Spicy Language
Spicy Language or Some Musings on Sex Slang
This discussion post (obviously) has
strong language (L)
Over the past year or two the language my wife Melody & I use in our lovemaking sessions has become more erotic & more explicit… so I apologize if the sex-slang is offensive to you. We don’t use sex slang words as swear words ever in our regular life. And yet we don’t consider using sex slang “spicy” words as part of our sex sessions as dirty in that married lovemaking context.
Lately my MH stories (most of which are true) use some of those spicy terms descriptively and some of those words are often in the dialogue, (because we DID say them). We didn’t use as many of those sex-slang words back when we were first married. But our marriage and sex life has evolved I guess.
Over the years (especially recently for the spicy words) one or both of us have used the following slang and regular terms for body parts: pussy, cunt, dick, cock, rod, erection, love tunnel, clit, clitty, clitoris, tits, titty or titties, boobs, boobies, butt, vagina, penis, breasts, nipples, & nips. Melody also calls my semen “my present” or “your little guys swimming up inside me.” We both call it “cum.” When we use flavored AloeCadabra lube I call our pussy-mixed cum our chocolate protein shake pussy… & strawberry cream pie… cream sickle cunt, etc. depending on the specific flavor.
There are some archaic sex slang terms that I researched and once in a while I use those. A few of them are: cream the kitty, plow your garden, & do you a kindness. Maybe one day I’ll make an MH post with all of those archaic terms.
In the last year or two, my wife has started to say “puuuuuusssy” in a long drawn out sexy way. She still prefers to refer to my erection as “Fred.” She came up with that name on our wedding night when she nervously first saw and touched “Fred.” Melody likes to tell me to go inside her puuuusssy! And she’ll say how good it feels to have Fred inside her puuuussssy! This, of course, is a major turn-on for me! When I’m fucking Melody, and she begs me to come in her puuusssy, I always have an orgasmic explosion… & I cream her kitty!
In the past, I have not cared for the “F word” because my understanding is that F U C K stands for “For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge.” Since our marriage sex is loving AND lawful I came up with the word “FLICK” which means “For Loving (or Lawful) Incredible Carnal Knowledge.”
However recently I have began using “fuck” at times during sex. For instance, I might say, “Melody, I love fucking your sweet pulsating pussy with my hard dick!”
It feels like no other word quite describes our enthusiastic and very animated sexual intercourse like the F-word. Eleutheros said something like this in her post “Holy Words”
The F-word is only rarely used by Melody. She’ll sometimes tell me she doesn’t like the word so I don’t use it then. Other times I think it turns her on & helps her cum. It’s important that I keep my wife’s feelings & mood in mind.
We have some other spicy terms or phrases for the sex act like: taking a roll in the hay, pretending we are married, pounding, & doing a sex massage. Melody has always liked to demand during foreplay- when she’s ready “Go inside me!” or more recently she’ll ask me, “Don’t ya want to go inside my puuusssy?” etc. etc.
I also have started to use more extreme language in descriptive ways in my stories. Such as writing, “I began fucking her already creamed cunt once again!”
We now schedule a full lovemaking session every third day. On the off days my wife “fixes my problem” or FMP. She will orally and manually stimulate my nips as I masturbate to orgasm. Sometimes she will be the one pumping my rod. Sometimes the FMP turns into oral sex or/& a full lovemaking/sex session with sexual intercourse and usually us both having orgasms. Of course “fixing my problem” or FMP or oral sex are still forms of lovemaking.
Earlier this year, before her back surgery, my wife purchased a male vibrating stroker for me. I wrote about that a couple of times. Melody surprised me by naming it “Julia.” So often we’ll use that in our FMP and also as part of our sex sessions – and Melody will talk for Julia as in, “That feels so good Tommy! I love having you up in my puuusssy!” & “Cum in my puuusssy Tommy!” Lately I have been talking to “Julia” by saying things like, “I love seeing your boobs bounce as you ride my cock!”
I’ll say things to Melody like, “Time to fuck Julia!” Or on days Melody & I don’t have sexual intercourse I often use Julia on my cock as my wife loves on my man-nips and fondles my balls. My wife will talk for Julia and say other things like, “Oh Tommy you’re so big! I love riding you with Fred inside of me!”
