Growing in God Honoring Sexuality
I really enjoy stories of couples growing together in their marriage, and especially as it relates to this site, growing in their sex life. Most recently, oldtimer shared an example that was really inspiring.
I wonder how many of you would be willing to share some examples of how you have grown or developed sexually in your marriage?
I also wonder if any of the singles here would be willing to share something you’ve learned about what your body enjoys or responds to that you might not have considered when you first started masturbating?
Ooh, yes! I actually have two answers for this. As many of you know, I am single and have been masturbating for years. I'm learning so much and really enjoying the journey of new knowledge. I'll probably do a more lengthy post on these topics, but for now I'll briefly describe two things that are helping me.
1. Kegels. I think I started incorporating them into my stretching routine 1-2 years ago (have to doublecheck that) and lately I suddenly had the thought that maybe that is contributing to my newfound vaginal sensations and pleasure while penetrating myself.
2. Journaling. It may have been LovingMan that mentioned that he keeps a sex diary, and that inspired me to begin one (of course, for now it's just masturbation, but if I get married, sex will be added!). I only started it a week ago or so, but I already can see how useful it will be in tracking my experiences and seeing what I like and stick to or give up.
I think both of those are awesome. I’ve read about the benefits of kegels before, and I’m very happy to hear they are working for you.
The sex journal is a wonderful idea. Like LM, I think you’ll look back on it with fondness, and it will help keep those beautiful memories fresh in your mind.
I think we’re all cheering for you as you take this sexy journey. Thank you for sharing!
I meant to reply to this earlier, but at least I'm here now!
As another single person (male), there are a couple of things I enjoy that I didn't expect when I first started masturbating: anal/prostate and nipple stimulation.
I started exploring anal/prostate stimulation first, and nipple stimulation later. Initially, I didn't get much physical pleasure from either of them. But I stuck with it for some reason, and I guess I somehow gradually "woke up" or rewired my body to receive those kinds of pleasure! And now they're both things that drive be absolutely wild, especially when combined! I can't really orgasm just from those types of stimulation, but they feel amazing! In the past I have orgasmed a couple of times from anal/prostate stimulation, but it's difficult and unreliable. Although it did feel amazing the few times I was able to do it!
I've never even been close to achieving orgasm just from nipple stimulation, although that alone can take me from 0 to full erection very quickly!
There's also another one I've noticed in the past that's a bit different. It was more automatic, in that it was discovered rather than developed. I used to get massages to help with muscle tightness (less so now), and I would notice that when the soles of my feet were massaged, I had to fight pretty hard to avoid getting an erection! It was an automatic response that I had to actively suppress by basically holding my breath intermittently, making my body focus on the lack of oxygen rather than giving me an erection! I didn't have the same response when any other area of my body was massaged. I haven't found a practical way to involve this sensitive area in my self-exploration play sessions, but I'll definitely tell my future wife about it so she can use it to our mutual, pleasurable advantage!
I'm so grateful that I've discovered and/or developed these new hotspots! Not only will they give my future wife more pleasure buttons to push on me, they're also proof that you can train your body to be more sexually receptive, even in areas that aren't initially sexually sensitive!
Very nice PatientPassion. I love the self-exploration and discovery of what your body responds to sexually. I think it’s important that we all know these things about ourselves. I hope you and your future wife have a lot of fun with this information 😉
When you say you can't orgasm from anal/prostate do you mean a wet orgasm.The nipples are good for me too.My hands seem drawn to them like a magnet.
@Bliss, that's partly right! It's not totally impossible for me to achieve orgasm from anal/prostate stimulation, but it's tough to do without at least a little penile stimulation. This applies to both wet and dry (ejaculatory and non-ejaculatory) orgasms. I have very infrequently been able to achieve ejaculatory orgasms through only anal/prostate and nipple stimulation, with no penile stimulation. But I have not yet achieved a non-ejaculatory orgasm.
With these other forms of non-penile stimulation, I've had some very pleasurable sensations, some of them lasting quite a long time—much longer than a usual orgasm. But they aren't strong enough for me to consider them orgasms. Although once or twice, I feel like I've gotten close! I've entered states where I feel as if I'm having a very extended, but very mild orgasm. It's been a while since the most recent one, so it's hard to describe from memory. I'll have to revisit my old self-exploration notes and see if I can reproduce that effect!
I'm definitely eager to keep exploring and experimenting! Like I mentioned, my progress is proof to me that my body can learn to experience new pleasures. In adding to that, since I have read the experiences of other men, I'm confident that if I put the effort in, I can learn to increase my pleasure even more, and perhaps achieve multiple orgasms!
I have never had wet orgasm from PM.I guess the best way to desscibe what I get are mini-os.I don't like the term mini either because how can you feel like semen is flownig from you for 15 seconds to a minute or more and call it mini.I did have a super once I guess.There are no words to describe the feeling.The extreme pleasure was oozing out of every square inch of my body.My skin felt like your throat does when you drink something carbonated.I don't worry about super Os though I just lay back and praise my Creator for what i have discovered.
I think it is important to not fear trying things like anal and nipple stimulation for men. Be open, honest and willing to experiment. My husband hesitated too but found out both can be enjoyable and lead to more powerful orgasms. Took me time for anal penetrate for him and me as well.
I swerved into MH by way of the Marriage Bed I googled exotic sex blogs and this came up.I started scrolling through with the stories and saw an image of an Aneros massager I almost had to pinch myself and then 2 more! by the time I read all 3 stories my foreskin was loaded with precum!My wife and I seem to keep finding new levels of pleasure that our Creator made possible!I stumbled on to prostate massage for BPH issues.Like they say I came for the health and stayed for the pleasure.My wife now uses a clit stimulator.She now knows what I feel and I know what she feels.Over the years once in a great while she would say AHHHH that one came from the "inside".Now we both know what that means.Her clit is my prostate!The main reason wee started looking for a toy was my arm going to sleep fingering to get her off.Now we are retired so no worries about being at work in the morning. HA
That’s so nice Bliss, and it is exactly what was talking about. I’m happy for your growth!