Why We Go Nude
We aren’t classical nudists. We don’t hang around the house naked, we don’t belong to any nudist groups and our friends would never guess that we like to get away on occasion for a few naked days. We’re quiet about it, our kids don’t know—it’s our secret.
I’ve tried to look at this from a couple different angles to try and get my head around why I enjoy being nude around people and why I seek out places to be nude. I’m not an exhibitionist so it’s not a matter of being seen, though being nude in the company of others is pleasurable and it certainly can be pleasurable to see other naked people. I’ve looked at my past to see if there was something in my youth that triggered this urge. My parents were open about nudity, but not overtly so. Where this urge started, I’ll probably never know.
Over the years I’ve taken note of the sensations and pleasures I’ve gotten from baring it all. For me being nude feels like returning to a natural state, unencumbered by the rest of the world. It does feel as though I was meant to be this way, that the regular world is the outlier. For my wife it is an expression and acceptance of bodies unburdened by society’s standards and norms, and she believes it builds her confidence in a way that carries over into our daily world. To her, there is a healthy rebellion in this. Being equal in our vulnerability can encourage more genuine connections with others. I believe it builds an openness and trust.
Once upon a time we saw nudity as unremarkable and natural. If it weren’t for that pesky serpent, maybe we’d have never experienced our bodies clothed? There may be something deep in our DNA that triggers pleasure when we get closer to our natural state.
My wife and I go nude because there is real freedom in being nude. It feels good to have the sun and the breeze hit those places that are too often covered up. It’s relaxing to be in the company of other like-minded people. There is pleasure in seeing other nude people enjoying that freedom. We’ve often found them to be open, honest and friendly. Some have become friends. It might not occur to those thinking about trying it, but it is about the most relaxing, restful experience you can have.
From a more practical standpoint, we have specific tastes about the types of places we go. We won’t go to resorts or spas that allow children. I understand the perspective of parents that allow for this. For us, it has to do with wanting a more peaceful, relaxed experience. We also will not go to places that encourage “the lifestyle.” To each his own I suppose, but we are fiercely loyal to one another and have no interest in that, it’s not why we’re there. That’s sexual, being nude isn’t, though there is the stray thought.
If you have a desire to go natural in these settings, here’s some advice. Try a clothing optional place first. If you find you can’t do it, no worries, no pressure. You can wear something more revealing than you normally would as a step toward being nude. You can also try taking it slow, get naked for one minute, then see if you last five minutes and so on. You’ll soon find the pleasure of the experience wipes away the fear and apprehension. You’ll wonder why you didn’t do it years ago. My wife was apprehensive at first, but a few short months later, we were doing nude karaoke. (Honestly, I was far more apprehensive about singing in front of other people).
Most importantly, remember that people in these settings aren’t judging you. We’ve seen people of all ages, backgrounds, cultures and sizes. You’ll fit right in. And use sunscreen—it’s no fun burning those places that rarely see the sun.
To close on a funny anecdote, we recently ran into a couple who called us out by name and for a minute I didn’t recognize them—I’d simply never seen them with their clothes on!
This is a very thoughtful post on the subject of nudity, and I appreciate you sharing it.
You and your wife being able to experience nudity like this is wonderful.
I also think it’s cool that you keep it a secret, just something you enjoy together.
Thanks KM for taking the time to read this. For us it's another one of those things that bring us together as a couple. It's another layer of our life together, and honestly, you do meet some great people in those circles.
Thanks for information on this topic. We have very limited nude in public experience. However, we do agree clothing optional is a good stepping stone for those of us a bit shy. We also ended up at a place with a significant “lifestyle” community. But we were treated well and not pressured to participate. It was an interesting experience but once was enough. Bless those that can share their love but it wasn’t for us. We did not become regular nudists either but can appreciate the feeling and are open at home than we were before.
Hi SecondMarge
We’ve never been to a place that promotes the “lifestyle” but some of our acquaintances say they are no hassle, so maybe someday. We’ve eliminated those as a possibility for now, along with places that allow children. Admittedly this narrows our choices and keeps our naked activities infrequent. We have 3-4 options within a few hours from here so it’s a treat when we can get away. Kudos to you guys for trying it out! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment!
