Breast play positions
Young wife needing advice…
I enjoy nipple stimulation with my husband of 8 years. We are a Christian couple and I would love if this type of stimulation could become a regular part of our life together. Honestly I’m afraid of how much nipple play pleases me. I understand it’s not a sin within marriage but I still feel strange to make the request for stimulation to my breasts.
My husband has a tendency to shy away from anything that may seem “taboo” so I’m careful to not use words like “dry nursing” even though that would be the ideal experience for me.
My main question is, are there any sexy and comfortable positions for a longer nipple sucking experience for my husband? (I have larger sized breasts). If I ask for this often I want this to be enjoyable for him as well.
Thank you in advance.
I am SO HAPPY being married to a woman with sensitive nipples who adores nipple play. The first time I reached into her bra (we were dating), I could not believe how erect her nipples were, and she orgasmed on the spot. I think nipplegasms are super sexy, but I know they are rare. In fact the last time she had one was years ago. But just yesterday (!!) she had one. We were enjoying a nice lovemaking morning in bed, involving kissing, fondling, and PIV in 3 positions. We began mutual masturbation, which is a normal part of our routine, and often how things conclude. She then straddled me in a Cowgirl position, but kind of straddled over my arm and hand stroking my cock. She presented her tits right to my face. I started licking and sucking on her erect nipples, and she was moaning. I left my hand on my cock, and I could feel that her pussy wasn’t really touching anything. It was more airborn. So I said, “Do you want a nipplegasm?” She said, “Yes, but I’m not sure if I can have a purely nipplegasm all the way.” I said, “I bet it will be close.” With that I attacked both nipples with my tongue, lips, and available hand. About 5 minutes later, she had a massive nipplegasm, and it was sexy AF! …So Cowgirl style position might be just right. Just stick those girls in his face!
What works great for us is for my wife to have one arm outstretched with me laying my head on her upper arm. I can orally love on my wife’s nearest nipple for an extended period of time in this position. Some of the time I will pump my erection and some if the time my free hand will play with her far breast n nipple.
My arm that is close to the bed either isn’t used or I bend my elbow to push up my wife’s breast. Like you, she is very well endowed.
While I love on one breast sometimes she’ll twist n pinch the other. I will strike her pussy and clitoris as I suck on her nipples. Or she will apply her vibrator to her clitoris as I love on her nipples. Most of her orgasms cum this way – if ya know what I mean. 😉 We do a whole lot of nipple stimulation in a sex session.
When I feel the inspiration to orally love on her far breast I rise up on one elbow enough to reach my head across to her far breast. I think it’s clear evidence of God’s approval of Melody’s n my married sex that I often am inspired on what to do to please her during our lovemaking sessions.
Proverbs 5 says “Rejoice with the wife of thy youth… Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times…”
So we think that breast and nipple stimulation is very much appropriate and part of God’s plan for a married couple.
I just thought of a few more things:
Oral nipple stimulation can include sucking, but also licking the nipples, tongue flicking the nipples, and nipple sucking can be gentle or intense. My Melody likes to start out with me gently sucking. Later on in the lovemaking session she wants forceful sucking.
On our wedding night we discovered that I quite enjoy MY nipples to be orally stimulated so that is a regular part or our lovemaking/sex sessions. While she sucks on n tongue-flicks my nipple she’ll pump my rod or I will. In fact, we do this nearly every day that is not a full lovemaking session. Although this is definitely a type of lovemaking. Half the time or so it includes us starting by me sucking on each of Melody’s breasts n then her moving to my man-nipples. In days we are not having full sexual intercourse I always cum from this as usually I masturbate myself or she includes giving me a hand job as she tongues my nearest nipple n often she also manually tweaks my other man-nip.
On days we have had sexual intercourse and I’ve already cum in my wife’s pussy AND she has cum too… often my wife will give me a second orgasm this way.
During a full sex session with intercourse included Melody will complain if she doesn’t get a turn at orally loving on my man nips. She’ll say, “My turn to have some fun! Roll over!”
Also, I wanted to mention that for me getting to orally n manually love on my wife’s breasts n nipples is a HUGE turn on for me. Doing so gets me hard every time! Of course she loves it too. We get her to all of her orgasms nowadays by way of nipple stimulation and vibrator on her clitoris.
