Bred by My Soulmate
I look forward to a lot of things when I get married.
Okay, first, I’m new here, and I’m still a virgin—waiting till marriage. When I finally get into a relationship with my man, I look forward to growing together and supporting one another: traveling together, celebrating our wins and learning from our failures, and doing things for and with one another like reviewing books together and studying the Word together. We will encourage each other to grow in God and in what we have set out to do.
I look forward to doing life with my man.
And also doing him.
Yes, I look forward to seducing him—a lot. I’d be a porn star in the sack for my future husband, really connecting with him on a deeper level. My marriage will not be the norm. Boring sex is not my portion.
And that is why…
Before we get married, I plan on going for sex workshops to learn how to ride him, give fellatio, do sexy dancing, twerking, and the rest of it. I would also bring my future husband on board. He’d learn to please me, too. Already, I’ve started reading books written by sex experts. I’m marrying as a virgin—an educated virgin—and I hope to gather experience the right way: through reading books.
Here are my sexual expectations of myself in marriage:
I delight in doing my part and not putting so much expectation on the other party when I should be concerned with giving out my best.
To fulfill my husband in bed, I’ll:
Talk dirty and flirty.
Have no sexual inhibitions whatsoever (except polyamory and those others.)
Wear a sexy negligee to bed.
Take him out on dates.
Kiss him randomly and profusely.
Gift him things occasionally.
Worship the ground he walks on.
Massage him from time to time (back rubs, foot massage, scalp, neck, chest, and everything in between.)
Play with his dick from time to time.
Have him suck and squish my perky but full breasts.
Suck him whenever. I would love to go down on him countless times, as that turns me on.
Give him a prostate massage.
Rim him.
If he is open to it, peg him—though I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with that yet.
Touch myself in front of him.
Grind on his cock.
Slow dance on his dick.
Ride him to ecstasy.
Twerk for him.
Roleplay.
Simply be his personal slut.
Tell him my sexual fantasies and make him comfortable enough to share his.
Give him space. I would not make him feel caged or like he is walking on eggshells
Encourage him in bed and let him know I’m enjoying what he is doing (by moaning and responding.)
Respect his decisions.
Okay, I said sexual expectations, so I’m just going to stop there. In all, I’m just trying to say I will communicate with my man and let him know my needs. I will open up to him in bed and confidently and shamelessly take what is mine.
People are of the notion that a virgin is usually shy. Well, sex can be a bit awkward and uncomfortable, and sincerely, I’m not sure if I may get shy. But I don’t think I will be shy with someone I’m emotionally connected with. Okay, maybe I could get shy, but not for long. Any embarrassment or shyness should disappear once we are like animals in heat.
I’m looking forward to experimenting with different things with his consent, like sex toys and outdoor sex, having sex on top of a building, and more.
I love you, future husband. Just know that my love for you will be more than what you bargained for. I’ll do for you all that you have been dreaming about and more.
Wow, sounds like an awesome attitude!
I like the "be his personal slut". Husbands would love a woman like that! A lady in public and slutty in the bedroom. Some women are like that.
Thank you.
Welcome! Great post, virgin pussy. As a fellow virgin I would definitely appreciate this kind of outlook on sex from my future wife! My Virgin cock would be very thankful.
I also try to do the same too. I like to read up about the female anatomy as much as I can.. learning about pleasure zones, how to touch a woman, how to work up to an orgasm, how to eat pussy, etc. I can’t wait for the day that I get so good at it that she can’t help but convulse and writhe in pure ecstasy from what I do to her body. And a woman with the same attitude about sex as you, all I would want to do is dedicate myself to her pleasure and happiness even more than I already would.
Great to have another like minded virgin in the group!
Thank you for the beautiful comment.
You’re welcome! Hope you keep writing! I’ve written a few stories myself but I need to do more.
