Another Nakedist* Venue (L)
(And Literary Exhibitionism)
BACK STORY
We just returned from a quick visit to our daughter, her husband, and their family. Two grandkids! It was an arduous return trip—10 hours with traffic at the end! But we took the chance to jump back out on a third visit to our newly found Nakedist Venue. Let me explain …
NAKEDISM
I’ve listed this “theory” before, but here it is again in a nutshell. Queen and I LOVE to be naked. And we are most of each day at home (empty nesters, secluded yard, etc.) And we do it specifically to be sexually focused, to seduce each other, and to ramp up our marital heat! Why? Because we love to fuck each other!
To me, “nudism” tries hard to separate itself from the sexual (which I think is nonsense). It’s either false, or it dulls their sexual sensitivities. The human body is sexual, and our sexual selves are supposed to respond!
When I see tits, pussy, and ass, I get sexually excited. I’m created that way! When Queen sees cock, balls, and ass, she gets sexually excited. She’s created that way! It’s what we do with that sexual energy that is either in or Out Of Bounds (OOB).
And yes, sun, warm weather, cool breeze, etc. all feel great. But make no mistake, I’m focused on Queen’s tits, pussy, and ass! They’re spectacular! And I think she’s checking me out, as well! (Lord, I hope so!)
And “naturism” is often so involved with being “one with nature”. To me, it borders on a religion of materialism (i.e. matter, not money). I think of hippies with flowers in their hair, worshipping the creation, not the Creator. But hey, that’s just me.
So, I coined the term “Nakedism”, and thus, we’re “Nakedists”.
In any event, Queen and I are naked to seduce each other. Being naked with others (Exhibitionism and Voyeurism, hereafter E/V) only adds to the heat. We focus that heat exclusively on each other. Never OOB.
But seeing and being seen is clearly a fucking hot turn-on. A kink? Yes, probably. But we’re more than good with it.
THE VENUE
(Remember, we’ve been to a nude beach, so this is “another” venue).
So we found a “nude venue”, less than two hours away from us to the east. Same state, easy drive, etc. It’s rustic, rural New England, not a glitzy resort, and very low-key. We checked it out, went once on a weekday (Monday), and once on a weekend day (Sunday). Now, we wanted to stay over one night (Friday – Saturday). This was back in early July.
It’s wooded, with small cabins, a “clubhouse”, nice pond, and some pickleball courts. Yes, we’ve become hooked on pickleball! And let me tell you, Naked PickleBall (NBP) is so hot, you can’t believe it! Male and female bodies exerting physically, glistening on a hot day! Now, when Queen and I play clothed pickleball with clothed friends, all we do is channel being naked!
OUR WEEKEND
We were only home one day from our family trip, did laundry, etc., and packed again. The great thing about a nude venue is you don’t have to pack a lot of clothes! We wear one outfit driving in, and strip off as soon as we arrive. Then, we don’t get dressed until we drive away. And our “outfits” match!
We left Friday morning, arrived at 8:30, and left Saturday at 11:00. We were naked 99% of this time! Queen had to be back in town for a friend’s daughter’s baby shower. Queen told her friend we were going to the coast for the day. Kind of true.
This place is less than 10 miles, as the crow flies, from where our son and his family live. Two more grandkids! They don’t know our Nakedist tendencies. It’s a little nerve-wracking to drive so close with my distinctive vanity license plates. Oh well.
NAKED PICKLEBALL (NPB)
We’ve found that a main activity here for several of the more social folks is the 10AM Naked PickleBall games. It’s mostly 4 guys, and 3 ladies, some spouses, but not all. Let me celebrate Queen! She was totally naked and looked hot as fuck!
Yes, the guys were mostly naked (I certainly was!), and the ladies, too. Maybe a shirt for sun protection. But Queen was the only lady totally naked, freely interacting with the naked guys, joking, and playing great Naked PickleBall! She was so hot!
And I was so proud of her, and turned on by her boldness, confidence, and the growing Exhibitionist in her! I was mentally hard as a rock! (You’re not supposed to get an erection at these places. But my mind-cock was like a steel rod!)
