Non-Typical Arousal?
Hi, All.
There are some everyday things my wife can do that, in and of themselves, are not sexy, but I sometimes find them arousing. A few examples might be:
1. The way she twirls her hair when she talks
2. Wearing short shorts and applying lotion to her legs
3. Just putting on pantyhose
4. Removing her bra without taking off her shirt
I can’t be the only one who finds some odd little thing sexy. Do any of you husbands or wives have similar examples?
Perhaps even a brief account of how something like this turned into a quickie or steamy sexcapade?
Or, do any of you singles have some little quirk that you can’t wait to share with your future spouse?
I can’t wait to see your answers!
As always, thank you.
Ooh, fun subject matter! Hmm. Not sure what things about me my future husband might find arousing. I still can't fully see a guy finding me sexy. I'm not gorgeous or classically feminine in appearance. But it seems that the correctly-paired couple always sees each other as beautiful and desirable, so I'm not worrying too much! As for things I find sexy, one would be a guy stripping off his tie and unbuttoning his shirt. Oh, and I love when his jaw or neck muscles flex. A big burly guy holding a baby is also really sweet and attractive. I'll have to chew on this to think of more!
1. I think you’re probably too hard on yourself. No harm meant, but I feel like your probably judging “gorgeous” and “classically feminine” I have no doubt that your future husband will find you beautiful, alluring, and sexy. I also have no doubt that you will find yourself the object of his sexual needs and advances.
2. These examples are exactly what I’m talking about!
Sorry LLL. I reread my comment and realized I didn’t complete my sentence. 🤦♂️
What I meant to say was… I feel like you're probably judging “gorgeous” and “classically feminine” by some standard that you’re erroneously comparing yourself against. I know that many women have trouble seeing themselves as beautiful or sexy, but please, for the love of all that is good and right, stop it.
I don’t mean that you should become prideful, but fall in love with yourself, your body, and your features. God made you like He did, and He doesn’t make mistakes. Speaking from one very red-blooded man’s perspective, the sexiest thing about any woman is her confidence and the way she carries herself. Hand in hand with that is her Spiritual connection with the Almighty. I promise you that your future husband will catch you in the kitchen on your tip toes reaching for something, come up behind you, press his aroused member into your backside, and have his way with you right there. (With your consent, of course.)
Be your alluring, sexy self, and just own it. Don’t put yourself down. Own your own sexy femininity. Because I promise that you are all those things.
^ I would echo what KM has said. First of all a woman that feels sexy IS sexy and it's in how she carries herself. I think self-improvement is important, but especially if it's for yourself and in cultivating habits that build your own confidence. But also your husband isn't going to want to marry you and NOT find you attractive, and no matter what you look like, there are men out there who are into exactly that. Oftentimes I think that women only think they're sexy when they put in an effort or are deliberately trying to be, and it's usually in the midst of just effortlessly being themselves that they are at their most attractive. Also, don't judge by the movies either because they rarely coincide with real life–don't judge men against Robert Taylor and don't judge yourself against Deborah Kerr!
LLL, I will add to KM comments…please work to build your self esteem…your attractiveness and sensuality is not always about being 'gorgeous'…my wife always considered herself plain, overweight and less attractive the first third of our marriage—it took me years to get her to recognize how attractive she really was, and how she was so exciting to me…once I turned the tide, or her attitude changed…then our love life became extraordinary… this is where this site fails bec I feel if someone could talk to someone like yu one on one, it would be so helpful….I use discord to chat w many younger ppl on current topics and things like this where they need some mentoring. I am working on some marriage tips ad tricks for a discussion but wont be ready for awhile..all little things yu can do to set yourself and spouse up for success is great (thats what this upcoming article would be about…
There's something that just sets me off about a woman holding her long hair back with a pair of sunglasses. Like where she is wearing them and then pushes them back to the top of her head? I don't know what it is, but it's like one extra ingredient that makes a sexy woman all that much sexier. Another thing is a good singing voice. I have a hard time resisting the urge to crush on women who can really belt it out…
I get it FM! It’s just one of those little feminine things they do. Thank you for sharing 😉
Well…I hope this isn't giving away too much about myself, but I love singing! And people tell me I have a good voice. It's not trained or anything. I just love music and especially the stuff of the 1940s (as if someone couldn't guess that!). I too love when a guy can sing well. But I am picky. I don't like modern styles of singing, and sadly there just aren't many Frank Sinatras or Vic Damones out there!
