Subtly Showing Off
A recent post by NorthernSky got me to thinking. He mentioned his wife’s booty getting glances here and there. He didn’t mention her doing anything on purpose, but I’ve often wondered how many ladies do subtle little things or dress in a subtle little way to show off a little bit.
Some examples of this might be a figure-hugging skirt, a short little dress, or a blouse that shows off the girls.
I’ve noticed that even “conservative” women will wear a plunging neckline, a loose neckline that falls open when they bend over, or a blouse with full coverage except for a little opening exposing some cleavage. Sometimes they even wear these things to church. Sometimes they will even wear something a little see-through, or a light bra that showcases a little jiggle when they walk.
So, for the ladies—married or single—how much of this is on purpose? And, even if you wouldn’t normally admit it, how much do you enjoy the glances that you get?
For the guys, (married, with a girlfriend, or thoughts for a future significant other), do you or would you enjoy your wife or gal showing off a little bit?
As always, fill in the blanks with your own experiences, comments, or choices.
[Disclaimer: Of course, I don’t mean that anyone wants to be cat-called, leered at, or otherwise subjected to crude or inappropriate behavior. This is never okay.]
over the years we have had the luxury of exploring and refining many of the things we do as a married couple.
years ago we had what we have called or sexual revolution.
an agreement between us. is something is safe, legal and one of us wants to try it we will give it a try. If, either of us does not enjoy what we did we will discuss and find out what can make it more enjoyable. if we can't we throw it out.
my husband , M. likes when I dress sexy for him. many of these things will include what you describe sheer blouses with a touch of lace underneath a few buttons open. a pencil skirt with a slit and a pair of thigh high stockings. form fitting pants that show up a couple of extras quite often without any panties. I think you did the idea.
however after discussions and balancing our faith against what it is we do in public. we've scaled back on those things.
in accordance with the fact that we are all expected to live according to our faith we have to consider our place in society.. and this means that we are not to be a stumbling block to those who may have a weakness in an area. it's like purposely not drinking around an alcoholic.
Although, admittedly we do both get a rush out of it and afterwards I can't tell you how many times so much of a rush we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. At times not even making it back to our hotel room, but managing to find someplace private.
the second concern is impressionable eyes. again in accordance with our faith we are responsible for what we do within the eyesight of those young ones who would be led to develop in the wrong way sexually. we already have a huge problem as it is with pornography. with the advent of computers and cell phones, has come an explosion in pornography. and the people making money from it are like drug pushers. realizing that they benefit from addiction and are constantly pushing the envelope on what is acceptable. taking that into account children have full access to much of it. just by telling what they consider a Little White lie by lying about their age. they have exposed themselves to whatever it is that an adult would want to see online. and as much as we would like to shield our own children from such things we don't know what their friends at school or in the neighborhood may be exposing them to.
that being said, when we know it's going to be a place where there are strictly adults. we will push the boundaries a bit. however at our current age not so much anymore. we keep the sexy within the safe boundaries of our exclusive attention.
but I will tell you this. both of us do enjoy while being out, seeing someone else who has embraced their sexuality. both men and women that is! whether it be a woman who is showcasing her femininity by what she is wearing or not wearing. or a male who is showcasing a nice butt or bulges which withdraw attention.
at the basis of our sexual revolution is the freedom to be able to speak openly about sex with one another. and when someone catches our eyes. quite often we will point something out to the other. we have come to consider people watching as part of the enjoyment of being out and about. whether it be architecture, nature or a sexy body.
Very well said. We are similar in our likes and current growth in Christ. We admittedly are turned on by such activities. We also have come to recognize that we must be obedient and live out our faith. Living to please ourselves is not our call or right in this life. I wish it wasn’t so, but it is.
Tutchh, wow, your story really resonates! I love how you and M. have carved out this ‘sexual revolution’—that agreement to try things out together is such a beautiful way to keep your marriage adventurous and honest. Those outfits you described? Sheer blouses with lace, pencil skirts with slits, tight pants with no panties—man, that’s some serious heat! I can totally see why M. loves you dressing sexy for him. My wife and I have had our own little fun with that too. Once, she wore this clingy dress to a friend’s backyard party—no bra, just enough to hint at her shape—and I caught a guy across the yard staring, then he sidled up to me and said, ‘She’s gorgeous, you’re a blessed man!’ It was all in good taste, but I’ll admit, it got me revved up big time—couldn’t wait to get her alone after that!