NAKED FLOATING
After two hours of NPB in hot, humid weather, we were ready to cool off. We went back to the lawn and over to take a float in the pond. The Pond-Front, where naked people sit out, is a nice lawn, not a sandy beach. And a pool noodle around your back and one under your knees makes a great aquatic lounger!
Often, several “floating nudes” will congregate and chat. It’s really nice and social. At the same time, it’s sexually hot to be with other naked folks, to see and be seen (E/V again). And when Queen floats, her breasts and nipples are just at the water line. She is so beautiful, her breasts are amazing, and it’s a subtle but effective sexual display!
NAKED WALKABOUT
As I’ve posted before, I love to take a Naked Walk About (NWA) each morning that the weather cooperates. I walk up my driveway to the street, then back down and around the house. Could I get caught? Yes, but I haven’t so far. Part of the exhibitionist thrill.
Anyway, at this Nakedist venue, Queen and I got up early, and walked naked a mile on the main road. We were naked and on display, and ready to interact with other walkers, and residents sipping their naked morning coffee. Delightful!
Not everyone is naked all the time. I don’t get it, but some folks sometimes wear clothes here. (Why?) However, it’s still a thrill to be naked and talking to a clothed person. The exhibitionist in me is strong!
NAKED JOG
I am intentionally creating, building, and nurturing this Nakedist Lifestyle in me (and in us, as Queen does the same). So I have my Nakedist Bucket List (NBL) to challenge me and mark my/our progress. One item on it is to take a naked run.
Similar to NPB, being naked and athletic in just sneakers, is SO invigorating! Sweating over my whole body (I like to exercise and sweat) is freeing! Jogging with my cock and balls rhythmically dancing is a sexual reminder to me. And a display to Queen and others.
So I jogged three miles (not long), and it was great. I also got to the front gate twice, and ran outside for 20 feet! That was an exhibitionist thrill! Didn’t get caught, but three cars drove by as I was running back in. Did they catch a glimpse? I hope so!
Queen took a short video of me running past, back by our cabin. At the risk of sounding prideful, I looked fucking hot, and I believe Queen was turned on.
OUR CONCLUSION
I have a theory, #237, that there exists (or should exist) several “levels” of sexuality. They support and build on each other, but it helps to understand them separately.
- Background Hum – the 24/7 sound of marriage partners aware of and focused on sex with each other. It’s just always there, because we make sure it is! Without a joint Background Hum, we risk developing parallel lives, a “roommate” marriage, and passion withers away.
- Soundtrack – like in a movie, when something is getting ready to happen, you hear the soundtrack change. Think Jaws and “du-duh, du-duh”. When Queen and I turn toward passion, we make sure the soundtrack changes.
- Ramp – as we hear the Soundtrack change, and we’re heading toward Animal Fucking, we build a ramp to passion! We talk, touch, send erotic notes, pics, and gifs, to each other. We leave “Stuff” behind, and ramp up to passion.
- Animal Fucking – this shouldn’t need explaining with this MH crowd. We love to fuck like animals, unrestrained, wild, some “growling”, etc. Now, at our age, this is probably a little tamer than others, but we still do all we can!
I appreciate a hot Animal Fucking story as much as the next person here. And you all fill that option quite nicely, thank you very much. But I like the subtleness and build-up of the first three steps almost as much. Queen’s and my sexual life is very focused on being intentional (not complacent) across all four levels.
So, sorry for no wild sex in this post. Don’t get me wrong, we did have some great fucking. But nurturing and growing the Hum, Soundtrack, and Ramp (HSR) at this venue is such a rewarding challenge. And a chance to set our marriage bed on fire!
Not only is it “offensively effective”—it’s very intentional foreplay—but we think it’s “defensively essential”. If you don’t intentionally defend your marriage bed passion with a powerful HSR, then you risk losing it all!
Thanks for reading.
FOOTNOTE ON LITERARY EXHIBITIONISM
I’ve mentioned this before as well. Being an exhibitionist, I like people to see my naked body and know about my intentional, passion-forward lifestyle regarding Queen. So when I write, I “reveal” myself to you all, with “Easter Egg” clues in the phrases I use. “Ten hours from our daughter”, “two hours from our son”, number of grandkids at each. A “short state coastline”, “distinctive vanity license plates”, a specific travel schedule. Pickle ball, empty nesters, secluded backyard, etc. All point to Queen and I.
