Honeysuckle Dew
I awoke to the warm throbbing of his stiff morning wood against my cheek. I sleepily opened my eyes to see his familiar erection quite literally staring me in the face with its singular little eye. A small drop of clear liquid clung to the tip and glistened in the soft morning light which filtered in through our bedroom window. It was like a little translucent bead of honeysuckle nectar at dawn beckoning my tongue to taste. As my mind slowly eased into consciousness, I realized I must have fallen asleep still gently suckling his spent member the night before.
My head was on my pillow down at his waist level and he was lying on his side facing me. We were both naked and in a tangle of bed sheets. I took a deep breath, taking in the natural masculine scent from his crotch, and exhaled with a sigh. My warm breath caused his hard penis to thump against my cheek again. I smiled. His taste from the night before still lingered in my mouth. I wondered for a moment if he would mind if I took him in my mouth again. But looking at his fully engorged glans straining urgently close to my lips, I already knew.
My head was on my pillow down at his waist level and he was lying on his side facing me. We were both naked and in a tangle of bed sheets. I took a deep breath, taking in the natural masculine scent from his crotch, and exhaled with a sigh. My warm breath caused his hard penis to thump against my cheek again. I smiled. His taste from the night before still lingered in my mouth. I wondered for a moment if he would mind if I took him in my mouth again. But looking at his fully engorged glans straining urgently close to my lips, I already knew.
First, I captured the crystalline preseminal droplet with the tip of my tongue and licked my lips salaciously applying it like a shiny lip gloss. Then I wrapped my moistened lips around the swollen head and lolled my tongue around the ridge of the corona. Presently he stirred and sighed. I hesitated. Had I waken him so easily? His reply came with an ever so subtle movement of his hips forward, offering himself fully to me. I needed no further invitation as I began to suck him in earnest. I savored the plump purple glans of his penis like a succulent fruit. It’s velvety skin was so soft on my tongue. I could feel his rapid pulse when I pressed my tongue against the sensitive loose frenulum on the underside of his penis. He loved when I gently rubbed my tongue there while sucking firmly on his knob. His penis fit so comfortably, so erotically and perfectly, in my mouth. In our nearly ten years of marriage it had certainly been in there often enough.
But I digress. Since this is my first post in MarriageHeat, I feel I should explain how I ended up here sharing the intimate details of our marital sex life for the whole world wide web to read. My husband and I have had a generally ordinary sex life, if there is such a thing as “ordinary”, but it was certainly nothing to write much about. We both fooled around before we got married but have been faithful to each other since we took our vows. We have two beautiful children and love our life together.
But one day I walked in on my husband viewing online pornography and masturbating. I was angry and hurt. I demanded to know if I wasn’t good enough for him and if I wasn’t satisfying him. He was embarrassed and apologetic. He tried to explain that sometimes he just needed a release. Wasn’t that what we had sex for? I asked indignantly. He struggled to make me understand but I was upset and wasn’t really interested in what he had to say at that moment. But after some time passed, I asked him more about it. Did he fantasize about other women through the pornography? No, he said he was absolutely devoted to me. When I pressed him to tell me what he really liked about it, he finally conceded that he was aroused seeing and reading about fellatio, specifically women who enjoyed performing it. I was taken aback. I had never refused him oral sex. And, unlike many other women I know, on the occasion that I would suck him to climax, I would actually swallow. When I was exploring my newfound sexual freedom in college, a roommate of mine had explained that sucking without swallowing was a let down for most guys and that pulling out was invariably messy and that spitting was just gross. She said swallowing was ultimately easier. But the taste! She admitted it was an acquired taste but if I just gulped it down the taste would be minimal. It was sage advice and I learned to appreciate the wonderful selfless gift of fellatio.
I asked him if he did not think I enjoyed going down on him. Did I not do it right? He said he always got the impression that I felt it was an obligation, the duty of a good wife. I protested and explained that I would often get wet when I sucked him. He countered that my lubrication was because we usually only performed oral sex during foreplay so my body was responding in anticipation of intercourse. But I reminded him that I had often sucked him to ejaculation. When was the last time? I couldn’t remember. It had been months ago. He remembered. I had apparently said something as unsexy as I was too tired for sex so I’ll just suck you off. He said not that he didn’t mind. He assured me that my oral prowess was far from lacking but my enthusiasm was halfhearted at best.
The pornography he enjoyed most was all about enthusiasm. He wasn’t into deep throat, facials, or indiscriminate promiscuous sexual encounters. He reveled in the idea of an intimate, tender, loving, affectionate act of fellatio between a wife and her husband. He fantasized about me doing it for him without being asked. He wanted me to want it. He said just the thought of me going down on him made him rock hard. In fact, I noticed that he had an erection right then. I asked if would be willing to show me the pornography on his computer. He blushed crimson but agreed. He said he usually would start looking at some photos and videos of women performing oral sex but that was just to stoke his desire. What he really enjoyed were hot stories of wives making love to their husbands with their mouths.
So, long story short, that’s how we discovered MarriageHeat.com. I initially just read him stories from the Married Oral Sex section of the website and then sucked his throbbing erection until his toes curled. I delighted to sit in his shade, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. Then I suggested I could submit my own posts about our oral exploits to replace his pornography habit with stories about us. He was reluctant at first but after the mind-numbing orgasm he released deep in my mouth last night and another round this morning presently escalating to a crescendo, I think he’ll “come” around.