Welcome Virgin Pussy!! What a delightful and sexy first submission. Your Virgin Husband will be blessed with his beautiful, desirous wife. Do add to ‘touch myself in front of him’ to masturbate often as he watches you inviting him to stroke his cock and cum with you!!!
Duly noted. That'll be such a luxurious delight.
I absolutely love this! I do a lot of premarital counseling and, of course, we talk a lot about sex. Sadly, I don't think I've ever performed a wedding for two virgins. I'm proud of your commitment to stay a virgin (I think this is pleasing to God) and thrilled that you are so eager to learn and prepare for a sexually adventurous marriage!
Thank you. I hope to maintain my stance and keep making God proud.
ThePassionatePastor.
Please write something for the readers here who are preparing for marriage.
Virgin_pussy, bienvenidos! (Welcome) God bless you to have the opportunities you’ve described to be so passionate with your husband!
I’m gonna give you some advice. My Melody was a virgin when we got married. I was a divorced single dad. So obviously I was not a virgin. I have written over 100 MH stories about our wonderful sex life together. I think it’s obvious that our love love life is wonderful!
So I’m just saying that maybe you should be open to your options when searching for the one! I am eternally grateful that my Melody was!
Your writing tells me that your husband will be greatly blessed by your passion! I would suggest that reading MarriageHeat stories could be a source of sexual education. We are pretty old but have learned lots from MH stories.
We also recommend the book, “The Act Of Marriage.” I think it can be ordered via this site.
Thanks for your excellent first post and good job at keeping your virginity! You will be blessed!
Thank you so much. I love reading stories from this site. And thanks for the book recommendation. I read the book "Act of Marriage" a few years back but I think I should re-read it. It was eye-opening. Hopefully, do you have more book suggestions for me? I'll highly appreciate it. Thank you.
Welcome to MH! I loved your post! I have a lot of the same plans for doing things with my future husband. It's fun and wise to learn and prepare.
Yes it is important to learn like you said. I'm always open to learning!
And if you have been reading LovelyLonelyLady own stories, you will see how her journey of masturbation has improved – and you will see from the stories of married couples to importance of masturbation in their marriages.
So masturbate yourself regularly and a masturbate yourself a lot.
But know this. As important as your masturbation is in preparing for one day being married. Masturbation is firstly about thanksgiving and offering of your body and sexuality to God.
1 Cor 6:20, glorify God in your body
* And I never get tired of sharing this – the biblical example of sexually purity.
Song of Solomon, Chapter 5.
Vs 2.
I slept, but my heart was awake.
Listen! my beloved is knocking.
Vs 5.
I arose to open to my beloved,
and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with liquid myrrh,
upon the handles of the bolt.
(It is about him in between those verses.)
Something else you need to know about this girl in chapter 5.
Who is she?
Chap 1:8 “fairest among women,”
Chap 4:7 ‘You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.’
Chap 5:2 “flawless”
Chap 5:9 “O fairest among women”
Chap 6:9 "… perfect,… pure,… blessed…"
Chapter 6:11 identifies her as a Shulammite. The meaning of the name is “From the verb שלם (shalem), to be or make whole or complete” – getting out of bed with her hand dripping with 'myrrh' – she was masturbating herself.
It means part of sexual purity is being a woman who masturbates oneself.
I am not sure how to comment on your post. We've had over 52 years of marriage. Our experience with sex is somewhat different from your expectation. As virgins, we began our sexual experience very simply on our wedding night with the missionary position. As we matured, we added to our sexual experience, but it didn't happen all at once. The way you describe all the things you want to do, it sounds as if you are in a hurry to experience everything all at once. You might want to lower your expectations a bit to keep disappointment in check.
I don't think she should lower her expectations at all. She just needs to make sure she communicates all of her expectations and desires to her future husband. If he has a high/spontaneous sex drive, they will have some spectacular sexual adventures.
Thank you very much for this. I hope to take my time and not rush things.
