Same-Sex Temptations
A Note from MarriageHeat:
Because we are a Christ-centered, Bible-based, and marriage-focused site, we do not usually allow erotic or arousing language to be used to glorify accounts of sinful situations, or situations that flirt dangerously with sin. However, we find this particular story to be useful to help readers sympathize with the real temptations that some of us face, and to uphold an example of resisting such temptations. The alluring nature of temptation is a reality that we feel is worth displaying in this case, including language and conveys the resulting sexual tension. Our normal policies stand, however, and such accounts of close brushes with temptation and sin will not generally be described sensually.
A Note from the Author:
I urge you to read this all the way through. The beginning of this story will sound like I’m leading you down a certain path, but it’s an experience that also teaches a lesson.
🔥❤️L&M❤️🔥
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“Did anything happen?”
That was the question M asked me upon my confession of what happened at my massage.
“Noooo… It was close, but no.”
Earlier in the day, I’d had a massage done by someone whom I’ve gone to before. Janine is a lovely woman with whom I enjoyed speaking. On the recommendation of a friend, I had given her services a try and had gone to her perhaps a dozen times now. She always did a good job. I was 52 and she was 39 at the time, both of us married.
I’ll admit to you right now that during the two visits previous to this one, there were signs of something happening which I ignored. To be quite honest, I actually played with the idea of it. But this time there was no doubt about it.
I had become quite comfortable with Janine, and little by little, the necessity of covering particular areas passed. It wasn’t unusual for me to strip out of my clothes as the two of us stood there talking.
It started as usual, with me lying on my stomach naked, Janine in her usual pair of loose-fitting scrub pants and a tee. She has a lovely body; I noticed that the very first time I met her. And her cute, round face framed by long, auburn hair invited friendliness. The T-shirts never seemed to be able to hide her narrow waist or sumptuous breasts. And my noticing all of this comes from my acknowledgment that I do find females attractive and notice things about them. (If we are honest, all females will find certain things attractive about another, whether her appearance, demeanor or intelligence.)
As I lay on the massage table like always, she began to apply the massage oil and squeeze and rub my shoulders, gently lifting my hair and pushing it off to the side for access to my neck. Her fingertips drew along the muscle structures and rubbed and squeezed, with all the pushes and pulls that came with it.
I had noticed before that when she would get down around waist level and begin working my buttocks, her thumbs would sometimes slide down in between the cheeks and her fingertips draw up back between. The same thing happened whenever she worked the backs of my thighs. In fact, I even remember having an involuntary rise of my hips and a grinding of my pelvis down at some points.
As I lay there with my eyes closed and we continued to chat, I could feel her strong but sensitive touch travel over my body. After the last two sessions, I again have to admit my mind was drifting in the hopes that I would feel that same thing from her…
And I did!!
Now things can happen by accident. We’ve probably all experienced that; an accidental bump or touch and the awkward and embarrassing apology, or at least the attempt to ignore that it happened. And I think part of me was giving her the benefit of the doubt.
As she worked her way down my back, facing away from me, I felt her hands begin to slide around the circumference of my behind, gently squeezing and massaging. And again, there were the thumbs pushing down deep into the crevice between my cheeks and, upon the return, her fingertips following that same pathway. At times I would feel my cheeks spread wide apart, exposing my anus to her.
She made her way down my thighs and calves all the way to my feet. Standing at the end of the table, she picked up one foot and massaged it—which felt amazing, by the way. But then she did something unusual: she laid it against her body. My foot was upright, and I felt something soft under the top of it. My foot was lying between her breasts, and as her hands went down my thigh, I could feel her breasts engulfing my foot. It seemed strange, but at the same time, she’s a masseuse.
I also noticed her body pressing against the foot which still lay down on the table—at first, just the soft touch of fabric, and then the definite touch of her warm body underneath.
It wasn’t as if she was grinding on my foot. But I knew what it was that was on my foot.
