What Do You Do With Attraction?

This question can apply to anyone, male or female, married or single.

A comment I saw by Tutchh got me to thinking. She mentioned that she and her husband M share and discuss their attractions. I believe her, but to me, this type of openness and honesty almost defies the imagination.

Natural attraction just happens. It’s true that it can develop over time between two people who slowly get to know each other, but that’s not the point here. I’m talking about the sudden, unbidden, unwanted, and unpursued type of attraction that rises up in us without warning.

It may be caused by pheromones, a subconscious recognition of desirable attributes, and/or some other unknown chemical reaction in the brain. But whether we admit it or not, it happens to all of us and in my opinion, it’s impossible to control your body’s natural reaction (i.e. wetness, arousal, erection, etc.).

So, ruling out infidelity, fornication, or any other intent to act immorally, consider the following questions:

1. Do you share these attractions with your spouse?

2. Do you privately use these attractions for solo purposes?

3. Do you suppress them?