you first share sexual intimacy with your spouse? How did your age affect you?
She was was 18, I was 24, so it was before we were married, but after we got engaged. We did some things, but no actual intercourse until our wedding night.
3. At what age did you first masturbate? What happened?
Gosh, that was a long time ago. I was a young teen. I got ahold of a male family member's porn. I think it affected my view of sex as being more transactional and as a right instead of a shared experience.
4. At what age were you the most horny? Why do you say that?
I think it's been my whole life. I don't think I was more easily aroused when I was younger.
5. At what age did you have your most memorable or romantic sexual encounter with your spouse? What happened?
Well the first time was very memorable. I think there have been many.
6. At what age did you and your spouse experience the most significant sexual breakthrough or exploration together? What triggered that?
Actually, I think getting married and removing any guilt from what we were doing was the most significant breakthrough. However over the last 10 years or so, her interest and even ability to talk about sex has declined to the point that if I even bring up something somewhat sexual she ignores it or rolls her eyes.
7. At what age did you first feel completely comfortable discussing your sexual desires and fantasies with your spouse? How did you get the courage?
Early in our marriage we were both more open. She even took the lead. Now we don't talk about it at all.
I don't like to admit it, but I am 18 years my wife's senior. I had reached a point in my life at that time that I wanted to have children. I just turned 40 and I did not want to regret not making a family on my death bed. This wasn't for selfish reasons, but for unselfish ones. Bringing new souls to earth to guide towards a decent and clean Christian life seemed to be a responsibility that I shirked for too long.
When I first met my wife she was interviewing as a support person for me and a female business partner. She was cute, young, and wearing a short blue skirt that accentuated her firm shapely buttocks. I was purely professional during the interview but I did notice her and that cute little ass.
She proved to be a great secretary and was actually over qualified. She did an excellent job and was cute to boot. Yes, I flirted with her a few times but it was entirely innocent to me and I was careful not to make her feel uncomfortable about it.
At times, I felt she was attracted to me. I would catch her staring at me but I cast it out of my mind as totally impossible. Then one Saturday night my cell phone started buzzing. Her name displayed on my caller ID, but something told me not to answer it. I didn't. I later found out that she had called after a couple of drinks to let me know that she had feelings for me. I think it was best I didn't speak to her in that condition and so the dance continued around the office.
Pretty soon a young buck started showing up at the office from time to time to pick her up for lunch or bring her flowers. I checked my jealousy. I thought all was for the best. I had no business pursuing her. He was a marine. Young, fit, and able to take care of her. In my 20's, I would have totally messed this up and made a giant ass of myself. Wisdom leads to better decisions and a more positive outlook on life. For a while she stopped sending me texts after hours. I was respectful and didn't double down on any pursuit. I would continue to joke and laugh with her at work. I bought her a gift for her birthday as a friendly gesture with no expectations of anything. I never once became that jealous awkward idiot that I was in my teens and 20s.
After a few weeks, she began texting me again. The flirtatious nature of the texts began to hear up. Something had changed between her and the marine. I'm not sure what happened and didn't care. Something definitely changed between the two of us. It wasn't long before she suffered a kidney stone and I was there to help take care of her.
I offered to bring her some things and she accepted. She was in tremendous pain when I arrived. She invited me to sit on the couch with her. She needed someone to love and care for her and I gave it to her. I left that night knowing she would be better and feeling very close to her.
After that night, we went out to dinner when she was feeling better. We returned to her place and engaged in a hot and heavy make out session. I could tell she was a horny woman but sweet and kind as well. What a great combination. The only problem was that she was my secretary and someone else's in the workplace. We were very secretive at first, but it was hard. We couldn't keep our hands off each other.
I would be dishonest if I didn't admit that it wasn't long before we succumbed to lust and slept together. I took her to a movie on a weekday. There was no one else in the theatre so she started to kiss me while rubbing my cock at the same time. I couldn't pay attention to the film. My boner was pressing against my zipper and I couldn't take it any longer. We left within minutes of the movie starting. Back at my place, she had no reservations about stripping down to nothing. I remember kissing her all over her body before tasting her sweet juicy pussy. She wasn't content with that and wanted me inside her. I teased her continuously with the head of my cock until she was begging for it. When I finally entered her she came hard. She recently told me that she had such an orgasm that night that she vowed we would always be together.
From that moment afterwards we started to fuck at the office. The first time that happened, she came into my office one day while I was working and began kissing my neck. She knew she was making me hard and unzipped my pants, took out my cock, and started kissing it. I couldn't take it anymore. She was content to fuck with just her skirt flipped up, but I stripped her of all her clothes and bent her over the little sofa I had at the time. We ended up fucking completely nude for a good twenty minutes while my partner was working just a few feet a way. Still something wasn't right.
She asked to move in with me. I didn't want that without marriage. It was a spiritual calling. I was not doing right by her by continuing to sin in this way. I told her that I would not live with her unless we were married. There was really no argument or seconf thoughts about it. We were shopping for engagement rings that weekend and she was already working on a plan. First, she put her notice in at work. She actually stayed on as the partner's secretary and I found someone else. In that way, we needn't hide the relationship anymore.
We married in a tiny old Church near her grandfather's farm. It was a small modest affair out in the country with the reception taking place outside along a river bank. Everything was beautifully picturesque to match my beautiful bride. After the wedding we took off to a fancy resort for a very brief honeymoon. My job made it difficult for me to take off for any period of time without advanced planning. It was one night of marital bliss and we were back at work soon. It was not until the next year we enjoyed a real honeymoon in Hawaii.
