Talking Cock — Is it OK?
I’m a younger, single guy, waiting and searching for my future wife.
In the meantime, I’m horny — thanks to my natural sex drive and God-given urge for release. This site has been such a wonderful outlet for my solo time, stroking my cock and emptying my (often full and heavy) balls. There are so many sexy and beautiful couples (and like-minded singles) here.
So here’s my question… What are your thoughts on a guy having another guy friend with whom he talks about his cock as well as sex with his respective future wife? I believe that camaraderie from sharing in the joys of our dicks and desires can be healthy.
Please share your thoughts with me!
Nothing wrong with discussing sex with others that are interested. I imagine it might inspire you or give you a new technique. It’s no different then discussing a food recipe.
One would be hard-pressed to pull out a biblical principal that clearly would say that this is right or wrong. That being said, many times when I get a question asked this way, the person is looking for permission to do something they sense may be wrong….they are trying to talk themselves into it…..and whatever is not done in faith, is sin.
Being young and single is difficult. And, from the perspective of pure, physical sexuality God has blessed us with the outlet of masturbation. But I don’t see the wisdom of sitting around talking about your ‘free time” with another guy. I don’t think that prepares you for how to love your future wife and it just “feeds the beast”. Perhaps time would be better spent with an older, married mentor who can coach you in the ways of “approaching” your (future) wife. They are wonderfully complex creatures. . . . And the key to their heart looks nothing like the key to a man’s.
Maybe an unmarried female would be better company to discuss sex with?
Nicely said. Very wise advice.
Agreed 💯
Speaking from experience, I'd say this hints at an interest in same-sex matters, and in the context of this site, and I think also, in the spirit of the scriptures, may indicate a dangerous deep-down willingness to do more with the buddy than talk. I've always had an interest in cock – and I have to say I don't have the gag impulse I hear other str8 people speak of when they think of same-sex interactions. What I do have as a believer is an understanding of scripture that causes me to have an intellectual reason from refraining from that life and related activity. And I will say, "It ain't easy!" Far better to realize the interest, know yourself and what you like, but as a Christian, make a decision to stay in the lane your belief system calls for you to stay in. Knowing yourself, admitting to yourself what turns you on can be a protection at vulnerable times.
I would generally refrain from "sharing in the joys of our dicks" with another person, especially someone I'm not married to.
I've been Young and I understand how challenging it can be to be a young single man especially in today's world. However
Personally I don't think it's necessary for a single guy to be on this site, you could be setting you up for trouble down the road. You are programming yourself for high level wild and erotic sex acts and your expectations could really hurt your relationship with your future wife in the beginning. Starting out trying to have the type of sex 10 15 30 40 year married couples are having could put a lot of pressure on her and sabotage things. You can masturbate without reading here or discussing it with someone. Learn the basics which you probably already know… masturbate from your own mind to nameless faceless people(we don't need the images we see here as young men to masturbate). Focus on developing yourself in other ways that really make a relationship and a marriage work which in turn make the sex life work. Are you kind? are you generous? are you unselfish? do you have a good career, can you support a family are you well connected socially and family wise?
These are stories which I would guess are only half true and could be written by anybody and are essentially for ??? and a small percentage for learning.
Do yourself a favor spend more time developing the other parts of your life to prepare for marriage and learn the sex part (beyond the basics) with your new wife together.
I completely agree.
I would agree that the sex in stories here or other sex sites are almost certainly “enhanced”or more imagination, fantasy or wishful thinking then fact and could create unreasonable expectations. Or even hurt a marriage if someone is not living up to the fantasy.
I personally wouldn't talk about cocks to another guy. That is private for the bedroom only, however I would think it is okay with a female to see what they think.
First, I think you’re pushing the boundaries of this site. Second, I do not think it’s appropriate for you to be spending so much time with a friend discussing your cocks. When I was a teenager a loooong time ago, I had a friend who tried talking a lot about his penis, and he ended up trying to get me to do homosexual acts with him. I refused his advances but I remained his friend. He married, had children, and later committed suicide because of his conflict between religion and homosexuality. Tread lightly my friend, we want you to have a safe and healthy sexual experience in life.
I find great humor in the differences in replies to this question and the ones to CP on discussing sex with her sister.
Of course there is absolutely no reason not to discuss sex with others. We do it on this site daily. Not sure if responses you got were homophobic or ignorance.
There are Christian sex sites even more conservative than this one that give advice on masturbating. Reading that in principle is no different than chatting with a friend. In fact many churches have groups that explore the topic.
I just do not understand the great fear of knowledge and sharing it.
If there are any comments in my reply that you don’t understand or disagree with I would be happy to elaborate in order to help bring clarity.
The only thing I can contribute here is, back in college my best guy friend (from back in middle school) would constantly want to know details about Patty when we first started dating. His questions included details about her naked body, how often we screwed, positions, her experience in cocksucking, etc.,
I’ll just say I answered about half the questions.
I even told Patty about his questions, she said to feel free to answer him, just be honest, so the questions I didn’t answer was my doing.
Imo, the only wrong thing to do if asked about sex is to lie. My husband also had friends that were curious about my body and our sex life. For the most part, why would I care if he told them? He kept some things to himself but gave enough information to put a smile on his friend's face when he saw me. It’s just talking about a body and sex, not the password to your Netflix account.
My hubby has a 10-inch cock. I tell everyone lol.