The following is a question posed to our wives to possibly help us husbands understand what foreplay has to consist of and how to shorten the time it takes for our wives to orgasm. The real question is whether there has been some bad societal teaching that is causing the disparity in orgasm time between husbands and wives.
I once read that studies that indicated women in Amazon primitive societies cum in the same length of time that men do on average. That being true, it would imply that the time for western women is lengthened by their learning of inhibitions.
My question is:
For a woman who has not been taught that sex is somehow dirty or to be hidden; how long does it take to orgasm using a sex toy? Does it take the same length of time it takes with your husband? Do you spend an hour in foreplay or can you lubricate the toy and go directly to masturbation alone and touching yourselves?
If you can go directly to self-stimulation it might imply that the length of time for foreplay and the time to orgasm is influenced by mental inhibition and learning. That it is cultural and not physical. That your husbands could go directly to perhaps oral stimulation as foreplay before intercourse. I do not believe that one could go directly to intercourse without some kind of foreplay, but could oral sex alone be an adequate method of foreplay? Like for instance waking you up by performing cullingus on you? Is that adequate foreplay?
For us men, it is quite possible to go directly to hand or oral stimulation without any time touching before playing with our member. We often daydream of our wives doing just that. We dream of cumming on your face. We dream of having you truly eagerly swallow our juices. We wish that you would play with our member without being asked. We wish that you enjoyed making us cum. We wish that you loved feeling the power that you have over us, that you truly enjoyed seeing us cum. That you tried to see how you could make us climax on your breasts. That you dreamed of ways and places where you could show your love and desire for us. We long to do that to you, to make you cum too!
Why is that not possible for wives? Why can't we just remove your panties as you come in from work or from the store or where ever you were and begin tasting and licking your delicious pussy? We dream of sucking your female wifely juices and allowing them to run over faces. We will sometimes leave a little on our beards and/or mustaches to smell and savor the taste for later. We spend our days dreaming of the wonderful smell and taste and the feel of your orgasm on our faces, but have very little luck carrying out the dream!
As we have aged, our member may not be as erect as it used to be, but that does not stop us from wanting to and dreaming of giving you pleasure. And when we are unable to fulfill our dream of giving you pleasure, we feel like failures. What holds you back from fulfilling the dream of doing that for you? What holds you back from wanting and dreaming of receiving and giving that kind of love to us. Love to us is your ability to lose yourselves in the moment and to enjoy the feel of being tasted. The feel of your orgasm on our faces. We need you to want it, to long for it, so much so that you too are like primitive women who can orgasm almost by anticipating getting home.
But, do not fake it!
Faking is destructive to your marriage. To fake it is not Biblical, it is not loving, and when we learn the signs that you are faking, we will lose interest in our marriage. We cannot fake orgasm. There is visible evidence left behind and it is hard for us to have multiple orgasms. You, wives, don't have that problem. I have a suspicion though that if you really enjoyed making us cum, it might reduce the time it takes you to cum too. If giving was an act of love that was anticipated and looked forward to rather than a chore, that receiving might become less inhibited. Am I wrong?
Do you wives look for ways and places that you can make your husbands cum? Do you savor the taste like we do yours? Do you climb into the shower with him unannounced just to ask him to taste your pussy? I would love to eat my wife's va-jay-jay like that! Do you wake him up by sitting on his face because the thought of him licking you was too much to delay! Do you wake him by climbing into the 69 position and starting to make him cum too? Then does he lick around your labia? Does he delight in sucking your pussy? Do you dream of showering and then after just laying back on the bed or in a chair and calling him into just to lick your pussy like he was your slave? We do! Do you wives think and dream of doing that for the one God gave you? We wish you did. We do! We have dreams like that several times a day! I dreamed of that this morning and am dreaming of that right now and had that thought and daydream yesterday and the day before too!
We may tell you that it means nothing to us if you don't enjoy oral sex, both giving and receiving, and that it means nothing if you don't swallow. We are lying! If we perform oral sex on you, you best believe we swallow your honeydew and love it! When we kiss you on the mouth or your pussy we are tasting your liquid honey that our Father has provided for us. We consider you succulent! Could it be that your foreplay time might lessen if you thought and dreamed of us, your husbands, the same way?