If someone we know is reading Marriage Heat, and they come across this story, the light bulb could turn on! They might say, “Hey, I think I know who Queen and Hubbie are!” My clues are specific and yet subtle.
If you think you know, say “Hello!”
I am wondering just what would be "OOB".This is so unbiblical I don't know where to start.I can't believe MH posted it.
[From MH: We realize not everyone is comfortable with this kind of nudity, even if it is by agreement between adults. Admittedly, at least one member of our team at MH isn't super comfortable with the idea. But we allowed it because we haven't seen a clear biblical reason to disallow it. However, we're only human, and don't have perfect biblical understanding, so we would welcome and consider another perspective if you would like to elaborate on why you believe this is unbiblical.]
Bliss, thank you for your thoughts. I'm sure you know what would be OOB, including no sex outside of marriage, no sex with same gender, no sex with family, no sex with children, no sex with animals, no sex with dead people. etc. Obviously we disagree on certain things getting on the OOB list, and I will decline to debate you on this. I accept that we disagree. Blessings and peace.
I'm sorry if I am misunderstanding this post.Are these situations figments of your imagination or are they real?
Bliss, these situations are mostly real, smoothed over for literary ease of reading.
Some may not agree with your lifestyle, but personally, I do! The naked human body has been made a dirty and embarrassing thing, and it's always sexualized even when it doesn't need to be (though I absolutely agree that it should be between husband and wife!). The more I read Scripture, the more I wonder if our entire view of clothing is skewed. For one thing, I found that when God clothed Adam and Eve, it was not with animal skins. It never says He killed an animal. The meaning is actually that He covered their souls (which were external up to that point) with human bodies. He gave them literal skin, or flesh. Not everyone will agree with that, and that's fine. The point is that we as a culture have put so much emphasis on "modesty" that we can't even all agree on what that means. There are times where I wish I could live naked, especially when it's really hot outside. I dislike wearing bras (and would prefer not to because it hinders strengthening of breast muscles), but I couldn't go without, at least while living around my family. It's more a result of the way of thinking in our Western culture than it is any precise Biblical teaching, in my opinion. I can think of no instance where nudity is forbidden. Certainly there are settings where it is not appropriate, but for the kind of thing you mention, what's wrong with it? I LOVE that you and your wife are so intentional about building the desire and closeness between you. And yeah, I love the idea of seeing my future husband in different settings without a stitch on him!
That bit about being clothed in flesh is a very different interpretation I've never heard before! I'm curious where you learned that and came to believe it.
I mean no offense, but I personally think it's a very far-fetched interpretation. I see how Genesis 3:21 could be understood that way without any of the surrounding context, but taken alongside the rest of its proper context, I don't see it fitting. To me, it sounds like someone was trying to find support for a pre-conceived belief, rather than coming to a belief based on what scripture had to say.
I'm happy to discuss why I believe the more traditional interpretation that Genesis 3:21 doesn't indicate the first creation of human bodies, but I'm not sure this is the place to discuss such a niche theological subject! Haha!
I'd have to get some more info on where this interpretation comes from! My pastor talked about it and he is very versed in original meaning and the Hebrew and Greek. Yeah, it is a deep and unique topic. MH (or someone here on this site) should set up a companion site where we just talk about all kinds of topics, not just sex.
Genesis 2:23 "This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. . ." Also see Gen 2:21 ". . . and closed up the place with flesh" I'm fairly confident that Adam and Eve were created with intact bodies. Now as for God killing an animal I don't know for sure.
I also am not familiar with this interpretation. Their clothing of fig leaves (whatever that exactly might have been) was unacceptable for covering their sin, because it was the result of their works. The principle is that blood needs to be shed to cover over sin.
LLL, thank you for your support. Blessings to you.
LLL, hang in there, I’m coming back with an important comment (at least from my perspective!) You broke the code on our Intentionality (always capitalized), and it’s taking me a while to say what I want with brevity! More to come!
As always, thanks for your comment, and sorry it took so long to get back. Here are some thoughts you sparked regarding the story and passion …
* “Some may not agree with your lifestyle, but personally, I do!” Always nice to hear. Thank you! You see more of it revealed in my/our other posted stories, including the ones about the nude beach trip and our naked kayaking adventures.
