Sorry I don’t have a steamy story for you all! This is a “seeking Christian counsel” type post.
I had decided to back off from how “strongly” I was focusing on finding a wife around the end of last year. I wanted to focus and draw closer to the Lord. I decided to also surrender in prayer. I wanted to let God take the reins in finding that special and blessed lady for me.
While I was praying, I obviously wanted a woman strong in her faith and walk with the Lord. Someone rooted in Christ. Someone I can journey through this life with, bringing the gospel everywhere God calls us!
Then another thought came across my mind. I wanted someone who is at least a little bit on the “nerd side” of things. Like me, she would enjoy getting nerdy about science, technology, and history. She would enjoy geeking out with me over sci-fi, space operas, superheros, and futuristic stuff! That way our days wouldn’t be just going to work, coming home, saying hi, and then going our separate ways in the house for whatever form of entertainment we like. I want to share interests and forms of entertainment. I want to love it together.
So two questions came from this time spent in prayer and reflection.
First I ask, is it hard or unrealistic to want this for my marriage?
The second question comes from the time I spent praying and meditating. Suddenly, a young woman popped into my head that I hadn’t considered before. The reason was how young she is compared to me. So I ask you all, how much of an age gap is an issue? This young lady is nine years younger than me. I am 29 and she is 20.
Is it wrong for me to think about the possibility of pursuing/courting her?
Please do not fear hurting my feelings. I appreciate candor and bluntness. So lay it on me! 🙂
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