Anal, Among Other Things (A)
(A) – This story contains anal play, including anal intercourse.
Anal, as written by Lady L.💋
I bet you can’t guess what this is going to be about! …Oh, you knew?
When M and I first started dating way back in the ’70s. I was young and more carefree.
We had come from different backgrounds. I started out going to Lutheran Church. He had not had any church background. I had some experience with sex, he had a lot more experience.
Back then, my straight blonde hair was long—almost to my waist. I was always tan. It wasn’t unusual to see me in a bikini sunbathing. I didn’t think twice about not wearing a bra back then, and when I did wear a bra, it usually offered very little support, other than to hold the girls in.
M said that was one of the things he first noticed about me, thinking that I was going to be a lot more experienced sexually than I was.
By the second time we dated, we had sex. From then on it was a regular thing.
We did a lot of sexual exploring in our dating phase, which was before we became believers. But these explorations continued on into our early marriage!
And once we did get married, we had a house to ourselves, and we had sex everywhere in it.
It wasn’t unusual for me to have my hand resting on or around his equipment, whether people were around or not. I was open to trying a lot of new things sexually, and I really didn’t object to anything we had tried. One of those things was having him insert a finger into my anus during sex.
It was kind of alien to me, but he started slow at first, just by rubbing a finger tip against my anus during sex. Then he would occasionally insert a fingertip in response to the rise and fall of my behind as I rode him. Eventually he went past the knuckle, then the second one, until he could fully insert his finger. It had gone from uncomfortable to a natural thing we did.
Of course he always used some sort of lubrication. And quite often it was from his tongue.
When he performed cunninglingus on me, he would and drag his tongue all the way back over my anal opening and tickle it with the tip of his tongue. Sometimes we also used coconut oil, which was more readily available, and also used as lubrication for sex.
As a matter of fact, it got so comfortable that I found myself beginning to push down to get him deeper inside of my anus. I also had begun incorporating it into my solo time using my own finger.
It was during this phase that there was a time he was behind me, and we were having sex doggy style. He pulled out and started to push on my anus. Once he began to stretch me, it was too much, and I said no way. He respected that.
We were pretty open about some of the things that he had done and he had in the past had a girlfriend who he had performed anal with. But he was always considerate and mindful of my comfort and happiness, and I always wanted to make him happy, and I wanted to give him what he wanted. I wanted to give him all of me.
We went back to the fingers, and also began using vibrators. A slim vibrator that I had became the next thing to slip into the back door. There weren’t nearly as many types of sex toys available back then as there are now, but this one worked well enough. Quite well, actually! It was pleasurable, and the smooth feel of the vibration, coupled with clitoral stimulation, gave me my first anal orgasm.
I didn’t feel it was so bad, and we continued to use it together. We didn’t always include anal play, but there was nothing unnatural about it. As a matter of fact, I had begun performing anal on him, and we were discovering the pleasure it could be him. (We later discovered something called prostrate massage.)
We eventually worked things up to the point where eventually I could take him.
The keys were:
Slow.
Steady.
Lube.
Patience.
Along with clitoral stimulation and vaginal sex.
Our anal sex moved from one position into multiple.
I found that it wasn’t a problem, and it was actually enjoyable for him to be sitting on a chair or couch, and for me to lower myself down on him. I enjoyed surprising him by guiding him to my back door. In this position, it wasn’t hard for M to have full access to my breasts, nipples and clitoris. I also had access to them myself, if needed.
During the progression of our sex life came the dares.
Sometimes he would dare me to wear a plug in my anus, or a quiet vibrator inside my panties while we were out and about. And of course, if I took a dare, he would have to do the same.
And yes, we used toys on him as well. He could fit a butt plug inside himself too, after all.
These days now you can get everything with a vibrator. The key is finding one that’s quiet enough. Although just wearing a plug in public is not necessarily in itself super erotic, it’s just something you know that’s there. What’s exciting is having it in and realizing you have this naughty secret and nobody else knows.
As go most things, times change people. We became believers, had children, and matured.
One of the key things to changing us was the circle of people we began to associate with. In other words, people who we felt were like-minded in faith.
