Slip and Slide
By: Mike Linksvayer
Recently we stumbled upon something that we both really like and I thought it would be fun to share and see if anyone else already does something similar.
This came about after some experimentation while dealing with some dryness/irritation issues. Lubes were out as she said they make her feel sticky down below afterwards and she doesn’t like it.
It’s been a problem, though not a large one. I’d gotten some really light-weight water based lube for us, but she’s been unwilling to try it. So I got to thinking about what we could use and it hit me – pre-cum.
More correctly called Cowper’s fluid or preseminal fluid, its the clear fluid that leaks from the penis for many men as they get aroused.
I produce a decent amount, enough that it will drip down my shaft. Now usually, it ends up getting the sheets wet or on my leg because we ignored it. But while I was thinking about our problem, I realized it was slippery. I didn’t have to interrupt love-making to get it out of the nightstand. And I almost always have a ready supply, though I only get a lot if my cock is being stimulated.
So, here’s what we do now – we start out lying next to each other, me playing with her and she with me. As I get aroused, I reach down to the tip of my cock and get my finger all slick with pre-cum.
Once I’m slicked up, I slide my finger between her pussy lips and very lightly run my slippery digit over the top of her clit. Because its still early goings for her, that’s all the moisture there is, so I’ll usually have to go back to the well three or four times to make sure there’s enough lube for her to be comfortable as I play with her clit. However, once I’ve got it slicked up – oh yeah!
Every time I re-coat and touch her – the moans of delight! I use the lightest of pressure as I know she’s still warming up. And I re-dip as soon as it starts to feel tacky. This lights her fire fast.
Sometimes I’ll slip down from her clit to the opening of her vagina, coating everything in between. After awhile, I’ll rub some of my pre-cum just inside the entrance, to help get her ready. She loves it. I think part of it for her is knowing it actually comes from me. She doesn’t like to give oral – the taste and the thought of it are off-putting. But this allows her to accept something from me with no reservation in a way that we both enjoy.
The best part about this for me is feeling her hand jacking my cock off when I reach down. It is so arousing for me to have her hand bumping into mine. Something kinda naughty. I don’t know, but I love it. And she gets SO excited when I do reach down because she knows just how good my next touch is going to feel to her. She strokes me extra fast in those moments, caught up in the anticipation.
Occasionally, to my everlasting delight, I will kneel between her legs and she will place my cock tip right on her clit. Then she jacks my cock, spreading the pre-cum right onto her little nub. Oh man…the sight, the feeling of that. Watching her take my cock in her hand, looking down on her perfect, naked body, having her guide my member right to her sex? Wow. Nearly pushes me over the edge each time.
The nice thing about this for us is that it changed foreplay into a couples activity. I’ve mentioned before my wife’s longer foreplay requirements and even though we’ve tried to have her touching me while I help her, it just hadn’t been very satisfying for me. She’d get distracted or too focused on trying to make sure she was ready that I felt left out.
Now though, we’re connected during the process. We’ve united in one more aspect of our love making that I hadn’t even really realized was as big a problem for me as it had been. There had been a wall for me – an emotional one. I felt like I was giving all this time to make sure she was taken care of and by the time I got into the action, her high arousal pushed us both over the edge so fast that I didn’t feel satisfied. It’s a selfish way of thinking, I know, but that was how I felt, even though I couldn’t even put it into words.
This new approach for us has been such a blessing. We both get ample time to get hot and bothered with all that wonderful sensation during the build-up. There’s no resentment on my part and she gets to have the wonderful, pleasurable experience without having to worry about how she will feel after.
The nicest corralary to all of this is that because of the way we do it and the way we mix what we each produce, we don’t have the issues with dryness anymore. Stacey gets far wetter doing this than ANY other form of foreplay, including oral (which we both still love). Sex goes longer and has been more vigorous than ever before.
So, is it just us? Or is there anybody else out there that does something similar?
I think this is great! I’m with your wife, I hate lube too! Use what’s at hand! 🙂
On a more general note, I have to say that I really like what this post represents. And I hope you won’t be offended by what I’m about to say, and maybe I’m reading too much into the post, .. But it seems like You guys had a potentially awkward sexual situation and rather than feeling weird about it, you found a solution and found out it was a total turn on for both of you.
Sometimes I wonder what people think visiting this site and reading all of our perfect sex stories. Do they think all if our sex is really as perfect as what we write? Do they think all if us are always ready for action any time our spouse says the word? Because I’m not. And I know my husband isn’t either.
I love this post because it says to me that it’s okay to have a bedroom hiccup like dryness or pre-ejaculation, or an inability to orgasm or maybe even a weird kinky fetish that isn’t shared by both parties. Or whatever! It’s okay to have an issue and it’s okay to work through it. And funny how God works, but sometimes the things that seemed like an obstacle at first totally become huge turn-ons when we are willing to put in the effort and creativity to work through them.
So anyway, I’m really glad you shared this story. Thanks!
Thank for the comment, Eva. And I totally agree with your point about the “perfect” stories that might come up here on MH.
I think in a lot of ways, that is part of the reason I am hesitant to get super involved with social media. Too many studies (and my own personal experience) has shown that the majority of people post only the positive things, making everybody seem happier, healthier, more in control than me.
The reasons make sense, but the effects are still present.
I think that’s why with MH, part of what I feel drawn to write about are my own personal breakthroughs. I can’t speak for anyone else, no even my sweetie, on what is or isn’t working. I can only speak for me. And, while I will never complain about my sex life, I can desire.
And part of what MH has done for me is give me the confidence to speak that desire to the one I share my life with. It has made me less afraid to talk with her, less anxious that I’m going to be shot down or turned away.
So, thank you again for your comment. It helps remind me that the only way to keep progressing is to never “get satisfied”. Realize that things can and should always get better. And that I have the right girl to do that with.
Cheers.
I love both of the comments from Eva and Eli. I have chosen not to focus on the struggles that my wife and I have had at different times in 29 years of marriage – in writing on MH. I have conveyed that we have come a long way in that time – by God’s grace. We have learned so much in the later years that we can’t believe we didn’t even think about in our earlier years. We certainly have faced different frustrations sexually that we didn’t even know how to talk about at different times. I am amazed at some of the stories of newly marrieds – showing that they are much more sexually knowledgeable that my wife and I were for our first 10 to 15 years. We have certainly come through many breakthrough moments. I hope the tenor of my stories have not led to a “perfect sex life” picture. If they have, I apologize! They certainly are some of our mountaintop experiences. I do want to add that our sexual frequency has risen to an all-time high in the last 10 years of our marriage – we are grateful to God for His goodness. We are still a work in progress! God bless you!
Being a mature couple (50’s) dryness has been an issue for us too. In order for her to relax and get warmed up my wife and I have come up with a similar solution. While she is laying on her back I kneel between her legs and present her with my member to play with. She takes it between two fingers and uses it as a sex toys to rub her clit and outer lips as fast or slow as she needs to build up her juices. It’s a blast to watch and sometimes I tell her to keep going until she cums. Then she is definitely ready for me and usually gets a two for one.