Experiment, Learn, and Grow
I’m happy to report the efforts to improve our physical intimacies continue. In one of my last posts, I described how Mary had begun applying lube to her external and internal genitalia. This was a new change, as in the past, she has relied on me to perform this. While I did not mind this role, I had a reason for her to assume this task. From youthful experience, I learned I was the best judge to determine how my different body parts preferred to be touched.
I believe this to be true for everyone. No one can determine intuitively how someone else likes to be touched for their greatest pleasure. Experimentation and learning how to provide pleasurable feelings through touch is great and fun. But no one can “feel” for someone else. Only solo play can determine the optimal level of pressure, speed, direction , and type of stimulation, which feels best. Once learned, this information can then be shared with a partner, if open communication exists.
I watched as Mary applied the lube, rubbing it into her special sensitive areas. She’s been increasingly bold, providing a generous amount of lube, and massaging it on her lips, clit, and inner canal. Dare I say it? She’s begun to masturbate! She performed the lube application with sufficient enthusiasm to reach an orgasm (or two). I provide attention to her mouth, lips, tongue, and breasts, with my mouth. Also, I gently touch and massage her thighs, lower back, essentially touching anywhere except her genital area.
I described the enjoyment and building excitement I feel, watching her respond to her touch, as she nears orgasm. Her facial expression and the unbridled release she experiences when she comes are so beautiful to see. As is her practice, I noted she did not stop her activity after having an orgasm. She continues to self stimulate, to both of our enjoyment. I encourage her to ride her orgasm as long as she can when she comes. Watching her building response is so enjoyable, I continued to encourage her efforts.
I asked her, “Does it feel better to press harder or softly, as you are about to climax?”
She replied, “Softly is best.” Having her masturbate increases the sensitivity of her body parts, preparing them to respond immediately to my attention.
During a sexual interlude, I introduced a favorite toy, a Lelo Sona Cruise. She enjoys me applying it to her clit and surrounding area. The toy has an opening which can be placed directly over the clit, for maximum stimulation. The lube forms a seal between the skin and the toy, enabling the toy to glide smoothly. This intensifies the toy’s sonic waves, which seems to speed up and strengthen the orgasm(s) which follows.
During our most recent play, Mary massaged herself to a few orgasms. Then I handed her the Sona and watched as she applied the toy to her body. There was no hesitation, no handing it back to me. She quickly placed the toy against her body and began sliding it toward a favorite spot. Soon she was squirming, and moaning, putting on a splendid show for me. She quickly experienced yet another, stronger orgasm, jerking her hips up off the bed, as if having a convulsion. Her face is flushed, as is her chest, I noted her accelerated breathing. What a show I was enjoying, as her passion continued to build.
I suggest that she give me some attention. I’ve become quite excited watching her perform a voyeuristic display for my enjoyment as well as her own pleasure. She quickly kneels on the bed and begins to provide some oral affection to my hardened member. While she licks, kisses, massages my erection, I reapply the Sona between her legs. “Is it in the right spot?”
Lifting her head, she replies “Anywhere feels great.”, and returns to lavishing her attention to my member. I notice she starts rocking her hips, pressing her groin against my hand that’s holding the Sona. Suddenly, Mary quickly pulls back away from my hand, as a squirt of fluid sprays from her entrance.. She doesn’t seem as concerned with the wet sheet, as she has been in the past.
Feeling the time is right, my tension builds from her oral attention. I ask, “Are you ready to climb aboard?”
She replies “I’m Ready.” Straddling me, she lowers her soaking wet love tunnel onto my hard erection. Then she slides her hips in a frenzy.
I suggest she slow down, so I don’t come too quickly. She stops her movement, and I encourage her to tighten her vaginal muscles, as much as she can. I do feel a gentle squeeze against my tool. I reach up and lightly stroke, massage, and tap her clit, causing her to slowly rock her hips again. This continues, and she speeds up her rocking, as I massage her breasts and gently squeeze her erect nipples. I believe she’s building up to another orgasm. I’m right, and as she rapidly increases the speed and intensity of her rocking, she climaxes in a lengthy orgasm. I pull slightly stronger on her nipples just as she’s coming.
