Am I a small-minded person? I am an ordained minister from a conservative background. I know that when you read that conservative part, you may automatically think anti-sex. You would be partially correct. Sex was a struggle for me from the age of seven. I understood then that questions about anything below the beltline were never answered truthfully nor should they be asked. Perhaps the prevailing attitude actually stemmed from embarrassment and lack of knowledge disguised in religious belief.
It took some time to realize that Romans 9:20 applied to me personally. “Why have you made me thus?” became not an accusation but a question of discovery. Why am I like that this? There was no day in my life that I decided, “Today is the day I am going to like boobs.” I simply looked out my window, there were boobs, and I was hooked. (I had a neighbor who was less uptight than my family.)
I struggled for years over what I liked. I had come to believe that all I wanted were wicked things. I prayed to change. I prayed to be better. I prayed to die.
I realized as an adult, after learning more than they taught in bible school, that God didn’t create sex for a snare. He created it for joy. It is we as humans who sometimes pervert it.
I no longer become angry when someone says, “Hey man, you have a good looking wife.” I do have a good looking wife who has been led to choose me over all others. I now enjoy it when others see and appreciate her beauty, for there is none like her.
I no longer wonder why I was made to enjoy this. God makes no mistakes. I like to hear comments, and I revel in my wife.
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