Vibrator Update
I just had a nighttime masturbation session, and it went so well. I started with my usual routine of grinding on a towel on the floor, then lay on my back and inserted a finger into my vagina to work things up and get things wetter. I wanted to use my new vibrator since I want to get more comfortable with it and figure out what my body likes. The last time I used it, maybe a week ago, I’d been pretty tight, and it hurt. I don’t think I gave myself enough time to really warm up and loosen.
Tonight it was different. I lubed up the vibe with my natural fluids and slowly pushed in. It hurt at the entrance, as it always has, but once the bulbous head got through, it slid right in. Interestingly, though I was tight and there was still some pain, it was actually enjoyable. As I moved the vibe around, in and out (not all the way out; just until the head hit that tight entrance) and in circles, the sensation was great. I could feel how wet I was, combined with the feeling of needing to urinate. That just… felt erotic.
I was also listening to some “hot talk” audio and imagining it was my future husband making love to me—very arousing and pleasurable. I hit a nice hot place and kept drilling the vibe against it, and I orgasmed. My orgasms are quick and short and not earth-shattering, but I always feel relaxed afterward, so that’s good enough. Maybe with time, I will experience better and longer orgasms.
Tonight’s self-care time was encouraging because I climaxed using something other than my go-to grinding-on-towel, so I have a lot of hope that my body is welcoming new experiences and learning to enjoy penetration. God is good to give us this gift of masturbation. I quietly thanked Him when I was through before climbing back into bed.
That's awesome! Good for you! Masturbation is indeed a gift from God and given to us to enjoy and learn about the pleasures our bodies can provide us. God bless and stay horny!
Great news and update! Very exciting. I am guessing that this is actually a month or so old now since stories can take some time to publish. Do you have any more updates in the last little while? Continued success?
Yes, this post is maybe over a month old, and I've been doing more experimenting. Using the vibrator like a dildo has been quite fun. Still learning about my body and how much time it takes to warm up enough to loosen my vagina. I can't go in cold or it hurts like the dickens.
Always enjoy hearing your updates; glad things are going well! What site do you go to for audio? If that’s allowed to be shared, I’d be interested to know. I might want to check it out myself!
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I haven't yet found a site dedicated to married couples, or at least free of immoral stuff, so I just try to hunt for married couples on mainstream porn sites. I hate that, because there's so much garbage right there, but until someone starts a place for married and single people to submit wholesome sex/masturbation videos, I have no other resource. Pornhub has a lot of married couples who post their real-life sex sessions, so they do exist. Same thing for the singles who do masturbation and "dirty" talk.
LovelyLonelyLady, when you’re searching for single masturbation & dirty talk porn, are you searching for males jerking their cocks or girls rubbing their pussies? Also do you usually listen to it or are you watching and doing it along with them?
I'm glad (and grateful) that recommendations of resources others may find useful is allowed. LovelyLoneyLady (and others open to it), my wife and I would heartily recommend you look up Lustery. It's not a free site, but my wife and I have subscribed for years and really enriched our marriage and love life by watching together. The videos there are not all by married couples, but they are all videos of people in committed relationships (not porn performers) sharing realistic self-made videos of their love life together. It's sensual, sex-positive, relationship-affirming, and truly beautiful.
We do sometimes also watch selected videos from couples we follow on PornHub, like you mentioned. Their "community" section is far better for avoiding mass-produced trash from the porn industry, and focusing on ordinary couples and individuals instead. But if you want to avoid the rest of the 'noise' on mainstream sites — and avoid obnoxiously smutty ads — Lustery is a great alternative.
@LLL, idk if you've heard of them, but I love Betty Dodson & Carlin Ross' website. It is not a porn site but rather a site dedicated to sex education, primarily for women. It's main focus is helping women learn how to reach their full potential for orgasmic pleasure through masturbation. For a one time fee, you can get a lifetime subscription to the site which includes access to their educational videos, many of which are highly erotic. Carlin's 5 part video series "My Orgasm" is something I think every woman who wants to experience multiple orgasms should watch for the educational aspect. And as a guy, it's incredibly hot to watch her give herself multiple orgasms using various positions and techniques.
[By way of warning to those for whom it would be an issue, Betty Dodson [ https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/03/style/betty-dodson-dead.html ] was a "second-wave feminist" who liked to say that learning masturbation techniques would end women's sexual dependence on men, obviously not in line with MH's mission. Carlin Ross [https://www.glamour.com/story/carlin-ross-goop-netflix-orgasm-tips] was her business partner, and continues to spread Ms. Dodson's teachings through the website and Bodysex workshops. Both Dodson and Ross embrace all types of sexuality, so though their techniques may be informative, their ideals and advice may not sit well with Christian audiences. -MH]
Yeah, LLL. Bummer that there’s not something dedicated to that. Would much prefer that over the current alternatives. Let us know if you end up finding something better!
LovelyLonelyLady, there are some amazing couples on PH that is true passion, I tend to go see if they have updates first. Some of the married couples still seem to be faking there way through it all as well
I’m happy you were able to enjoy your new toy. I hope that, after you’ve used it a few times, you’ll get used to inserting the vibrator into your vagina.
TIP: To get stronger and longer orgasms, try edging. Take yourself right to the edge of an O, but then stop and work at it again. If your body is like my late wife’s was, the more you edge, the stronger the orgasm will be. It works for me too. 💥
Interesting as I've tried edging myself but it actually makes my orgasms disappear or really weak to the point where I wondered why I bothered so it's put me off it horribly 🙁 I even posted a question about it but it hasn't been appoved yet.
