Life-Changing Sex
What I am about to write may be an inspiration for some of you younger folks.
The Lord brought my wife and I together 33 years ago, and it is HE that has kept us together. We have had many trials and tribulations during this time. We have always been able to communicate our sexual fantasies and desires.
When we were planning to get married, she let me know that if she ever discovered I was having sex with another woman, I would wake up some morning and find my nuts in her hand and they would not be attached to my body. She doesn’t say anything that she doesn’t mean, so I believe her. She let me know that my “cum” belongs in or on her body and no where else. If I ever found her to be undesirable, I was to let her know and we would get divorced—just don’t have an affair. Thankfully, she has met and exceeded every sexual expectation I have ever had, so there have not been even a thought of an affair.
And now to my (our) sex issue. For years, I had prayed to the Lord to allow me to last longer before ejaculation during intercourse. Well about three years ago, HE granted me my desire—in a way. I suddenly discovered that I was unable to ejaculate within my wife’s hot body. It was definitely NOT what I had in mind when I had prayed to last longer. (Be careful of what you pray for.)
I discovered that I could still ejaculate by vigorous hand work. So I would prop up her hot body on a couple pillows, jerk off with one hand, and hold open her labia with my other hand. Therefore, I was still able to cum in her.
When this issue started, it was my belief that she would feel I no longer found her to be desirable. Much to my relief, my loving wife had no issue with what I perceived as a problem. My tongue was still able to bring her to orgasm. My wife has just accepted my issue as being age related and nothing to get excited about.
And now for the past year, or year and a half, I haven’t even been able to jerk off where and when I want to. I haven’t been able to cum between her lips like before, but I have been able to jerk off while standing and looking out the pantry window. I will have the urge to cum, but it just will not let go for some time. It might be a few days or a week, and one time it was even 22 days between times when I was able to release. One thing about it, is that when I do cum, it is one intense, exhilarating feeling that starts in my toes and flows upward throughout my whole body.
Thankfully, after seeing people in the medical profession, and with my wife’s understanding and help, I have been able to accept what has happened to me. I am still able to “cum” into my loving wife. I cum into a cup, suck it into a syringe and slip it into her hot body.
Hopefully, for some of you younger folks, when you start to have sexual issues, you will be encouraged to try different means for bringing sexual pleasure to each other.
Even though I can’t cum every time we have sex, I am still capable of bringing intense orgasms to my loving wife. I am so grateful for the Lord bringing us together. As of last December 21st, we’ve had 33 years of great sex. We may be 78 years old, but we still enjoy sex like youngsters. Thankfully, my deliciously wet wife quit work the end of September, so we have now been able to enjoy each other three to four times a week. Last Saturday and her recent 78th birthday are absolutely fantastically memorable.
Wow, you guys 78 years old and having sex three or four times a week. That’s simply amazing and I love it. Definitely inspirational
Thank you for sharing. We too are seniors who have sexual issues related to health. We have to do what you have – find a new way to do things. We have chosen to be grateful for what we still can do sexually. That is clearly what you n your kind sexy wife have done.
Due to heart failure I can’t have prolonged sexual intercourse. My wife has been kind n accepting. We do lots of creative foreplay then have intense pounding sex for usually no longer than two minutes or so. MH introduced us to role play n that has been great too.
My wife n I used to cum simultaneously during intercourse but now she needs me orally loving on her nipples in order to cum. Although we also do “tip on nip” and that can trigger her orgasm too. She uses a vibrator as I suck on, play with, etc. on her more than ample breasts.
Sometimes my Melody cums before intercourse and even more often after. She’s has always liked a good pounding fuck but now it has to be a brief 2-minute one or my heart can’t handle it.
For 27 years of our 30-year marriage my wife has needed a viberator to climax. She has neurological issues plus my early-onset RA made it so I could not manually stimulate her clitoris long enough for her to cum. Although she loves cunninlingus when in the mood, she can not climax from it. So we view vibrators to have been a blessing to our marriage.-
Lately other health issues have required us to modify and adjust. We are very philosophical about it. We are like you in that we are grateful for what we still CAN do! And like you, we do it a lot more since retirement!
I used to cum when Melody gave me felkatio. She has developed amazing skills over our long marriage. But for a few years now I’ve needed to alternate her oral loving with pumping my rod. Then she’ll return to the fellatio. Lately I usually finish in her pussy. Honestly I can’t complain. Cumming in her pussy is so awesome!
And yet Melody’s pussy lately hurts at the start of penetration. This is new n we have consulted with doctors who say her vagina and labia are as healthy as a horse (a mare). So we’ve needed to find ways to make it less painful. Interesting that Melody still cums nearly every time we share a lovemaking session.
All this being said, I’m still so impressed by you n your lover-wife finding ways to be sexually active together!!!
It is amazing to us how our sexual relationship has evolved and in spite of the challenges has become even MORE fulfilling over time!
It is accounts like this that give me so much hope and lessen my fears about growing old and losing my sex drive. It may look different as I age, but it can still be worked with and cultivated. Praise God! Your story was a blessing this morning.
I became sad when I read that you couldn't cum when you fucked your wife.
Then I read you could still jerk off, and I rejoiced.
Praise and thanks be to God for masturbation.
And God bless you for finding something that works.
Sarah K
Hubby, just wanted to let you know you are not the only one with this issue. I'm 72 and a year or so ago I started having the same issue. We've been married almost 30 years and like you we have still have great sex 3 to 4 times per week. My wife has always needed additional stimulation to climax inpite of the fact that I'm thicker than average and fill her quite nicely. So when this happened to me, we just added another stage to our lovemaking. We do a lot of foreplay, then I usual enter her when she's ready. Once her hips can't hold out any longer we go to mutual masturbation until she cums several times. Then it's my turn while she handles my cock and licks my nipples. We both enjoy ourselves very much so it's just a part of adapting to growing older without growing apart. Thanks for your post because I have often wondered if I was the only one who had this issue. Blessings to you both.
Very inspiring you are both making it work!
I'm in my 70's, and have sure slowed down, which for me is a good thing! Great to know that there are solutions to becoming too slow!
Hubby,
Wow. At age 66 now, I started having a similar problem a few years ago.
I still have orgasms, but nothing comes out. I have not had a complete ejaculation in about 10 years. And, as bad as that is, now my orgasms are sometimes painful.
Doctors don't take it seriously, either. I get comments that end with the phrase "men your age". Grrrrrrrrrrrr!! I have some emergency medical training. My best guess is that mine is not a "urological" problem, but rather a problem of lumbar spinal neuropathy that is likely a latent effect of my military injuries.
You have certainly found an "interesting" work-around for your situation. I have been reading the Bible for 50+ years, and — although it seems a bit unusual to me — your situation does not violate any Scripture that I can think of. I will pray for both of you.
It's unbelievable that the sex life between couples at this age is still so harmonious. I'm in my forties and my sex life is not as frequent as you.