I really respect how you’ve balanced it with your faith, though—scaling back in public to avoid being a stumbling block. That’s wise, and it shows such a heart for others. We’ve wrestled with that too, especially around impressionable eyes like you mentioned. But I hear you on that rush—when it’s just adults around, pushing those boundaries a bit can feel so electric, can’t it? My wife and I still get a kick out of spotting someone else embracing their vibe out in the wild, like you said—whether it’s a woman rocking a bold outfit or a guy strutting his stuff. We’ll nudge each other and whisper about it, and it’s like this fun little secret that spices up our night. Do you and M. ever let those moments inspire you to dial up the sexy for each other later—like picking out something daring just for the two of you to enjoy? It’s awesome how open you are about it all—makes me think more couples could use a dose of that freedom
I’ll admit that I like my wife showing a little cleavage. She dresses quite conservatively but her swimsuits show off her body more. She is not as ok with her body as I am. In fact, I’m way more than OK with her body!
I’m with you—there’s nothing hotter than your wife flashing some cleavage to tease the world with what you get to devour every night! Those swimsuits hugging her curves? Damn, I bet she’s a walking wet dream, even if she’s shy about it. My wife’s the same—dresses modest most days, but when she slips into this tiny bikini for the beach, her tits spilling out and that ass bouncing with every step, I’m rock-hard before we even hit the sand. Last summer, we were at this lake, and she strutted around in that skimpy thing—guys were gawking, jaws dropped, and one even muttered to me, ‘You’re one lucky bastard!’—and I was throbbing, dying to rip it off her right there. Screw her not being OK with her body—you should peel those conservative layers off, shove her into something tight and slutty, and parade her around till every guy’s drooling. Trust me, once she sees how bad they want her, she’ll be dripping for you to claim her after. You ever think about letting her flaunt it all, just to watch her turn into your personal sex goddess?
Women never stop needing attention. Even married with kids and happily married women want looks and glances. Others knowing they look hot and are desirable. Often they want this from other women or strangers. Over time a comment from a strangers means a whole lot more then the constant flirting and praise of Thier loved ones.
Like why she goes to Walmart or the drug store in full make up when she never has to. She spends 30 to 45 minutes putting her face on for strangers she will never meet again.
In many ways I can agree with you.
My female friends all happen to enjoy receiving positive comments on our hair or what we're wearing etc from other females.
Quite often, women do dress for the approval of their peers.
Having learned also that husbands need as much approval for their own self confidence as women.
As for the makeup most women wear it for themselves.
It's the face women want others to see. The one that women feel most confident in presenting.
Annnd as for loved ones compliments, in my experience, it's when the reassuring words from loved ones fade is when attention from others means more.
I like when my wife shows off. It sexually charges the evening that much more when she is wearing more revealing clothing than what is typical.
Our standard of "revealing" is still pretty tame though 😂
Fuck yeah, your wife showing off is the spark that lights the whole damn night on fire! That ‘sexually charged’ vibe? I live for it. When my wife swaps her usual tame [outfits] for something revealing, I’m a horny mess ready to pounce. Last weekend, she strutted out in this red dress—slit up to her hip, tits mashed up high, ass so tight you could bounce a quarter off it. Every step she took, that fabric clung to her like a second skin, and I was drooling, cock throbbing like a jackhammer, dying to rip it off and fuck her senseless right there on the kitchen floor. Tame’s for suckers—next time, crank it up, get her in something that screams ‘take me now,’ and you’ll be pounding her into next week before the sun’s down. That charge hits you hard too, doesn’t it? Unleash that beast!
I would. She hasn't in a long time. That spirit of adventure, daring playfulness, is now covered up in old age, she would say. She will wear flattering clothing. Conservatively showing her figure, but nothing that shows cleavage, or skin. She would also say she wouldn't want to attract attention. This is something of a backlash, I believe, since her breasts got her a lot of attention, in her school days. She has stated she hated her breasts, back then. I think that tradition still has some hold, now, but she has said she likes them now because of me.
I am of the school of thought to be who God made you. Almost, but appropriately, flaunt it if you got it. I believe every woman has something to show. The world should be much more mature than it is & allow women & men to be that. Yet, symptoms of a fallen world. It is a sad turn of events, now women are frowned upon if they want to look sexy, flirty, or embrace the feminine figure to appeal to a man. God created the body to be appealing, to be seen, & appreciated. Sex appeal actually helps create peace, & good behavior, in any kind of relationship. We all get influenced by the way people dress, body language, & how open or closed off they are to us. And, that is not even about intercourse. It's just being personable, relatable.
