Aural Sex (L)
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Are you turned on by the sounds of sex? I certainly am!
A common theme in many of the posts on this site is that sex is a form of communication. Beyond all of the sweet, loving, emotional things that people say is the realm of the basic, unfiltered, sexy things that people say. You know—those raw, off-the-cuff, spur-of-the-moment things that just fly out of one’s mouth in the heat of things.
Much of my adult life has been spent around people with intense, precise jobs: police, medical, military, Special Operations, air-traffic controllers, etc. As a result, I tend to “say what I mean, and mean what I say.” I like communications to be direct and unambiguous.
Example: a wife looks deep into her husband’s eyes and moans, “Fuck me….”
In my mind, that is the sweetest, kindest, most loving thing that a wife can say. No euphemisms, no guesswork, no head games. Just something that will make both husband and wife equally happy.
Almost equally alluring are the non-word sounds—those guttural, often subconscious sounds that convey raw emotions without formal words.
Although this was outside of marriage, I once had a girlfriend who would make this loud, sighing/groaning noise, like “Uhhhhhh…” If someone had been lost in the woods for three days without food, this was the kind of sound you’d expect them to make as they took their first bite of hot stew. Wow! It was an ultimate compliment!
Along the above lines, and because I have exposure to multiple languages (including American Sign Language), I have long been curious about the sounds that a Deaf woman might make during sex. If she has never heard spoken words, then there is nothing to imitate. Her sounds would be primal and totally unfiltered. Wow!
I also had a girlfriend who would go into great detail about how proud she was of overcoming her gag reflex by practicing on a banana. The application of that skill is easy to guess, and she would speak at length out of excitement at her success.
Back-and-forth sexual conversations seem to be quite rare, but I find them arousing. I especially like it when a woman “narrates” her sexual thoughts and feelings—during sex, and in great detail. (Kinda the way that HornyGG and CreamyPatty type their stories.) In the jargon of TV sports, I like the “full-color, play-by-play” version.
OK, your turn! What kinds of sexy sounds or words turn you on?
It’s difficult to describe sexy sounds, and it’s especially difficult to type them out. Having said that, I love all the noises a woman makes when she is aroused, is building up towards an orgasm, and especially when she cums. It’s just beautiful 😊
One of my favorite topics! I love the sounds men make, and the more vocal they are, the better. One thing that really turns me off in porn is that the men are generally pretty silent. That's why I've enjoyed things like audios and videos of males masturbating or recording sexy scripts. That has also helped me in my long-time journey of changing how I think about sex. Early on, when I watched my first sex videos (real sex), I was troubled by the groaning and crying out of both parties, especially the woman, because I thought they were in pain (which went hand-in-hand with the few things I'd heard about sex often being painful for women, and my complete ignorance about the abilities of the vagina). I laugh now and revel in the idea of making my future husband groan and gasp and mutter in my ear and roar when he cums. And it's going to be very interesting when I finally have the freedom and the setting to let loose with my own voice. Living at home with family requires discretion! 🤪 But to answer the question precisely, I'd say any grunts and definitely dirty, or as I call it, "hot" talk. Maybe even some laughter, either lustful or humorous.
I understand that many people call it "dirty talk", but I reject the notion that sexy talk is "dirty". My comment is not aimed at you, LLL, but rather at society in general.
LLL, I am also aroused by the sounds of a couple making love.
When I was much younger I was staying in a Motel and I was awakened by a couple in the next room moaning and gasping. I immediately knew they were having sex. I got very hard quickly and my heart was pounding as I heard the women muttering ‘ah, ahh, ahhh, oh fuck yeees’, as her lover pleasured her. I then heard lots of slapping as their bodies fused together. He was telling her she was so beautiful between what I imagined were hot passionate kisses and that ‘you make me so horny’. They were so caught up in their pleasure – lucky them !
After a while he said’ I’m cumming, oh fuck, here it cums, I’m giving it all to you, fuuuck!
‘Oh yees’ she said ‘fuck me deep, ahh, ahhhhh ahhhhhh fuuuck’ !
On hearing all this, I splattered the wall with my spunk, I just couldn’t help it – the aural really excited me.
The couple were much calmer and quieter after their climax and so was I.
This took place about 53 years ago and still gets this 73 year young man very aroused when I think about it.
No, there is nothing dirty in the utterings we make when having sex – that beautiful, wonderful gift from God !
LLL, it seems you have waited a long, long time for your future husband with whom to share the great gift of sex. Try to continue to be patient and the good Lord will put the right man in front of you when you least expect it, i sincerely hope and pray!
