I’ve been married for almost three years and sex has been okay, but few and far between. One problem I have is not lasting very long; I feel like Jim from American Pie. My wife is on birth control, so we ride bareback, no condoms. We tried the climax control condoms, but they made me so numb I couldn’t get stimulated enough to stay hard.
I was not a virgin when we married. I only mention that because I have not always had this issue. When I was younger, I could last a decent length of time. But with my wife, I enter her and it’s almost like instant climax. I can give her maybe a minute or two of action.
When we first got married, we had sex multiple times a week, sometimes daily. It seemed to help make me last longer after a few days, but still not as long as I used to when I was younger. I remember lasting at least 30 minutes and sometimes more than an hour. My wife is lucky if I can last 15 minutes. We have toys for her, and I often use them either before I enter or after I cum. She can at least get satisfied that way.
I’ve tried edging. I would jack off almost to climax and stop to calm down, then repeat a few times until you can’t help but climax. But that didn’t work. Neither did male Kegel exercises that involve controlling and holding the urine stream for a short time.
Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated to help make me last longer and not climax so quickly. I would like to enjoy longer sex sessions with my wife and I’m sure she would prefer it as well.
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