I'm way more open to the idea of nudity now, though I'd probably get VERY shy when the moment came to actually take my clothes off! 🤪 I'd consider a nude beach. I totally agree with your view of nudity, seeing it as a return to our natural state and a rebellion against society and appearance standards. It doesn't need to be sexual. Our bodies are God's handiwork and can be admired. But honestly, I'm really looking forward to the sexy aspect of being naked with my future husband and engaging in all the fun that will inspire! 😋
Everyone should try it LLL, no matter how you anticipate it will be, there is more pleasure to it than you might think and it’s great to feel the apprehension and cares of the world slip away. My wife was shy at first and now she loves it. Honestly, it took her a very short time to get used to being nude in a public setting.
I have some of the same thoughts and hopes for the future wife I pray God leads me to…I lived several years in an area with beach areas secluded enough that you could go nude…so relaxing and enjoyable!🙂
Nude is gude! (just making it rhyme haha)
Nice!
We have some friends that are nudist fans. Have been for years. They like to go to nude beaches and resorts.
Years ago, they kept trying to get my wife and I to go with them. They finally talked my wife into a test run, in our back yard. I told them I didn't think it was a good idea, but they all got undressed in front of me. I didn't so my wife undressed me, and that's when she found out why I said it wasn't a good idea! She pulled down my jeans, and out pops my purple veined monster! 🙂 Didn't matter what I did, I remained at full attention, and wasn't but a minute or two, that my purple veined monster started dripping!
That was the last time we tried any nudism around others!
Sounds like your first was quite an experience!
One thing we haven’t done is go with friends. We do have friends we’ve met in resorts and beaches, so we didn’t at the time have a close relationship with them, but our friendships started nude, so that’s the way we see each other (figuratively and literally).
I can imagine being stripped in front of friends might “get things going” as it were. I haven’t had any issues keeping it under control, but I do admit to getting a bit thick from time to time. I’d suggest getting away from friends as a first “exposure” to public nudity.
The Lord said to Adam and Eve who told you that you were naked and then He gave them permanent clothing to replace the inadequate fig leaves.Here are a few texts I found on the subject. Gen 9:21 Ex 20:26 32:25 2Chr 28:19 Is 47:3 EZ 16: 35-36 Luke 8:27 Rev3:17 16:15 17:16. Clearly the only nudity God permits and ENCOURAGES is in the confines of marriage.
My pastor preached an interesting message in which he said that God actually clothed Adam and Eve with flesh-and-blood bodies, whereas before they were flesh-and-bone spirits and souls, like Jesus was after His resurrection. I need to ask him for the details to that theory again because I forgot all the Scriptures he gathered that from. It does make me wonder if we've been viewing nudity all wrong.
Thank you for the thoughtful post!
I agree. This topic is one example where it’s not theologically complicated.
@LLL, regarding what your pastor said, his explanation as provided in your comment makes zero sense. I’m challenging the pastor’s position here, not you.
Spirits and souls are not physical things, nor can they become them. While it’s true in the resurrection our bodies will be changed, that doesn’t mean our bodies will become immaterial; rather, they will become immortal. I also do not see how any pastor could think that the Genesis account of God providing animal skins for Adam and Eve was not what the Israelites would have immediately understood but was actually a change in the nature of human biology. I see no indication of such a gnostic notion in the text. I’ve heard other examples like this where the claim is made that the straightforward understanding of scripture is mistaken and a provocative, complicated answer is the correct one. In scripture and in life, Occam’s razor (that the best explanation is the simplest adequate explanation) is usually correct.
Hmmm, seeing that scripture doesnt provide descriptions or details of every aspect of cultural aspect of life .
Love this story. You guys are a blessing. Thank you for sharing the truth that pleasure is a gift from God and that nudity and the pleasures that can be derived from enjoying our bodies are unmatched. Please keep giving and receiving the pleasure of your beautiful bodies and keep loving it.
Hey Lustfully in love, I appreciate the comment, thanks for reading. It’s nice to finally be able to share here and get responses. We definitely enjoy the freedom of a nude beach or resort. (And a little nudity out on some of our remote hikes). Hope you are well.