* “The naked human body has been made a dirty and embarrassing thing, and it's always sexualized even when it doesn't need to be (though I absolutely agree that it should be between husband and wife!).”
– agreed. The sex always and only can/should/must be between H&W. Obviously, my posted story does not so limit nudity.
* (the Adam and Eve topic was interesting, but not necessary for Queen and I to pursue abandoned* Nakedism. * Important! Abandoned does not mean sinful, or OOB. It means “abandoned” to as much monogamous passion as we can!)
* We, as a culture, indeed have put too much emphasis on "modesty". But I think “culture” agrees (now) that it refers to sexual stuff. Too bad. I think the Biblical references are more to affluence and outward appearances.
* We agree that it’s more comfortable to go nude, and we enjoy that benefit. But to be clear, we CHOOSE Nakedism to be naked for each other for sex, for passion, for strengthening our marriage bed! The comfort is a nice side-benefit.
* I agree there doesn’t seem to be an instance where the Bible explicitly forbids nudity. Most citations are indirect. Yes, sometimes it’s not appropriate. But when appropriate, there’s nothing wrong with it for strengthening our monogamy!
* This is the key! You said “I LOVE that you and your wife are so intentional about building the desire and closeness between you.” INTENTIONALITY! We co-lead a church marriage conference, focusing on “Intentionality versus Complacency”.
– I’ve always been hyper-Intentional (probably from work influences), and now we have found that it’s like a passion B-12 shot. I’m convinced that sex has some super-atomic power for the marriage bed and monogamy! (Maybe more on this later.)
* Finally, you posted “And yeah, I love the idea of seeing my future husband in different settings without a stitch on him!” Stick with that!
Thanks for reading! Blessings and passion!
While I have no qualms about being nude in private, I find that public nudity crosses a line that Christians shouldn't cross. Why ? We are to be examples to the world, and you have no control over how others ( believers or non-believers ) may respond to your public nudity. I'm looking at this as it may cause others to sin.
The Bible does have something about causing others to sin.
Matthew 18:6
Christ regards injuring or causing a weak Christian to sin as a very serious offense (Romans 14:19-23; I Corinthians 8:9-13). We are all human, so offenses will happen, but our Savior pronounces woe on the person who offends and causes others to sin. Anyone who leads others into sin bears great guilt.
An argument could be made you're not causing others to sin..but your behavior can influence others response to it. They may be responsible for their sin, but your behavior may be instrumental in their response. Christians are to be a light to the world, and an example to others. I see nothing wrong with nudity when kept in private surroundings, where it can have no effect on others. I believe nudity shouldn't be put on public display.
OT, thank you for your comments, and while I agree with the points you raised, I don't think the application of them here works. I accept that we'll have to disagree, and am not looking to engage in a debate. Blessings and peace.
Whether I or others find this offensive or not (which I do) is not really the issue, is it? The real issue in this public nudity practice is I believe according to scripture, (in many passages) God would and does find this kind of practicing behavior to be offensive. The boundaries have already been set by God Himself. And for anyone or any of us to redefine or realign those boundaries to meet our carnal whims, is an offense that God will judge and is the only thing that matters.
Care to quote New Testament scripture that says going toplessat a beach with others is a carnal whim that God will punish you for? Not something you think means that, but a direct statement because I can’t find one.
Best60, thank you for your thoughts. Obviously, we disagree. And to clarify, this was not "public" nudity, per se, but nudity in a private setting with like-minded individuals. I agree with your statement that "… for … any of us to redefine or realign [God's] boundaries to meet our carnal whims, is an offense that God will judge …" I just don't believe it is accurately applied here. I am sorry I offended you. Likewise, I will decline to debate you on this. Blessings and peace.
You speak of having grandchildren .It would appear that you don't do nudity in front of them.If a school bus came by would you still hope they "caught a glimpse"?
No, I would not hope a school bus of kids would catch a glimpse. However, there would be no school bus in this venue, and the remote road outside the club is in a rural area with few houses and no school bus routes. This may be a legitimate objection in another story, but it doesn't apply to mine. Again, thank you for your comment.