She repeated the process with the other foot before putting that one back on the massage table, gently moving my feet and parting them, thus spreading my legs so much that my feet were hanging off both sides. She began to massage her way back up my legs very slowly and sensuously, sliding her well-oiled fingers down from her place at the base of the table up over the backs of my calves and thighs, reaching my buttocks and then turning her fingers inward to slide down the insides of my thighs and calves.
As she repeated the process, her fingertips started to graze my vulva.
This time, there was no mistaking the intent. The tingles shot through me. And I said nothing.
It went on for a while.
Let me stop here to say I am not a lesbian. As I have stated before, I can appreciate things that I admire in a woman. But this definitely was pulling me in, with the seemingly incidental touches causing arousal.
She had me roll over on my back and started on the front.
Her hands began to massage over my breasts—something she had never done before. She always went around the sides and tops and bottoms of them. It was then that I knew I needed to say something and get myself out of this situation before something did happen.
I asked her what time it was, and she told me. I pretended that I had an appointment I forgot about and that I had to go.
She was disappointed. I paid her and left, but I couldn’t get the whole episode out of my mind.
What you have just read was what I had shared with M.
His attention grew more acute with every sentence that came out of my mouth.
I know he sensed something in me, and in his usual sexually opportunistic way, he was trying to draw it out of me.
And the next sentence confirmed what he was sensing.
I confessed to him that when I got home, I had masturbated while reimagining it, brought myself to a climax, got myself together, and an hour later found myself mentally back there again, bringing myself to another climax.
I was dealing with such a whirlwind of feelings and thoughts. I felt an intense attraction to Janine and wanted to meet her again where we could follow through. I was pacing back and forth and knew I couldn’t do that. It was a definite war within myself and my thoughts.
The decision was not to go back again and just to let bygones be bygones.
But to my point: this is how it happens to us. Something happens that turns on the switch to an area where we are already weakened.
Another problem was that Janine knew my faith and even empathized with it, as if she held a lot of the same feelings, which served to soften my defenses.
Temptation is what gives way to sin. Instead of allowing it to control us, we need to control it. One way we often try to exercise control is by throwing out the baby with the bath water; getting rid of the good along with the bad. The problem with that is that it’s like ignoring the elephant in the room, and not addressing the actual cause.
M and I have come to deal with such things in this way: our sexual honesty with one another. Just being able to tell him what was going on, and the things that I was feeling, brought it into the open for both of us to deal with together.
And like many other things that had happened in our lives, this became just one more memory.
We are given the gift of sexuality. There’s a reason why we enjoy it. It’s built in. But problems come in when sex goes from being a gift to a demand in our lives, pulling us deeper and deeper and pushing the borders of acceptability farther and farther.
M and I have a marvelous sex life. It hasn’t always been so, but in the later years of our life, it definitely is.
Yes, there have been times since then that I have sat somewhere quiet and imagined myself on that massage table. But I am harkened back to my faith and my responsibility. My sexual pleasure is to come from my spouse.
And between the two of us, we have explored some pretty amazing things that we would have never even thought of doing earlier in our marriage.
I urge you to do the same in your marriage. Become, first of all, fellow believers and secondly, sexual co-explorers.
🔥❤️L.&M.❤️🔥
Thank you for putting the disclaimer at the beginning. I do appreciate how this site makes every effort to uphold Biblical marriage.
Tutchh, thank you for staying faithful to your husband and for resisting the temptation to pursue another woman.
With that being said, I do wonder if it is wise to fully recount the massage scenario like we do above. Ephesians 5:12 says “it is shameful even to speak of the things they do in secret.”
We can safely assume that most of the members of MH have sinful experiences from their past, or sinful fantasies (threesomes, homosexual sex, encounters with someone other than your spouse etc) that we could describe in detail on this forum. Does it really make it ok to recount the specifics of those encounters…and then simply say “but I didn't end up going all the way” at the bottom?
I could see stories like these end up tempting those of us that are weak, and making it harder for us to “take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness.” (Eph 5:11)
Thank you for your kind words and gentle admonishment.
To be quite honest this could have been much more descriptive but it was toned down. I think a comparative analysis of the stories on this site would reveal that there are much more graphic descriptives.