Amen! I personally enjoy being nude. Ben and I lived a nude lifestyle at home and often slept in the nude ( I still do unless one of my grandkids are sleeping with me.) Ben always loved being nude and always slept nude. No, we never visited a nude beach or nudist colony, though we were planning too before he passed away. Since I have been living with Alicia and her family, I have curtailed my nudity for when I bath or in bed when I am sleeping alone ( I generally prefer to be nude when I masturbate as well). Whether I move back home or move into a apartment, I hope to resume my nudist ( home ) lifestyle. Thank you for posting! God bless you and yours and stay horny!
Thanks for taking the time to read and respond hornyGG, I wouldn’t say we hang around the house nude too often, we definitely sleep nude. When I masturbate, it’s usually in the shower (helps to be nude there) but I’d agree being nude is best when the urge arises. I’d say the same for my wife, it’s her preferred place as well. Our kids are gone now so nudity is a more common occurrence as is sex and masturbation.
I hope you can resume your nudist ways, and make it to a nude beach someday, it’s a very relaxing experience.
Hi GG! So good to see you posting still! Please don’t stop!🤗. Question: why don’t you enjoy your natural state even around Alicia? Is it because your grandkids are around? You could always go nude in the evenings once they’re in bed. Are you comfortable being naked in front of Trey? My mom has seen my hubby naked many times and doesn’t mind at all. He has seen her naked as well. Neither has any problem walking around naked in front of each other. It’s just the human body, after all. We all have the same parts. ☺️
As empty nesters wife n I have done casual hanging around nude at home in the past. Now we live with our daughter, son in law, & grandkids so unless they are gone it’s kinda off the table.
When we first became empty nesters a brother from our church congregation said, “Clothing optional time!”
He was right!
"Clothing optional time". I like that. We got into this a while after the kids left. They don't show any signs of moving back in. (If they do, I hope they call first!)
There are a lot of ins and outs as to the subject of public nudity.
Particularly when it comes to people claiming the name of Christian and participating in it.
We have a history of making things palatable to Christians as a means of sliding into something that's questionable.
Over the years there has been
Christian rappers, Christian metal bands, Christian strippers, there's Christian porn, I'm sure there's Christian naturalists (and I think that's what nudist call themselves people who just get naked in nature.)
And I'm sure there are probably some people who call themselves Christian swingers. Reasoning that if they keep it within a certain boundary it's acceptable.
And that is the question. Exactly what is acceptable for a Christian? And second what is it that makes any gray area behavior reasonable or fall within the boundaries of acceptable?
Is it because we put the label Christian on it? Or is it because a husband and wife both have agreed to it it's okay to be involved in?
If a pastor preaches from the pulpit that something is acceptable that you've known to be a gray area all of these years?
Let me Begin by saying I am not judging at all? Because depending on what level of the teaching you've been following and what the interpretation of scripture is being taught to you. And we all need to be honest that very often it's biased according to the person who's preaching the word.
We as a couple have done a few things that a lot of other Christians we know, would judge in the blink of an eye.
And to be honest with you we don't really care.
You Begin by stating that you're not an exhibitionist. Yet you go on to state that you can't figure out why you like being naked around other people.
So the question is what is an exhibitionist if that isn't?
Now that being said, it's not meant to be a judgment it's meant to be a discussion point.
You state that you've looked in your past and your parents were casual about nudity although not overtly.
And looking into our past to understand the things that we do today is something I believe everybody does. For we all struggle with something.
And I have to say that I stand in agreement with you that I do enjoy walking around naked. My dear wife, not quite as much. I have no problem whatsoever walking around my house naked. If I had a place that I lived that was private I would lay outside and lounge in the sun naked. But I don't, so I won't. One of the big problems with this is saying who's a minor and who's not. Another problem is adults struggle with pornography it has shaped their lives and for them going to a place like a nude beach or nudist colony is a way to gratify that thirst. So we have to consider whether or not we're causing another to stumble. Or whether or not, we're teaching somebody who may be just turned 18 or even 16 and lying about their age, and me also not have any understanding of moral standards that this is okay to be naked around other people. To become aroused and allow other people to see you aroused and perhaps take it to the next step. Something that happens in some adult naturalist areas.
It doesn't take much to take a look on the internet about swingers conventions or lifestyle conventions as they call them to see that sometimes they'll take a whole cruise ship or hotel and make it theirs for a weekend to do as they may..