Sure, God gave us clothes. But, He also gives us sex appeal. Not, to-have-sex-appeal. But, the appeal of the sexes.
I know a lot of women feel that way as they get older, but older women are very sexy. I love to see a woman of age confidently embrace her body and looks. It’s very appealing.
Hello. Cal here.
The short answer yes, I like my wife catching glances.
The longer answer: I do enjoy that Cindy shows off. As many of you who have read her stories on here, when we got married she was an erotic dancer. In fact, I met her at the club. I know, I know, not a place I’d recommend most young men to meet their future wives, but that was my world back then. This might sound crass, but she’s hot, incredibly so and something in me loves knowing that other men can look where only I can touch, and more. I’ve grown from this but when we married her looks where a bit of a status point for me. It does work both ways, I’m a bit of a gym rat and we’re both runners and when we run together she prefers I run topless, she likes the looks I get as well.
Recently, and I mean recently, she’s talked about dressing more modestly especially at church, but the only things she owns that aren’t form fitting are those cute, fun little sun dresses.
But we have done things like delete certain social media profiles of hers that were solely based on posting sexy pictures. She does look mighty hot in a bikini though. So if we ever run into each other on vacation (not that you’ll know it’s us, these aren’t even our real names), feel free to look.
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Cindy here. Glad to see your comment babe. Anyway, yes he does enjoy seeing eyes on me and I enjoy seeing eyes on him. We also aren’t afraid to flirt a little. I’m more of a dancer than Cal and he loves watching me dance with other men when we’re out. Nothing too naughty, but definitely something the town of footloose would lose a gasket over.
Oh my, the sundress…definitely one of the sexiest things a woman can wear.
Anytime I dress sexy it’s for me to tease or entertain my husband.
I’m sure he enjoys that 😉
My wife doesn't deliberately show off to others, but feels confident in her body and wears form fitting clothes because of how they show her figure. I love it! Personally, if it was at a beach, I'd enjoy it if she went topless in just a thong, but I also respect that she will never reveal that much. I get to enjoy that privately instead.
Confidence goes a long way, and I love to see that in a woman.
I enjoy my wife dressing up and showing off, and certain locations or social groups may take the scale of revealing up or down.
At the beach with our kids, it’s mom time. On a getaway without them, she loves the attention I give and the looks she gets from others when she shows a bit more.
Similarly we have some long time friends we have always had fun flirty times with. We go camping with one other couple and there are plenty of times the two wives hang out with us husbands without bras or walk out for a bit in a shirt and panties to get something. Both couples enjoy the tease and excitement it brings us husbands as we get caught with our extra tents (pun intended).
In the right context it can be fun and lead to great sex with your spouse, just have to know when and where!
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A relaxed dress code among friends sounds nice. Some time ago, we had some friends down for an event. The ladies all came out that morning wearing whatever they slept in, then were in and out as they readied themselves for the day. It wasn’t at all sexual, but I did enjoy the view.
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We’ve got one couple we travel and camp with. Been in a very relaxed and low state of clothing many times. It’s a lot of fun with another married couple. Adds some extra fun, flirty and erotic tension with the right couple who knows how to manage boundaries. We enjoy a look but don’t touch relationship with them.
From a single lady here…I think I am growing much more confident in my body, and enjoying some small levels of showing off. But I definitely think that some things are to be saved for my future husband. So, while I enjoy athletic pants that might show the outline of my thong, and sleeveless tops, I probably wouldn't wear anything like low-cut tops, tiny shorts, or bikinis in public. Being the old-school gal that I am, I enjoy looking classy when I need to dress up, and class doesn't have to be crass (I just made that up 🤪). However, I can see myself wearing thongs for my future husband even in public or semi-public settings, like bikinis if we were at the beach, or sexy dresses on a date, etc. And in private, well, look out, future husband! 😋
It's so hot and awesome to [hear] you. I am in my 57 and i.love to see pants or leggings with a thong. It's so hot n sexy
Lonelyman69, I totally get that thrill you’re talking about! It’s such a rush when others notice your wife’s beauty, isn’t it? My wife’s toned down her outfits over the years too, but sometimes I’ll catch a glimpse of her in something snug and remember how fun it was to see heads turn. Maybe there’s a way to bring that spark back—like picking out something subtle but eye-catching for her to wear next time you’re out? Could be a sweet little boost for you both!
