Question about Sex and Masturbation During Menstruation
Hello, MH friends! I have two questions for you ladies and couples.
First, how do you manage having sex while you’re on your period? I get that some women probably don’t do it because you might not feel well and it’s messy. But I’ve noticed that I am usually pretty horny during at least part of my period, so I would probably try sex while menstruating. (I mean, if I ever get married lol!).
Second, can you masturbate while on your period? How do you do it? For those of you who know me from my other posts, you may recall that my masturbating technique is almost always face-down on a towel. For me, stimulation of, and pressure on, the entire vulva seems necessary for any enjoyment. But that’s not feasible when I’m gushing blood. What would you ladies suggest?
Mutual masturbation is our go-to during periods. If you’re willing to develop a new technique, my wife loves vibrators that are clit focused during menstruation. It’s not messy and is very orgasmic. [Some couples don’t stop PIV even though it’s messier. You and future hubby will find your groove.].
I'll address masturbation during your period first. From a practical standpoint, it depends on whether you choose to use a tampon or menstrual cup versus a pad. Using your go-to method of masturbation, I'd say the tampon would be your best bet, cup second, and pad third because it will create the greatest barrier between pillow and pubis. That said, there are some very thin pads out there that still offer full protection on even your heaviest days. I found that my clitoris was much more sensitive during my period, and even light pressure through a pad could be effective. With your method, I'd think pillow would grab panties/pad, and the actual friction would be against the pad itself. Depending on absorption, that could afford a very different sensation if you try it. If you are using the tampon or cup, I'd probably still wear panties with a liner to protect the pillow from any leaks during hip thrusting, at least until I felt confident they wouldn't occur. Like Lunk's wife, my go-to is a vibrator, so leaks weren't ever an issue.
Some Christian couples refrain from PIV sex during menstruation based on OT injunctions against it (Lev. 18:19, 20:18), but others consider these laws to have been for the time before Christ. I tend to think that OT God's guidance to Israel has practical purposes, like protecting the womb during its open period; still, I have had sex during my period and even wrote a story about it. (There are a few other posts, both story and discussion, with the title "period sex.") The shower seems to be the most usual place for those who do include sex during their period. Otherwise, there are additional cleaning tasks involved afterward.
I always thought masturbation sex was forbidden. I thought it was dangerous and disgusting. But it turns out there is a certain method. It's actually very pleasurable.
PIV sex was continued as she said my ejaculate and her orgasm helped with cramps. She had to remove her tampon. I have a problem with seeing blood, but sex was still very good. To catch the drips afterward, we used paper towel to get to the bathroom, as it is stronger and does not disintegrate like tissues do. (Never flush paper towel; always put it in the bin.)
Other times, it was my penis inside her panties and rubbing against her lips and clitoris with her tampon still in.
Came here to say that the ejaculate and PIV sex with orgasms while bleeding feels so incredible and totally helps with cramps as well. I prefer to actually have PIV sex even while I am bleeding heavily because it truly helps all symptoms, however the penis inside the panties rubbing my clitoris gets the job done as well. His tip rubbing my clit or even just hubby’s manly fingers against my panties are a good option if we don’t have time/right situation to deal with the mess of me bleeding. I am always pretty horny while I’m on my period too, so I definitely want to cum, and he really doesn’t mind. In fact, he likes how horny it makes me. He can even get me there so easily with his thumb rubbing circles on my clit through my panties with my tampon still in if we’re on the go and I’m cramping bad/super horny.
First off I want to say I am proud of you for recognizing this change during that time of the month happening in your body and second I am proud of you for opening up and asking about it.
Since I was a teen and began bleeding monthly, my mom explained to me (when I asked her how she handled her cramps) that orgasms treated her cramps best. Yes of course I was shocked/slightly red in the face when she said this. But she explained how and why. And I don’t know if it’s a “like mother like daughter” thing…but orgasms are my best friend when I’m on my period.
My husband also really understands that I too (like you) get very horny and aroused during this time of the month. At first, I would get embarrassed because I would be so horny and want my hubby but then I’d have to say something like “ugh but we can’t”. Once he told me he wanted to have sex with me and that my bleeding didn’t change anything for him except make me more “womanly” which he found sexy…I don’t even mind being on my period.
Period sex and masturbating on your period are two very helpful things that no matter how much you feel like crap…every woman should partake in. Oh did I mention the orgasms and feeling down there are way stronger for me too?
There are many vibrators you can use at this time of the month. You can even use any kind of toy it just needs to be washed like you normally would wash it. Oftentimes during that time of the month, I feel I want something filling me and if hubby is away for work I will use a dildo inside and my fingers or a little vibe outside. My vibrating panties are nice if I have house chores to do and want to be stimulated along the way (yes I am extra sensitive and sometimes I find myself losing control washing dishes or folding laundry) but they work best with a tampon in as they rest against your clit. Nothing is off limits for me just because it’s that time of the month. In fact, you can put a towel down and finger yourself…gotta wash your hands after anyways, right? 😉
We never stopped intimacy due to periods. I always say, "That is why indoor showers were invented". It also seemed to help the cramping and shortened the time of her period. If you go to a home healthcare store, you can find absorbent pads you could place under you to collect during solo activity. Get the washable fabric ones; the disposable ones could just end up shredding.