I loved being married. The sex became more and more enjoyable for me than the sinful desires I indulged in with her. After living a very selfish life for so long, I devoted myself to making things work. I also felt more comfortable and relaxed in the bedroom. She and I were cumming like clock work and on the weekends we would still go to my office and fuck on that little sofa.
After several years of marriage and three children, things are still hot and heavy. She tells me I'm dirty and she loves it. I know that I love it so. Tasting every inch of her body gets me so hard that I can barely stand it. My desire for her has not waned one little bit. Her flesh and spirit are on another level.
Mistakes are made in life. We are never perfect embodiments of Christ. We can only strive to be. If I could do it over, I would have waited to consumate our love after the wedding, but there is no sense in lamenting the fact forever. I will just continue to love her soul and devour her sweet sexy body. The more we do it, the more I want it. It will never stop.
I am 55 my husband is 40
My wife and I met in seminary in Mexico City. We waited for sex until we married. I pastored a church and she ran a women’s ministry all over Mexico. I got offered a job in the US first as a pastor of a Hispanic church. So we both came. She moved her ministry here and it has grown leaps and bounds. So we’ve lived here ever since, 10 years now. I’m 36 she is 34. Our kids are still young. She has her masters in Theology and I have my MDiv. She is working in her doctorate from Fuller Seminary.
Our first true sexual exp was when we married in our 20s. Honeymoon was great. Took us a while to figure everything out sexually though.
I masturbated at 16 or 17. Late I know and I repented if it each time, confessing to my pastor and even to the congregation. Embarrassing
I was at my horny peak then. My wife seems most horny nowadays. Lol
She seems much more free and frisky now days. I don’t want to be so conservative. You guys pray for me.
Q: At what age were you married? What was it like?
A: We were married in our late 20s. We are exactly 20 months apart in age. Vanessa had been fairly popular with boys growing up, had one serious relationship, was actually engaged for awhile throughout her early 20s, that didn’t work out, then moved back home and started to struggle with her weight when she was around 23. When she met me when she was 26, she still got lots of stares at her big bust and ass but no one except for way older men wanted to actually pursue her seriously, and she wanted to marry someone within at least a decade or so of her age. In my case, I hadn’t even held hands with a woman before her. I had asked two girls out in college, but neither were interested. Vanessa and I initially had more of a best friend connection than one involving any intense, sustained feelings of romance and attraction, although I would be lying if I said there were none at all. We are both pretty conservative people who have very high sex drives. We wanted to honor God. It made sense to get married to each other, because we were both very much alone sexually and living celibate lives, but we got along so well so it seemed like it would fix the problem. Neither of us were really each other’s “type” initially (she was heavier than I usually was attracted to, and I was a bit “prettier” than she usually was attracted to) so it definitely was a leap of faith for both of us. Although I do admit I lusted after her breasts and ass the first time I lay eyes on her, and I regret to inform you that I masturbated like a maniac while fantasizing about her that night (she knows now and says she’s totally fine with it, actually happy to hear she turned me on like that). So it’s not like there was no attraction, she just wasn’t the type person I usually considered for marriage, and the reverse was true in her case as well. Some people called us crazy, but sometimes crazy works…
Q: At what age did you first share sexual intimacy with your spouse? How did your age affect you?
A: We first had sexual intimacy on our wedding night. She said she did a lot of oral and fingering with her fiancée several years before she met me, but was living a celibate life when we met. She was a wedding-night virgin in the sense of PIV. I hadn’t had any physical sex contact with anyone at all before our wedding night. The first night, I was so nervous I had trouble getting erect. I read that men who have their first sexual experience before 16 or after 24 often struggle to get it up, and it was definitely true for me. Vanessa calmed me down and appealed to our close friendship, took my hands and helped me touch her, I relaxed a bit, I got hard, she showed me what she wanted next, and the feelings of closeness set us both off and we fucked like rabbits until dawn, only sleeping in short bouts between lovemaking. I can’t even remember how many times we did the deed. I believe waiting for our wedding night made it a million times better than if we had eaten the fries out of the bag on the way home, so…
Q: At what age did you first masturbate? What happened?
A: I wrote a story about it not sure if it will be posted. My parents had a sun room I used to sunbathe nude in as a teenager when I was alone. The warmth of the sun and fantasizing someone could see me nude made me horny and want to touch my self and that’s how I figured it out.
Q: At what age were you the most horny? Why do you say that?
A: Definitely from about 15-25, when I was single and totally alone. Why do I say that? Sex was all I thought about, and it seemed like spontaneous erections happened all the time, way more than by the age I got married.
Q: At what age did you have your most memorable or romantic sexual encounter with your spouse? What happened?
A: Probably in my late twenties on our honeymoon, it wasn’t anything in particular, it just felt so good to finally be married and I finally knew I wouldn’t die a virgin.
Q: At what age did you and your spouse experience the most significant sexual breakthrough or exploration together? What triggered that?
A: I’m not sure anything in particular happened, we just figured more through trial and error about what the other liked and the specific ways we enjoyed being touched, a few months into our marriage. Practice makes perfect, and all that.
Q: At what age did you first feel completely comfortable discussing your sexual desires and fantasies with your spouse? How did you get the courage?
A: Always! As best friends, we talked about everything, even our sexual fantasies, and in her case, her sexual experiences as well. Especially as things moved toward romance, I told her how I liked to masturbate, and she told me how she liked to masturbate. I had a serious thing for erotic audio when I was younger, and Vanessa was once kind enough to let me listen to the sounds of her masturbating. We were like two peas in a pod from the very start, and no topic was ever off the table.