I’m new here, and I don’t mean to dive into the deep end of the pool, but I am seeking advice, constructive thought, lessons that real-life experience has taught, and complete and total honesty. So I’ll start with my unanswered question and then tell my story, which should offer a resounding explanation for “where I’m at today” in terms of my mental and emotional state and the erotic triggers that have come to roost in me.
Let me establish that I trust God, my creator, with everything, and He is teaching me to understand how deep that trust can be. I truly trust Him more and better as He leads me down my path in life.
Now my question: Why would God equip many men to provide their wives with satisfying intercourse, allowing some to provide mind-bending unforgettable ecstasy yet give others dimensions that do not provide their wives with significant pleasure?
To make things even more difficult, my wife and I are each other’s second marriage. She was single for 15 years, and early in those years, she had a red hot sexual furnace of a romantic relationship with a man who could not get enough of her. They were both in their mid 30’s.
Meanwhile, my wife of 20 years and mother of our four children launched herself into a purely sexual affair with someone built for intensively satisfying, deep-penetration orgasmic sex. She fell so deep she could scarcely go a day without a rendezvous.
For my part, I was sexually active through college until I was married, and I wasn’t the least bit bothered that my fully erect penis is 4.25 inches long, although slightly thicker than average. Now that I’ve aged into my 60’s and my stamina has dramatically reduced, I’m left in the unimpressive status of wifely duty. She will have sex if I really pursue it, but she is mainly indifferent to the whole sex thing. I’ll stop here hoping there are some intuitive readers and some who have real experience in this gritty reality of life who can help me ponder the meaning behind my situation.
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