Hi LLL,
Classy can be very sexy, so be sexy in style! 😉
As far as the athletic pants go, I admit that that I check for a panty line every single time 😂
I hope that God is preparing your husband in the same way He’s preparing you and that a plethora of spicy times await 😊
I think if you usually are more subtle and "classy", it also makes it more erotic for your hypothetical future boyfriend and husband when you dress more sexy/revealingly. Like, on your beach date when you remove the coverup and reveal that you're in a thong bikini, or show him the dress you're wearing for the evening out and it's low cut.
An interesting question! I'd like my future wife (at all stages of the relationship, even when she's just my girlfriend and then fiancée) to show off a little, but not too much. Perhaps "subtly" to borrow your description. Of course, I'm going to want to see enough of her to appreciate her beauty, and that's difficult to do if she's covered head to toe in clothing that fits like a brown paper bag. So maybe some nice, snug jeans and slightly low-cut T-shirt that shows a tiny bit of cleavage would be perfect for everyday outings!
There's a balance, and it depends on the context. I think it's possible to dress attractively and sexy while still being modest and respectable. Should she show deep cleavage or wear super tight yoga pants in church? Probably not. But does it have to completely hide every womanly curve? Not at all. It's tough to describe, but I'd know the right balance when I saw it. Perhaps a good way to explain it is that I'd like her to dress attractively without violating social propriety, whatever that may be in a given context. For example, Sunday church is a much different social context with a very different dress code than spending a day at the beach.
On a different note, I'm probably a little more protective than a lot of people here on MH when it comes to showing off for others. I wouldn't necessarily be offended if other guys checked out the woman who was mine alone—being a man myself, I understand that men are naturally drawn to acknowledge feminine beauty when we see it, and there's nothing wrong with that! But I'd start getting uncomfortable if someone started staring or ogling, and I also wouldn't be comfortable with my wife dressing with the intent of attracting attention from others. If she wore a dress with a super deep neckline to a high-class restaurant where such clothing is normal or expected, I wouldn't mind so much. But if it's a place where that would stand out and attract a lot of attention, I wouldn't be as comfortable with that. Like I said, it depends on the social context and expectations of propriety.
I agree with you: context, setting, and intent of the heart are all important.
Right. It's about appropriate setting. If a husband and wife, or a single man and a woman who are dating, are at the beach in skimpy suits, that's an appropriate setting. Or if they're having dinner out and she's in something very low cut, that's appropriate to the occasion. Whereas, per the example you gave, they're at church, it's not about them but participating in the church community and so different clothing that's more restrained would be what's appropriate.
Thanks for the name-check, KingdomMan! Great post! 🙂
Thank you and you’re welcome 😉
“ For the guys … do you or would you enjoy your wife or gal showing off a little bit?“
Yes, I enjoy it a great deal.
For her, it usually looks like dressing in jeans that accentuate her thick legs and broad hips and round booty. She likes to wear high designer boots with those form-fitting pants. In winter she will wear a nice faux-fur-lined coat but in summer she will sometimes wear shorts that show off the length of her legs (she is tall).
Showing off for her usually follows LLL’s description of “class-but-not-crass”. When she was a naive girl in her late teens, she sometimes was pressured by peers and boyfriends to flash her boobs, strip, and pose for pictures of a pornographic nature. I think that giving in in those areas and the peer pressure involved resulted in a bad taste in her mouth in some ways. So regarding anything very showy I think there are lines she wouldn’t cross. That said, in the heat of the moment she has sometimes been especially showy for me at times and places where others could have potentially (but not necessarily) seen her in a nude or partial-nude state (refer to my swimming pool story).
As for me, I would be fine up to and including others seeing her nude or engaged in sex with me as long as it was not a dangerous situation but someone I trusted to a certain degree (refer to my post on Exhibitionist Fantasies and my conversation with TurnedOn47), but I think she wouldn’t be comfortable with those settings the way I would, except in the heat of the moment and under very specific circumstances, like in the presence of a couple our age that she knew well and trusted.
In public, I like it when others give her some admiring glances but with my background working with people who have criminal backgrounds, I wouldn’t want her to get excessive attention when alone and I am more protective of her and her body in an open-world situation where I do not know the people or their intentions.