I'd like to add that I am by no means encouraging behavior that causes others to sin. I personally would never be naked in random public settings. But vacationing at a venue where that is the point, and everyone there is a like-minded adult, would be fine. Obviously children should not be involved (though I can see the benefit of a family privately practicing nudity in their home to take away the stigma of naked bodies), but mature adults who are gathered in the same private location and who knows their boundaries can, I believe, engage in this.
LLL, again, thanks for your support. I agree with your points.
Being nude or at least women being topless is more a forbidden by western(US) culture than Christian belief. Many countries have nudist or topless beaches and are attended by families of all ages with no sinful response or guilt. If you are going nude to attract others in hope of having sex outside of your marriage that is different. Simply enjoying the view or being viewed is not a sin. Even if the view brings desire for your spouse it can be beneficial. Anti nudity is the final stage from when women were not allowed to show an ankle or belly button on the beach. The size of a bikini today leaves nothing hidden nor should it. It took a century to go from completely covered to barely covered at all. Should it really be another century until the nipple has to be covered on women only of course.
SM, thanks for your comments, and, boom, you found some nuggets as well, in that …
(1) If you are going nude to attract others in hope of having sex outside of your marriage that is different. (I presume you mean sinful.")
(2) Simply enjoying the view or being viewed is not a sin.
(3) Even if the view brings desire for your spouse it can be beneficial.
Again, thanks, and blessing to you.
Thank you for sharing this. The title had me hooked. I love being naked and I love being seen. I think this post helps a lot with questions I’ve been having recently. I do have a question that I think you might be able to help with.
Neither Cal nor myself feel conviction about this, but I got into a friendly debate with a girlfriend over it and I see where she’s coming from so can I get your thoughts.
What do you think about having sex in the same place as another married couple? And I do mean in the same room or the same camp site etc. to where you can easily see and even talk.
Bee, thanks for your post, and supporting comments. Regarding what Queen and I call "Same Room Sex" (SRS), I think it's a very hot fantasy. I don't think there is specific Biblical prohibition for this, and for people with a focused and disciplined mindset, I don't think it would be sin.
However, the risks to monogamy are huge here, and so I would not recommend it. Again, thanks, and blessings to you and Cal.
I am not a nudist but when my Melody ‘n I were true M T nesters we sometimes used to hang around the house in the buff. I understand that it can be arousing to be nude with my wife. But sometimes it was just nice to be naked together.
From what I understand there are family nudist resorts / camps. I read that newbies soon find that in a few minutes they are comfortable being nude ‘n being around other people who are nude. The German spas are family oriented as well and I don’t think those places are lascivious. (obsessed with sex) They seem to respect the body and kids raised in nudist cultures are generally more comfortable with their bodies.
Yes , as a married person I’m sure you can admire a beautiful nude body but like you mentioned you can focus your erotic energy on your own spouse. I draw nudes sometimes but it is appreciation of God’s greatest creation- the human body ‘n soul.
LM, great to hear from you, and thanks for your comments. I think you picked up on a key point, that is, "… focus your erotic energy on your own spouse." Thanks for reading, considering, commenting, etc. And as always, thanks for your stories and inspiration to keep hot monogamy alive and well into our "golden years". Blessings and passion to you both.
LM, two more thoughts came to mind from your comments. One for clarity, and one for strong agreement!
1. It’s obvious from my “Nakedist” posts and explanations that we don’t consider ourselves nudists or naturists. That’s why I coined “Nakedist” – we’re naked to spark and inflame lustful*, monogamous sex between us. The part about comfortable and body respect are both true, but not primary objectives. More like fortuitous side-benefits.
(* lustful – strong desire, neutral, not always sexual sin. I am convinced that I am supposed to have sexual “lust” for Queen. Monogamous, wild, lustful, sexual lust!)
2. I strongly agree that “… as a married person … I … can admire a beautiful nude body.” And I do! And so does Queen. In fact, I’m convinced we are born sexual creatures, and we should have a sexual response to seeing a naked (adult) body. We’re supposed to! It’s what we do with that “heat” that either stays in-bounds or goes Out Of Bounds.
3. You followed with “… focus … erotic energy on your own spouse.” That’s the whole point! And after a few years of this focus, we are getting REALLY good at lighting our marriage bed on fire with heat from many sources. Taking OOB heat, and capturing it for married monogamy feels like victory!