Of course the belief is that they are all adults.
And kudos to you for you said you would not even consider a place that allowed young people to go. Or places who would be in sexual lifestyles as well However as I said sometimes people we think maybe you completely legal or not. After all 18 which is the usual age which seems to be accepted as the adult age is a dubious line since it's one that's created by man-made laws.
Overall I enjoyed reading your take and I can appreciate very much that you shared your thoughts and experiences and I also appreciate the fact that this venue exists where you can express these things.
In the end as believers we know for a fact that we all needed to be saved. We needed to be saved from ourselves and the fact that we all were born into sin. It's that sin Awakening because of disobedience that Adam and Eve woke up to when they said they were naked and ashamed.
It's the same reason that most of us hide sinful thoughts or behaviors which each of us harbors. Because we feel it's shameful.
You are blessed in that your wife accepts and believes and enjoys what you enjoy. It's not the same with all couples. In fact it's quite rare more so in the church.
Is it wrong to be nude with one another if you're married? No not at all as a matter of fact one reason is that there's no pretense no shame and the ability to love one another as they are every extra pound, every extra wrinkle, every understated part of the body etc. In fact it's probably the greatest test to an open and honest relationship between a man and wife. The fact that you don't have to feel uncomfortable and hide from the other because of your own shame about your own body.
That you can be open and be free around each other because love conquers all.
So then what happens is we have to accept and live with what it is that we as couples or singles who want to be a couple are, would like to be, or where we came from.
Within the church you will find people will find the act of sex is only meant for procreation and not pleasure.
And you will find people who will say it's okay to have sex once in awhile but don't get too creative with it.
Our take on it at our age and we're heading into our seventh decade of life. Is, create for yourself and open honest and level playing Field of communication. Established for yourself rules to allow the expression of sexuality with each other.
And this being done with the understanding that there will be no fear judgment, fear of loss, or they ignoring of one another's desires and feelings and thoughts.
As a couple who joined together in the bonds of matrimony agreeing to be in a monogamous relationship means you are going to be what that other person's needs you to be. Of course it also means that you have to have understanding as far as demanding or subjecting the other to your own needs. There has to be agreement.
If it's being nude together come to an agreement as to how to do it. If it's trying something new sexually experimenting and exploring come to an agreement. The best way to go about this is that if it's lawful and if it's safe be willing to try it together. If it's something that one or the other does not like see if there's a way to tweak it to make it agreeable to both. If then you still do not enjoy it throw it in the garbage and move on to the next thing.
To ignore one another's needs causes a person to be left with questions about their needs and to bring about a a dishonest and secretive relationship. One where you can't be honest with one another. Creating grounds from that point for the possibility of infidelity.
At times the bonds of matrimony can be turned into the bondage of matrimony. Don't let this be us, we're better than that, if we're going to tell people we have found a better way we need to be examples and part of that is by having a happy Union of exploration and wonder and beauty and above all love.
Thanks for the thoughtful response Tutchh,
I’ll try and make sure I cover everything. First, I don’t consider myself an exhibitionist because I don’t derive any sexual pleasure being nude in front of other people, I simply find it to be a feeling of freedom and very relaxing. I’ve not run into any others who seem to be “exhibiting” but that’s only my assumption based on their behavior, I would never swear by it. To be fair we did do nude karaoke, so, if there is exhibitionism in that, I might be slightly guilty.
We came to enjoy this later in life, it is not something we even discussed until well after our kids left. We have had prior experience, being nude out in the wilderness, we are experienced hikers who often go off-trail to camp or just be alone to be naked and have sex. We’ve discussed many things in the past that one or the other of us is uncomfortable with, at times we circle around and give them a try, other times they may be closed off to us forever – but there is always plenty to explore in a married, sexually active couple’s life. This is one thing that came up as an afterthought and we found we were both interested in and have since come to enjoy, though infrequently.
The concerns you raise are more than valid. One of the reasons we avoid the “lifestyle” places is that we don’t want to be approached for anything other than some friendly chat, and one of the ways to avoid leading others astray would be to avoid putting ourselves in environments where there is an expectation of “something more.” Do we lead others astray? I don’t think you can ever know for sure another person’s thoughts, but I can see the possibility.