This is a good thing. However looking back on it. It’s not always a beneficial thing. We’ve discovered that people have their own biases concerning various things, also including sex. And there were certain things that we had practiced our marriage that they would have no problem talking down upon.
As our faith grew, so did our desire to grow closer to God and be pleasing to him.
In my mind, one of the ways to please him was by beginning to follow what others around me were saying, and to follow the particular spin they were putting on the written Word to accompany what they were saying.
Our sex life dwindled. My libido shrunk.
One by one our kids grew and left the nest, and then it was just the two of us.
By this time, sex had become an occasional obligation. And it certainly wasn’t anything out of the ordinary. We did the standard in-your-bedroom, in-the-dark, vaginal-only, no-more-than one-orgasm type of sex.
At this point, monogamy had become monotony. Things began to happen which almost tore us apart.
But rather than just letting that happen, we began to talk. We realized that communication without fear of loss and judgment is essential in a monogamous sexual relationship.
Things change, and people change.
We change food, we change restaurants, we change vacation destinations. It’s called the spice of life and exploration of the desire of human experience.
There were things that he wanted us to get back to being. I agreed that I missed those days. There were also things that he wanted to try. New things.
I had certain urges that had begun to take place in my life as well, which I put down. I confessed them to him. We came to the point of agreeing that, as long as it wasn’t explicitly forbidden in the Word, it wasn’t illegal, and it was safe for both of us to do, we would try it. If either one of us did not enjoy it, we would try to tweak it to see what it we could do to make it enjoyable. If the answer was still “no way”, we threw it in the trash can.
There were some things over the years that neither one of us liked after we tried them, and couldn’t understand why other people liked them. And there were other things that either he or I didn’t care for.
I can’t tell you how many different types of sexually oriented things we have tried over the years, but I can tell you that we’ve found so many that we both enjoy and do today, being in our late sixties.
That includes anal sex.
After having children and going through menopause, I found that there were a lot of changes in my body. One of those things is the fact that I can orgasm from anal sex.
Part of the fun in our sex life now is that, at our age, in our late 60s, as far as anybody else can tell, we’re just the standard old couple. We’re parents and grandparents, good neighbors, and volunteers.
But our fun little secret is that we are every bit as hot and heavy as some 20-year-olds.
At this point we have no shame, whether it be solo play, or mutual. We are open and honest with each other about what we do. And in fact if it follows our guidelines we encourage it.
Wow Tutchh,
Your journey is as sweet and intimate as it is hot and sexy. A lot of sexy gals, especially here on MH can probably relate to something similar, but there are probably more who could really be inspired by you.
(At least in my experience) Not a lot of women have such an open mindset and willing attitude towards not only growing sexually, but actually enjoying the journey.
I’m definitely glad you’re here and even more glad that you write about your experiences 😊
Thank you K. M.
IF NOT FOR THE LOVE GOD HAS GIVEN US, it would have gone much differently.
As some here aleeady know part of what could have torn us apart was infidelity on his part with another woman.
God showed us his love in this, while we were yet enemies Christ died for us!
Rom. 5
The affair was a wakeup call for me. And insight gained from years of mi information and witnessing divorces.
We made it work and came out on this side the better for it.
Lady L. 💗
Your attitude and practices are exactly what more marriages need! I love how you tackled the issues, talked things through, used God's Word as your rulebook, and tried new things together. The legalism and "thou-shalt-nots" so prevalent in the church today have damaged many people, including me, so the testimonies of couples who are breaking that mold and actually seeing what God has to say about sex are refreshing.
Thank you Lovely one!
You have wisdom and insight that many do not.
And with that comes a beauty that radiates from within!
Remember dear one, bad experiences are learned lessons which make us better people if WE CHOOSE to take the right outlook on it.
You are not damaged, you are perfected. ❤️
Lady L. 💗
My goodness! What a fascinating life you two have shared! Although anal is not in our playbook, we can relate to the evolution of our own sexual relationship. Some things have changed over the 31 years and some have not. But we say “Different is good!”
Being both of us survivors of childhood sexual abuse that was anal sex – we just don’t do anal. It’s too triggering. However we don’t condemn other married couples who enjoy anal.
