I’m about to say something that may shock some of you. If it does, though, it may mean you have assimilated a worldly idea rooted more in Greek philosophy and Plato than the Bible. So at the risk of offending you, I will tell you what I believe is the truth—God does not have one special soulmate picked out for you to marry!
The idea of a “soulmate” is a concept taught by Plato, who said that people are made as one body with both genders, but were split apart by the gods. Now their mission in life is to find their “other half” so they can be made complete again. Plato’s teaching is where we get phrases like “my better half” or “my other half.” Where it does not come from is biblical Christianity!
Colossians 2:8-9 (ASV)
“Take heed lest there shall be any one that maketh spoil of you through his philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ: for in him dwelleth all the fulness of the Godhead bodily,”
We only have One who can complete us. We have one Soulmate, and that is Christ! To make someone else your completer makes them an idol by putting them in the place of God. That’s damaging to you and unfair to your spouse!
However, what we do have is someone we must make the deliberate daily choice to love. The claim that everyone has a preselected spouse they will find someday is not biblical! But once you marry that person, they become the one God determines you will love.
So, be complete in Christ. Don’t require a human to complete you. Only after marriage do you become one together instead of one each apart.
It’s not 1/2 + 1/2 = 1. Rather it’s 1 x 1 = 1.
So please, let’s stop perpetuating the Ancient Greek concept of soulmates and the one person you are destined to marry. Rather, teach that life is a daily choice and that you freely choose to love your husband or wife. Now THAT is romantic!
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