All the Little Things
As a single man, I can’t wait for sex (obviously lol), but I also can’t wait for all the little things—all the things that come with sex aside from just intercourse.
I can’t wait to hold her breasts and pinch her hardened nipples.
I can’t wait to slap her ass as I walk by . . . or lift her skirt for more than just a slap.
I can’t wait to wake up in the morning with naked goddess lying next to me, watching her chest rise and fall, or her ass peeking out from under the covers. Or maybe she’ll wake me up after a few strokes of my morning wood. I can think of no better way to wake than for her soft hands running the length of my manhood. I’m sure it could easily turn into a game of who can wake up first, so they can “play” with the other until they’re fully awake.
I can’t wait to learn every inch of her body—how she likes to be touched, how she reacts, what makes her squirm, what makes her cum. To become a student of her body and pleasure. To know her pussy like the back of my hand. To study her folds, to be mesmerized by her lips and how they open for me. To watch her flush with arousal, responding to my touch—her lips getting puffy, her juices flowing, her little clit popping out of its hood. To be able to take her from arousal to orgasm, while watching her body writhe, shake, moan in ecstasy.
I can’t wait for her feminine touch—her hands wrapping around my cock, holding up my balls, and running up and down my abs and chest. To feel her sweet lips that praise the Lord, also wrap around my manhood. To feel her tongue that speaks only life, also run the length of my shaft.
I can’t wait for the stupid, silly, or just different-than-usual things that we might end up doing. Things like seeing how long I can stay inside her without going soft, falling out, cumming, etc. Or running my dick all over her body, from her face, down her back, between her cheeks, along her toes, in between her breasts. Or trying and failing to get our bodies in weird sex positions. Teasing and withholding each other from orgasm. Running my cock head back and forth between her pussy lips before I enter. Taste-testing each other’s juices. Seeing how many times we can go at it in one day. And probably dozens of other things.
So of course, I look forward to sex. But it might surprise you how much I look forward to all the little things too.
Very sexy list! I pray that God will help you find your Miss Wonderful to bring those things to pass!
Remember that sex in marriage is like a buffet. Not every dish is out on the sex buffet every day. Be kind and thankful for the delicious sex dishes that ARE available each time. There may be some things on your list that are not acceptable to your wife. Accept that and enjoy the dishes you DO have!
I have a suggestion for another sex dish. We call it “tip on nip.” I rub my glans on my wife’s nipple while pumping my rod. We usually use a bit of lube but sometimes my precum provides enough lube. My wife buzzes her clitoris with a vibrator as we do this. This is a frequent foreplay activity but sometimes my wife cums when we do this.
For sure! Also love your suggestion, would definitely try that myself!
Hopefully your wife will be the woman who can fulfill your desires. And just as important, that you will be the husband she desires.
Lady L. ♥️
Thanks! And of course.. I say all of this not just because I want to do it.. but I’m just as excited by her wanting to do these things as well. And if not, we’ll find things we both want to do
Beautifully put! I love reading things like this. It's probably safe to say that all of us singles want these things! 😉 My favorite line was "To feel her sweet lips that praise the Lord also wrap around my manhood". Having that continual undercurrent of a relationship with Christ is what I want flowing through my future marriage. I want to be a Godly woman whose heart and faith spill over into my lovemaking. And a Godly man is the Number 1 most attractive thing to me.
Thanks! Glad to know it’s not just single men interested in doing a lot of different sexual things that don’t just involve intercourse. And yes, I agree, love the way you put that. I think a Christ centered relationship is best for all facets of the relationship.. but I also think it will even make the sex better too
To answer your closing statement: brother, it doesn't surprise me at all to hear that you look forward to all the little things! I'm in my late 20s, and a single guy like you. Over the years, my sexual interests have changed quite a bit from wild fantasies to mostly just desiring the small and simple things. Oh I still have my strong kinky streak, don't get me wrong, but most of what I find myself thinking about is the plain, simple, vanilla intimacy. Here are a few examples.
Perhaps the simplest thing I look forward to is exchanging a whispered "I love you"—saying it quietly, then hearing it whispered back with a genuine warmth.
But there's a whole lot more I look forward to as well.
Eye contact, especially with little tender smiles and caresses.
Cuddling, either clothed and naked, just feeling each other's bodies pressed close together.