Including “Julia” has been rather fun this year. Of course, we are a committed and happily monogamous Christian couple. We don’t actually do threesomes. I told Melody this morning (when we started our lovemaking session with Julia), that Julia is an extension of Melody. My wife agreed. The fun thing is that this morning the FMP turned into full lovemaking with me fucking Melody’s puuusssy!. (That’s a story for another time.)
I should mention that we have named specific items in our collection of sex toys with names like “Flicka,” & “Fred Junior.”
We don’t feel like using spicy language in our sex life is wrong. Again, I apologize if this offends some of you – especially when I use that type of language in my writing. I know some but not all MH writers use spicy language. Maybe I’ll one day decide to not use it but for now, spicy sex slang is part of our lovemaking and part of the stories I write – about our sexual encounters.
I’m curious about what percent of you Marriage Heat readers use spicy sex language in your sexual intimacy with your spouse. And what specific words or phrases do you use for body parts, specific sex acts, & semen… and what do you SAY to your spouse during your lovemaking/sex sessions?
I'm younger and don't have a problem with language in general. Such attitudes belong in the past! If I have to stop myself from saying "fuck" around little old ladies that's one thing, and of course maintaining a professional appearance at work. But I expect that to change more and more in the coming decades. Or it may be that the words themselves will just evolve over time and new swear words will take their place. I seem to remember that "stuff" used to be a rather rude word a couple hundred years ago for instance. Speaking of archaic "dirty" words, there's a story by Philip Jose Farmer that is chock full of them, called "Rip Van Winkle's Long Wet Dream," pretty entertaining.
FM, I once knew a young adult from Scotland (I think). She heard a mutual friend say “gunk” and she kinda freaked out. Apparently “gunk” was a bad word in her country but it is not in mine (USA). I think you are correct that languages evolve— including the “naughty” words.
The UK does have some different rude words, I'm sure. I don't know where SinglePringle has got to, but I wish she'd come back and teach us a few new words that we could use to spice it up even more!
There are several theories about the origin of the word "fuck." The most likely is that it sounds similar to a Scandanavian word for intercourse.
We are using it more than we used to, usually to refer to the act of copulation as in, during foreplay, "Are you ready for me to fuck you now?" "Copulate" is not sexy-sounding word at all, and I can't think of "proper" word that means the same thing.
ILM, I have to agree with you about the “F-word” No other words seems to capture the passion, eroticism, & even shared love like “fuck!”
LM, Hubbie here, and thanks for your post. I’ll try to respond succinctly, with my/our opinions and practices. I tend to be “direct” in my talk (one reason why I don’t counsel at church), so please take my comments with a big grain of salt.
* Yes, Queen and I use spicy language when we are being sexual (broad definition), and we are very explicit
* We don’t use swear words in our regular life, but don’t consider “spicy” sex slang in sex as “dirty”.
* I don’t apologize if sex-slang is offensive. Good Lord, Christian’s need to grow up.
* We use similar words to your list with a few exceptions. I don’t like cutesy terms or ones which seem immature to me.
* I can’t stand the term “boobies” – all I see is two 2nd grade boys giggling.
* I’m not a fan of being overly creative, so archaic terms would be out. They’re not “better” than contemporary words, and creativity is not additive in this case.
* I/we LOVE the term “fuck”. It’s perfect for the level of intensity we feel. I don’t care about that old definition, and it has ZERO bearing on my sex life! We fuck and we fucking love it!
* You had me at “FMP”, because I love TLA’s (Three Letter Acronyms!) A TLA for TLA’S … so ironic!
* How do I say this one gently? When you use the term “man nips” to describe your nipples, it’s a little redundant, no? They’re your nipples, you’re a man, so “nipso facto” …
In any event, we use spicy language when we are sexual (broad definition), and we fucking love it! We don’t try to be coarse, but we don’t sugar coat it either!
Part of the Abandon of free sexuality is throwing off any and every constraint that aren't Biblical (my “The Six” concept), and talking like Puritans is not productive!
