I wrote a comment on the story by jasonrose. He told of the first time his wife used a vibrator. I will include much of my comment here, but I am adding lots more details.
I know that some Christians look down on sex toys. But they have really improved our lovemaking sessions, especially as age and medical conditions have come along.
Vibrators are particularly wonderful! I know some women can orgasm from intercourse alone, but that is rare for my wife (and lots of other women too). A good vibrator can make a big difference. For us, vibrators helped us to keep enjoying sex in spite of medical conditions.
I got Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA) at an early age. We had only been married a few years, but RA can hit at any time. It is actually the #1 crippler of young adults. I am—thanks to God—still mobile, but my hands were affected early on. When we were first married, I could stimulate my wife’s ladyparts for hours. (She has fibromyalgia, so she needed a long time to get close to orgasm.) I would then slip inside her, and the enthusiastic intercourse would bring her and me to usually simultaneous orgasms. It took about an hour for her to be ready, but it was very nice. Often we had three or more orgasms each in one lovemaking session. The second and third orgasms took less time. It often meant that we didn’t get enough sleep, but what a trade-off!
But the RA started to get in the way. My fingers just couldn’t do it that long anymore. So, with some trepidation, I bought my lovely sexy wife a vibrator. I was grateful that she gave it a try. It worked great!
Not all vibrators are created equally. She likes them with a strong buzz. We’ve had bullet vibes and 8-inch-long ones. We have gone through many batteries and finally got rechargeable vibrators. We have had lots of sexual pleasure and marital joy as we have worn out several vibrators over the years. Often we use two at once, one larger one inside her love tunnel and a smaller one outside on her clitoris.
For me, a vibrator feels weird. I don’t like the feel of it anywhere… except when my wife uses it as my erection is inside her vagina. Then the sensations are magnified for me, and quite honestly, I stay harder. I have a bad heart, so the meds I’m on can cause problems. Used in this way, the vibrator helps me too! Holding the vibrators in my fingers or hands to tease and stimulate my wife has never bothered me.
I think that no one needs to be hesitant to get a vibrator. We never travel without at least two. Once the TSA (airport security) opened my wife’s carry on bag and pulled out a 4-inch vibrator and asked me what it was. I had to explain it to him, and he looked at my wife and grinned. She was embarrassed, and we both were annoyed. You probably don’t want to travel with a rechargeable vibrator, because they can accidentally get turned on by the bag being jostled. We bring AA battery-powered vibes when we travel. That way, we can remove the batteries when in transit.
For us, a typical lovemaking session starts with us kissing then taking turns on each other’s nipples. Yes, guys, it can feel great to a man too. My wife is very skilled at it, as well. Next, we may stroke each other’s gender-specific parts. I will add some coconut oil and flavored aloe to my wife’s ladyplace. That includes up inside her.
I’ll get the vibrator and hold it to her clitoris. Then she’ll take it and keep it there while I go to town more on her beautiful breasts and nipples. We discovered a new thing last year that we call tip on nip. I will masturbate while rubbing the tip of my hard penis on her nipple. Sometimes (along with the vibe on her clit), this will trigger her first orgasm of the session. Of course, if she doesn’t come from lips on nip or tip on nip, we go into our X position.
We incorporate the vibe as part of our foreplay and intercourse. She loves to have my mouth and hands stimulating her nipples. She’ll get close to orgasm while I love on her nipples and she holds the vibe on her clit. Then we do a perpendicular “X” position, and she can use her vibe while we have intercourse. I lie on my right side, and she lies on her back. I enter her, and she can hold the vibrator to her clitoris as I thrust. We both have a free hand to touch each other’s nipples too. Well, I have two free hands, and she has one.
Our “X” position has her left leg over my left leg and her right leg resting on my right leg. This position works great for us and has become our “go-to “position. Sometimes we have simultaneous orgasms in this position. When this happens, she will often have two orgasms, one right after another. These “double orgasms” as we call them, happen for her only when I am inside her, and the vibe is on her clit. Her first orgasm will trigger mine.
Sometimes, after several minutes of sexual intercourse, I cum but she doesn’t. If so, I’ll slip out of her and slide up beside her on the bed to love on her left and/or sometimes her right nipple. She’ll keep the vibe on her clitoris, and the nipple stimulation with the vibratory action on her clit will nearly always bring her to climax! Interestingly enough, I often feel inspired with knowing precisely what to do to help bring my beautiful wife to orgasm. Personally, I think this is evidence that, yes, we can get divine help when making love to our spouse in our married covenant-based relationship.
After round one, we will cuddle, talk, and I will stroke her lovely full breasts until she decides if she wants a round two. Round two happens 2/3 of the time and usually, but not always, goes much faster for her. If she is satisfied and does not want a round two, then my kind wife will help me reach a second orgasm.
Like jasonrose, I love watching my beautiful bride come! I think all good husbands enjoy that. A kind husband will care about his wife’s pleasure first. Quite honestly, that is why I bought my wife her first vibrator—and why I give her a new one from time to time on her birthday or Christmas or Valentine’s Day or our anniversary, etc. My wife has also come with me to purchase a new vibrator when one of our favorite ones showed signs of wearing out. Yes, we have quite a collection.
As older married lovers (we are both retired), we feel like vibrators have enhanced our lovemaking and made it possible and even likely that we both will enjoy our sexual love to the full extent that God intends for us to have. I do not think the Lord disapproves of married couples finding ways to keep their passion alive and well in their marriage.
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