PSA: Fulfill Each Other’s Desires
I can’t sleep.
The air is heavy.
My stomach is twitching like there’s something alive inside me, reminding me of what it’s like to be pregnant. Though right now, I’m only pregnant with his cum. I’m full of excited nerves and muscles that keep sporadically contracting with the memory of my orgasm. The feeling is both fullness and emptiness—a desire for more.
I just want him to keep doing it to me all night. But it feels like a hopeless wish.
I just need him to hold me, to ease this aching inside me, this fervent desire for us to be intertwined, inside each other as deeply as possible.
My husband is satisfied and sleeping. But this night, and others, I stay up, yearning. I can’t sleep both when our marital obligations haven’t been realized, and I am feeling unfulfilled—neither can I sleep when he has done his duty to me too well.
It probably borders on sinful to be unsatisfied, gluttonous, and thirsty for more when I could receive gratefully and sleep peacefully. When he comes and we’re both exhausted, I do.
But when he has too much energy left at the end of the day and he finishes first, and then tries to take me over the edge—that’s almost always when I start to feel this way.
So, husbands: when you make your wife come, in order to keep her from sinning and ensure she gets adequate rest, please be sure to humor her requests for your body and for your company until she falls asleep.
Thank you.
I’m sorry for your pain, frustration, and unfulfilled desires. My relationship is the opposite; I am the unfulfilled husband, but I can completely empathize with what you’re going through.
Your desires are beautiful, your lust is warranted, and your needs are holy and rational.
I wish I could help you, I wish I could speak to your husband, and I wish things were different.
I hope these things change for you; no one deserves to be left to burn in unfulfilled lust.
I’ll pray that his lust for you burns just as brightly as yours does for him.
She comes first. Thats the deal. With us it’s no penetration until I have orgasm number one. I find it hard to climax with penetration, even after O1. Not to say I don’t enjoy it. I do. Having Tom inside me is important and intimate. But for pure pleasure, it’s not critical. We also have a rabbit toy we love. Lots of ways to get what you want. But yes. If either spouse wants more, what an amazing gift that is. Wake him up!
Same rule here too. I never finish before my wife has had all she wants. If I finished before my wife, she would look at me like, "what was that?".
I can understand where the off switch comes from, when a guy cums. It is as if all desire for sex just flows out of him. Since, there is a stereotype that guys instantly fall asleep leaving women feeling empty, left to ask what just happened? But, more to it, what was that all about if it's so easily shut down & off to sleep you go? I can understand a woman left out in the cold with no connection after the orgasm.
Biologically, I think (not a Dr.) this phenomenon happens to all guys, in some way. Maybe, that need to sleep is too overwhelming for some, & only just a thought easily dismissed for others. To some, maybe, turning over to sleep just after cumming is unavoidable, but to others the drain is there but the sleep part just doesn't register as an option. Idk, how it registers (conscious, or subconscious). Nor, do I know how some do then some don't (actively against, auto against, or nothing against sleep).
I, myself, have always disliked the stereotype sleeping. Seeing it on TV growing up I developed an immunity to it. I always set out to be there for my wife immediately after sex. That has always been something I have done, yet my wife has always been less enthusiastic about this time, than me. She doesn't fall asleep, but there has been many a time where I fall off into my side of the bed & she rolls onto her side facing away from me. This is the usual, or I will help her up off the bed into a small hug & kiss as we are walking toward the bathroom to clean up. But, very rarely, have we snuggled, spooned, or talked casually immediately after sex. Neither of us have fallen asleep in the others arms, or in connection in some way to sex.
I feel for you DirtyPenName, because this certainly causes feelings of unhappiness, disappointment, & being dissatisfied & unfulfilled. Especially, if there is no communication, or empathy from the sleeping spouse.
Here lately, I am torn. I want to create peace, so I keep from trying to pry & just chalk it up to differences without worrying about underlying motives, & what ifs. Then, I find myself wanting to build my own masturbatory world where I can at least get satisfied that way. But, the latter seems not to happen without guilt. So, much on my side of sex goes without satisfaction as I just play peacekeeper.
I lean heavily on Jesus to keep my peace.
I’m a lot like naughty wife on this topic. Fortunately, hubby and I are apart 3-4 days a week this year, so by the time he arrives we fuck like rabbits. My recent story reveals this.
But just to cover myself sexually, he always eats me and twists my nipples into one or two orgasms, then my sucking and riding begins.
We have really enjoyed video chatting and are usually able to get off big time, but I do feel a bit empty without his live cock filling all of me. I get it!
DirtyPenName,
Although I feel for your situation, I'm amazed that there is a wife that would even think of "asking for more". In both of my previous marriages, my wives often treated sex as more of a "chore" than a pleasure. So, yes, ASK HIM for more sex. I'm sure that he would be happy to respond — especially after a little rest in between. (And, you can take pleasure in knowing that YOU caused him to need that rest.) 😉
A beautiful story of inner feelings and words unspoken, demonstrating the need for verbal communication.
Sex for a couple is an educational experience of learning not only what the other needs but how it needs to be done.
Sex for a couple is communicating. Speaking one another's personal needs to one another for you should have no other that you could speak to about these things.
[I'm fortunate] in that my husband M. Long ago understood the fact that women possess the capability of multiple orgasms. He also understood the fact that we desire passion and the demonstration of love and sex.
There are many ways to work around this seeming inequity between male and female. It involves patience, willing intention and understanding of one another.
I can also speak to you I'm experience that when we as the wife continue although there has been an ejaculation. It is still with our persistent attention that we can find that extra that we desire. He can made hard again and quite often can't even have the spasms of climax although he be dry.
Sex for a couple should at times be insatiable. Demonstrating the need for love to be physical and for the desire to have all of each other.
Thank you for your story. There's lessons to be learned from it for all of us.
Lady L. ♥️💋
I have no idea what you have already done, but a couple of thoughts since it kind of sounds like you will be the one to make the first move.
#1 try understand why he is falling asleep, aka is it because it is always at the end of the day and he is exhausted. What about alluring him to change it up in the morning or afternoon some time. Maybe there is something else
#2 step into your feminity and express your desire for more of him and for him to keep going without shaming him and tell him what you want specifically when you are outside of the bedroom.
#3 see if he is willing/work on slowing down intimacy not be much more than intercourse, tease and flirt. Have it become about a journey, an exploration where he isn't allowed to just get off. Challenge him to more in a fun and flirty way.
#4 try to be curious around if he is self conscious or has guilt or shame around PE or something else. If you are curious and you can be there to support him, the two of you can view the struggle as an opportunity for some much better. If you can do this and be honest, clear direct and kind about what you need, most men will try to rise to the challenge. You want to inspire him to be a hero by your words and actions.