Since you asked about nipple sucking positions I should add that if the husband is flexible he can suck on one of his wife’s nipples during missionary position sexual intercourse. In fact, my Melody had her first orgasm on our honeymoon when during the sexual intercourse where she gave me her virginity – I reached my head down and sucked hard on one of her nipples. It was awesome that our first orgasm together was simultaneous and happened when it did. By the way, that was Melody’s very first orgasm of her life!
Due to health reasons we can no longer do missionary position but I can manually tweak her nipples as we have intercourse in our X position. For many years in the middle of our marriage we usually had at least one simultaneous orgasm this way in every sex session. Now for her to cum she usually needs me sucking hard on her tits (or on one nipple) as she buzzes her clit with her vibe.
We don’t mourn the changes in our sex life, we embrace them and are grateful that we can still share our bodies and souls sexually with each other! And manual n oral nipple play has always been an important part of our lovemaking relationship!
None of this feels taboo to us. God sanctions marital intimacy and sexual pleasure within marriage. But I’ll admit that every marriage is unique.
First off, it’s about what LovingMan said of Proverbs 5, among other places, that your breasts are for both to enjoy!!
My wife is one who has nipplegasms. We found out one day, when she sat down between my legs on the couch one day. I reached up under her shirt, and started playing with her nipples. She loves nipple play, and pulled off her shirt making even more fun! I just kept at her now hard nipples, pulling, twisting, and pinching, until all of a sudden, she arched her back, started shaking all over, and came! i almost blew a load in my pants! We still use this position!
Another good one, that gets us the same results, is her sitting in my lap facing me, her legs over mine. I can play with one nipple with my hand, and suck on the other, always switching back and forth, till she finally cums! It’s such a rush for me, I have cum when she did, without any stimulation besides our bodies pushed together.
Cowgirl is also a great position that works for some good nipple play and sucking, and we do that often. Adding nipple play with PIV always heightens the effect!
Breast and nipple play is all good, and all within the bounds of marital sex! No reason either of you should be bashful about it, and it sure be a part of your game plan. This is especially true if you have sensitive nipp’s, and who knows, you may find out that nipplegasms are part of that plan too!
@Tulsa, wow, that's amazingly hot! I would love to do this with my future wife, nipplegasm or not. To me, the unexpectedness of the nipplegasm makes it even hotter! I love the idea of just holding her close like that, engaged in intimate play together, stimulating her nipples and bringing her pleasure, even when it's not expected to result in a climax. But when both spouses get so into it that she climaxes from primarily (or only) nipple stimulation, that's incredibly hot! I think if my hot, topless wife sat in my lap and climaxed from me playing with her nipples, I'd have the same reaction as you and nearly (or actually) cream my pants!
Even if my future wife and I aren't able to achieve a nipplegasm for her, this sounds like a wonderful position and a wonderful time! And if nipplegasms aren't in the cards, we can always take more clothes off and get access to the sexy womanly bits that WILL bring orgasms. 😉
Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful thing you two experienced, and for inspiring similar scenes of beauty in my future marriage! This is what I love about MH: the ability for amazing Christian couples to share what they've learned about the great gift of sex and propel future generations of husbands and wives to even greater pleasure, intimacy and unity!
The positions others have described are all good. But the more important issue is communication. I'm totally enthralled by my wife's breasts (hers are also "larger sized" which I love!). So I find it hard to even imagine a husband who is slow to respond to his wife's desire for more attention to her breasts! That has never been a problem in our relationship!! Try to find a way to communicate your desires to him. That can be through a "sit down and talk" kind of session, or it can be by your positive and affirming comments whenever he is giving attention to your breasts. Another option (which he may not be open to from what you have described about his reluctance to engage in some things) would be for you to give him a little demonstration session, using your own hands to show him what feels good to you. For manual play I like to have us lying beside each other with my left arm wrapped around under her neck so I can use both hands to play with both of her breasts. Or being spooned behind her, again using both hands to caress her. For oral, in addition to the positions others have described, we also like to have her sitting on the sofa with my head in her lap – more of a "nursing" position. It's very sexy and arousing for both of us. But again, it seems like the first step is more sharing between you so that you can possibly understand (and overcome?) whatever his reluctance is, and that he can understand (and honor) your desire for more loving attention to your breasts.