I guess it works well for some and not well for others.
I do want to try edging, but the handful of times that I've neared the edge and then backed off, I had a hard time getting back to the level of frenzy needed to climax. I'll keep experimenting though!
You need to take care not to allow yourself to get too close to the edge whilst edging. Even if you get just to the early stage of orgasm, stop and gently rub the exterior labia while staying away from your clitoris, but try and keep the feeling within reach, then start keep on jilling off.
Yeah Sarge is right: even for us males, you definitely have to have the right timing! For me, I’ve waited too long to back off: my body is ready for orgasm, but since I stopped stroking, what resulted was a small weak orgasm with almost no cum produced. But if I edge just right and get the timing down, then it’s a huge and powerful orgasm when I finally decide to stroke through it!
Fantastic! Keep exploring your body! Are using your fingers and now a vibrator fairly recent steps you’ve taken to expand you masturbating technique? Just wondering, LLL, if you have enjoyed an orgasm by stimulating your clit, too?
I forget the exact date I bought the vibrator, because the stories do get posted weeks after I write them, but it's been a few months. Yes, I do use my fingers. Rubbing my clit, as I've said in other posts, is not enjoyable to me, at least externally. I think it's the interior part that enjoys stimulation. I need full-vulva stimulation. I've been using the vibrator more like a dildo, not even turning it on, and when I work it around deep inside, hitting the spot that feels like pressure on the bladder, I get nicely worked up.
Sounds like you may be hitting your G-spot and A-spot. Have fun!!!!
Well done! Using a vibrator and enjoying orgasms is such a gift! Trust me, one day your hubby will enjoy watching you in action!
As others have said, it is wonderful that as a single person you are experimenting and finding out now what 'works for you"! You will have a great time with your future husband when the time arrives to consummate your marriage vows, because you will be ahead of the curve as to what you enjoy and need for physical fulfillment. Your self education and awareness of your body is a wonderful step on that journey. Your description of finding your 'erotic spot' is a perfect example of why people need to try self play or be open to experimenting fully with their spouse after marriage.
Without being disrespectful, I do have some recommendations on your self-satisfaction journey. Although this post is all about your use of the vibrator down below, I would guess that you start by playing on other parts of your body before going to the pubic area. If not, I would encourage that (more self education and awareness). By starting your play session on your chest, you might find that the combination of breast and pubic play will get you and keep you more satisfactorily "on the edge", if that's what you're trying to accomplish. I just know from our experience that my wife had no idea how wonderfully sensitive her chest was until we were married. It was a fantastic learning curve for both of us, but if we had started out with that knowledge, we would have been miles ahead on our physically intimate journey.
It really is enjoyable to hear your thoughts and experiences and your personal journey. You sound like a wonderful young woman.
I am just beginning to explore that! My breasts have always been really sensitive, especially the nipples, to the point of pain. If I lie on my stomach the pressure can be uncomfortable. But I am gaining confidence in touching and playing with my nipples. Plus, I've been doing breast massage every night for several years, so that really helps in making me enjoy touching that area.
I realized now that this site causes us to sin. Before, I thought it was okay because I was on Christian married sex story's because I used to struggle with a porn addiction as a Christian. But I found this site, and the enemy deceived me, for God intended sex to be with husband and wife and for sex to be something that only they know about, at least the details, though there are Christian groups who talk and help Christians who struggle with cheating and porn. Masterbation was intended to be something personal, and when you use anything online to help you, it is sin. I am feeling God's calling to tell you people about this.
Christian man, we acknowledge that MarriageHeat may be triggering for someone who has struggled with an unhealthy relationship with porn. If this site causes you to desire anything your conscience tells you isn't God's will for you, we will be the first to tell you to "cut off" that which causes you to stumble—please, don't visit our site.
However, we disagree with your assessment of God's intent regarding our knowledge of other people's sexual activity. Everything God made is good, and that includes the human form and sex itself. It is only our misuse of His creation, our missing the mark of His intent for us, that He terms sin. He Himself provided an entire book in His Word describing one couple's desire for and activity with each other—and alone! So why would reading online about marital sex or one's preparation for it be any different? We believe this kind of encouragement to passionate engagement with one's spouse should be emulated by Christians as opposition to the world's encouragement to seek that excitement and passion outside marriage.
Thank you for following the Spirit's urging to speak about this. We agree that MH isn't a good fit for everyone. And we appreciate the opportunity to explain again why we do what we do.
I love reading your continuing journey of self-exploration, LLL, as I continue my own as a single guy. Your descriptions of your wetness and what you are feeling as you masturbate are super sexy. There's something just so beautiful about female arousal and sexuality! A wet, aroused vulva is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
I agree, a soaked vulva / vagina is beautiful to see and feel using all the senses: sight, sound (slurping), smell, taste and touch. I find it intoxicating!
I agree. I love slurping up my wife’s sweet pussy, and she loves when I lick on her sensitive clit. Such a beautiful, hot, & steamy activity.
An enjoyable story. I would like to know if there was ever a time when engaging to the Bible launched you on one of those sessions, or if such a session caused you to do something for the cause of Christ (eg tell someone about Jesus, write Christian songs).
I would love to hear an update on what you’ve learned/experienced since writing this Lovely. Oh my word!!!! This is such a beautiful & hot story!!! 😍😍 If you’ll excuse me, I think I should take care of myself now. Hehe 💦💦