I like a very casual approach to sex right now. I like to keep the topic of sex with my wife very upfront and uncomplicated. Almost as casual as asking each other things like what shall we do tonight, or what’s for dinner, or talk about options, I might say, Im kinda horny, wanna fuck a minute or shall I just jack off, I’m fine either way. So what Im saying is that during sex I like to hear the same kind of causal talk, like, can you touch me all over or heck my dick ain’t as hard as I would like it to be this time. Maybe even talk about things totally unrelated to sex while having sex! I certainly like to hear sounds of pleasure too. When I watch a loving couple have sex I want hear how they talk to each other while doing it. It’s
hard to describe but keeping sex very casual actually has a deeper connection and meaning for me than just the same moaning sounds over and over. It may be similar to my views on nudity, just natural and normal, no big deal. The way it was meant to be.
First of all, my Melody also trained with a banana so she could take more of my long erection into her small mouth. She eventually learned to fully deep throat me and that’s awesome.
My Melody is usually a quiet lover. But her soft coos and sighs are sexy sounds to me. When she’s gone all vixen on me she is very vocal about how good things feel n she’ll keep thanking me for sucking her tits or/& fucking her pussy etc.
I like the sex sounds of intercourse but my hearing was failing some. So with my first hearing aids I discovered that I could again hear those sexy fucking sounds.
Over the last two years I changed my mind about sexy slang. Now I like to tell my wife how good she is at fucking. I LOVE when she asks me to fuck her pussy! Or she’ll tell me to fuck her harder when we’re in doggy position. As had been said before by other MHers, sex slang used to refer to the actual sexual acts is sexy and acceptable. I would never yell “Fuck you!” at someone. But I will tell my Melody that she’s a really good fuck n very good at fucking me back. Her using those spicy words turns me on so much now!
I love this topic! Sex sounds get me aroused like crazy!
My wife isn't very verbal during sex until I get her to the point of being fucked really really well, then she starts cussing a ton saying stuff like "shit" and "Fuck" "oh fuck" in the most sensual moaning voice! She also will occasionally make these aggressive primal sounds when everything is hitting just right, and often times when her orgasm comes she will moan/yell so loud out neighbors have to hear (which is super hot!)
As KingdomMan mentioned, describing sexual sounds and translating them into text form can be difficult. It's further complicated by the fact that I'm a single virgin and have no direct experience with this! 😛 But I can speak from my experience of reading and imagining sex stories, and knowing from my time on the internet what female pleasure sounds like.
For me, while the actual sounds and words carry some meaning, it's the idea behind them that is far more meaningful.
Thinking in the context of interactions with my future wife, any sound or phrase that communicates her enjoyment or her open embrace of our shared sexuality is what gets me going most. Whether it's a romantic "I love you", a flirty "Can I show you something in the bedroom?", a direct "I want you", a firm "Fuck me", or any of the soft sighs or full-throated cries of pleasure, in different ways, they all communicate the same thing: her openness, willingness and desire to be intimate with me. And I don't mean "intimate" just as a euphemism. What means the most to me, and what turns me on the most, is the thought that she doesn't just want sex, she wants ME. Sex is great, but it's the connection that's more important. Shared pleasure is beautiful, but I prefer to emphasized the shared part over the pleasure part.
Any sound or phrase that taps into that idea is sure to get me going. But that requires the established context of a loving and trusting relationship first, which is why I think the marriage commitment is so important to being able to enjoy sexuality to its fullest.
With that emphasis on a positive embrace of intimacy, something like her saying "yes, yes" or my name with a bit of a sigh or moan to it, as simple as it is, is one of the biggest turn-ons I can imagine.
For me, the aural part of sex can be just as good as the actual sex. It gets me off like nothing else. If a woman isn’t vocal during sex, it makes me feel that she isn’t enjoying what I am doing. I don’t want fake aural either. I know that there are some women who really struggle with being vocal, and they are still enjoying themselves. It’s just hard to believe it when you are the male trying to please such a woman. I’m glad that my wife, my second wife to be clear, is somewhat vocal and a little noisy during sex.
For me, the sound a woman makes during sex, when it sounds like a guttural groan of pleasure mixed with agony, just drives me completely insane with pleasure.
Sounds are my biggest turn-on. I love groans, moans, directions, requests, pleads, sloppy sounds…anything sincere. I don't like what comes across to me as fake, exaggerated, or over-done – the high female porn voice is the main one that comes to mind right now. I would love it if there was an audible section on this site (there are other sites with paid memberships where you can listen to stories and moans, but they have sections that venture into non-God-honoring relationships and I'd rather not support them).