Kissing. I would love to have a long foreplay session where we force ourselves to not touch any genitals, and basically do nothing but cuddle and kiss for 30 minutes before touching any overtly sexual spots. And if we get so worked up that we can't make it to 30 minutes before ravishing each other, that's still a win in my book, lol!
Resting my head on her body, especially on or near her breasts, and having her run her fingers through my hair and scratch my head. There's something so peaceful and comforting about that. Cuddling in general sounds peaceful and comforting, but I especially associate that feeling with being near my future wife's breasts. Likewise, I look forward to the roles being reversed, and having her rest her head on my chest or in my lap and stroking her head and hair.
And this might seem like a little thing, or be taken for granted, but it's a huge deal to me, and possibly the thing I crave most in my future marriage relationship: feeling wanted. Looking at her, listening to her, and seeing and hearing that she desires me. As you mentioned in one of your follow-up comments, "I'm excited by her wanting to do these things." Just the idea of her wanting to do something sexual is one of the biggest turn-ons. But it feels so much deeper than mere arousal. It tells me she has her own sexual will, her own sexual desires, and she chose ME to share them with! I think part of me is terrified to live in a marriage where my wife is just dutifully or begrudgingly responsive to my desires, and has none of her own. That feels so sad, empty, and dead to me. But a wife with her own sexual drive, desires, and initiative is the perfect antidote to that, and makes for a beautiful meeting of two equally-yoked sexualities that come together in exactly the right way.
Amen! After all I've seen and read about the many Christian women today who just think wrong about sex, I have complete empathy for you single men as you search for sex-positive wives. My prayer is that more and more women will embrace their sexuality, seeing it as the gift God intended it to be. May God revolutionize Christian marriages!
As to your list, I want all those things too!
Thank you, LLL! The part of your comment about searching for a sex-positive wife made me think of something else I wanted to share.
You know, when I was younger, I was really attracted to the idea of getting married young. And that works for some people, but personally, I'm glad God has made me wait, because it has prepared me for marriage so much better. Sexual matters have become a key part of the pre-marriage discussions I plan to have, among many other things. When I get into a serious relationship, I plan to discuss sex in increasing detail with her as our relationship progresses, to be as sure as possible that we're aligned on our values around sex, especially on the basic ideas that it's a GOOD thing, that it should be fully embraced, and that it should be enjoyed regularly. If she's anything less than enthusiastically on board with that, especially if she's unwilling to even talk about it in detail, I'll know she's not a good match for me. I'm so glad that God has equipped me to spot that red flag early and have a way better chance at avoiding a lifetime of sexual unfulfillment, because after all the horror stories I've heard, that's one of my worst nightmares. So I thank God for equipping me with the knowledge and discernment to carefully avoid that! It's still not a 100% guarantee, but it's a much better shot than proverbially driving at night with the headlights off, haha!
As I believe I've mentioned before, and as I think I've heard you mention before, God has also given me a passion for being a part of helping to "revolutionize Christian marriages" as you say. There's so much work to be done there, and I think it would be awesomely fulfilling to be a part of restoring the Church's view of the incredible, truly glorious gift of sexuality. I think there's a case to be made that it is the most beautiful, and possibly the most important part of physical creation. I know that might sound a little out there, but I'm hoping to write a discussion topic on that to explain why. My reasoning on that is something I've never heard before, and I must admit, since I plan to use it in my future teaching, I'm a little concerned that it might be used to associate my real-life identity with my MH account. But frankly, oh well. If people found out about my MH involvement, I might be a little embarrassed, but I know I have nothing to be ashamed about because I've done nothing wrong in being here, so such a situation may just spark the opportunity for another important discussion that needs to be had regarding sexuality!
Anyway, thanks for your reply, and your prayers! I recently made a space in my regular prayer list for all the MH people, so I'm praying for all the couples and singles now too!
Yeah great list PP. totally agree with you on all that as well!
Being wanted or craved in a loving but carnal way is something that I long for as well. Her wanting and needing me is just as exciting as me wanting or needing her
I know it's been a few weeks, but I thought of another thing, haha!
It's sleeping together. Obviously, sex and all that, yes, yes. But I specifically mean in the non-euphemistic, very literal way. I look forward to the simple pleasure of literally sleeping right next to another living, breathing human being—a woman—who loves me and has pledged her life to me. There's something so vulnerable, trusting, and intimate about that, and I really look forward to it. …Especially if we both sleep naked. 😉 I've found I enjoy that alone, so how much more next to a sexy, naked wife who I'm totally in love with?