Does that make sense?
It makes sense and I pretty much agree with you.
I too, would be okay with voyeuristically observing another couple or having another couple observe, but I feel that’s a slightly different topic.
The point to this was more to do with casual situations that weren’t really sexual in nature.
KingdomMan, you nailed it—there’s something so exciting about that mix of pride and thrill when others notice your wife. My wife and I were at a church picnic once, and she wore this dress that hugged her just right. I saw a couple guys glance over, and it hit me how blessed I am to have her. It’s almost like sharing a little piece of that blessing with the world, you know? Does that ever inspire you two to play up her beauty a bit more?
Thank you all for your comments, and I enjoyed reading the different perspectives.
My own take is that it depends on the context, the setting, and of course, the intent of the heart.
My wife will sometimes wear a blouse that falls open when she bends over. I’ve seen her do this in a setting with other couples. Sometimes she will hold her blouse to her chest and sometimes she will not. She does have great tits and I’ve seen men take a peek.
This doesn’t really bother me and I will look away so as not to embarrass the guy for glancing.
On the flip side of that, there have been several occasions when other women, married and single, have done something similar and I have taken a peek.
99% of the time I don’t know if it is intentional or not, and that’s why I put this question out there.
There have only been a few times when I felt like the lady presented herself is such a way as to say, “I don’t mind if you look.”
Even then it wasn’t overt, nor was it even close to an invitation.
I have never felt guilty for glancing, but I also know when it’s time to look away.
I think you made a good point about intent.
If I saw your wife lean over, I’m sure I’d notice and appreciate her beauty, but I’d also remember that she’s YOUR wife and recognize that her beauty is not mine for the taking.
NorthernSky, that’s so cool how confident you are about your wife’s figure! Those yoga pants moments sound like they really highlight her beauty. I bet it feels good seeing her shine like that in public. My wife and I have had times where we’ve noticed people glancing her way, and it almost feels like a little game—knowing she’s all mine but letting others admire her for a second. Do you ever tease her about the looks she gets?
This topic is spot on! I love how you’re digging into those subtle ways our wives catch attention—it’s such a neat mix of God-given beauty and that quiet confidence they carry. It really got me thinking about a moment my wife and I had last summer at the park. She was wearing these tight denim shorts that hugged her hips and showed off her amazing backside—round and firm from all those squats she does. We were setting up a picnic, and she bent over to dig through our cooler, her shorts riding up just enough to give a perfect view of her curves. I caught a guy a few tables over staring, his jaw practically dropping, and after a minute, he walked by and said to me, ‘Brother, you’re blessed—she’s got one incredible figure!’ He was all smiles, totally respectful, but wow, it lit me up inside. My heart raced, and I’ll be honest, I got rock-hard right there—proud she’s mine, but also buzzing from knowing her ass had him hooked for a second. Anyone else get that wild rush when someone notices their spouse’s charm? It’s like a secret spark that makes you want to scoop her up and celebrate her all over again!
I love the idea of inspiring those feelings in my future husband, and him doing that for me too.
LovelyLonelyLady, oh, you’re absolutely going to set your future husband’s world on fire with that mindset! The idea of inspiring those deep, electric feelings in each other—it’s pure gold, and it’s what keeps a marriage sizzling with that God-given spark. I can already picture him catching some guy’s wide-eyed stare when you walk by in something that hugs your curves just right, and him grinning ear to ear, chest puffed out, knowing he’s the one who gets to take you home. That’s the magic you’re dreaming of, and it’s so worth waiting for.
You’re spot on wanting that two-way thrill—keep holding out for a man who’ll feel it for you too. It’s gonna be one heck of a ride when you find him!
Great topic Kingdom Man!
Well, I'm pretty sure you are aware of my writings on this subject, so you know how much Jim and I enjoy "showing me off." Light to moderately heavy exhibitionism has been a major factor in our overall lovemaking process since day one. Back in college Jim's eyes were drawn like a magnet to my breasts, and he never made any bones about it; my sensuality was on display 24/7 in the way I dressed and by the way in which I creamed up between my legs just knowing that my God given assets were having a profound effect on those I chose to engage.