Watching her activity, and feeling her release in orgasm, triggers an explosion of my own. She continues to ride my softening erection, and manages to have yet another milder, jerking orgasm. Then she climbs off me and falls beside me in the bed. Wow, that was intense. Laying beside her, I thank God for my wife, this passionate creation, so much a part of my life. I am truly blessed.
My, my oldtimer…🥵 While reading this, it was easy (and hot) to picture the sexy scene as it unfolded. Her self love just kept getting more and more beautiful until her squirty climax. I thought that might be it, but then she rode you to a wonderfully happy ending. I’m impressed by the stamina you both possess. I loved it.
Thanks KingdomMan, for your comments. As unbelievable as it may seem, it's my observation that Mary's passionate response to our intimate play intensifies as we continue to improve our physical interactions. Mary's increased stamina for experiencing stronger orgasms as our play progresses amazes me. I've often wondered, after experiencing multiple orgasms, doesn't she get exhausted ? She does provide a great visual treat for my voyeuristic delight .
Beautifully told! Your accounts give me such joy. I love hearing about older couples who are taking their sex lives to new levels. It shouldn't grow stagnant and cease to exist. I vow to work hard to build the fire hotter every day if I am granted the gift of marriage.
Thanks, LovelyLonelyLady for your thoughts. I am delighted that our sexual interactions have improved to such a delightful degree, despite our "advancing" years. A question that I read (somewhere ) was,
"How old would you be, if you didn't know how old you are " ? Though hard to ignore the physical changes our bodies experience as we age, I also believe a portion of how "old you are" is determined by how old you "think" you are..and / or how old you "feel" you are. My way of saying that you are (at least partially) that you are as old as you think you are. I've met people in their 50's that seem to believe they are old, and those in their 70's & 80's that think they're young. Perspective counts.
One other thought I have is, I wish I'd thought of starting our "let's try to improve our sexual interaction"
mindset at a much younger age.. A thought I have, and try not to dwell on is, I fear I may not be able to perform sexually in the future, due to any number of reasons. Because of this, I want to enjoy as fully as possible every physical connection we have &I want the same for my mate. God willing, we'll be good for many years to come.
"Dare I say it? She’s begun to masturbate!"
Having read some of your other stories, I can imagine you excitement and joy at seeing her sexually pleasure herself – thanks be to God.
I have been a long time advocate of how self-masturbation benefits our lives and our sex.
and as a Christian it is a personal way to thank god and offer back to him the gift of our sexuality.
And of course it makes marital sex and relationships better.
I agree, my wife was too shy to do it or talk about it for many years. She finally tried mutual masturbation with me and loved it! We have doing it ever since once or twice a week. I know this sounds strange, in looking for a partner for marriage, everyone has I guess what they call deal breakers. One of mine would be a partner that didn't masturbate or want to masturbate after marriage. It is just an addition to regular sex. I don't need to do it alone or anything, I enjoy it with my wife.
I was recently asked to lead a devotional for a men's breakfast @ our church. Hadn't done a devotional before, but was willing to give it a try. Hardest step for me was to decide "what should I talk about ?"
I prayed & thought about various subjects, and one of the first ideas I had was, I should talk about sexual relations between a husband & wife. Having attended various churches & been involved in them in a variety of ways, I'll admit, I've never heard a Christian talk about / discuss a Christian's view of the marital act. I attended one of Tim LaHaye's churches while living in San Diego, and Tim wrote a great book entitled "The Act of Marriage".. I either bought a copy, or was given one, though I never heard
this topic discussed, even in a Young Married class we attended. My thought is that perhaps if Christians were more open in talking about this subject, relationships would be strengthened. I decided that for a 1st devotional, I should address a less controversial topic, but have not dismissed the idea for a future devotional.
Thanks, sarak k for your comments.