While this certainly is not a testimony I would stand up and give in church, or share with children, much less even share with some adults I know. This site as I understand it is for people to learn how to be everything they can be in their practice of sexuality in their marriage and avoiding the pitfalls this world can through in front of us.
And, as I understand a safe place where we can come to be honest about our successes as well as our failures, and find willing listeners who share in our experiences.
When we first came here we quickly wondered whether this was that place. Or even if we should be here.
I make mistakes like any other human being and thats where grace comes in for us to refine our walk .
I can wirh all honesty say I know for a fact that there are believers who believe that sex is for procreation and thats it.
Not for enjoyment or pleasure or a respite from lifes anxiety.
They will give Scripture to validate their stance. Are they right?
What about enjoying a meal or enhancing the taste of water?
For us, non judgemental honesty and love are our way forward. And we've never been happier or more sexually satisfied as we are now.
I appreciate your insight and understanding.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Thank you for your understanding, Tutchh. I’m a male who has had another male make sinful passes at me, so I’m sensitive towards topics of this nature. That incident I encountered wasn’t arousing to me.
On the other hand, I’ve had a female nurse do something similar to what you experienced.
I’m also a part of a church that had a preacher that was giving explicit sinful details during a message. He was reprimanded for sharing more infi than he should have, and i think he crossed a line towards planting ideas in young people’s heads (group sex etc). We would all agree that the Bible has a category for things we should not “speak of.”
Where do we draw the line between glorifying something and the giving necessary details? I don't know?
I appreciate your story, and your desire to shine the light on monogamy, though. I’m proud of you for standing firm in Christ. He empowers us. I thought it was well written, and could be helpful for many.
Ephesians 5:3 (ESV) "But sexual immorality and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
God gives details about nudity, nocturnal emissions, & the cum of horses that Israel fawned over in her idolatry. Plus, we know the details of Song Of Songs. I think the context of Eph. 5 is shown above in v3. It should not be named among us as participants. It should not be who we are, in contrast to the world out there doing it. Like our world today, they are known for sexual carousing, jokes, lewdness, & lascivious behavior trying to recruit, & get people to victimize. Eph 5 is talking about us not being ally, nor participating, to that sin culture.
Yes, love & care for the weaker bro & sis of the church. But, tutchh is not speaking in favor of, but against. I think she has shown appropriate respect, as you have too P139.
I understand your comment about the story maybe causing others to stumble. I will not defend her writing of the story. I will say that no one is forced onto this website. If you are aware of your struggles, then you are responsible for not putting yourself into situations that might cause you to sin. I say this with full acknowledgment that I have failed many times by allowing myself to visit websites that result in my mind having clearly sinful thoughts. But I accept responsibility for my decisions. As I read this story I questioned the value of it. Once I finished reading all of it, I realize there is some value, but maybe not for all. She recognized the flirtation of sin and ran from it. Granted, the better option would have been to avoid what she recognized as tempting initially. However, she didn’t. So she shared with the readers that you can resist temptations and not succumb to them. This is of value to some readers. I hope that she never allows herself to put herself in a situation like this again that could have easily went wrong. It’s preferred that we all flee from temptation, not flirt with it.
This is a very honest and thoughtful post, Tutchh, and you’re exactly right.
Temptation can slip in so effortlessly that we can be easily overcome, and it often approaches us very softly.
I commend your strength for resisting and confessing; I know many marriages where that conversation would have gone very differently.
The two of you obviously have a strong marriage and I really think the type of honesty you share is rare.
I admit that I love reading about your sex life, but what I am most impressed by is your commitment and dedication to each other. You’re truly an inspiration.
Thank you for sharing such a candid view.
Thank you KM, I truly appreciate you your kind words and understanding..
Your comments are always so close to our heart.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Amen.
Tutchh, it’s neat that you would post this now.
I know I’ve alluded to this in past posts of mine, but when I was a minor, an older friend whom I respected (also a minor), did some similar moves and like you said it happens gradually. Similar to you, no actual “sex” occurred due to a relative walking in on us.
I would say in my case I don’t think I have a struggle with same-sex attraction, besides admiring a healthy, strong body like one would admire artwork.