@Frankie – I see why you'd be concerned but I think that's the catch 22 when we have virgins like VP and myself that are waiting until they're much older than the rest of the population to have sex. Most people have sex by 21, latest 25. If you're older than that, you've had a lot of time to think about your sexual escapades, which is why some of us very-high-drive virgins are on these sites in the first place. I don't know if it helps to say "lower your expectations" because, due to the elongated wait, they're going to be pretty high anyway if God has a husband/wife for us.
It can come across as contradictory when we're told sex is wonderful in marriage but keep your expectations low because it's not that great and you will be disappointed. I understand that it's a careful balance between the two, but I don't blame VP for being overly excited to experience sex if that is part of God's plan for her. I joke around in my head that I'm not even that bothered about staying late for the reception because, if I get married, I'll want to head to bed early so that I can have plenty of time to experience things with my husband. Waiting until marriage for sex past 25 is something that a majority of Christians—let alone people on this website—will never understand, so the way we have to navigate this is very different. We can't get advice from parents or friends because they either got married young or had sex outside of marriage before eventually getting married if they chose to do so.
SinglePringle – I can see from responses to my comment to virgin_pussy's post, that several see me as discouraging the anticipation that a single virgin can have with the wedding night. I did not mean it to come across that way. What I wanted to express was that sex is such an incredible experience that it is easy to encumber it with the baggage of trying to improve on it by adding experiences to reach a preconceived goal. If you read my descriptions of Anne and Ron's experiences, you will see that over the years they have added more and varied experiences such as you described. They just did it over their years of marriage as opposed to striving to experience everything at once.
I think this is good advice: to consensually hold something in reserve, save something to look forward to. There is much to be said for anticipation, and just talking about an activity during sex can extend it's excitement value leading up to the experience.
It may seem like one should try to do "all the things" while they are young enough to enjoy them, and for some more "athletic" activities, it may be true. And factoring in a mid-life start to a relationship and no guarantee of longevity, one can understand a sense of urgency. I trust that love and desire for her spouse will guide OP to intimately engage on the timeline best for just the two of them.
@Frankie – Thanks for your response. I can't really see or tell where you've mentioned Anne and Ron's experiences but I still think you're missing the fact that those of us who have waited our whole lives and if I get married in my mid to late 30's which is looking more and more likely are still missing out on the years where you can afford to take your time. My opinion will only take this story into account is Anne and Ron were both virgins married for the first time in their 30s or 40s. Otherwise I don't think they're a good example to use in this instance (all due respect to them but it's not the same).
When you get married for the first time and you are older taking years to figure out your sexual quirks isn't something you have the luxury of doing. Getting married younger is like a stream of water, the pressure hasn't been building up for years and years so you can take your time working from the stream to the river. You aren't dealing with pented up sexual frustration like a dam waiting to explode (but there's a chance that it never will because marriage isn't guaranteed). You've been told no consistently and now that you're married and in a candy story you're still telling someone to exert the same level of control if they had access to that store when they were younger. It feels unkind. I've had discussions with my parents that because if I get married I'll be in my thirties, I need to rush to have kids. I'm having to push back a lot because my parents desperately want grandkids but I am getting married to become a wife first not children. I want to be able to explore sexually with my husband for 2-3 years, enjoying marital and sexual bliss and merging our lives together before bringing children in but it seems that again people that get married younger don't understand why this would even be required. It's frustrating to say the least. I have to shrink what people have had decades to work on into years. That's a fact.
I've talked to young widows and taking your time isn't wise as you're taking it for granted that you will be married with them into old age. That's not guaranteed. Anna in the Bible was married for only 7 years and single for the rest of her life. When you appreciate that living into old age is actually a gift, I'm not going to waste time dragging things out. I want to celebrate doing everything because I would be so thankful to have been given a husband since I've had to become content that this may never be a reality for me.
