Prayer Request

Dear Marriage Heat family,

I wanted to ask you all for your prayers for me and my wife. Ever since she was in the third trimester of her pregnancy (From June-Sept 2014) she has been dealing with extreme fatigue and low libido. At first we thought it was just the pregnancy and third trimester. Then we attributed it to having a newborn. But when the baby started sleeping through the night, the fatigue and low libido was still an issue. Toward the end of last year we heard about something called “hypo thyroidism” and we started researching it. The more we looked into it, the more we felt like my wife had all the symptoms of this. So she made an appointment with an endocronologist.

He did blood work and that came back normal. He did an ultrasound of her thyroid and saw she had some spots on her thyroid called “nodules.” He said lots of people have them, but he did a biopsy just to check them out. One side came out okay, but the other side had some cells that were “concerning” to him. He said there was also some calcium buildup in those nodules. He said those two together are possible signs of cancer. So he sent her to an ENT surgeon.

The surgeon wants to remove half her thyroid and then send it immediately to a pathologist. If the pathologist still sees some issues of concern, they want to remove the entire thyroid. If there isn’t much concern, then they will leave the other half of the thyroid. When we talked to the surgeon the other day, he seemed very positive about this. He said he couldn’t confirm or deny that this was, in fact, cancer. Just that there were two factors present that could indicate cancer. He said he has seen people with those same factors and it turned out not to be cancer, but they are taking precaution just to be on the safe side. He did say that if it was cancer, thyroid cancer is not an aggressive form of cancer and by removing the thyroid that will take care of it.

So she is scheduled for surgery on May 6th. They will remove half the thyroid for sure and possibly the other half as well. The doctor said this surgery should only take about an hour and most people have the surgery on Friday and are back at work on Monday. They may have a sore throat for a few days afterward, but recovery isn’t too bad. But it’s still surgery. And the only surgery my wife has had was the C-section. So she’s pretty nervous. Talking with the doctor and hearing how positive he sounded about this has helped a lot. But we are still nervous about the whole thing.

So we would appreciate your prayers over this situation. In addition to this, 2 days before this appointment, my wife was in a car accident. She wasn’t hurt, but the car got damaged pretty good. Someone hit her on the passenger side and it smashed in the front passenger door. The front and rear passenger doors won’t open now. Fortunately, our daughter wasn’t in the car at the time. We think the person was trying to change lanes and didn’t see my wife and slammed into her.

Also, we would appreciate your prayers for a solution to the low libido. We don’t think this is connected to the thyroid issue. Once he saw the nodules he focused on that before he could deal with the low libido. My wife has been told she has PCOS and that can cause low libido. But ever since the third trimester it has really dropped and not really come back. She reports that she has to focus with all she has to orgasm and even then the orgasms aren’t as strong as they used to be. She also doesn’t get that horny feeling. Ever. So it’s been frustrating for both of us. She has tried to push through it, but it has affected our sex life negatively. So we would appreciate prayers for them to find a solution to that after the surgery. So it’s been a rough last couple of weeks.

Thanks in advance for your prayers. I will update you after the surgery.

P.S. – to the MH administrators: I have been thinking you should add a “category” specifically for “prayer requests.” That way when someone has a prayer request, especially one that has to do with or that affects their sex life, they could post it on here. I mean you can’t exactly ask your Bible study group to pray for your wife’s low libido situation. LOL! But asking for prayers for that (or any other sexual related issue) on Marriage Heat would be perfect. I was looking through the categories to put this in and I settled on “Heat Wisdom.” But we really need a prayer request section for stuff like this. Just a suggestion.

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18 replies
  1. oshutch says:

    I strongly concur with your request. These issues can't always be brought up in your Bible study easily; especially the sexual impact that couples may be having. We'll keep you in our prayers!

  2. TPC says:

    HH,
    Wow, you all have a lot going on in your family. Thankful that you are asking the MH community for prayer support. Praying that you and your wife sense the Lord's presence as He has you walk thru this valley for His glory. Blessings – Jason

  3. Lovinghusband says:

    Dear HH,

    I just prayed for you both. I had cancer years ago and know this fear of the unknown. May God not only bring wisdom but also comfort in the midst of waiting for results. My heart goes out to you both! God will bring you through this! Please keep your MH family updated as you can. In our Savior's love, LH.