Nevertheless it was odd, I ran into that old friend from years ago recently, and we caught up and talked, and I kept feeling really hot in the face and blushing wondering if he remembered what happened when we were younger. I’ve never masturbated to that memory or felt particularly excited about it, but it is a weird feeling to see someone again where you shared a sensual, taboo moment in the past. Thankfully we are both happily married to women and the past is the past.
Thank you Northern, yes it can come at the most im probable time and often find us at our most vulnerable. I'm thankful that it was posted to the point in time where you could identify with it such a way. Although the story was submitted quite a while back it would almost seem that the timing was coordinated by a purpose bigger than ours.
I have always appreciated your words of kindness and understanding and insight. You are another of those that we find close to our heart.
Lady L. ❤️💋
So, many aspects of our changing culture have led to these stories being more common place than, imo, the church would be comfortable to know. However, we should be saints that are equipped to tackle such a cultural phenomenon. Sexual experiences among same sexes, youth, & church members even, are a thing.
Rather than run from them the church needs more education, sympathy, & vulnerability like you NS, & tutchh. Rather than focusing on being holier than thou, we need a reality check to understand & support both the repentant predator, consenting partners, & victims. It is a thing. And, Jesus died to redeem all sinners of any kind.
I haven’t ever admitted it to my hubby but I often masturbate after massages. I go once a month (membership) and I always have the same massage therapist. She’s great and always works out my tension. I love how her hands feel on my body. And she’s quite attractive. Both married. Never would pursue anything with her and her hands have never wandered to places that are too wild. But I can’t help fantasizing after I’m home about what a happy ending from her would have been like. Or imagining her finishing herself off after I leave.
Texashmom, nothing wrong with that. Hot fantasy. I do quite the same when hitting the massage. She is nice, attractive and in sexy shape. Masturbating after she works stress out if my body feels hot and awesome. She always shows up in my fantasies 🔥🥰
I think this happens more often than we would care to admit Texashmom.
The fact is temptation is always there to lure us down a different path. And it's a fact that a large segment of the population does in fact have these sorts of thoughts, fantasies and desires.
It's nice to know that there are others who go through the same struggles and temptations as us.
Remember that honesty and the ability to communicate your deepest self to your spouse is the way of Truth for a marriage to survive and thrive.
It's the secrets that when they're left, grow into weeds in our garden.
Thank you for your kind words, please know that both you and your words are valued and cherished.
Lady L. ❤️💋
IMHO, this is why I have never sought out professional massages. I have wrote about a dermatologist episode I had, & I recently went through PT that sparked some thoughts about the opposite sex physical therapist. But, nothing that went past just thoughts ignited by a new experience, rather than lust.
I even went home & told my wife that me & the PT were the only ones in the office, as I was the last patient, & the secretary asked to leave. I thought it unprofessional, but nothing happened. But, my imagination had thoughts.
Though sometimes I have heard through my life a few times that guys masturbate to keep immorality at bay. Even, heard of a father telling a son to do it before dates for that reason. Just a curious thought.
I can very much empathize with you Tex,
While I have both fantasized and jilled about her as well as other women, And believe me, my heart speeds up when I see them next.
I will leave it at that.
Lady L.💋💦💦
Thanks for sharing this! It truly reflects your faith, integrity, and commitment to your husband. Recognizing the temptation and making a swift exit shows admirable self-control, much like Paul advised, "Flee sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18).
I believe many readers can relate to this kind of temptation. A professional massage that takes an unexpected turn is a common fantasy. My wife and I occasionally roleplay scenarios like this to spice things up.
One memorable incident involved my wife getting a facial while a massage therapist worked on her neck and upper chest. The therapist's fingertips drifted a bit lower than expected, stopping just inches above her nipples. My wife was caught off guard, but her surprise quickly morphed into arousal. Even though she's never experienced same-sex attraction, she found herself wishing the therapist's touch would explore further, maybe even graze or caress her nipples. Of course, she didn't act on it, and nothing inappropriate occurred, but she returned home quite aroused. I believe she even masturbated a little in the car on the way back. She shared the experience with me and felt a bit embarrassed. I reassured her that it's normal to feel aroused in such a situation and for the mind to wander. That night, we had incredibly passionate sex.