So, I am new here. My wife and I read this site often. We find it interesting that on most stories, oral sex, is always talked about. We were wondering how did you ladies get so open with oral sex on your husband? My wife just doesn’t seem to like oral sex and is very nervous about a blow job and she doesn’t know how to get around the nervousness. Any tips or ideas? This site has really changed and opened up our marriage to new levels!
Dear youngcocouple, welcome to MH! Now to your question… I am no expert yet myself; I’m not married yet, so I can’t say how I would feel/react or what hurdles I would personally encounter when actually really in the situation of giving a BJ to my future husband… but I’ve thought about oral sex with my future husband and I’ve encountered some fears and nervousness at the thought of it. For me, I’ve learned that if I wanna change in an area where I’m stuck in a way, I first need to face my fear – usually it takes me to do some soul-searching… What is it exactly that makes me nervous? What causes me to feel fear? Is it a certain aspect?… Most of the time, what I’m afraid about or what makes me nervous is primarily a hurdle I encounter in my mind… So, in respect to giving a BJ to my future husband, I felt nervous at the thought of doing it wrong, I felt nervous about me potentially not being able to fit him in there, I felt nervous at the thought of maybe not being able to be arousing to my man when I’d do it, I felt nervous about the taste or smell I don’t know yet and how it would make me feel… Once I’ve pinpointed what exactly makes me nervous, I can begin to change my thinking towards these areas, asking God to help me in the renewal of my mind. I will begin to think on purpose positive thoughts towards the area – thoughts that the Bible supports – I will prepare my mind to be open to overcoming that hurdle. I will set my mind and keep it set into the direction I wanna grow into. And then, in addition, I would take some action… obviously, as I’m not married yet, that’s the part I will discover only later in life (when finally married)… but in respect to giving my future hubby a BJ, I would work with my hubby together on getting more comfortable about it… step by step, bit by bit, giving myself time, not pressured in any way… I would just start slow and not all the way… wrapping up my practicing within some simple playful fun time spent with my husband, I believe. Hope this helps in some way 🙂 God bless you!
hello Youngcocouple, I am a single male and no expert at the subject either but I would suggest that u take some of the following steps that could be of help;
1. time n talk about it with your wife and find out what she fears n set boundaries too though u will need to have more positive talk about the subject.
2. make some research along with her and read about bj with her so u grow together this usually helps build trust with your partner.
3. have u ever gone down on her, maybe u should be the first n learn from her n also ask for her feedback while thea so u can perfect n encourage her aa well by also giving her feedback during your sexual intercourse all the time for whatever u will be doing or want to do.
I hope this will be of great help to all of us on the site.
God Bless n keep rocking those Beds.
Honeysuckle…you have beautifully explained the situation for most men…attitude trumps how you look, and many other things. He wanted to know that you desired him just like he desires you…most men, particularly those on this site, love the taste of their wife, love to please them in this way, to experience the subtleties of learning, teasing and exploring their wife. It turns us on to give you this kind of pleasure.
We desire the same thing in return…are you turned on by his maleness, does it make you wet, do you want him to reach around and touch your lady parts while he is in your mouth, do desire the tactile sensations in your mouth, do you treat his orgasms as a gift rather than a bunch of toxic waste? You are blessed to discover that just because you are willing to give him a BJ, doesn’t necessarily mean that you have your heart in it. We can tell when we are being accommodated as opposed to being loved.
All this supposes that he is just as responsive to your needs as you need. Not just in bed but cleaning the kitchen and the house, folding clothes, and being a good and equal life mate.
Beautifully put, Southern Gent! My husband agrees. 🙂
What a terrific post, Honeysuckle! It was such a help to me, thank you for sharing. I especially applaud you for talking to your husband and letting him explain his desires instead of just shutting him out and “never speaking to him again” because of the porn. My husband and I are currently loving blow jobs but it took a while for me to realize that, most of all, he just really wants me to love his cock and be attracted to it. May God bless you and your marriage for your love andcompassion for your husband!
And P.S.! You are a terrific writer! Looking forward to reading more from you!
Your story has put into words what I have been trying to help my wife understand.
We even talked the other day about how she does it because she knows I like it but I know it’s still an obligation to her, whereas when I go down on her I can’t wait and while she’ll be begging me to make love to her, even though she’s climaxed SEVERAL times, I just can’t get enough of her.
Being dominate in our relationship is nice but I don’t like ordering her to suck me because that’s not okay in my mind. I have no problem ordering if I knew that she actually didn’t feel obligated to do it.
I’m hoping sharing your story will help understand where I’m coming from.
I don’t look at porn as much as I’ve gone through in my life, but I do feel that urge when I see the lack of enthusiasm. But one thing that helps us men is having our wives enthusiasm because those ladies are actors.
I call my wife my personal pornstar because she is, those ladies will never give me what she can give me.
Thanks for sharing, because as hot as this is, it’s also very true and hits a deep seeded issue among men.
Thank you for all the kind comments. Sorry for my delayed response. I've just completed another post. I hope you enjoy it.
Uh, YES! What honeysuckle said in this post.