I’ve been married 24 years. We have lived through infertility and the taking care of our parents. Our adopted son is almost grown. Finally we have time and some freedom. I have read with fascination the lavish praise husband’s
have for their wife’s vagina. I have spent months trying to interest him. He says he has no desire and that it is not me, but him. We were making small strides in intimacy but he has never been one to rub my feet or linger between my legs. He tried oral once on me and never again. He said it wasn’t his thing. Finally after I asked him he said that I have a vaginal odor and have always had it.
Needless to say I am headed to gyn this week. Part of me is glad he said something because if it is true, surely it can be fixed. The other part is extremely embarrassed and hurt. How can I ever confidently let him near me again without it being in the back of my mind that he think my vaginal odor stinks? Right now I’m mortified to even be in the same room and I don’t want to ever have sex again.
Maybe it is menopausal hormones. I have always been self conscious about my body and especially odor. I shower, change underwear, wash my clothes, wear perfume, and trim the area. Surely I am not the only one to deal with. What would you do?
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