Recently, after engaging in some warm-up / foreplay, I asked my wife to touch her inner vaginal parts, and to notice how swollen they had become. The clit swells with stimulation, as well as other tissue in the area, as bloodflow to the area is increased This increased bloodflow results in increased clitorial size & more pleasurable sensations. I've found a diagram showing how the clitoris is much larger than earlier believed, and it spreads internally, as it becomes engorged with the increased circulation. It's my believe that these factors result in greater sensation after a 1st orgasm, and that this explains the extreme sensitivity reported by some women after they've had an orgasm. My wife experienced this, and learned to "push thru" the uncomfortable feeling of too much sensitivity, and discovered she could (fairly quickly) experience another, often stronger climax & orgasm. Once she had a 2nd..many more could follow.. This seems to be another miracle of God wonderful design in woman's ability to enjoy
marital sex.
I really enjoyed reading your story OT.
We totally love watching each other masturbate. It's a completely normal part of our sex life together, although it didn't start until around year 10 when Mrs Brit caught me in the shower. I was embarrassed, she was turned on and horny! It was a release point for us.
Don't regret OT, cherish the fact that you're still discovering new things as your marriage goes on. For some, sex life goes stale in later life. It shouldn't be that way. We've found there's always a new thing to discover, a new way to pleasure. I hope that never stops
BB…We have found that too! New is good n different is good!
Thanks, Britbloke for your thoughts. I do cherish the fact that we continue to discover fresh , new ways to find pleasure in our sex life. Mary hasn't "allowed me to watch" her masturbation activities, it is something I look forward to sharing, as we continue to grow in our play together. We've only been having our play time @ night, lights out, when we've gone to bed, so though I have enjoyed watching her body movements & facial expressions as her excitement builds, have not been able to directly view her hand action, except from my view lying beside her. I hope to soon return to "daytime playtime" , as I feel we'll both have more energy for a longer play- time together during the day.
Great story! Masturbation is such a blessing! Ben and I love to masturbate, whether it be while alone or together. Do you masturbate along with her?
Also, just because you get older doesn't mean that sex has to die. God bless you and your wife and stay horny you two.
Thanks hornyGG, for your comment and question. I have not masturbated with her, as it seems
(dare I say it ?.."at my age" ..) after I experience an orgasm, I'm done.. for how long ? I'll say for the day, but in all honesty, I don't know. I suspect I may be able to "rise again" for another round, provided I'm given the proper (?) stimulation .. be that whatever it may be. I hope that when we implement "Daytime Playtime" again, we may experiment with ways this can happen. Watching my wife "warm up" excites me greatly, as I've reported, and I've admitted I struggle with not coming too quickly, as I enter her, after watching her experience one or more orgasms thru our foreplay or her rubbing herself.
Mary always want to climb aboard & ride me, no matter how many orgasms she experiences.. before I enter her. My guess is she gets satisfaction ":finishing me off" and she does continue to ride me, after I've had my finish..seeming to squeeze out one more orgasm , before she is ready to call it quits. God Bless her !
Loved the story OT. Watching my Melody come is a glorious experience for us both. When she cums first we like a deep plunge of my erection into her still pulsating pussy. It often triggers at least a resurgence of her orgasm.
The Act Of Marriage is a book we read before we got married. It was very helpful- even for me who had been previously married.
Thanks for responding, LovingMan. I've learned ( long ago) that our sex activity goes so much better if she has an orgasm (or more than one) before we engage in PIV activity. I believe this is because of the reason / description ( response) I wrote to sarah k's comment above.
I should also have mentioned that Beverly LaHaye was the co-author to her husband,Tim in writing The Act of Marriage. I found the book recently, & put it somewhere so I could re-read it..& now I'm unable to find where I left it..duh!
Just ordered the Lelo Sona Cruise 2 for my wife. She enjoys masturbating and this will hopefully add some increased pleasure for her. At 76, the testosterone level doesn’t show on the dipstick🤪
I hope your wife enjoys it as much as my wife does…
please post about how she responds to it here.. ..
or maybe write a "product review"on it..
I've been thinking about posting a review of some of the toys we've enjoyed..
Will do.