Sinatra is of course amazing (as an actor too), but I'd never heard Vic Damone before, so thanks! Someone that's a bit later on so I don't know if you're familiar, but if so, what do you think of Tom Jones? One of my dad's favorites. I'm not sure what you consider "modern" styles of singing but I'm a fan of the blues tradition myself and try to follow in that vein.
I've heard of Tom Jones, but haven't closely listened to him. Isn't he more country-ish? As for blues, it is tied to jazz, and some of the great African-American musicians did blues, so I like some of it! Crooning is my absolute favorite kind of vocal music, and there are a lot of singers out there that many people have never heard of, though they were wonderful and fairly well-known in their day. Check out Marilyn Maye, John Gary, James Darren, and Jeri Southern.
Will do! I'm somewhat familiar with James Darren but certainly the others are new to me. I'm not exactly sure what style Tom Jones is, he seems to have done a lot. Back in the '60s he was probably more in the vein of orchestral backing like the Thunderball theme; I'm not an expert, just know what my dad's played me. But then I couldn't tell you much about Bessie Smith or Billie Holiday either, and really I should know my roots better!
I love my Sir’s hyper-focused sight, when he is deep in thought or simply engrossed in something. It could be him watching a Formula 1 race or cricket, but I still manage to find that stern, serious face alluring and it melts me. I sometimes wish he would suddenly turn his head to me and look at me.
That, and the more assertive and confident tone he takes when telling me some things. Examples are, “we are going out for dinner tonight, do not cook anything, be prepared for when I come home from work.” It could even be when I am anxious or nervous, and he is very collected and takes charge of the situation in a safe and helpful manner. Sir is always keeping me emotionally safe and assures me well in that regard <3
I love that you love those things about your Sir, SophTea. Thank you for sharing
"That stern, serious face…" I love this description, SophTea! It captures the grit of masculinity.
I love similar things KM – putting on hosiery, walking across the room in high heels. I have always been a big leg guy. Wearing one of my shirts. The smell of her perfume still lingering in the bathroom. I love it when she is telling someone how she trusts me and how I take care of her and our household. It is my suspicion all guys would like that – hearing their wife praise their masculine traits.
I love all those things tm76. They’re all very feminine and all very attractive. Sounds like you’re a lucky man 😉
in answer to the wifely tricks….my wife is very well endowed and would wear a camisole type sleeping top with thin straps…sometimes nothing else…but when that was on…it was game on for the night/.
but as my stories reflect, she would dress modestly sexy, show a hint of cleavage sometimes…so I could drool over her all day..same w tight jeans etc…but…one thing was watching her shave her legs….or even just take a shower (I always made it priority to be getting ready at the sink when she was showering (sometimes we were late to wherever !)…another thing was if there was yard work to do….she might seduce me by standing in our kitchen and saying "what will it cost me for you to put down some mulch?" or I would say "what's it worth if I can help yu get some flowers planted today?" all part of the marriage bargaining games. old married couples like to play….like one time we were texting / sexting each other about how when would the kids go home so we could make love in our sunroom, etc TRUE story that one!
That’s all sexy stuff oldmarriedcouple! I’m getting aroused just thinking about the possibilities! Thanks for sharing!
oldmarriedcouple, I was wondering if I could talk you into writing one of those “What would it cost me…,” stories?