Thank you for sharing your stories. As the two of you do, my husband and I engage in role play together. And we have used Janine in our role plays.
What the two of you have done is established the ability to confess to one another not only what happens but what you are feeling and thinking. It's when things like this. Whether they're actual experiences or feelings that we develop. Being able to communicate those to one another without fear or judgment it's a major key for a couple to not only cut off the root of sin but to also enhance their own sexual enjoyment by using these experiences between themselves.
As I've said before in other places here, it wasn't always like this with us. But through many very candid conversations between ourselves I had to come to the realization that I was in fact trying to deny any attractions I may have felt towards another person and expected that he wouldn't have that. It's the understanding that everybody will find somebody other than their spouse attractive for one reason or another. And being able to talk freely with your spouse about these things and go in depth about your feelings is where you find strength together to overcome.
But it's the denial of the attractions that is the root of the problem.
It's those things which are happened in the dark those things which we keep to ourselves as secrets that lay like a beast wedding for the next moment of weakness to crop up in you again.
The breath of fresh air is honesty between two people who love one another. And the ability to take this very thing and enhance their own relationship.
Kudos to the two of you for doing these things.
Lady L.❤️💋
Yes! These replies between you two here is a breath of fresh air. Whole hearted amen! I believe we married christians should exercise our strength in Christs redemption. Now that we are saved & forgiven we can appropriately use our past, & present experiences & desires in our marriages in the power of Christ!
Great, open and honest story. As many of you may know, I am no a lesbian, but as my hubby Jim knows, […] I admit I did learn about all of my sensitive pleasure zones from [my female college roommate], and passed them along to Jim, (who oddly enough was introduced to me by my roomie!).
So, as I was single and exploring sex in general, the experience was one I'll always treasure, but in no way has it ever threatened my very happy marriage and unbelievably incredible married sex life with my husband.
Some will condemn me, just being honest here …
You are all too correct that there will be those who will condemn or judge. The interesting thing is if they find so many things here offensive why are they even here?
I've mentioned before and I think I even have a submitted story that will be coming up about having different circles of friends. Comparing these circles it's the ones who are more open and honest about their sexuality that are often the most caring and understanding, while the ones who are most conservative in their faith are the ones who are the most impersonal often responding with scripture verses and God's ability to deliver.
Well both of those things scriptures and deliverance are true and important. It's love, grace, forgiveness and empathy which it is that we are to exhibit. Having this site to be able to share and confess and even get a little bit naughty in the way we share it is that type of relationship we should be having with one another. The ability to be open and honest. Yes we do need to be corrected. And yes, there have been a number of things that M. And I have engaged in which wemt too far. But with honest open discussion we've been able to adjust our walk and pull back on certain areas.
You speak of your college roommate and the experiences you had.
The fact is we will always have things that we will do that we will need to change.
And once again the key is the honesty between the two of you. I have known many people over the years who could never confess to their spouse the sexual desires that they themselves have felt or experienced. Why is that?
Shouldn't the most intimate and loving relationship we will ever have. To the one that we have joined ourselves together in matrimony with, be the one that we can honestly communicate with about everything and anything?
Why is it that sex which is the outward manifestation of inward feelings be something that a couple cannot enjoy together?
Why is it that we cannot conquer and use for good those things which would be used against us to destroy us?
Patty, I have always adored your fun demeanor and reading about your beautiful life with your husband.
Thank you for commenting here.❤️
Lady L.❤️💋
@Lady L & Creamy Patty
"You are all too correct that there will be those who will condemn or judge. The interesting thing is if they find so many things here offensive why are they even here?"
Thank you Lady L. I love this site and appreciate the honestly here by so many looking to understand the complexities of the human sexual experience within the confines of marriage. However, not a day that goes by that I don't see someone here calling into question the morality of a poster or responder, and wonder, exactly what it is they are doing here? Hot, biblical monogamy may be a contextual umbrella, but it’s not a shield that allows you to indulge in your foibles and fetishes while at the same time giving you the cover of piety as you wag your finger at others.