And, the best part is, I married that college guy, Jim, and in the course of two decades we have had more stimulating encounters than I am able to mention and describe in this space!
you and Jim are legends—‘showing you off’ isn’t just a game, it’s an […] art form! That college story? Hot as hell—your tits magnetizing him, creaming up between your legs knowing you’re driving him wild? I’m losing it just picturing it. My wife’s the same […] drug for me. Back when we started, she’d flaunt these tight little tanks, nipples poking through like bullets, and skirts so short her dripping pussy was practically begging me to dive in. Last week, we hit this rooftop party—she wore this sheer black top, tits heaving out, no bra, and a thong under a skirt that rode up her thighs every time she laughed. I was a drooling wreck, cock so hard it hurt, staring at her swaying that ass and knowing she was soaking wet from the tease. I dragged her to the bathroom, slammed her against the wall, and fucked her raw till she screamed—couldn’t even wait to get home. You and Jim get that rush too, don’t you? Keep flashing that body—makes me wanna shove my wife into something obscene and screw her stupid every […] night!
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I always enjoy your stories CP. I think you and Jim are probably in the 1% range as far as your exhibitionist tendencies go, and I’m happy that it works for the two of you. 😊 And it doesn’t hurt that we get to read about them 😉
My dear Anne, is a very attractive early 70s woman. She dresses classily and is put together. At 5'9" and 135 with sexy, slinky legs, narrow hips, and 34B perky tits she turns men's heads without dressing alluringly. In many ways, her looks and look is more sexy than if she wore more 'revealing' clothes.
That’s a fair point and it goes along with LLL’s classy comment.
Sexy comes in many styles 😉
…answer to your “rush” question: Oh, yes!”
I echo a lot of other people’s sentiments where I do enjoy the looks my wife gets when she dresses more risqué than she typically does. It doesn’t happen often, but we both notice how people look at her and it can fuel intense sessions later on!
Oh we know you like to look too!
My wife has a short white linen dress which I love when she wears. It is very form fitting and shows her sexy curves off very well. More importantly her thong is clearly visible through it and I get turned on by the looks she gets from guys as she walks passed them.
Sounds great SamGamgee! That’s exactly what I’m talking about.
I was not aware of how much I liked my wife showing off. At first I was insecure about that, but after she came over to my apartment when we were engaged and walked around in a sports bra and running shorts after workouts and I noticed my best friend getting googly eyes, I quickly felt different and boy did she! Something about watching your ladies effect on others gets you riled up and horny fast!
Led to many fun encounters from then forward!
Nice! Your mention of her reaction is part of the reason I posted this discussion question. I wanted to know how much of the “accidental” showing off was actually on purpose.
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It started as accidental it became a purposeful game as we waited to be wed and fully consummate our love.
She liked knowing her beauty was enjoyed by horny guys. She continued to wear that frequently around us two knowing it riled us up, and would occasionally shower over there and let us see her in her panties.
My friend and I were very close and throughout college would openly masturbate around each other, often talking about the girls we liked, fantasies or whatever. My (then fiancé) knew that and wanted to give us some things to enjoy.
Given we weren’t married yet, she would often send me pictures of her in the same “outfits” of just her in a sports bra and panties in fun and sensual poses and enjoyed hearing about us jerking off to her. When she would come over, she knew by wearing that it was just adding fuel to the young horny fire.
"how much of this is on purpose? And, even if you wouldn’t normally admit it, how much do you enjoy the glances that you get?"
We don't show me, or him off–usually. For an anniversary beach vacation he did ask me to wear a thong bikini. I wore a sarong wrap and when we got to the beach realized that probably a 1/4 of the women, old and young, also wore thong bikinis so it wasn't a big deal. After a few minutes I took the sarong off. We even walked up and down the semi-private beach. I didn't feel like he was "showing me off" but I did feel a sense of freedom and enjoying the sun on my buns. The next day we went by a beach shop and I got him a speedo type brief to wear on the beach. I giggled when I saw women glancing at my husband's package. I was showing him off but I think it's different with men than women given sentiment around speedos for men. This is totally different from when a few years later we went to a family-friendly nudist resort where everyone was naked and there was no shame. I felt more naked being partially clothed on that beach in FL than I did at that nudist resort.
Otherwise in general he likes me to wear shorter and tighter dresses and lingerie that usually involves gartered stockings. I usually indulge him and don't have a problem with occasional stocking top flash. Prior to 1960's it used to be dishonorable for a woman to NOT wear stockings so I enjoy the glances but not the ogling. That's only happened once and a stern glance was enough to ward the perv off.