Anyway, different sexual experiences with each other have kept the flame hot for us. And by that I mean trying different positions, sex is n different places like outside or in the car, trying different sex toys (like you have), sex in different light, sex in private changing room at pools or health clubs, etc. etc.
Retirement actually has led to more regular sex. We actually have a every 3rd day schedule and yet we sometimes go on a tear of sex sessions twice a day for five or so days! Our sex schedule was every other day for years but severe health issues have kinda slowed us down.
That being said, my wife “fixes my problem” every day by orally stimulating my nipples & me using a vibrating striker she bought me. About half the time we start out with me feasting on her beautiful boobies! I had previously never liked the feel of a vibrator on my cock but this Hello Cake stroker has been a game changer!
One of the other newer things (we learned from MH) is we do is roleplay sex. Some religious people might be critical of us but we feel like you that if it’s with just each other it’s acceptable- & very fun! Do you & M do roleplay sex with each other?
I feel like I should be addressing you as loving couple rather than just loving man.
Cheers to you two for keeping the importance of intimacy in your marriage despite challenges.
One of the things I often wonder when writing are which things that we may take for granted maybe triggers for some other people. And I'm sorry to hear about the abuse you both suffered. It's sad the depths that a person could be brought to trying to fulfill their own needs. And the results of the people who are harmed by that is devastating. And it is also fully understandable about your feelings concerning anal sex.
Thank you so much for your kind words about our journey. And I might say it you two have had your own set of experiences and wondrous journey as well. You are both a prime example of where people can be in their marriages during their retirement years. That all of the years of love and acceptance between two people can bloom even at advanced stages into beautiful experiences.
And as far as people who are religious. We long ago learn the difference between people who are religious and people who are believers. Even Jesus had problems with people who religious placing unbearable weight upon those who placed their obedience to.
Religion creates rules and restrictions.
Although we still have guidelines. They are those that are laid in scripture by the only one who has the right to direct us and they are there for our own good.
And those are given to us in the spirit of love and grace.
And as for role play. Yes we do and it is so very fun as a matter of fact I have a story that will come up sometime about a role play that we had concerning one of Bees stories called j o i instructions.
It was a day long experience that started with me reading and having my own enjoyment and evolving to the two of us and then culminating in an evening of amazing sex between us.
And like you it can happen in various places and times. We have come to the point where we both will fall into the character roles of whichever role play at this slightest provocation.
… And it is so very fun!!
And at our age we can empathize with you about things that can challenge us physically happening to us. Having had a number of surgeries over the years we have gone through many of the same trials yet it's the attitude that we have which causes us to triumph and come out better for it !
Lady L.💗💋💗💋
tutchh, As always, a very interesting and sexy story!
I admire you two for the sensual exploring you do with each other, always on a quest to stretch your boundaries 😉 and various body parts.
I remember not being too fond of even the idea of anal sex – and it wasn't until Jim worked a good anal tongue lashing into his oral routine, that I discovered it was truly an amazing "hot spot" that really enhanced my orgasms!!
Now, we we have lots of free time together and can invest a good two hours toward all things sexy and sensual, anal sex, now full penetration with his way over average cock, is always on the agenda; most times he will unload inside my tight opening, and this in turn prompts my second huge orgasm….
Thanks for the hot story, girl!
Thank you for your kind words sexy!!
It does take some work and time. But all exercise does, doesn't it? And just like exercise it may be a little painful to begin with. But the results are worth the effort.
Unlike your jim, My husband M. Is More on the average side and to be honest with you absolutely perfect as far as I'm concerned. Whether he be in my vagina or my anus ( and he may go to vagina to anus but never the other way around ) it feels comfortable.
Like some other girlfriends that I have in my life and I'm able to talk to about anything. I feel the same about you and a lot of the ladies here on this site. I literally feel like I know you ladies and always smile whenever I see any of you comment!
And you dear, are one one who has a way of putting a tingle between my legs when I read your words.
Lady L.💦💋💋💋
I’m so happy to be of service, even if it is long distance…
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Your words really do mean alot to me Patty. ❤️💋