So, LovingMan (and Melody), thanks for your huge contribution herein to advance Christian marriage bed intimacy. Long May our cocks and cunts fuck like wild animals! Ooh, that works!
Q&H, thanks for your insights in your comments. I agree with much of what you wrote.
However I like cutsie sex terms like “titties,” & “boobies.” We never used the word “boobies” until we SAW blue footed boobies, Nasca Boobies, & red footed boobies in the Galapagos. I even have a double meaning hat with a picture of two blue footed boobies on it. The hat says,” I Love Boobies!”
LovingMan, thanks for this post. I am in accord with you on this. The one downside (for me) in becoming more accepting of "dirty" words is the subconscious ingraining of them into my thoughts. I don't want those words coming out in my speech around other people, and "out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh", so I have to be careful. It makes me more eager to get married, so I have someone with whom I can be free and say all those hot words. Oh well. It's a good lesson in controlling my mind and tongue for now!
You can use them all you want today with your (future)husband. Makes fucking yourself more fun!
LLL, thanks for your comment. I will reply that although our sexy language has become more explicit of late… we still don’t use those terms as expletives outside of our mutual married sexual activity. And they are more like descriptive words in our sex play.
Here you go LM. My two cents. I was waiting for this. Good Man and thank you so much for bringing this to light. We all needed this. I've heard the term "fornication under consent of the king" = fuck. I think it's all how you use the dirty words and the content of which they're being used and whether they are used offensively. Michael uses the word cunt, but it's always used in an affectionate way, usually preceded with wet, creamy, sweet and or luscious. Our dirty words are between us only. Private and used to excite one another. I am very naughty and explicit in the wording of my stories and comments and again, used to incite & excite. We use them all and neither of us are offended. Michael never uses the words 'tits or boobies'. Out of respect, he uses "breasts" – Cunt, pussy, clit, cock, cum, suck, fuck, finger, probe, pulse, swallow and quite a few others are used in conjunction with one another to get the point across, to excite and guide us as we enjoy being naughty and providing pleasure to to one another. I love pleasuring my husband with all I have. I am his to enjoy and he is mine. It's just us, private, personal and lovingly naughty!
Thanks for your insightful comment YumYum. We are on the same page.
Thanks for this LM.
Like you, our language has got "spicier" over our 30 years.
I love the word 'pussy' but haven't really found any other word that comes close. Honeypot is one we gleaned from a series called outlander. I think in England, we find the 'c' word offensive in a way you don't in America(?). To be called that is the worst of insults.
We use "I want to fuck you now" much more than we would have done in earlier marriage, having no kids at home helps!
We have words for mens equipment in England that others may not; Dick, willy, cock, todger, tackle, pecker, prick.
I believe you Americans sometimes call it 'Johnson' which I rather like.
As for pet names, mine is called Bill, (short for William ie willy)
Hers is called Vicky and her breasts are Becky and Bessie.
She gives me cream, honey, nectar, pussy juice.
I squirt Jizz.
My wife has a middle name that I use as her more naughty\sexy alterego. Just calling her that, say, in the kitchen is suggestive.
Great comment Britnloke. I had never heard some of those UK terms!
We never thought to name each of Melody’s breasts. That’s a good idea!
I was wondering if you had ever heard the phrase “cream the kitty.”
No, that's a new one on me LM
I just joined MH and really enjoy the stories. They are real life and show that Christians have an active and exciting sex life within the bounds of marriage. My wife is visiting family in California and I emailed her the vacation story Rooftop. Couple at a resort in Mexico that has some great sex. I think my wife and I visited that same resort and we actually did the same things, sexually, that the writer and wife did.
My wife did not like the language and said the monologue wasn't Christian. She said words like dick, cock, pussy were awful, even though we both have used them during sex. I don't believe that watching porn is healthy for a marriage, but reading erotic stories that are written by Christians are satisfying and arousing. When I read, I enjoy visualizing the action in a book or story. She gets home tonight and I may just let her bring it up for discussion.
Any advice?
Words are just sounds used to communicate. When the hearer hears what the speaker says and they both share the same meaning of it, to them, that’s what it means. If fuck means to you and your spouse, fun sex, well then that’s what it means for you two.