Sarah,
I feel exactly the same way about you on all accounts.
It's very much akin to the relationship I have with my husbands sister.
Very close in age and have so much fun and get flirty once in awhile..
I can only imagine if you and I lived close to one another how many laughs we would have to together.
Lady L. ❤️💋❤️💋❤️💋
Just because of such replies as you ladies are saying here is how I came to see that God created us to leave the safe, open, honest confines of mom & dad (who love borderline unconditional) to cleave to your spouse to make, & be, that mom & dad love dynamic of your very own.
I've been open with Mike about a relationship I had with a woman in college. I won't go into any details other than to say it was sexual and at the time meaningful. I do think about it from time to time and understand and accept that part of my life. Like you Lady L, I am not by nature a lesbian or bisexual. It is difficult to recall the exact reasons why that relationship occurred or went where it did. It was many years ago. On reflection I think both of us were far away from home and friendships at a large college were't always easy to come by.
I do not dwell on it because that can lead (at least for me) to feelings of sexual excitement, including masturbation. Nothing like this happened again and I have come to a place where I can remember her fondly and the non-sexual parts of our relationship. But again, I don't dwell on it.
Thank you Sarah, in the end you have an incredible life and know your purpose.
I know that from time to time we have gotten flirty, but it's the friendly personality of who we are, and I believe, the affinity felt between us.
Isnt this, the open honesty about feelings and experiences part of what friendship is?
Knowing that sharing won't ostracize or condemn but rather solidify a caring friendship?
Thank you for reading and caring enough to comment and share.
Lady L. ❤️💋
@Lady L
I enjoy our back and forth here, reflective and flirty is how I would characterize it. I always look forward to your posts and replies. You express things well and I feel a connectedness with you. I know we are both in the same generation and share many perspectives that a generation can instill in people.
Thank you for posting this, it brought up some very poignant memories for me, some of which I am still putting in their proper place in my heart and memories. Thank you my friend. ❤️❤️❤️
Congrats on your ability to exit. I have only had one massage in my life. I got completely nude for it. The therapist was very pretty and very professional. I remember feeling turned on… to the point that if she started touching me inappropriately… I am almost confident I would not have resisted and would have let her continue. So your will power was stronger than mine. (It was many years ago, but I’m fairly certain I also masturbated after I got home.)
F. L., thank you for reading and sharing, it's one of the beautiful things about this site. That we can be open about our faults and experiences.
You're a beautiful soul.
Lasy L. 💋❤️
I have had the same thoughts as Texashmom.
It's a part of being human.
Polls have found that same sex desire is very common among women.
The thing is, here on this site among this group of believers, we can be open about it.
Thank you for reading and sharing.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Dear Lady L,
Thank you for sharing this. It was your real experience. I think you toned it well enough, while still allowing us to see what you were really facing in those moments. An inward battle.
Of course, we are happier about our successes more than our failures. Our susceptibility is real – in all our lives. If we are honest, our escapes from not diving into sin is often due to God's merciful hindering us, not our turning away.
Your story showed what was going on inside you – as someone else was taking the initiative. Your story did not encourage anyone to sin.
I think us fellow strugglers can easily connect to your situation. Your story brought some of mine to mind. I thank God that His protective hedge is high enough to stop me from jumping over. But, sadly and mysteriously, sometimes we still try.
Thanks be to God in Christ who rescues us – even as our faith is weak.
Thank you again.
LH
so well written and honestly expressed .
Thank you again for such valuable insight L. H.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Thank you for sharing a vulnerable event in your life, and encouraging us with your Biblical response in leaving the scene of temptation. That must have been really hard and it took Spirit-led willpower. Your marriage is stronger because you honored the Lord. I'm so glad about that. I can't empathize at all with the same-sex attraction because I have zero interest in women sexually, but in my head I put myself in that setting with a male massage therapist and I figure I'd have just as hard a time fleeing the temptation. So, no judgment from me! I hope I'm not ever faced with that scenario (and I always request a female massage therapist). Whenever I do get a massage, I often imagine it's my future husband's hands, and it is more of a peaceful feeling than one of arousal. Everyone is a bit different in how they respond, I suppose.