OK, so it’s three more thoughts. I don’t count too well. But once I get going …
Thanks again. Blessing and passion!
[From MH: We don't always allow outside links, but this one is allowed. This blog can be a little tough to find by searching.]
https://www.nakedtruth.online/
For those looking for more information on this [topic, this link takes] you to a Christian author that has an extensive discussion on the topic of nudity. Also there are discussions in MH that covers this topic at length as well. See,
Good Nudity November 14, 2016/69 Comments/in Romance/by Stag-on-a-hill
Btw. I thoroughly enjoy nudity, my wife on the other hand thoroughly does not enjoy nudity. But we respect each other’s opinion.
I absolutely love your naked adventures. You’re both very lucky to have someone to walk through life with like this. Stay at it!
Thanks, KM, and good to hear from you. We will definitely keep at it! Blessings and passion to you!
We have come to enjoy nudity around our house as empty nesters, visited hot springs with clothing optional, and clothing optional nude beaches. I would not say we are intentional exhibitionists, meaning being nude for others to see us, and thus being sexual. However, we have enjoyed the sexual tension between us being in these environments and have wonderful sex.
We have also made friends at nude venues, friends, not other sex partners. They come from all stages of life and the ones we connect with often come from the Christian faith. We have found a sense of freedom and acceptance of our own bodies and a desexualization of others bodies when everyone else is nude in some way.
I respect many who think this is wrong or sinful while others have more freedom without sin.
Keep giving some Good Lovin!
Thanks, GL, and good comments which sparked some thoughts, replies, etc …
* Empty Nest makes this so easy! We are Nakedist around the house as often as possible. As soon as we come in from errands, etc., we strip off. It’s a strong message to each other and symbol of being Intentional about our passion!
* We haven’t done hot springs yet (bucket list), but have had several visits to a nude beach. See my story posted herein for that escapade (and good comments). Obviously also several visits to this nude “club” venue.
* A good point of clarity. We are not intentional exhibitionists, that is, to be nude for others to see us as the primary objective. Our sexual focus is always and totally on each other. Monogamy forever! The sexual impact of “naked others” is indirect, but great!
* This is a good point. We enjoy the sexual tension between us being in these environments, surrounded by other naked folks, and have wonderful sex with each other, not with the other naked folks.
* Same thing … we have made friends at nude venues. Friends, not other sex partners. They come from all stages of life and often, those we connect with come from the Christian faith, or at least, are just like our neighbors and friends. Except naked!
* Also agreed in part. I respect those who choose to avoid this for their own faith. Blanket statements that this is sinful for all, bar none, are too ideologically strident for me.
* Several of us, apparently you both, Queen and I, and a few others on MH, enjoy more freedom without sin.
If you want more about these adventures, and about our practice of Nakedism in our passion life, go dig up our other stories. Naked Kayaking is also a fave for us.
In any event, thanks, blessings, and passion.
The entire nudity is dirty and hide your body from everyone except your spouse and maybe your doctor never made sense to me. Yes I was indoctrinated with those kind of fears. But studies show it’s healthier to be more open. In fact kids that went to family nudist camps or beaches are much healthier about body image and sex as adults. Those that started the body is dirty and to hidden thing did a great disservice to mankind.
Love the story and so happy you are able to be proud of your wife completely naked out in the open. My wife wore a sheer white micro-bikini this summer to the beach and when she went in the water, it became extremely revealing. I was so happy to see her dressed like that and proud of her. I get where you're coming from with this perspective. May God bless your marriage!
BB, Hubbie here, and thanks for your post and affirmation. Yes, she was amazing, and it was so hot in that setting. The same kudos back at you for your appreciation of your wife in her revealing bikini. And to your wife for wearing such a bikini and, I presume, boldly and subtly exhibiting her body "to you in front of others". Maybe write that beach adventure up for a story?
May God bless your marriage as well!
I agree with Q&H…write that story 😉
I only disagree with the assumption that nudity is always sexual. Nakedness is our natural state, and is the most modest state to be in. When God’s will was perfectly lived out, we were all naked and unashamed. Now that Jesus, the Second Adam, has restored our relationship with God via the cross, we are free to be naked once more! In fact, a worship service where the congregation is praising God without the pretense or facade of fashion and clothing, would be an amazing experience!