My husband can’t keeps his hands off me after a workout. If he’s not home I’ll send him videos and pics of me peeling my sweat soaked workout clothing off
I’m definitely with your husband there. I have a thing for wet feminine skin 🥵
You definitely get five stars for sending him the pics and videos. Your husband is a lucky man 😉
To reply to KingdomMan, Faith-Manages, and oldmarriedcouple…thank you all. Your uplifting words are precious. Though I think I have a fairly healthy view of my appearance and personality, it is sometimes a struggle to not compare myself to others, especially what I consider feminine. It really helps to hear regular guys explain the way they see women; so often, it's way more flattering than we ladies think. So I am learning to take your word for it and just appreciate who I am and what I look like. KingdomMan, your comment about my future husband ravishing me in the kitchen flooded me with heat! Whew! I hope to experience that someday. Loved the wording! 😉 Faith-Manages, thanks for reminding me that real life is not the movies. Though that fact saddens me! ☹️ I know I'm not Deborah Kerr, and I've NEVER seen any man who even got close to Robert Taylor. However, as you yourself said, there are men who like all kinds of women, and vice versa. Obviously some people find an overweight person attractive; someone else finds a very skinny person attractive. We all have preferences for hair, skin, and eye color, height, weight, build, etc., and all of that makes us unique. It also provides for all sorts of couples. So, though I won't say with steely stubbornness that I won't marry any guy if he doesn't look thus-and-so, I am keeping my eye out for a concoction of traits I admire. I think for me the main thing is masculinity. If a guy does not look masculine, I'm just not interested. I'm so old-school and in love with the character and strength of days gone by that I can't stand the effeminate men of today. And for me, masculinity is embodied in the men of the mid-1900s. I've put my desires and preferences in God's hands and will just wait to see what He does. Oldmarriedcouple, I love hearing wisdom from older people. Thank you for yours. I will definitely take what you said to heart. And I look forward to your upcoming discussion article!
LLL I've always thought you had a great attitude and always find inspiration in your words. I also often compare myself to others but comparison is the thief of joy, right? A recent conversation with my pastor helped me remember that sometimes when we don't see ourselves the way we want, an outside perspective can be incredibly uplifting and re-centering. As for everything else, I just pray Psalm 37:4 over absolutely everyone reading this whatever situation you happen to be in.
I typed a comment the day this was first posted but I guess I forgot to hit “Post Comment.”
For me the non-typical arousal thing is my wife in one of her plaid flannel shirts. I have even asked her to wear it alone as a type of non-traditional lingerie. It is amazing at those times to see her large D-cup breasts framed by the plaid pattern.
Melody’s career in science involved a lot of time out in nature and I love to see her in jeans and a plaid shirt while she’s “in her element!” I find that terribly sexy!
I'll echo the putting on pantyhose! Adjusting her pantyhose. She'll also slip her foot in and out of her shoe in church.
I agree stagdoe. Slipping her foot in and out of her shoe is arousing. It’s especially sexy if she does it on purpose because she knows you like it. 😉
My first wife had been my high school girlfriend.
The first time that she did #4 (took off her bra without unbuttoning her shirt), I almost came in my pants! It showed a real "intentionality" about pursuing pleasure with me. The act was sexy, but the thought that it conveyed was even sexier!
• When she goes out in public without a bra on underneath, and her big boobs move freely as she walks
• When she bends over while wearing a dress
• Whenever she bites her lower lip
• When she adjusts her glasses
• When her slight southern accent comes out or whenever she swears or uses profanity
• Whenever she gasps, I want to take her so bad. Cause she gasps whenever I do it, so hearing it in regular life is a sudden and major turn on for me.
• Whenever I see the inside of her mouth and her tongue
• Whenever I see her cleavage or lower back incidentally visible during regular everyday life.
• Whenever she lays on her back on the living room floor and smiles at me.
I could go on…
She we are doing yard work and she bends over and I can see her barely covered breasts in her bra. Or when I'm behind her and she bends over and I see her panty lines and the outline of her fat pussy lips and mound.