SinglePringle, You may be right about the differences in young marrieds (as with Anne and Ron married in their early 20's) and those who have waited until their 30's and 40's. To read the Anne and Ron stories – they begin with their meeting while in college (https://marriageheat.com/2021/10/19/anne-meets-ron/) and marrying 11 months later.
I pray you keep that attitude and find a man who has the same! Your list is super hot and has me dripping wet.
Thank you. I pray so too 🙏
Hey, virgin_pussy 🙂 Welcome to the site… Have you checked out Songs of the Believers website too? I just recently joined and there’s great discussions there as well
Welcome, Virgin_Pussy!
As a happy husband, I can confidently say that I love when my wife rims me & massages my hole while stroking my cock. I’m sure your future husband will love how eager you are to satisfy every need he requests or that you give him. It is so hot when my wife just walks over and takes my cock into her mouth. Lovely post.
Thank you for your kind words
Reading that list made me incredibly hard, on the spot. Thanks for posting that. You will one day make a man very happy! I am going to go and use my imagination now as I stroke my cock.
Same, spicylove. Made me shoot my hot ropes all over thinking about every single line on that list.
That's beautiful to know. I didn't know my writing could get such reactions😄
Being a man who's also waiting, I can say the devil tempted me many times, telling me I'd never have a satisfying sex life doing it God's way, and it really took a toll on me. So it's encouraging reading for sure. But if she did all that or not really, the thing I want most is someone who *wants* to please me. I think many guys feel desperate to be wanted. I'm sure you'll have a very fulfilling marriage one day.
Definitely. The feeling of being wanted influences one's attitude and response. Thanks
Welcome to the forum, VP! All the things you mention sound extremely exciting, but its your attitude and enthusiasm that make it so great! When you find a man who shares your views and enthusiasm, it will be a wonderful experience. I've read that marriages fail many times bec of poor sex lives, and that is very sad. If we treat our spouses properly (as you seem intent on doing), then sexual desire and fulfillment should not be an issue. We've been married a long time (40+) years. Like many others, things started out slow and fairly plain vanilla. Gradually we added variety as we became familiar and comfortable w/ each other. We really started having more fun when the kids were older and out of the house. Our passionate private life has always been our hot little secret, and I don't mind that. We don't have to make out in public to know how things are going to go later when we're alone. And as we've grown, my wife has become the private temptress that no one would ever expect! But we probably could have had several years of better passion / lovemaking if we started earlier in our marriage. I am just saying it can work both ways. You have to find someone you are comfortable with and share your dreams and passions. You have a great attitude, and I wish you well!
Thank you so much for your kind words
Welcome VP! It's great to meet other virgins on MH. I agree that a lot of people are of the notion that virgins are shy and normally naive when it comes to sexual matters (which will be partially true since there are some things that only experience can teach.) But as long as we go into it,should God have this in store for us, with as much knowledge as we possibly can, that should be more than enough 🙂
However, I've noticed that you've used a lot of definitive language in your post suggesting that God must have a husband for you. I'm in my late twenties and have never dated, so I've had to learn the hard way that this type of thinking pins a lot of our hope and identity in being a wife when it should be in who we are in Christ. Marriage, like health and wealth, aren't things that are guaranteed to us in scripture. They are all good things, but they are all gifts given to us by God's grace, just like salvation is a gift.
As much as people like us have high sex drives and would love to experience sex one day, we may not. But that doesn't mean God isn't good. Marriage and sex within marriage are wonderful things for those who get to experience them. However, marriage and a husband is so easy to idolise, and one thing I always ask myself is, if I never get married, am I okay with that? That helps me check and keep marriage and a spouse in it's proper place: behind God, never in place of Him. Othereise, it can very quickly become our own personal Golden Calf.