You commented about being hesitant about the appropriateness of enjoying breast play. Remember that every nerve ending in your body that gives you sexual pleasure was put there by your creator. He didn’t put them there to be a source of guilt, he created you, he loves you, and he gives you many gifts, the pleasures of sex in marriage is one of them. For example,He gave you a clitoris with thousands of nerve endings that are there for only one purpose, to give you pleasure. the only restrictions he places on your sexual pleasure is that it be kept in marriage and the golden rule be followed. Expansive experiencing of the wonderful gift of sex serves to show him how much we appreciate the gift he gave us and helps keep temptation to take it outside marriage in check. This is all laid out in scripture. So…if you enjoy breast play,(or any other sexual activity for that matter) enjoy-it to the hilt, share it with your husband and encourage him to enjoy it too.
I appreciate your comment "that every nerve ending in your body that gives you sexual pleasure was put there by your creator."
I haven’t read the other comments, but I’ll simply say. Cowgirl position. I loved having my late wife’s gorgeous boobs in my face as she was on top of me.
Haven't read any replies, so sorry if I say what others have said.
I wish I could explain something that would get your husband more into your tits. Personally, I had porn leading the way, from an early age, but I would not recommend it. But, also, I don't know of any other male person, as I grew up, that did life without it. That's not a good thing. The porn industry is prostitution, so I can't say to do that.
However, your husband would need to get to a place, in his mind, where sex is a fun playground for the two of you. It is tricky because the person has to be willing to expand that horizon. To be the adult making the rules, instead of the little kid afraid of sex. Maybe, a sexual bible study to start out, if that is where he is comfortable, Proverbs 5:19…"Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love," comes to mind. If not the bible, maybe, christian sex books. Maybe christian sex web sites. Find where he wants to go for his answers & use that if you can. Any avenue where he will listen to reason. Pray, take your time. Be accommodating to him. Genuinely enjoy him, showing you are on his team. Trust God that sex is good even if your nipples don't get played with. Discuss the team aspect. He has to see you as someone to share his insecurities with. There is nothing perfect, so take what he gives & enjoy it. In time, things will change. In order for that to keep changing for the good keep playing. Allow him to explore you, Be there for his curiosity. Reward any vulnerability he shows with honor, love, & security. Just naturally set back & relax & let both of you develop organically. Just keep trying to keep things positive, open, & calm. Tell him about yourself. Use him as an example. Like he likes certain penis play. The way you touch, where, & how. Use that to point out your breasts & nipples. Say things like, "I notice my nipples feel really sensitive, in a good way. Even when I shower. Like I could have you play with them forever. Like I don't want you to stop." But, say casually. Try not to make it about pressuring him. Plant seed. Leave it be. Water it. Fertilize it. Let him have the time to think about it.
If he never comes around, you have yourself. You can masturbate. You can play with your own nipples.
My go to position is, I like to make my wife cum first. Most of the time I lay propped on one elbow, at her side. I start in simultaneously, lightly kissing her nipples & feeling her pussy with my free hand. As my hand plays to the end of finding her clit & making her cum, I get more aggressive kissing, sucking, licking, & even nibbling on her nipple. Just one nipple. As I concentrate on making her cum I concentrate on intensifying her orgasm with nipple sensations. When she cums, I switch to the other nipple. Same activity. This assures her nipple play & 2 orgasms. All before I fuck her. Plus, this really gets her ready to be fucked.
The second go to is I eat my wife out first. I lay long ways between her legs, face up into her pussy, where I can stretch my arms up along the outside of her body to get at her nipple. Now, I start out in both areas, clit, & nips, slowly intensifying my play with both my hands & tongue.
In both go to situations I always see the two activities as one intense way to make her cum. Both positions are easy. The oral one can be easier if he wants to be on his knees on the floor while you are on the bed. Use a pillow under his knees for comfort. I usually give her two or more orgasms either way I go.
If you want to dry nurse him you can sit on the couch and he can lay his head back on your lap. Lower a nipple down to him. He can suck while you jack him off. Make it a special session with some baby oil or lube to jack him off with. You might want to get off first by him flicking the fiend, or giving you oral, because he might not go a second round easily.
Thanks for the question. God bless your efforts.
