Our Senior Sex is Hot!

We have had a problem finding stories about seniors having hot sex. Granted, many young folks probably don’t want to think about their parents or grandparents having sex, but it still happens if we are really blessed. My wife and I are both 73 and don’t have the hot young bodies we once did, but continue to enjoy having sex with one another. I had a heart attack a year and a half ago, so meds interfere somewhat with my ability to get rock hard as I once did. We have discovered that, as we have aged, we have had to find new ways of pleasuring one another and do a little more preparation. But we are still able to do a great job of it.

I thought I would share our encounter yesterday with you; perhaps it will give some encouragement to other seniors or those who realize that someday you will be having senior sex yourself.

The activities actually started the day before yesterday: I came home with a dozen red roses and her favorite Starbucks coffee. That afternoon, I took her on a lunch date to one of her favorite restaurants, not expensive but nice. Every day, I tell her she is beautiful, and we probably kiss and/or hug a dozen times a day. We have a lot of contact with a few well-placed pats and squeezes along the way. Sex could be in an instant when we were younger, but now it takes a little more “prep” to get us started sometimes. Still, when we do get started, it’s always rewarding. Because of my mild ED, I started half an hour before by using a vacuum pump to get things charged up for me. I also like the feelings it gives me; I am not quite as sensitive as I used to be, and this helps.

Yesterday, we made a date with one another for the bedroom. We started out with a shower; my wife jumped in first while I got out the toys and prepared the bed just the way we like it. When she came out, we kissed, and I touched, kissed, and rubbed her breast and lady parts before jumping into the shower myself.

She recently bought a new see-through robe, so when I came out, she was waiting for me like a Christmas present ready to be opened. We did a fair amount of necking (kissing, touching, caressing) as we got ready to enjoy one another more intimately.

We both enjoy using vibrators in our lovemaking; in fact, they have become a necessity because of my health issues. Actually, my wife was a bit hesitant about using a vibrator, but now she loves it, and we use them all of the time. We have a couple that we especially like for different positions, but recently she let me start using the Magic Wand on her, and we found out it could really bring her to the big O. Actually, for years, she has been able to orgasm multiple times, which I love. 

But back to yesterday…

 I made my way down to her lady parts and started licking and massaging with a passion (pun intended). I love to eat her, I love to see her lady lips spread for me, I love her taste, and she loves it too. I did my thing with my tongue while she moaned and shuddered. After about ten minutes of that, I reached for the vibrator, and she immediately came, again and again. I was loving it, and so was she. I always ask her what she would like me to do or what would feel especially good to her. Sometimes she tells me, and sometimes she just leaves it up to me, so I do my best to make it memorable for her. That’s where I find my pleasure: in giving her pleasure.

We have found that, if we continue too long, she will start to go numb from overuse. So when I suggested that we switch places for a while, she readily agreed. She says she loves to go down on me and gives me great oral sex. Before we started, I strapped on a vibrator that wraps around my balls; I love the feel of that. She licked and sucked and brought me to the edge. Then I asked her to lube up her hands and start stroking me, which she readily did. Wow, what a wonderful lover! She brought me right too the edge again, but she is not ready to suck and swallow my cum yet. Maybe she will in the future; I’m hopeful at least and still enjoy it immensely.

After a while, we stopped and switched back, and I ate and vibrated her to another three or four climaxes before we went back to her pleasuring me again. I wasn’t able to maintain an erection hard enough to penetrate her, which we both hate, so we finished me off with a vibrator and stroking. (I like for her to play with my balls also, so she always helps get me off.) I know age plays a part, but we were both pretty wasted by the time we finished.

Senior sex is different, but not over just because you are a senior. We have wonderful sex, even though we may not have the hot young bodies we once did. But the parts are all in the same place, and we enjoy one another completely.

Having said all of this, I am always looking for ways to solve the ED problem. (The blue pill won’t work because of my heart, but I have found some herbs that seem to be helping. I also read what one of the other members wrote about the use of essential oils and just ordered some with high hopes.

 

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22 replies
  1. LovingMan says:

    Older Lover… thanks for sharing! We seniors do have challenges to overcome, and it was nice to read how amazing you and your wife’s sex life is and how you’ve learned to overcome your challenges. I also have heart problems and am on several medications… so the bad heart and/or the meds affect my ability to stay hard. When we were younger, I’d be hard for a full three-hour lovemaking session. Now it comes and goes (pun intended). But like you two, we find ways to make sex work out. It’s kind of funny, but I could call my wife’s breasts my penis pump. For me, I get hard at the start of our sex session…loving on each other’s nips… sometimes oral sex…often my tip rubbing on her nips as I masturbate while kneeling beside her…etc.. then I often tend to soften up some during our first try at intercourse. That is when I go back to Melodie’s beautiful nipples and feast on her raspberries (or she’ll nibble in my nips while she or I pump my shaft). Either always gets me hard again. Then I’m usually able to finish inside her. We have learned to “carpe orgasm.” So when I realize that I’m close to coming, I go for it while I can. Often she comes before we get to sexual intercourse. If she does not come during orgasm, I lick n flick her nipples as she uses the vibe (& sometimes the G spot vibrator too… until she has an orgasm.). We then rest and cuddle before going for round two. We have several toys we use, and Melodie always uses a vibe on her clit. We call our go-to sex position the “X position.” We lay at right angles w/ her on her back n me on my right side. This allows us to have sexual intercourse while she uses the vibrator. (Missionary position gives me chest pains sometimes.) My arthritis and her neurological health conditions make a vibrator a must. She nearly always reaches climax (1 or 2 times in a session and once in a while up to 5 orgasms.) Maybe we need to look into getting a Magic Wand. (You are the third or fourth person in MH who has sung the praises of that vibrator.)
    I think that it is a spiritual gift from God that to me… when we are in a lovemaking session… my beautiful wife looks like she did when we met. I think that, in spite of our challenges, that we love each other even more, and our sex life now is better than ever.

  2. Grace911 says:

    I love hearing from another senior, that's great! We've often wondered aloud how many oldsters have as hot of sex as we have. I'd say you're doing pretty darn good. Congrats for not letting that wonderful part of your life die!

  3. StillLikeNewlyweds says:

    I absolutely love hearing about the active sex life of my more seasoned brothers and sisters. I find it extremely encouraging to know the great ride we are on doesn’t have to end, especially as we are now close enough to that category to be feeling it. And while our age is not quite were you are, my heart condition (and the meds it brings) makes me quite the kindred spirit with much of what you described. We too have had to learn to adapt and try new things and methods.
    I don’t know if my story Oil Fire ( https://marriageheat.com/2020/06/07/oil-fire/ ) was one of the ones you read, but if not I encourage you to read it. If you have, I hope the Mister blend was one of the ones you have ordered. As I mentioned in the story, it hasn’t made the ED problem go away completely but it has had a positive effect. There’s a couple of things I didn’t mention in the story. There is some debate among oil users about the effectiveness of this, but it seemed like I got noticeably better results when I daily put a drop of Mister in my navel. Also I had read once that warming the perineum can help because it increases blood flow to the prostate. In light of this I sometimes put a small amount of eucalyptus on that spot. I had found that eucalyptus helped increase blood flow in other areas. It can be a little intense at first on the perineum. You might need to dilute it at first.

  4. King Arthur says:

    Great Story. We too, make adjustments since we are older. But, sex is sex, and often, I go for it while hard, because I might go limp later, or who knows. Wife uses a Magic Wand on her clit and a smooth dildo if I'm not "up" to it.

    True, we can't go real long because of age, but laying naked next to each other cuddling is very nice too. And, as one sex blog I read said: it is nice to not have your body screaming for an orgasm, but now you can take it slow and relax. We do.

    • Older Lover says:

      It just keeps getting better! I keep adding more surprises and more toys to the mix, we are trying new positions to overcome some of our age related problems.

  5. Tulsa says:

    Great that other folks our age have learned to adjust to being our age! 😉
    Besides being empty nesters and having the house to ourselves, there are other good things that come with age, like sex just takes longer. What could be bad about that? And sex takes me longer. As someone quick on the draw, that's a good thing too!
    Most of all those things we used to do, we still do, and some things we do even more than we did before, like oral, and toys. Both can make up for little problems with other things!

    • Oldlovers says:

      At age 73 we too have some difficulty maintaining an erection. We enjoy oral and intercourse but don't always come and have come to accept it. The closeness and pleasure is wonderful. I have used some herbal remedies that really help and I recommend. Google herbal shop company.

  6. Mtstreetdoc says:

    I will start by saying "always discuss any medication or herbal supplements with your Cardiologist". If you are taking a Beta Blocker ie Labetalol, Metoprolol; they have a tendency to cause issues with erection firmness and frequency. Talk with your Cardiologist and discuss possibly switching to Coreg, it works on the heart in a similar way but doesn't always effect erections the same. As far as supplements, L-Arginine is reported to possibly help as well as Saw Palmetto. I wish you luck and do consult your Cardiologist.

  7. Hot Patch says:

    Thank you for your story.
    My husband and I often think how it will be for us in our senior years, but we will trust in God that He will see us through. As of now we just enjoy each other as much as we can when we can.

  8. Mercury7 says:

    Older Lover, thank you for writing from the perspective of an older man/couple. We are also near 70 and we can relate to many of the challenges you describe. But you said it so well, "Senior sex is different, but not over just because you are a senior." We have had to adapt our lovemaking style, but still have a great time as we continue to learn new ways to satisfy each other. God bless you as you continue to grow and develop in this new stage of life.

  9. Jc says:

    Thanks so much for sharing your story! As a senior myself, I can totally relate to everything you shared. Regrettably, due to her age, my wife has decided that her interest in sex is behind her, so I’ve had to find ways to satisfy my own desires. She’s OK with that, but I long for the days gone by when we could enjoy one another’s bodies fully.

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