Caressing Each Other in the Company of Others
Has anyone here ever had an occasion where you were in the company of others and caressed your mate? How far did it go?
And how far do you think it should go? For instance, when others are around, do you think it’s okay to run a hand up your spouse’s leg toward their crotch? Or cup and fondle their sensitive places like breasts or balls? Does your opinion change if it’s done discreetly (under the table or under the water of a hot tub) or openly?
I think this could be really fun. I haven’t ever done it, though I’ve thought about it.
A corollary question: how open have your conversations been with other couples in a social setting? Have you ever discussed your sex lives? (Favourite positions, fun stories of sexual situations, etc.)
Years ago—many years—my wife and I were in a car with another couple coming back from a multi-day backpacking trip when the other wife began to talk about how much she enjoyed sex. I kind of wanted to prolong the discussion, but wasn’t sure what my wife’s reaction would be if I did. I suspect the other wife was someone easily aroused and was getting horny as we drove, so it would probably have been a quite arousing discussion. My thinking now is that if it focused me on my wife and getting horny for her, there would be no harm done.
Your thoughts and experiences please.
I only engage in PDAs that are not sexual in nature. If I caress my wife, it's her shoulder while my arm is around her.
That said, the first time I had sex with my wife we started out in a movie theater. There was no one else there watching but a few and my wife started touching me everywhere. My boner was raging and we left after watching just a few minutes of the movie. I knew at that point my wife is more of an exhibitionist than me.
My wife will, still to this day, will caress my leg very close to my groin in public. I have to distract her at times because I don't feel comfortable subjecting others to sights they probably don't want to see. I also don't want raging boners in public. It's obscene in my mind and I have to start thinking of gross disgusting things to get it to go away so others can't see
In my mind, if there is a possibility of a child or other innocent seeing something they shouldn't, then I am not living a very Christian life.
That said PDAs that reinforce the idea of a lifetime of commitment and love separated from lust are certainly fine. A hug, caress of the arm, hand holding, arm around her while we sit are all fine in my book.
Christians must be mindful of the martial bed. Inviting others into it is an invitation to sin. While there might be instances where we get each other super horny and must satiate our mutual desires, I would prefer to find a private spot to do it.
My Wife and I were visiting her Parents soon after we married and were sitting together on the settee talking and half watching the television at the same time when she leaned towards me and gave me a lip to lip kiss. My Mother-in-law said ‘you can do better than that, you are married now, have a proper kiss’. After an awkward moment or two we opened our mouths and did a slow bit of mutual tongue-play which felt good ! She said ‘that’s more like it’.
Wow! That is awesome! I love the openness & the support for you 2 in front of your mil, & her willingness to coach & watch. Very mature. Very sexy.
For us it’s a matter of being discreet. We don’t really talk openly about sex with other couples, but we haven’t done touch points at times. Nothing too crazy, but every once in awhile we will watch a movie with the kids or with the in-laws and when we have a blanket over us, I’ll slip my hand in the back of her pants. Usually that’s as far as it goes, but it speeds up the heart rate.
I'll slip my hand to my wife's butt while shopping in public. Sometimes even down her pants. I think much more than that in public is indecent. Being so enamored with each other that you strip each other right there where anyone can see might be a delightful fantasy, but it's improper (and illegal). The general public hadn't contented to that, and children could see, too. In more private settings where everyone knows each other, I think there's a lot more leeway
I am drawn to and aroused by controlled risks. Of course, context and setting does make a difference.
For example, sitting in the pew on Sunday morning wouldn’t allow for the same liberties as a secluded booth in a somewhat dimly lit restaurant.
PDA, if you are careful, can be a real turn on. I have flashed Tom in restaurants, while he was working, on zoom calls, in hardware stores. We have made each other cum on long overnight flights when the passengers around us were asleep (I hope!) Hugs, kisses, lingering touches are ok in the right setting. I let Tom feel me up at a movie or rock concert, reliving our youth, but we aren’t the only ones doing that! As far as discussing our sex lives with friends, nope. Keep it private, please!
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Very cool!
Some appropriate PDA is nice. Little things like scratching each other’s back, brief kissing, hugging, hand in thigh etc. We don’t touch erotic areas in public – except sometimes when we’re alone in our car. But we try to keep it hidden from other people’s view.
However, we have had car petting turn into sex outside and once we almost got caught. It was at a national wildlife refuge.
20ys together we have had some fun. I'll hug her and kiss her in any public place like teenage love but anything else is more discreet or at least around adults that don't care. Ive played with her nipples at the Drive in movies, yes there are still some, I've rubbed oil under her shirt in front of her sister and we have skinny dipped with others.
We do stuff like that when others aren’t looking…..or at least when we think they aren’t! We have been caught, and watched in the past, but not on purpose!
We do know another couple, that gets there jollies by being anything but discreet with the grabbing and fondling around others. Very much exhibitionists, and are nudists besides!
Yeah love it in public unfortunately my wife dosent.
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PDA is a moderate liberty that I can take with my wife.
We both pat one another's butt in public. Me more than her, even in church. However, this is her limit, but allows me a little more liberty. Curious as to why this is given her control aspect of all else sex. But, I go with it.
We kiss, no tongue, in public anywhere, for any reason.
I have felt her pussy lips over her pants in restaurants. The kids sitting across from us. One time while my parents were with us.
I have grabbed her tit, over her shirt, in the car while driving. In town, mall parking lot, whenever.
One time, at the grocery store, which gets me horny just walking around grocery shopping, with her. We once saw another couple across the way from our aisle. He was literally fingering her pussy over her leggings, like with an itching or scratching motion with his fingers from behind. It was somewhat hidden from the crowds of people filing by, but from our angle you saw it all, if you happen to be looking. I asked my wife if she saw that. She said she did. I made mention of how he was going to town with it. And, she acknowledged that fact with a bit of an approving tone.
However, I can that is discreet she will usually meet it with a laugh, or a surprised yelp. But, she allows it. Over or under clothes. Whenever.
We have had sexual discussions years ago. Now, I don't think it would be inappropriate for either of us in the right company. But, hasn't happened in a long time. Had led to same room sex a few times, back then.