If the context is appropriate I don't mind being seen or appreciated but not when it crosses over into lustfulness. You can tell when a guy appreciates what he sees versus lusting/wanting that. Wearing a low-cut top and shorter skirt flashing stocking is appropriate in the right club or event. Being nude with other families in a safe resort environment is also appropriate where everyone is expected to not act lustfully. I think the issue is really about the heart and desire of the person. We don't desire to intentionally draw lust but by dressing appropriately I can do what I can for my husband and enjoyment.
Thank you for your response RHK. I actually like your mindset, and I think you’ve nailed it as far as context.
Some ladies might be comfortable with a bit more, but your points involving the beach, the resort, and the clubs fall perfectly in line with what I was talking about.
As a guy, I appreciate any view a lady might sometimes offer, but my own personal boundaries and convictions prevent me from going too far by ogling or perving.
Also, I’m a big fan of the stockings. They’re both classy and sexy. I appreciate ladies who still wear them and I wish they would come back en vogue.
@kingdomMan
Thanks. I think it's clear from scripture that lust is really a matter of the heart and not the actions. In some cultures it is inappropriate for women to wear anything shorter than an ankle length dress or men not to wear long sleeves. I think everything has it's context including nudity and subtly.
Regarding stockings, yes! I feel the same way. Not only do they attract my husband but also easier and cheaper to wear than pantyhose. I feel more classy and put together wearing them plus they double as lingerie when I wear garters. Given that some women today are going around showing their midriff or underwear off in plain sight I don't think it's a sin to accidentally flash the tops of my stockings. I'm not going around intentionally showing but if I get up from a seat and my dress happens to catch I don't feel bad. I kind of like it that I can be attractive to men, both young and old, by simply wearing nylon that is revealed on my mid thigh. I tell my husband when I see someone noticing and he gives them a smile and nod.
This has really got me thinking! I've thought about the idea of "showing off" my wife before either when I take her on a date or when we go to the beach (we live in FL) and the idea really turns me on but I usually push the thought away because I feel insecure or like I'm "weird" for desiring that.
I think my wife honestly would probably enjoy showing herself off a little because of some of her fantasies that she has and how good it makes her feel when she gets compliments from people in public on how pretty she is. She isn't confident in her body at all which I hate because she is so stunning and I want her to be able to feel attractive. I try to compliment her which helps some but she struggles a lot especially since having a baby. Any advice here about how I could help her feel sexy and beautiful would be greatly appreciated btw!
Body confidence issues can be difficult to overcome, especially, I think in women.
That being said, if she has fantasies and enjoys compliments, you should definitely encourage her. It doesn’t have to be bawdy, just opening that extra button or wearing that skirt that’s a little short could most certainly get her some glances.
The beach offers some excellent opportunities as well. A daring swimsuit or bikini would not seem at all out of place. Go for a walk down the waterline and presto!
Even a regular shopping trip could turn into an opportunity if she wore a blouse that falls open when she bends over. Couple that with a tiny or sexy bra, and I promise she will get noticed 😉
@kingdomman
Thank you! Yeah I think all of that would be perfect. I'm definitely going to have some conversations and encourage her. I think it could help her have a lot of confidence! I know for sure she will get noticed!
I've never considered myself unattractive however as I entered my twenties I began to also put on extra weight.
My husband has always been good and enjoyed the way I looked.
I don't think I ever really had a problem with men looking at me I just never really sought for it, it wasn't until I began to get up in my years that I became more insecure about the way I looked. As my husband and I began to venture farther and farther into our sexual exploits, one of these things was the voyeur / exhibitionist kink. My husband M. Never really had any kind of a jealousy problem and actually took pleasure in the fact that I could catch somebody's eye. I never paid much attention until he started to bring it to my attention. Overtime I began to enjoy the fact that I was getting looks.
Becoming parents and then grandparents we were judicious as to where we began to play with this kink and when we went on vacation is where we would do it.
I found it to be a huge boost for myself image. And found myself getting quite aroused out of the whole thing.
Sometimes he would have [me] go out and [he would] watch from a distance [and see] what kind of reactions I would get and it would be at these times where I would be approached by both men and sometimes women..
Of course I would never take them up on the offer but it was huge boost for my sexual self-esteem. A result would be how aggressive I would become having sex with my husband. I became more vocal and more daring with him.
