From Pre-Marital Fantasy to Reality: Comments?
A good friend of mine is getting hitched soon. Seeing their excitement reminds me of several fun thoughts and memories.
Here are a few questions to spark comments and stories:
What were some fantasies you had before getting married that you eventually shared with your spouse after marriage?
Did any of those fantasies surprise you (or them)?
And what was something your spouse did early on in your marriage that added extra heat to intimacy?
[Note from MH: Due to the nature of this post, we recognize the need for longer comments.]
Before getting married to my girl, I always had the fantasy for role play. Hers was wearing sexy lingerie costumes with heels.
She used to tell me that her pussy was dripping when I touched her. So before marriage, I dreamed of licking her juices in a public place.
Even though I had a lot of fantasies, i think some of them are not appropriate to mention.
But outdoors, getting caught, sex on the beach – they were all on the top of my list.
We do sexy things in our marriage and our fantasies have increased mutually.
We were not into anal but now we are very much into it.
It's not just before marriage. Even after marriage, you fantasize a lot about your babe.
Sexy lingere costumes with heels. One of my top, if not my top fantasy along with masturbation. The masturbation fantasy involves being caught/catching, being watched/watching, and finally, mutual masturbation.
Interesting questions.
Teasing has always been a big part of our relationship. I don’t think I ever explicitly told Katie that I fantasized about her slowly seducing me when we were first married but somehow she intuited it.
I’m one of those people who is a slow eater. I like to savor, I like to take my time when it’s something pleasurable. So for me, edging has always been a big one.
I love when my wife brings me to the brink of orgasm and takes me back down again. I love when she dresses provocatively or talks dirty to me at dinner parties. I LOVE her in leggings minus the panties—something she knows revs my engine. I love being able to ogle her, feel her, long for her.
Luckily for us, Katie loves teasing as much or more than I love being teased. She loves to be desired but is also a spirited woman who likes to initiate, so it works for us.
Love when she wears skimpy bikinis on vacation, tight skirts, short shorts, low cut tops. Damnit I just love seeing her all dolled up and sexy looking, especially when I know it’s cause she wants a reaction from me.
What can I say, I’m an animal for her. We both love the chase, the push and pull, and that final capture where she surrenders her hot, teasing little body to me for the taking.
Oh and one more. Guess this goes without saying but one of my biggest fantasies of her is her dancing on a stage for me at a strip club—or hell, even just our bedroom. The thought is enough to drive me insane.
I’ve encouraged her to take pole dancing/lap dancing classes but it’s just never worked out for us time wise. I also think she knows I want it too much. It’s like the final card to play but once it’s played…what’s next, right?
Her stripping for me is such a fantasy though.
I know she’ll read this too lol. So honey, I know I don’t bring it up very often, but if you’re ever ready, so am I ?
I had always longed to enjoy sex in a pool with my wife.
We have a small above ground pool she never felt was private enough, even with our 6 foot privacy fence.
So, I clamped poster boards around the rail of our pool so any voyeurs wold need to be 9 feet tall or possess x-ray vision to invade our privacy. All single story homes around us.
This seemed to allay fears of being seen naked in our little pool.
Finally, well into our marriage we got in, removed our suits and swam in the nude, complete with much fondling, touching kissing, and whispered professions of our love.of more than 35 years!
Then, something I never expected, she wrapped her lovely legs about my waist and proceeded to mount my erection. Penetration was aided by WET PLATINUM, a silicone based lube that does not wash away in the water.
It took decades to get there but, fantasy fulfilled and did NOT disappoint.
Coitus not often on menu in the pool but, I AM regularly pleasured in the pool by my bride of more that 3 decades.
Patience Pays.
beautiful one i even want to be in pool with my babe like that… Ahhh have a lot of fantasies with her.
My fantasies were simple.
I wanted to eat her pussy. And I did….first thing!
I wanted a blow job, and to cum in her mouth. That took a little longer.
Her's were more complicated.
She wanted sex outdoors. We started camping a lot, which made that possible!
She wanted oral after sex. Never told me, but when it happened, basically by accident, she did let me know about it when I asked her where the unbelievable orgasm came from. Had to do it again….to test the fantasy!
And, she wanted to try some toys. I didn't argue!
Going by my own experiences I’m certain many fantasies we keep to ourselves. Some we never intend to actually participate in. Everyone has a different definition of acceptable fantasies. Some feel there are only ones that are unacceptable to do. How do we restrict imagination except to keep it to ourselves.
Man with a Plan
I hope my husband doesn’t read about your fantasy about seeing your wife dance in a strip club.
I always fantasized about sucking his cock. I never did it, never even mentioned it. He spoke about his fantasies and tried some of them like fingering me. The nearest I came to sucking him was when I rubbed it and moved my mouth over his trousers. I must admit two things.
1. He loathed the Idea of a woman playing with his cock even from outer pants.
2. I made signs that I was a cock sucker and well experienced in it.
The talk was enough for him to passionately kiss and make out, we reserved everything else until we were married.
Not fantasy but reality. Soon we were married and at first, it was only sex and him fingering me. When I initiated cock sucking, he was against it and only gave a reluctant nod. Then it just seemed to change overnight. Suddenly we became experts at oral, an I quickly taught him tricks I had learned from heavy petting (without sex). The difference now was no more heavy petting but fully fledged sex, and related.