Coping Mechanisms for Being a Single with a Disability

Hello All Marriage Heat Members, I would like to start by saying that this website has helped me overcome my sense of guilt over masturbation. I will give you some background about myself, and then I have two issues that I appreciate your help with.

I am a blind 30-year old woman from Egypt, and I became a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ about 10 years ago, and I now have a ministry for individuals with disabilities. However, I frequently struggle with unfulfilled sexual desires, sometimes to the point of becoming frustrated and so stressed. I have been praying for a husband for a long time, but I have yet to meet the right person, especially that in our culture, blind girls rarely get married. We are viewed as incapable to have families. This is of course not true;

I have lived in the US for about 9 years and I witnessed a lot of blind women happily living as wives and mothers with some adaptations and alternative techniques. I have received some marriage offers in the past, but none worked since I was expected to make huge compromises because of my blindness, something that I refuse to do.

Anyway, I would appreciate any advice that could help me overcome my frustration and sense of deprivation, as these days I am finding myself having sexual thoughts and imaginations sometimes to the point of obsession. Of course, I have been masturbating frequently to get out of this sexual tension, but on many occasions, I feel that even masturbation is not enough, as I truly long for true human companionship and love.

Another issue that I am struggling with, and I need your help ladies with regard to this problem: when I am masturbating, I, of course, stimulate my clitoris and nipples with my fingers, but when I am at the point of no return, I cannot orgasm unless I squeeze my legs together with a pillow or soft object in between. I am not complaining about my orgasms, as they are strong and pleasurable, but I would really like to reach orgasm without having to have my legs close together, something that I found impossible. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

Thanks a lot, and may the Lord bless your lives.

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1 reply
  1. PacMan says:

    I'm glad that you have found freedom to enjoy masturbation. Imagine how grustrating life would be if you did not feel that freedom. Of course it's natural to want to have a human husband in bed with you. It's a noble desire. But life is a marathon not a sprint. Just enjoy this stage of life for what it is. Marriage is a lot more than sex, and honestly marriage can be quite complicated and at times difficult. So enjoy this stage of freedom and take advantage of the untethered life. God will take you to the next stage in His perfect timing.

    Also, my wife's can have an orgasm with legs spread apart occasionally, but rarely. Similar to you, she needs to have her legs squeezed together to climax about 9 out of 10 times. And it's nothing worth getting frustrated over. This is why our most common position is spooning. And often she needs to masturbate after I've cum to climax herself. And it's fine. You just adjust to each other's needs.

    By the way, I love hearing from our Single writers. I'd love to have you share a full article about your alone time. It will encourage other singles, and us marrieds will relate, because we were all single once. Thanks.

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