Docs Wifey,
"I love groans, moans, directions, requests, pleads, sloppy sounds…anything sincere."
YES!!! I'm especially fond of the "directions & requests" portion — both giving and receiving. When a woman says, "Suck my tits," then I know that my doing so will give her exactly what she needs. And, when she cums, then I get exactly what I need — the pleasure of knowing that "I helped" with her orgasm. And that, of course, usually leads to my own orgasm shortly after.
Oh, by the way, another request that really trips my trigger is: "I want you to cum on my face."
As you can see, the attitude here is "Join the club!" I'd also direct you to this post where we've discussed similar topics: https://marriageheat.com/2024/11/23/gone-wild/
I find a woman moaning in pleasure to be incredibly arousing. Porn can get pretty fake and exaggerated, and I do wonder how much porn has influenced women if they think that's how they "should" sound. People should just do what comes naturally! Sadly I think a lot of us grew up having to masturbate covertly and it takes a bit of time to overcome that programming, but considering how aroused I am listening to women, I certainly don't want to withhold my own moans from my future wife!
And yes, being able to discuss enjoyable topics like sex with your intended sounds arousing as well. As long as you know when to quit so it doesn't go too far! But still, if you're moving toward marriage with a member of the opposite sex, then all topics including sex and what turns you on should be discussed. It amazes me that couples DON'T talk about it, even years into their marriages, and makes me wonder if that habit gets harder to break over time too.
And those women practicing with bananas to prepare them to be better at blowjobs, wow, there's something about that that I find particularly honoring. Not necessary, but still such a nice attitude to have. I hope I can adopt the same attitude from the male side with my reading of many articles on sexual technique, as well as SHE COMES FIRST by Ian Kerner and other great books.
Tom gets super turned on by the sounds I make while masturbating. Small moans, the background of a low pulsating vibe, the “ooh that feels good” moments, my fingers in and out of my wet pussy, the slow build to a “whoosh” climax. He also loves my unavoidable gasp when he first enters me, the oral encouragement when he gets on my best spots while fucking me, and the sounds of a penetrative orgasm. It just sounds different coming from within rather than on the surface. So much going on there. Cannot be faked. Last, when I’m blowing him I hum. He likes the vibration. And the sloppy sounds of a wet mouth. Secret? HYDRATE….
There is a reason why hearing is one of the five senses. And there is a reason why it's so often when we I describing is sexuality we use the word sensuality.
Gratification in one way or another involves one or more of our senses. But when it's the human interaction of intimacy, all of our senses are Incorporated and the more they are Incorporated the more gratified and satisfied one becomes.
For a long time my way of communicating my sexual pleasure was with a closed mouth mmmm.
When in my mind and body the real way I'm feeling is oh absolutely fantastic this feels and that I don't want it to end. And part of why I communicated like that was my feeling that I did not want to be in proper both as a woman and a person of Faitth. The problem with something like "mmmm"
Is that it doesn't truly describe if you are really satisfied. Or what level of satisfaction you're feeling. And can be received in a negative way. Overtime and through conversation and by his example I learned to begin expressing things verbally.
A loving sexual interaction does not just involve receiving pleasure. But the greater joy is in the ability to give pleasure. The reassurance that we have something that makes them happy and feel good. When we convey through words, noises and directions. We are helping our partners to give us what we want and need at that given moment and also reinforcing to one another what all the rest of our senses are telling us. It's a reassurance to each of us that we're truly giving happiness joy and pleasure.
I have a group of girlfriends one of them being his sister , with whom I have very open sexual communication with. There's a no holds barred candor between us. And I have commented before about my sister-in-law.
Each of us has caught the other masturbating. Usually I will stop. But she continues. It was one of those times where she was very close […] She was so vocal as her arousal would come to a crescendo. And she made no [pretense of] holding back . […] It also taught me how quiet I had been both with her brother [my husband] and in my solo sessions. Finding out also that many of my friends were just as vocal and some even more so. Sharing among our small group some other things they say, and the things that their lovers say.
It wasn't easiest first for me to be vocal but now I can't see myself not being vocal.
Looking back at it I came to realize they're keeping ourselves from expressing is suppressing a fullness of sexual pleasure. We are in fact not only denying ourselves but our partner the fullness and joy of all that sex can truly bring.
Lady L. 💋💦💦💦
[Edited by MH: Great thoughts on the subject, but let's dial back the eroticized descriptions of masturbation voyeurism between family members. Everyone can make their own choices about what they participate in, but that's something we feel isn't entirely appropriate, nor supports our marriage-focused mission on this site.]
My hubby always says, the louder I am, the better! Super turn on for him.