We will not go to places that allow children. Normally, we see the line set at 21 or 18 where we go, but the vast majority of people we see are 30 to 80. Yes, we depend on the venue to enforce that. Aside from this being what we consider an adult pursuit; we are concerned about interacting with people who bring kids to those places or the people there who might go to see kids. I understand parents wanting to show their kids that there is no shame in their bodies, I just think that’s a really poor venue for that.
If there are ways to be cautious in a nude environment, we certainly try to be.
I really do appreciate you taking the time to read this, and your response!
One can love being naked and be very comfortable being naked, even in front of others (that is, they aren’t shy, they have a very healthy attitude about the human body, and they don’t care who sees them—since it’s just the human body and we all have the same parts—and not be an exhibitionist. One goes out of his/her way to be seen by others; the other doesn’t. If my mom stops over for a visit and I happen to be naked, I don’t shriek and run away in embarrassment and shame. Hubby doesn’t either. No big deal. Nothing my mom (or anyone one else,for that matter) hasn’t seen before. I think it’s a good thing and a positive thing to be comfortable and confident with nudity…especially for women that often struggle with poor body image and low self esteem.
Thanks for the response HT, I couldn't agree with you more. My wife did take a bit longer to get used to nudity, but like many women, she imagines problems with her body, that I just do not see. She's 5'5" – 120 lbs and fit. She looks fabulous to me. For her, nudity was a way of appreciating herself as a part of the natural world, more in tune with it and as a result, more at home with herself. As you say, we all have the same parts!
It’s been mentioned a few times, but I’d just like to chime in and agree: Nudity is a great Segway to body acceptance. Many of us, especially women, tend to struggle with what we perceive as flaws. Being nude conditions us to accept who we without premise, IMHO.
That is exactly so and was for my wife, she can turn some heads on the beach and at the resorts, but it's often what goes on between your ears that fuels your perspective of yourself. Being nude certainly woke her up to the difference between reality and her self perception. She's completely at home being nude and what a vision she is…
Honest time ere, Jim and I have two fav nude beaces we explore a few times every year, and to be honest, I totally love being an exhibitionist; and Jim loves it when I strut my stuff (and he has LOTS of stuff to strut, too)!
I guess I am in the minority here, but that's okay – because I have found that post nude beach sex is extremely hot, and it seems to go on for a minimum of three orgasms!
Good for you CP, being naked on the beach is quite a feeling of freedom, exhibitionism isn’t my primary drive here, but I’ll admit seeing my wife’s fit bod walking toward me, well, you’re right about post-nude beach sex, especially that sex that takes place just on the beach after sunset… her orgasms are notably more intense.
CreamyPatty,
I noticed that you had a few typos in that comment.
Is that because your fingers were busy elsewhere…? 😉
Where are theses nude beaches and clothing optional places? My husband has wanted to do this for many years. I, like many other wives, have been very skeptical but warming up to the idea. Please send specific places and locations. I’ve searched before but not found anything or afraid of the unknown. I’d like to try somewhere where you have beef with good recommendation.
TO47, Well, all I can say is, I’ve been told to keep anything wet and sticky away from my keyboard. You figure it out from there…(hint: my name).
Heh…
Glad to see this post. We went to our first clothing optional resort in Mexico last fall. You are so right about feeling relaxed. We were amazed at the feeling of freedom! Everyone was respectful and there were no social boundaries. You didn’t know if someone was a doctor, lawyer or just an average person that saved for a long time. That was really profound to us. We were welcomed the same by everyone and it was so peaceful. Jill was a bit more apprehensive but found it exhilarating right away. There was nothing sexual out among the others, but we did have some fun spontaneous sex back in our room! Jill had some questions about the “rightness” of it but we never felt convicted. It was so natural feeling.
My biggest question is where can we go that’s not clear down in Mexico?? We live in the Pacific Northwest.
Thanks for the post!!
Hi Jack and Jill!
We’ve been to Mexico as well; it’s a great pace to get naked.
It is a wonderful, natural feeling. I’m glad you both had a great experience and that you try it again. We aren’t often at resorts or beaches being land-locked in Colorado; however we’ve found a few places that we can frequent without having to travel all day to get there.