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Never been to a spa or massage place! But I have had several fantasies about being with another woman however. Of course I would never axt upon ivt!
MamaGG, we’re alike. Those fantasies are natural I think and powerful, and of course hot 🔥. Having them while masturbating or milking love to hubby is just so nice and hot…
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GG, I have read that the older we get the more open we are to thinking these thoughts. I believe that it's quite common for women too feel sexual thoughts towards others in their lives. It's a natural progression I'm feeling the need to be closer.
Lady L. ❤️💋
Hello! I am new here and this drew my interest for sure. I’m married to a wonderful Christian man. We are empty nesters. I love getting a massage. Yes I’ve thought about the lady who is giving me a massage. With my privates barely covered it can be erotic. I have masturbated after I’ve returned home. My husband is aware. Thank you for bringing this subject up.
Michelle Michigan, welcome! This is nice. Masturbating to a pure fantasy and sharing it with your husband. Hot, fun and natural. My hubby loves it when together 😊
Michelle, I'm so glad you're here and I'm honored that you read the story. Also for your confessing your same sex fantasies and resulting jilling. I am blessed that I have girlfriends both in and out of the church with whom I can openly confess these sorts of things too and we can discuss without judgment. Once the holy Wall come down between us and we are able to be honest with one another about ourselves I've found that it's not unusual for women of Faith to pleasure themselves over things such as this. It's our inability to communicate these things anywhere or to really be the kind of friends that would be open enough to do this that keeps us in the state of guilt.
Lady L. 💋❤️
@Lady L
"I can only imagine if you and I lived close to one another how many laughs we would have to together."
I enjoy our interactions. I'm sure we'd have a lot of laughs and a lot of similar experiences to share. That's nice to think about. I very much appreciate your friendship. ❤️❤️❤️ I look forward to sharing more with you!
As do I Lovely Sarah !
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So, I just thought I’d weigh in on the different opinions in the comments.
Let me preface this by saying that I am probably one of the most conservative/traditionalist people on this site, and I thank MH’s editors from bailing me out of starting theological fights a few times when that would have not helped anything, only hurt.
With that said, I think that the devil wants people to struggle in silence. Toutch’s post has broken that silence. While the closest thing I’ve ever experienced to something like this was peer-pressure based and not desire based, in my case (very common in young men and if you’ve read the autobiography of Sugar Ray Leonard you will know what I mean).
While I am willing to give my blood and last breath to defend Christ’s Church from the evils of contemporary culture infiltrating, there’s a big difference between approving of this sort of thing, and acknowledging its existence and supporting one another in our various struggles as believers.
I think it’s possible— and even desirable— to find the middle way (to borrow from Eastern Philosophy).
“Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”
— I Peter 5:9 NKJV
Thank you for your kind words sir. They're always honest and heartfelt and I love you for that!
Lady L.
I think that attraction between women is pretty common, most resist it like you did. Congratulations on holding back!
My wife used to have same sex thoughts too. When we were younger, she would look at women and make comments about how nice their legs were or breasts, face etc. I am sure she had a female "friend" in college.
She worked at a place and there was a group of 6 or7 women that went to the beach every year for a full week. I knew someone of them were lesbians and one was bi. They invited my wife to go with them one year, they rented a large house right on the beach. I told her to go if she wanted and have fun. Maybe I shouldn't have told her to do that, but if she wanted to go, I was ok with it.
She really struggled whether to go or not. She never told me what would happen, but did hint, like they shared a bed etc. I told her go and have fun. She was on the verge of going and backed out. I don't think she ever really considered it again.
I think we have these urges, but the key is, some of them shouldn't be acted on.
This stuff becomes more common as it becomes more accepted & common in our world around us. Word of mouth & public acceptance has made more recent generations deal with this way more than older generations. I think the silence of the church has led to more temptation than to being equipped to be the salt & light in these situations.
