Single, Horny, Mid-late 20’s, and Trying to be Content

So, I know it’s been a while since I’ve been on here. There’s been lots of life stuff between now and then. I’ve been working on getting my life in order, trying to ditch my issues with lust in general and to not to be so sexually obsessive. It’s hard being single and horny mid-to-late 20s, but I’m trying to be content. I came back here for the community and not the erotica, which I’m trying to avoid, though I’m not judging anyone else on here.

What I’ve really been trying to do lately is get my professional life in order too so that I can one day get married and support a spouse. I finally landed a full-time job as a landscaper. The pay is good, but it’s hard work. The only problem is that we are in the middle of a pandemic, so meeting other people is hard right now. And meeting single women with whom I gel well in interests and beliefs is even harder. So I guess I’m kind of emotionally venting a little.

I want to be in a stable place to get married. I want to experience sexual intimacy and closeness beyond belief. But right now, God is teaching me patience, and it’s hard—even harder coming off a long term long-distance relationship. My last girlfriend thinks she’s on the asexual spectrum, so she just doesn’t feel the same for me and wants me to have someone who desires me as much as I do them. We are still good friends, but that’s one direction my life isn’t going anymore, which is a bit of a downer.

So if you can, say a prayer for me. Masturbation seems to hold off that loneliness, but I long for something deeper if that makes sense. I don’t want to go back into that dark place of porn after my first break up. (I’m even using an image blocker on here because I don’t need to see “Everything”. 😛)

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8 replies
  1. Fiftyfitfidelity says:

    I applaud everything you're doing and you are on the right track. Keep praying and more importantly start finding places for authentic fellowship with Christians your age, somewhere offline if possible. Prayers headed your way.

  2. Hotnorthern says:

    I understand the frustration. I feel the same as a single woman in my late 20s. Sometimes I wonder why some people have to wait so long. It’s a daily struggle to be content and keep my eyes on Jesus. Best of luck.

  3. LovingMan says:

    You are doing it right. Keep going on improving yourself and your financial circumstances. The right woman will see your quality and be attracted to you. I agree with Fiftyfitfidelity. Try to get involved with a Christian group with people of more or less your age. This pandemic won’t last forever. We’ll all be praying for you and rooting for you.

  4. Peterpan says:

    Please do accept that you are a human being with sexual feelings and yes sometimes sexual urges. We all have those moments. Do not avoid those feelings. I do have some experience with it and can say that it always comes back. It is like people saying that masturbation is wrong and quit with it. And then what if you have an 'itch' down there?
    Another thing I wanna mention is that you never know when you,ll meet a partner. Till that time, keep enjoying yourself with masturbation.

  5. bj says:

    Thanks for the encouragement everyone. I've started online dating actually. Haven't had too much luck on the whole, but there is some promise. Hoping things work out with that. Until then, I'll cumtinue to use these hands God's given me to help release that tension.

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