Welcome to MH! Such a great question! It's so good to see spouses who are interested in improving their sex lives and seeking greater pleasure together! I'd love to do this for my future wife and I'd absolutely swoon if she asked me to nurse on her! I would treasure the opportunity to participate in such an intimate and nurturing act with my future wife.
You don't have to feel strange about asking for breast/nipple stimulation. And I hope you're not ACTUALLY afraid of enjoying it! As you said, it's not a sin, it's not wrong, and more than that, it's GOOD! It's not strange, it's perfectly normal! God made all kinds of places on our bodies to be sexually receptive, including both men's and women's nipples! The Bible says the breasts are supposed to be sexually gratifying! (Proverbs 5:19) So embrace those two big, beautiful gifts God gave you and your husband to enjoy, and enjoy them to the fullest! It sounds like you understand this all already, but sometimes it helps you more fully embrace a truth when you hear it repeated!
Now, as for your question. As a single guy, I can't give you any advice from experience. But since this is a big desire for me in my future marriage, I've spent some time considering some options to experiment with in the future. Check out christianfriendlysexpositions.com for an extensive library of illustrations to help you with some ideas. Here are a few positions from the "woman on top" list that might be good starting points!
– Mastery sex position
– Jugghead sex position
– Basket sex position
– Fantastic Rocking Horse sex position
You don't have to limit yourself to woman-on-top positions, of course. Have a look through all the listings yourself and see if anything else might work for you! Consider any height difference between you and your husband, and simply look for any positions that put your breasts and his mouth close together! You can add some pillows to make slight adjustments to any position and add comfort for you and your husband. I think the position recommended by a couple of others is also good, where you sit on the couch with your husband's head in your lap. Maybe use a couple of pillows to prop up his head to the right level if needed.
I pray you and your husband will be able to fully embrace and mutually enjoy this way of bonding and experiencing pleasure together!
Honestly, the term “dry nursing” sounds hot. If he’s afraid of the term, maybe just tell him how much you love it when he pays attention to your nipples. And while he’s doing it, make sure to tell him how good it feels and how much it makes you want him.
As far as comfortable positions, maybe on your back with him beside you, or on your back with him between your legs.
Getting him to accept the concept of dry nursing may take some time and patience, but you may eventually be able to get to a point in your relationship where he would be comfortable laying in your lap.
Maybe also encourage him with some scripture from Song of Songs and other places.
You are a married couple and therefore should be able to freely express your desires to each other. While difficult for in couples inexperienced with or who have had trouble expressing themselves sexually, if you and your husband can push past this boundary the pleasures in your intimacy will increase dramatically.
With regards to your question, my wife also loves having her nipples stimulated. We usually alternate between two positions. She will do cowgirl whereby she can lean her breasts over my mouth. In this position, she can ride me or rub herself to orgasm either with her fingers or a vibrator. Our other go-to position is her on her back and me straddling her. I take most of my weight on my arms but still have my hand free to massage her breasts as I suck and lick her nipples.
I agree that Cowgirl position will work the best for you.
Share with your husband how you love / enjoy him playing with your breasts / nipples.
When he does play with your breasts / nipples during making love show him by moaning / groaning (don't hold back) so that he can see & hear how much joy you are getting from this, he might understand better then & do it much more with you.
Love & Enjoy . . .
I could spend hours with my wife spread out before me, with me teasing her nipples…but on your sides could work as Weil. but to me there was nothing better than my wife on top, leaning over me so her breasts and nipple hung right near my face…sometimes she would hold onto the headboard for support, and to allow her torso to sway and tempt me with her 'charms'). or she would hold my hands back near my head and tease me the same way…holding her nipples close and playing 'keep away' until I was a hot mess aching to taste her ! Hopefully your husband can learn what a gift he has in a hot wife who loves nipple play….I mean…God gave us our bodies to use for pleasure within marriage…
maybe you jsut need to make sure he knows how u feel and what u want, but avoid any 'taboo type comments' like 'mommy play or nursing, etc….That dialogue never came up in our long marriage (not that I find anything taboo about it myself–it just wasn't our 'go to' commentary) but both of. us knew how much pleasure our breasts(hers) and nipples (both) could provide (I have very sensitive nipples as well)…..my wife routinely asked/demanded I play with her chest! And I happily complied!