Back when I was a teen I knew many curious boys my age tell of same sex experiences. A couple of them even propositioned me. I turned them down & went on with life. I chalk it up, now, to our bodies biologically going through a porn led society & puberty while parents & churches never stepped in to equip any of us to handle & control new found sexual sensations & curiosities.
Ron33, thank you for sharing and let your wife know she's not alone. Attraction is not a predictable thing and when that on nuance occurs it sparks interest in us.
I can understand her feelings and give you kudos for loving and understanding her.
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Tutchh
Thanks for being so vulnerable, & you & your husband for being an inspiration.
Ephesians 5:11 says "Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them." Keeping the sins of darkness hidden helps them breed & multiply. You absolutely did the right thing by bringing your experience to the light. You exposed it to your husband, & now to us your siblings in Christ. This kind of confession is needed for so many reasons. You did not sin, but you were tempted. You brought it to the light & exposed it. That is truly a weapon of God's warfare.
I am not offended by the details of your story. These kinds of things can be shared in trusted company to speak to people where they are. This story might not be as effective had you kept it at a G rating.
I love how you bring your transformation to us. It puts a lot of wind in my sails. You & your husband have found the truth & it has set you free. Laughing, crying, & aroused with you through it all in celebration of marriage with you two.
My prayer & faith say my marriage gets where you guys are. I have seen this as the true way marriage is to be for sometime now. In recent weeks (God gets the glory) I have found a new prayer in my heart, & a new context, attitude, & way to include & talk to my wife more about us & sex. It is very patient & subtle but different & is getting results. A story I just submitted yesterday talks of a slight new change in this. Only God knows how things will end up, but I have to learn & be God's will, be the husband.
Thanks for all you do & say. You are beautiful people in my mind, & your marriage sex is awe inspiring.
Mister,
Thank you for your understanding of the intention of the story.
I'm pleased that it has affected and inspired you.❤️
Tuchh, “ At times I would feel my cheeks spread wide apart, exposing my anus to her”..what a hot scene! I came twice repeating it in my heart and tongue while hubby was watching 😊 so good of u to be honest and transparent and redirect the temptation talking it out to hubby. I feel attracted to women everyday but I always stop it at a little flirtation and teasing. Then I rush to hubby to use it for fantasies and role play. When talking to my close female friends or Katie, this attraction is a hot topic that we discuss and feel turned on by ☺️ but husbands are the only recipients of any actions. Katie reading sessions touch on this hot fantasy in a beautiful way. God bless u…
@hotwifey, honey I can totally identify with what you said. There have been multiple times where I had found myself not even waiting to go home but jilling on the way home from having met with a girlfriend or getting my hair done or getting a massage. It's one of those things that seems to just come out of nowhere. This feeling of attraction and desire which I know I can't act on in reality.
The truth is there are a lot of men and women who have these sorts of thoughts and desires and wind up pleasuring themselves in response to them.
The key for all of us to bear in mind is to be careful what we are entertaining in our minds and thoughts. It's not overindulge when these things come upon us and to be honest with our spouse. Many spouses find themselves intrigued by hearing the fantasies of their partners and when two people are very open with one another and honest with one another it can promote a two-way conversation that enhances their love life multiplied times over.
The fact is there's always going to be somebody for some reason that we find attractive and sometimes hits certain keys that resonate with us and trigger these things in us. It's just a fact, and being honest with your spouse about this fact can do wonders for the both of you.
Lady L. 💋❤️💋❤️
Tuchh! This is nice and natural. Tell me about it! Masturbating to fantasies about women I met and know is a habit supported by hubby. and likewise, our car, or somewhere private is where I rush to to pleasure myself after the encounter is over. It really feels nice being looked at by women. Some would start a chat with me. When hubby watches, he feels euphoric. Once I'm out, I can't wait for my hand to go between my thighs :). and prolonged masturbation sessions at home when fruits, creamy stuff and toys operate are an art I'm indulged into. Love to connect and talk more 🙂
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Thanks to all who have commented. It is through discussion like this that we all grow.
Love you all. ❤️💋💋💋