Love Languages Prequel
I’ve had this idea rolling around in my head lately. I could use some MH community help.
For some reason I’m inspired to do something creative in the bedroom based on the 5 Love Languages. Dr. Daddy and I have read the book, taken the quiz, and we share the same top two love languages: acts of service and words of affirmation.
I think I’d like to individually address all five of the love languages specifically in a bedroom setting and write about each encounter. Make a series of it? Has anyone done this before?
I have a pretty good idea of what I want to do for four of the five languages. I am stuck on “gifts”, which isn’t surprising since it’s my lowest ranked language. A toy or sexy underwear seems easy and obvious. But he really isn’t a big sex toy enjoyer or a fan of anything other than his regular boxers.
Any out of the box ideas on the “gifts language night” would be appreciated. Thanks!
First of all, I love that you’re taking this initiative. This is just the kind of thing that keeps the bedroom hot and spicy. Secondly, your series idea is fantastic. I’m sure the MH community would love to see you write about it.
Lastly, for your “gifts language night”, I’ll just throw out a few ideas. I don’t know if they’ll work for y’all, but maybe they’ll at least spark an idea.
1. Sexy cosplay – Maybe dress as a female character from one of his favorite tv shows or movies, i.e. Princess Leia, Daenerys, Black Canary (from Arrow). Then stay in character for the sex.
2. Perform a sexual act you know he likes, but y’all don’t do that often.
3. Role play – similar to cosplay. Pretend to meet as singles at a bar, (if you’re adventurous), pretend to be a sexy call girl – think Pretty Woman, pretend you can’t pay your rent or have your car fixed, or a sexy masseuse offering a happy ending…
The scenarios are endless, but the thought behind it is what counts. Maybe fulfilling a fantasy of some sort…
These are all just ideas. You may or may not have thought of them, but speaking from the mind of a guy, I know I would appreciate something like this. So, maybe your guy will too.
I’m probably not going to be much help. But I’ll try.
First of all, your question made me laugh because my Melody – from the first time we made love on our honeymoon- has called my semen in her pussy (and I am quoting her) “My present!”
Also, I have always considered her giving of herself to me a great gift. Even specific sex acts like fellatio feel like gifts to me.
Maybe YOU in some new & really sexy lingerie would be a gift to him. For example, you could surprise him in a cupless & crotchless teddy.
I like your idea of doing something sexy using the five love languages. I look forward to reading them. And I don’t recall anything like that on MH. But even if there was, your take on it will be unique from any other couple’s experience!
My strongest language happens to be gifts, so allow me to share a few things I would value:
1. Sex toys – creative ones… not just a typical dildo/fleshlight… something that would make me wonder how to use it or try something new. It might be an obvious choice but it's a good one.
2. Boudoir photography album – an inspiring collection of risque/erotic photographs of yourself you could browse together.
3. A sex board game – there are many couples sex games that are very useful and fun… I recommend Tingletouch games which include a sex version of yahtzee, a sex card battle game, sexual advent calendars and more.
4. A guys night – gifting is more than items, it can be events. Perhaps the gift is to take him somewhere fun with kinky and ulterior motives. Maybe a frisky date to a sporting event or a game night with consequences, or night out on the road with a fun car ride home…
5. You could make a regular gift, a sexual one. Find a sexy way to use a tool, or clothing, or even a book…
6. Film – it takes a lot of work and security, but you can create a very appealing sexual video… whether its you playing with yourself naked, or a guided masturbation… or a striptease or a shocking sex act he didnt expect on video… bonus points if you cast it to a tv and watch it together!
Hopefully it helps to inspire more ideas for you! Only you know your man enough to know what works, but whatever it is, the key to a gift is confidence and thoughtfulness. Make sure the gift reveals your interest in the recipient and then don't second guess yourself!
Those are some excellent ideas.
Very creative! These are excellent ideas! Thank you!
Hubbie here: good post, HelloNurse, and thanks for it. It may be that thinking outside the box is accomplished by going back inside the box. OK, that’s convoluted! What I mean is, since both your top love languages are “acts of service and words of affirmation”, why not “gift” that?
A gift doesn’t have to be a thing, but it could be an act or words …
* So give him the gift of washing the car naked, or in a string, thong, Wicked Weasel bikini.
* Or a day of Naked Around the House (NAH). There are several of us on MH that can attest to the “benefits” of NAH.
* Or set some alarm to “ding” every hour, and sexually compliment him about something. Wax poetic (not poetry, but intentional, convincing words of affirmation (WOA)). Have you “made the sale” to him about …
— how much and why you love his cock? (The naughtier, dirtier, lustier, the better!)
— or his balls? Or his ass? Or his legs?
— or how some recent, particular sex act really “did it” for you and why?
Most guys would love to replace hearing “Yes, it was good for me.” with “Baby, the veins in your cock really made me weak with pure cock lust for your dick! God, I was insane to be fucked by you!” Take your time, write up sincere “make the sale” WOA’s, print them out, say them hourly, and then snail-mail them to him.
Leveraging “gifts” with “acts of service and words of affirmation” could have a synergistic effect. IMHO.
Can’t wait to hear how it went!
This is an interesting idea! I hadn’t considered going this way with “gifts night”. Thank you!
An easy gift would be a series of nude pics and videos. You could both look at the results in bed and watch how his body gives you its full attention 😉
Definitely not an original idea, but how about a book of "gift certificates" for sexy acts of service he might enjoy—just a physical way to present the ideas others have mentioned here: NAH, wash car naked, nude photo/video shoot. And he gets to pick when and where to redeem the certificate.
Thank y’all for replying! Several of these ideas are way more creative than I would have thought of on my own!
Hi HelloNurse. How about an eye mask and hand cuffs. Depending on you two it could be
"Please put these on me Dr" or leave them on his desk with a note;
"Strip, put these on, and find me in the bedroom."
I also think sexy pics and videos is a great gift idea. If my wife gave me a video of her masturbating…oh my…
I found something much less explicit but still very romantic. My wife was impressed that when we were dating, I'd often take pictures of her. Not racy or even what many would consider sexy. We'd go to a place that had a nice natural setting
i.e. a park, along a beach, in a wooded setting, etc. I'd then have her pose for me. I was a photo enthusiast and liked experimenting with light, angles, settings, etc. This attention to her, telling her how great she looked with the sun highlighting her hair, the shadow falling across her shoulder, let her know how much I enjoyed giving her my attention. This let her know and feel how special I thought she was… which I believe made her attraction to me stronger.
As a bonus, we were able to share these pictures with others without embarrassment . Even better, after 46+ yrs together have passed, it's fun to look back at these pictures we've saved…
saying this after recently discovering & going thru a few of those photo albums.