I’m not too familiar with your area of the country. But there are websites and lists that detail clothing optional places around the country. For us, a place has to be adults only and free of the “lifestyle” vibe so that does narrow things down quite a bit.
We hike in the Rocky Mountains frequently and there are several natural hot springs that the locals know as clothing optional. From time to time we hike to one of those and go nude whether others there do or not. Occasionally we’ll go nude, and others will join in and sometimes they don’t, but it doesn’t deter us. There are other small resorts around here that we visit for a day or so. We frequent a resort in Arizona that’s nice, clean, no kids etc. I’d imagine if you investigate, there are probably some near you. (At least closer than Mexico.)
Good luck on your search friend!
And you should not be convicted for being nude. Or even conflicted. It is good to see more and more people realizing there is nothing sinful about being nude with others.
SecondMarge – Exactly!
In many ways, we feel conflicted putting our clothes back on to go back to our daily life.
We have been sometimes nudists, as opposed to lifestyle nudists, for about 14 years. It started for us on the nude beaches of Spain and it just keeps going. We find that it enriches us inwardly and outwardly, both our connection with each other and God's created world, as well as our erotic awareness and growing our desire for one another. These are all good things, right? It doesn't define us like the lifestyle nudists. God in Christ reconciling the world to himself defines us. But it makes us feel like we are participating more deeply and passionately in God creating us male and female instead of going through the motions of life as observers. We only wish we had begun earlier. We have Christian nude friends. Yes, sometimes arousal enters the picture but that happens when everybody is dressed too. Having a towel handy for oneself can help others feel at ease instead of put on the spot in ways that make them uncomfortable. Earlier this week we were on a nude beach at Punta del Este in South America. We met another Uruguayan couple our ages in part because the openness and lack of filters in going nude together predisposes more conversations that are more open and less about posturing. You shall know the truth, all of it, and the truth shall set you free…if you can handle the truth, right Jesus?
I love the idea of being a nudist & exhibitionist. Yet, I am chicken. Body issues, & lack of support from my wife are the 2 biggest issues. I do go naked around the house when no one is home. But, that is very conservative & cautious with us & the adult kids all living in the same house.
My biggest personal concern is that I am not a fit person. I rarely am the fattest person in the room, but I am chubby. Plus, my cock is a grower not a shower. Meaning, when I'm hard I am all man at 7+ inches & pretty thick. But, when I am soft it disappears. I have been naked in front of others without any shame, same room sex a couple of times, early in our marriage. But, that had all the arousal & purpose of sex behind it. Just casually being there for a social aspect, only, would seem awkward & I feel I would just want to hide, like my penis when soft. But, this is a great post & I am a big fan of it.
HI SCMM,
There’s nothing wrong with being a solo nudist, and if anything, I’d like to encourage you. I know you presented some challenges you face with this, but I personally believe that being a nudist is the purest form of body acceptance.
If you can learn to be comfortable in your own skin, your confidence will soar and it will show in other aspects of your life.
As far as being a grower, not a shower, don’t worry about it. It’s who you are, it’s how God made you, and a guy having confidence in his little man is very important. I know it’s a struggle for a lot of guys in that they feel like they don’t measure up, but as individual men, we really need to appreciate our own package.
All that to say, the first person to accept you should be you, and I’ve found that being naked helps.
I always encourage people to go, as it is a different experience than you think. In our travels we’ve see all shapes, sizes and colors – all having a great time. We’ve made a lot of friends along the way. My wife was hesitant at first, baring it all when you’re self-critical is a hump to get over. She of course looks phenomenal, naked in the sun. Her hang up is being smaller breasted, though she is fit as hell at 5’7’’ and 125. (She also has a gorgeous ass)
As for your wife, I’d suggest a clothing optional place if she’s willing to try. You won’t believe the feeling of freedom and relaxation you get. For you, I’d say go for it. You won’t be the odd guy out in any nude environment. Believe me you’d be the only one judging you.
All great comments KM, the purpose of nudity out on the beach or at some resort is to find that feeling of freedom, unencumbered and unspoiled by the restrictions the rest of the world often visits upon us. To be free, in the company of other like-minded people isn't about judging or measuring ourselves against some idealized standard we have stuck inside our heads.
It's about finding a time to relax and what a way to relax.