I’m looking for some advice. My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years. We both were virgins when we married. Unfortunately, I was on the pill for the first two years, which really impacted my sex drive. I realized this wasn’t normal and got off birth control after talking with a friend about our experience.
Since that time, my husband doesn’t really go out of his way to flirt with me or “spice things up” in the bedroom. When I ask him about this, he’s like, “Well, I was used to being shot down.” I’ve responded THAT WAS 16 YEARS AGO!!! I am usually the one suggesting “new things” or buying toys.
As I’m approaching 40, I feel like I’m not sexy enough, or he’s not attracted to me even though, when we are making love, he does tell me how much he is attracted to me. I’ve flat out asked him to buy me lingerie he’d like to see me in, or what he’d like to do in the bedroom fantasy-wise, and he always says, “I just like you naked” or “I just like having sex with you; I don’t really have any scenario in mind.”
Maybe I am just more creative than he is in the bedroom, but it comes across as him being uninterested. Any suggestions?? I’ve even sent him links from here to give him some inspiration, but nothing seems to help.
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