Thank you for your input. It's important never to idolize marriage or a partner. Even in marriage, one should correct in love and with the aim to influence your partner to be better in Christ. I like that. The bigger picture is always Jesus. Thank you SinglePringle😄
You're very welcome and once again it's great to have you here 😀
I'm sure I'm not alone in praying for you that everything you have said will be done. As the Passionate Pastor shared from his experience, Christians who truly keep themselves for their one true love are very rare, let alone two getting married this way, in these times. I wish I could raise my hand on this, but on many levels, I can't honestly do that (product of the 'sixties, B.C. or 'Before Christ', re-married widower). You are to be commended for your stance and what God has put in your heart, mind, and spirit. I believe God has already answered your prayer, and that of other virgins on this site, and I'm sure some elsewhere – that's what He does when we ask according to His will.
Although I cannot give the benefit of first-hand knowledge of breaking my virginity God's way, He has provided this site as a way for older men like me to share some wild stuff, from wildly different life experiences and backgrounds I'm sure as well. Also, for me to learn and be inspired; hopefully this can work across the board.
I'll be praying for your (future) husband, because after reading this, I do know how much it will mean to that man to have (finally) found the woman of his dreams… and particularly one with such a vivid imagination, including sexual imagination!
All the best to you, from an older brother in the Lord.
Thank you sir
Wow, VP. That’s quite a post! Loved that list!
I applaud you for taking control of your sexuality by taking control of your heart-of-thoughts with the belief that God will honor the desires you are cultivating in your heart concerning the attitude you will bring to your marriage bed. I’m sure the man who is destined to be your husband will consider himself a blessed man!
I recall my own singles phase between my marriages when, after the ugly dissolution of my first marriage before a court of law—a marriage entered into because I was the other man in an adultery and felt guilty about leaving her, despite our sin—that I masturbated quite a lot. It was never a suitable substitute and actually got a little boring, but it did awaken me later to the joy’s of mutual masturbation with my real wife—whom I met on e-harmony (wink wink). We’ve been married for nineteen years, this year, as soul mates and lovers… who had a lot of baggage to rid ourselves of because of our sins before we became Believers, including pornography. It was worth it to endure the pain of dealing with these issues because the roses are blooming like never before in our marriage bed! God’s forgiveness and grace are truly restorative!
So, keep your self pure, virgin-pussy, (gotta love the boldness in that moniker!) and I believe the chances are excellent that you will meet a man similar to yourself and that both of you will be able to join easily into One and avoid the issues that can haunt our spirits because of sexual sin.
From my own experience then, after realizing what marriage was supposed to be like from studying His Words, I encourage you to masturbate as often as you have need and to keep studying and learning about your own sexuality to prove yourself worthy to the God who has called you to purity and holiness.
May your not-soon-enough marriage prove fruitful in the furtherance of God’s kingdom, which Jesus said was inside of you.
Keep being good, VP!
Keeping your advice close to heart😘
Virgin -pussy
The things you suggest are the things men watch porn for..because they can’t get it at home. They are the very things I hoped for when getting married. I would think they would be every man’s dream, they sure were mine!
This post reminded me of a favorite fantasy I have had of what my future wife would be like. Alas, fantasy and reality seldom, and Didn’t, emerge. The fun of fantasy is that it can be limitless and unrealistic. True, fantasy can be really, but that is usually the exception. That doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t enjoy them. My fantasy fiancé couldn’t keep from talking about, explicitly and longingly, how hot our sex life would be; Lo and behold it came true. We would wake up naked, fuck fiercely, get up, shower, have breakfast, I would get dressed and be off to work. She would remain home naked fucking herself off and on during the day. I would return home after work, strip, and spend an evening much as you have described in your fantasy.
The difficulty with that fantasy is that it describes a triathlete type of sexual couple. Most of us are joggers, or at best marathon lovers in terms of ability. Having said all that, it is admirable to have such fun fantasies, and it is wonderful to strive for the goal of hot sex.
The greatest impediment to such a sex, life,?, marrying someone who’s sex drive is way below yours. Choose carefully, marry wisely, and fuck his brains out!
Thank you so much for this🔥💯