Coconut Oil
Thank you all for your participation and input through out MH. Awesome content here. Many of you have made reference to using coconut oil and it has intrigued my interest in trying it. I have looked in stores, not really knowing quite where to look. I have looked in areas of health and beauty aids to pharmacy area to that of groceries as to where you would find olive oil and the like with no success. Please forgive my ignorance, could someone help a brother out? I really don’t want to tell store personnel what I want coconut oil for. I guess I wouldn’t feel this way if I were shopping at the toy store where these conversations are a bit more the norm. Thanks in advance for your help. Keep it hot.
We find coconut oil in the American supermarkets with other oils like olive oil, vegetable oils etc. Health food stores sell it as well. In our opinion it needs to be cold-pressed virgin coconut oil. More processed coconut oil is liquid at room temperature. But the virgin coconut oil is a soft solid at room temperature. It is in a jar usually.
We cook with it so we buy big containers of it from big box stores. But for by the bed we use a smaller jar from the grocery store.
You can scoop out a small glob of the soft but solid coconut oil and slide it up into your wife’s pussy. My wife likes some rubbed around on her vulva and clitoris as well. Recently I discovered that I can lube up her G spot vibrator and use that as an applicator.
We use microfiber cloths under my wife to prevent oil (mixed with cum) from getting on the sheets. I keep two microfiber cloths handy to wipe my waning erection and my wife’s leaking pussy (after cumming inside her pussy). I must admit that half the time we still have to remove the sheet and squirt Dawn dishwashing detergent on the oil stains… then wash the sheet AND microfiber cloths on the hot water setting in our washing machine.
Also, after first applying the coconut oil I often use another microfiber cloth to gently partially wipe my wife’s external pussy. This also helps avoid oil on the sheets.
I hope this was helpful.
I think LovingMan pretty much covered it! I agree that you should go for the solid-at-room-temperature kind! You also may not need to use as much as you think to get well lubricated. Start with a small amount and add more as needed. You'll quickly learn what the right amount is for you!
I'll also add that you don't have to feel embarrassed about asking a store employee if they have coconut oil and where it is! I'm sure customers ask where things are all the time! It's commonly used for cooking, so they'll have no idea what you plan to use it for, and I doubt they'll ask. Even if they do, you can decline to answer, or tell them it's for cooking, or "skin care." 😉
Coconut oil was a game changer for Kate and I over the last year or so. Now, this was exclusively for when Kate agreed with my request to incorporate anal sex into our love life, and I was on a seemingly endless campaign to try and make it as comfortable and enjoyable for her while getting acclimated to it. I had read about how it serves as good anal lubricant, although not condom compatible (we would never use them anyway). We had tried many brands of lube before trying coconut oil. Kate has grumbled about the plastic tote full of lubes and butt plugs and I joke with her that we'll open a museum of anal sex. LOL
The first time I was inclined to try coconut oil, I went to the cooking oil in a Walmart and picked up a bottle of liquid coconut oil. Seemed great texture wise, but I knew it had potential to be a mess. I was sure right about the latter. When I was warming her up and stretching her ass out with my fingers, it would just run all over the place. Sometime later I was inclined to try solid coconut oil, thinking it would stay in place better and melt once inside. That is largely try, although it did liquify considerably once we got out of the winter months. However, it was at least a viable option. I could coat a butt plug with it and it wouldn't make much mess, but would melt from her rectal heat. As I would grease up my cock, it began to melt upon rubbing it on. Still, coconut oil gave her the best anal experience by far and allowed the deepest penetration. I joked she had a special connection with coconut oil from growing up in the Philippines.
Eventually, I stumbled onto a product called Palm Grease that is primarily palm oil, but also has a couple other oils mixed in with it. It has a higher melting point, certainly above our body temperatures. So, it remains a nice slick grease during the whole process and doesn't drip anywhere. This has allowed me, once she completely relaxes after a few minutes, to thrust my entire length into her, which I still do cautiously given her small 4'8" frame.
We had never tried coconut oil for any vaginal play, in part because I had read it's not good for a woman's pH. However, I later read that there is minimal to no concern and that seems to have little truth to it. I may eventually get a new container and see if she likes coconut oil for traditional play, but I won't mix what I already bought because of anal-vaginal crossing concerns. So, I'd give it a try whatever sex you were envisioning. Just purchase it with other cooking oils, probably opt for solid coconut oil and start with a small jar. If it turns out to be a good additional for your sex life, you can get a large jar at a club like Costco or Sam's and it will be uber cheap compared to any lube marketed as an intimate lube.
Coconut oil is common at Walmart or any other grocery store, at least, in the states I've lived in. I don't know about other countries. I use it for several things, mainly after-shaving skincare and makeup remover. I try to use more natural products when possible. And coconut oil is used a lot for skin and hair care, plus cooking and baking, so no one should give you funny looks for buying it.
We've been buying the big tubs of organic virgin coconut oil for cooking from Costco for years. As age creeps up on us, we heard about it being good as well as safe for sex, so we started using it when her natural lube couldn't keep up. That kinda makes the stuff 'unvirgin'…..but oh well! 🙂
A big advantage of coconut oil, is if you are a very oral couple like us, it doesn't interfere in that! WE both do oral before, during, and after PIV, and it mostly has no flavor. We have tried other lubes, made for sex, and the same cannot be said. Silicone works great in the water, but sure does taste bad! The flavored lubes we have tried have tended to be sticky, get stickier in a short amount of time, and many have a less than pleasant aftertaste.
I'd think any supermarket would carry the organic virgin oil.
I would say only go organic, especially since it's going inside her body. We use Sam's Club members mark. It comes in a large jar!
I use organic coconut oil everyday inside and out after a shower. My husband before marriage would always comment on how beautifully soft my skin is and the way my snatch smelt so amazing. This is still a secret I keep from him lol. The solid kind goes very hard in the winter months. I also cook with it and has so many benefits not just to heat up a hot session.
Trust me if your a women reading this go grab yourself a big bottle. It’s also great to rub on sex toys after sterilisation or those time of one on one self love.