For any normal person who knows us or for our children for that matter nobody would suspect that this unassuming grandmother and grandfather would be as sexual and as adventurous as we are.
@tutchh
Wow! Thank you for sharing! That is so awesome and hot that you and your husband have such an adventurous sex life! I definitely desire mine and my wife's sexual relationship to be like that! Especially as we grow older!
I can imagine how much having those interest in you boosted your self image/esteem a lot! It's sonarousing just for me to think about!
It seems like it helped you unlock more of your sensuality as well!
I really feel like my wife would benefit from that type of boost in self-esteem and sexual confidence in herself! And me fantasizing about her doing such things is such a turn on!! Hopefully I can encourage her to explore letting herself show off and see where it leads!
Tutchh, I’m sorry that you have struggled with body issues. It seems like a plague that haunts women. In reading your comments, I have no doubt that you are a very sexy woman.
I also appreciate you sharing about your experiences in showing off a little bit. It’s really quite sexy to read about. Thank you for taking the time to post!
@MrSunnyD
Don’t feel weird at all about it- it’s normal to enjoy or even get aroused knowing someone else is checking out your wife.
Talk to her about your desires and don’t be embarrassed. Take her on a small mini vacation away from home. A change in scenery with different people is often the easiest way for a woman to try something new.
Lots of compliments helps, and pointing out when others notice her will build her confidence. It doesn’t take much before they realize they are still hot and begin to love that feeling!
Monogamyman1, I can understand that guys can find it arousing when someone checks out their wife, but for me, it’s more about fairness.
I usually take a glance if a lady presents a view, so if I became critical or jealous when someone looked at my wife, it would be hypocritical.
My wife is not sexual at all, so she doesn’t notice the looks, or if she does, she scoffs and mocks the guy for being a perv.
But I do find a little enjoyment at the fact that as hard as she tries to be indifferent, men still find her attractive in some way. Maybe that’s wrong 🤷♂️
First off thank you so much for expressing sympathy towards the fact that I have been dealing with self-esteem problems.
I want to point out that this wasn't like a huge problem I didn't see myself as unattractive, and I hope I didn't lead people to believe it was a major problem for me. but I just didn't see myself as a very sexually desirable woman.
My reason for sharing what happened in our life was just to share how we worked with that feeling I had about myself. And for us it did work. I don't recommend it for everybody because everybody is different.
Any of you who have followed any comments that I have made in the past may have heard me talk about a woman who I just will call R.
She was older than me and not necessarily what I would call a Christian.
Our initial relationship was professional. She and her husband were clients of mine. In that course of that professional relationship she had begun to subtly begin seducing me.
I never followed through with it and nothing ever happened but it came very very close between us.
We had become friends and over the years in many ways she became a sexual mentor for me.
Initially when she began to seduce, I found out later, that she had sensed in me a lack of confidence.
I don't know that I need to get into everything about her, and the story of she and her husband. But she did own two lingerie stores in our town at that time. In those stores she not only sold women's lingerie but also had a selection of marital aides.
And over the years I found out that she had many women who would come into the store who would have problems and their marriages and sex life.
R., took interest in people that she worked with she was very personable. And when she would sell something to a client she found out everything about them what they felt comfortable in what colors they liked etc etc. Consequently she would have a lot of returning customers..
But one thing she always said the reason she was in business for was to improve the sex lives of people. Her goal was always to work with the women who came in at improving their home life and their sex life with their spouse.
And many of the things that I learned from her over the years I had brought home to my husband..
Well I was quite naive in a lot of areas of sex she schooled me in them and she did with a lot of the clients who came into her store. She played a huge part in helping me to overcome my own insecurities and in broadening my knowledge base of sexuality. This is much the same as I believe that this website is trying to do in marriages to improve marriage and monogamy but enhancing the sexuality of it.
Over the years she ended up selling both stores and moving away and we still occasionally talk. Both of the stores had long since closed down.
But the lessons I had learned from her over the years live on in our lives and I'm sure in many others.
20yrs together my wife is still the sexiest for me. She looks good in anything. I never felt like she dresses for anyone's attention but my own and don't really care what others think but I do love it when she goes braless no matter where that is. Occasionally it will be something somewhat sheer and once for a concert she did go pretty sheer. I just love looking at her
Being obsessed with your wife is a good thing, and I’m happy for you.
Not every wife will go braless in public, so you’re pretty lucky. Also, maybe you should take her to another concert 😉