My Wife Wants to be Gagged
I am a recently re-married widower who has posted two stories involving my first wife over the past few years since joining this site. There is a common theme in these and any other stories I would share of our sex life. Indeed, it’s a running theme in my sex life altogether, compelling me to “steal” the title from a question-and-answer blog site in which the anonymous writer’s story is summed up as “My Wife Wants To Be Gagged.”
Well, my new wife doesn’t just want to be gagged; she LOVES it, absolutely revels in it! Not that my first didn’t have her moments. I, too, have had my moments of missing her fiercely, as you might imagine. Both stories shared earlier were about times when we spiced it up.
But my new love tells me over and over, specifically, that she needs it. She has a lot of energy and works in high-stress cases with women and families in need. Though mostly on the quiet side, when she gets to talking about her day or other things, she positively *craves* this “silencing” as she often terms it.
Like the couple in the borrowed blog title, we don’t engage in anything painful. The thought of using a ball to put in her (or anyone’s) mouth doesn’t thrill me at all; a simple scarf, tied firmly enough to make even one word next to impossible yet loose enough to be comfortable for her, does it for us. As for eye contact, forget about it. When she looks at me, gagged, I’m over the edge. Even simply putting my hand over her mouth will work; it often starts that way.
(I am also part of an online widower’s support group; it’s common there among the re-married to refer to their Chapter Twos. I never call my new wife that, even in private; that would have about the same effect on her as thinking of ball-gags does on me—nada. She would not like that. But I digress.)
I may have a sequel to this, depending on responses and reception. For now, if not tonight then soon: capture, silence, ravish, rescue, in that approximate order. God knows what we like and what we need—and not only that, He knows *why*.
He is so good!!
Good luck on your second chapter. Keep communicating and I hope you are able to find a common sexy ground!
Yes, funny as it may seem for a title like this, communication is key, CreamyPatty. As is so often pointed out. The moment she tells me she doesn't enjoy it anymore is the moment I'll stop. The "sexy common ground" is definitely there. So until that time…
I have never understood these attempts at spicing up sex. But if it works. I do understand support groups and having had two husbands pass. Mainly the ones I have attended were run at our church. Often tears but also helps to know others are facing the same challenges. The only risk for me is feeling a closeness with others suffering in the same way had me fall in a widowers arms that become kissing and mutual pleasuring.
Fortunately we realized we were caught up in the moment and stopped before we might have been embarrassed in the church’s meeting room.
She is widowed too, though longer than me. We both know the benefit of previous experience, and the drawback of expecting it to be like before, positive or negative. This particular act on our part fulfills a need of hers, and she never stops reminding me of that.
Gagging is not something that we are into but honestly… whatever works for you two. I’ve read about things other married couples do. I read those here on MH. I’m sure some of the sexual things my Melodie & I do would seem weird to some people. So I say “whatever floats your (sex) boat!”
That's true, LovingMan. When I read some stories, I just don't get what's exciting about this or that act, and I'm sure the thought of what we do (if it even enters the mind) does the same for others. I always say, there's no one- size-fits-all. Even similar likes (or dislikes) have unique flavors or details to them.
I totally get it Max. I, too have been bound many times, until, of course, my mouth is needed for something else 🙂 But, as you say, you two ride it out until one or both of you are over it.
Then move on to an even hotter experiment …
I would generally advise against gagging. If the woman needs to communicate something urgently (such as something seriously gone wrong with her body,) gagging prevents her from communicating it.
The young woman in the picture provided is a reasonable gauge of how tightly or loosely – and safely – the scarf is fitted. Just in case anyone was wondering. I've probably provided TMI already. Marriageheat has done a great job picking out the pics for my three stories (thus far).