Exploration Game

Here’s an idea for a game where the aim is for the couple to explore each other’s bodies and discover what feels good, while enjoying some pleasure, emotional intimacy, and quality time along the way.  This game could be played by couples in any stage of marriage, but I think it would be particularly fun for newlyweds.

Setup

You will need:

• A timer (one with an audible alarm might be helpful)
• At least 1 hour
• Somewhere you can lie down comfortably

This idea is written with the husband being the first explorer, but you can play in whatever order you like.

Part 1

The husband undresses the wife, removing one item of clothing at a time.  Whilst the husband should ‘do the work’ of undressing his wife, the wife may move her body/limbs or wriggle to help him get her out of her clothes where necessary.  When the wife is naked, the husband should take a few moments to admire her body, up-and-down and from every angle, but no touching yet!

The wife then undresses the husband and admires his body in the same way.

Part 2

Set the timer for 5 minutes.

Have the wife lie down on her front (i.e. facing down).  The husband should then take 5 minutes to touch and explore every part of her body that he can reach without turning her over or reaching around to her front. He should try to touch each part at least once.  As he does so, he should comment positively about her, saying what he likes about her.  There will naturally be the inclination to comment on certain physical attributes he finds attractive, but for this phase, he should focus on ways he finds her attractive that aren’t related to her body or sexuality.  Physical and sexual admiring comments will come soon, but not quite yet.

When the timer goes off, reset the timer and swap places so that now the husband is lying on his front.  The wife has 5 minutes to touch and explore every part of his body, again without turning him over or reaching around to his front, and similarly the wife should comment about what she likes and finds attractive about him—again, focusing on things that aren’t sexual, because that will come soon!

Optional addition: Take 5 minutes each to give each other a nice shoulder/back rub. 

Part 3

Set the timer for 5 minutes again.

This time, have the wife lay down on her back (i.e. facing up).  The husband then has 5 minutes to touch and explore every part of her body except her breasts and genitals, again trying to touch each part at least once.  He should continue to comment positively about her, but this time talking about her body and what he finds attractive about it.

When the timer goes off, reset the timer and swap places so that now the husband is lying on his back.  The wife then touches and explores every part of his body except his genitals, and comment about what she finds attractive about his body.

Make sure to make a mental note of what your spouse enjoys, especially those places that you might not have thought about or are less ‘expected’ than the more obvious ones.  And make sure to let your spouse know what feels good!

Part 4

Set the timer for 5 minutes yet again.

Have the wife lay on her back again.  The husband has 5 minutes to continue touching her body, but this time including her breasts and genitals.  However, he should also continue to touch the rest of her body, trying to keep her in a relatively-low-yet-constant state of arousal.  As he does so, he should comment positively about her body, especially her sexy parts, her sexuality and what about her he finds sexy.

When the timer goes off, reset the timer and swap place so that husband is laying face up.  The wife then has 5 minutes to continue touching his body, but this time including his genitals.   Similarly, she should continue to touch the rest of her body, aiming to keep him in a low-but-constant state of arousal.  While doing so, she should comment positively about his body and sexuality.

Part 5

Set the timer for 10 minutes this time.

Have the wife lie on her back again.  The husband has another 10 minutes to continue touching her body, but this time he should be focussing more on arousing her, trying to keep her in a relatively high and constant state of arousal.  He should continue to talk positively about her body and sexuality in a direct and explicit way, about how much she arouses and satisfies him, about what he is planning to do with her, and so on.  When the timer expires, but not before, he should bring her to orgasm in a manner of his choosing.

Finally, have the husband lie on his back again.  The wife has another 10 minutes to continue touching his body, focussing on arousing him and keeping him in a relatively high and constant state of arousal, while continuing to praise his body and sexuality in a direct and explicit way.  When the timer expires, but not before, she should bring him to orgasm in a manner of her choosing.

Variations

• Change the amount of time for each round.
• Use massage oil, especially during parts 2 and 3.
• Use toys, especially during parts 4 and 5.
• Use restraints and/or a blindfold on the lying down partner.

Have fun, and leave a comment to let us know how it went!