  4. Anonymous says:

    We are praying for you and your sweet wife, brother. Thank you for letting us know, may God give comfort and wisdom. What a great idea to add a "prayer requests" category. That would also give us the opportunity to see how God answers the prayers we post! May the Savior continue to bless you with His presence.

  5. FutureWifey says:

    Prayers for you! Healthcare and endocrinology especially are a huge passion of mine. One thing I've learned from my own thyroid/endocrine issues is that make sure your doctor is checking all your thyroid hormones. A lot of doctors just check T4 and TSH. And I learned the hard way that blood work isn't always the be all tell all. My Levels were on the low end of normal, but still "normal". I still had hypothyroid symptoms so my doctor put me on a small dose anyways and it really helped!!! I've spent a lot of time changing diet, seeing new doctors, and researching the affects of the thyroid, and all I can say is don't let your wife stop getting medical help until she truly feels good again. It sounds like she's had this issue for awhile now, and sometimes we can forget what it feels like to feel good! So if she doesn't feel 100% keep searching, something in her body is off even if it's not her thyroid. Btw go you for being supportive of your wife ? Everyone on this site is so awesome!

  6. PatientPassion says:

    Prayers coming from here as well! I have been going through some significant health challenges myself over the past several years. Through that process and some other events, I have learned some things in the health and medical world, some of which may help. I think God wants me to share what information I have in order to try to help you and your wife, but some of it can be quite extensive and I haven't found a way to send a private message to you. (I'm NOT a doctor, but as a Christian I believe it's my duty to help other believers and human beings wherever possible.) Is there a way I could speak with you, over email perhaps, without overloading this comments section?

  7. Honeygirl says:

    So sorry for all you both are going through, especially your wife! Not being in control of our own bodies is a scary & frustrating thing! Definitely lifting you up in prayer!

  8. Benny says:

    Prayer is wonderful and you have mine, but I am glad that you realize that modern healthcare is also a gift from God. Professionally, I deal with thyroid problems on a daily basis. Your care plan is sound and mainstream. Thyroid nodules, however, do not usually cause fatigue and loss of interest in things that give pleasure (anhedonism). Besides a low thyroid level, several things can cause those symptoms. Vitamin D deficiency is one of the most common. Sleep apnea after pregnancy weight gain, anemia, post-partum depression, fibromyalgia, and the early stages of hypothyroidism with "normal" labs are also common causes. If depression is not a cause, it often becomes an additional factor due to the chronic nature of feeling awful for over a year, and it likely needs addressing. I appreciate MH and the open discussion of one of the great gifts from God, our sexuality. It is under discussed in Christianity and a core part of our beings. Mental health issues are also under discussed and too often are a source of unnecessary shame. Yet they, at some point, will either affect us as individuals, or they will force the need to develop understanding as a loved one is confronted with these difficulties. You will particularly have my prayers on May 6 for the surgery. Oh yea, you have an optimistic surgeon. Don't be surprised if it takes at least a week to get back to work.

  9. Mitch L says:

    I have prayed for you as well. I love the outpour of support that Marriage Heat is showing. It's conforting and heart-warming. I am only speaking and believing positive results for you both. I also believe you will receive a miraculous healing. Find words of positivity and faith and listen to it as much as humanly possible. Your only job is to believe and let God do the rest.

  10. HornyHubby says:

    Just wanted to give everyone a quick update: My wife has been feeling much better recently. She hasn't been as tired and she has even been more horny than usual! Plus God has been showing her some more things that has helped her to experience more freedom with her sexuality. So much so that she has had TWO separate solo masturbation sessions recently and she hasn't typically been much into solo masturbation over the years.

    Also, the insurance company settled on the claim with her car and they are mailing us a check. So thanks everyone for your prayers. They are obviously working! Please continue to pray about the surgery itself.

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