The Counselor

I was rather uncomfortable as I waited to see the counselor. After all, Lou and I will be celebrating our 30th anniversary the very next day and we both agree that we have a wonderful marriage. But I also knew that Lou had been pleading with me to try and spice things up.  So when the counselor asked me what it was that I wanted to talk about I blurted out, blushing with embarrassment, “I want to learn how to spice things up in the bedroom.” (Did I really say that…Oh my I can’t believe I just said those words.)

“Well then it would seem that you and Lou are both in agreement. He has given me permission to share this much with you. I know that he wants the same thing you want. So Denise, in your mind what has kept you from experiencing the spice you both desire?” The counselor’s voice was very soothing and demonstrated genuine concern. “Well to be honest I am extremely ticklish. When Lou touches me down there it is very frustrating for both of us.” “So there are other areas where he can touch you that are not ticklish; is that right?” “Yes he can touch my breast, but the other is almost torturous. I am also very ticklish around my neck.” “Have you always been ticklish in this way?” “Oh yes, all my life, my feet, my neck, my legs…all very ticklish.  Then when we got married I realized that it was the same with other body parts; especially the one part that Lou desperately wants more than anything.” “OK Denise so we need to talk about the tickles then. Is there anything else that you would like to talk about?”

I was shocked not so much by the conversation in which I was now engaged with this man, but more by the level of comfort I was beginning to have in the discussion. With growing comfort for the first time I actually looked in the counselor’s direction. Until that moment I had stared out the window or had looked down at the floor as I spoke, but with the last question he asked, I looked him in the eye. In that moment it was as if he could see into my soul…he could read my heart that I desperately wanted to please my husband. “Well yes there is one other thing. I…I want to know what I can do to better please him….orally.” “OK I understand. So then you are comfortable now talking with me about this matter?” “Yes, I think so.”

“Denise have you ever noticed that you can’t tickle yourself, at least this is true for the majority of people. Is that true of you?” I nodded agreement and the counselor continued. “Scientists have actually studied the tickle response and they have determined that we can control our response to being tickled, even when someone else is doing the tickling. The human touch is a powerful sense we’re exposed to as soon as we’re born. We respond to touch, both physically and emotionally, with some areas on our bodies being more sensitive than others. We also know that the sensation is a natural response that alerts us if something is wrong.  For example you probably would not want to have a spider crawling on your foot, right? Again I nod in agreement, fascinated by the discussion. “Perhaps you also remember a time as a child when your dad or a cousin tickled you without mercy until you were in tears…Tickling activates the Rolandic operculum a part of the brain that controls facial movement, vocal, and emotional reactions. Tickling also stimulates the hypothalamus, which is the part of the brain that controls our body temperature and sexual behavior, among other things. This is why it can seem tortuous and pleasurable at the same time. Does this all make sense?” I nod again in agreement.

“What you need to know Denise is that you can control your tickles. First, you must trust your husband. He is not a spider and he is not touching you in order to tickle you. Also remember you cannot tickle yourself. So as he begins to touch you gently place your hand over his hand and it will seem as if you are touching yourself.” With those last two words the counselor spoke I sensed a warming deep within me and we both smiled.  Then the counselor drew closer and spoke, “Let’s do a little exercise so that you can see how this works. Is that OK?” “I guess so.” The counselor reached out and touched my bare neck. I immediately flinched, but instinctively placed my hand on top of his hand and immediately the ticklish feeling subsided. But with the tickles subdued there was the instant rush within my nether region. He held the touch on my neck for no more than 10 seconds. There was a connection with this man that I have never had with another man. It was as if he knew what I wanted and he wanted it too.

I was quickly jolted out of the moment by the very clinical tone in his voice with the next question. “Do you struggle with the tickles when he gives you oral?” “Yes, it is a struggle.  I am able to do so in the 69 position, but sometimes he just wants to please me and it is very difficult when he comes at it head on that way. He always says that I am pushing his head away or I close my legs and don’t give him access.” “OK Denise I know it may be a challenge, but remember everything we have learned so far. You trust your husband. He is not trying to tickle you. Rather than push his face away the next time he gives you oral place your hands on the back of his head and pull him into you. Open your legs as wide as possible and give him unhindered access. Do you think you can do that?”  “Yes I can do that,” I say with bold confidence trying to remember that I am in a clinical setting.

“Now our time is almost over for today and we still have the one question left. You stated that you want to better please him orally. Can you be more specific?” “Well this is awkward, but I guess I want to know what a man thinks good oral is.” “Well Denise as a man who has counseled hundreds of other men and couples, I will be glad to tell you. First, don’t think of it as a job, as a duty that you must perform to please your man. Make it a regular part of foreplay or even ever so often the main course of action. Don’t be in a hurry. Relax…take your time and enjoy the experience. Make it sloppy and don’t forget the jewels. Suck them into your mouth as you stroke his cock.  Suck with great passion and ever so often look him in the eyes like you are starving for more.” At this point I am certain that the counselor could see the flush in my cheeks that was running down my neck and warming my pussy with sweet nectar for I could certainly see the growing bulge in his slacks. “Be careful with the teeth and relax your throat.  Take him deep as you can. Make noises and rub your pussy. Give him surprise head when he is not expecting it. Wake him up in the morning giving him head. I can promise you that with the exception of your pussy there is no object in the universe that he loves more than his own cock and he wants you to love it too. Does that help you better understand what a man wants?”  I answer with a very flustered yes. “But what about the finale…how do I finish him?” “Well let me ask you this…do you like him going down on you? I mean of course apart from the fact that you are ticklish?” I nod in agreement. “And he loves your juices right?” “Yes”. “So does that answer your question?”  “YES”.

So now to conclude our time together I have one final thing to say to you. First I know that you are going to have a great time over the next few days for your anniversary. Tomorrow night when you lay down with Lou remember the talk we had today. Remember how I touched your cheek and how it shot electricity through your sweet pussy. Remember how you saw my cock grow and the look in my eye at how much I wanted you in that moment, but I refrained because I was saving my energy for the moment I explode into your body 24 hours from now, because I am your husband who loves you more now than I ever could have imagined 30 years ago.”

FOOTNOTE:

This was an actual conversation that I had with Lou as we rode to Pigeon Forge TN this week for our 30th anniversary. The next two nights were incredible. The tickling sensation was not a problem and for the first time I allowed him to video us as we made love.  We watched the video on our iphone and then deleted it.  It was very romantic to watch our video that we made together. It was also a huge boast to Lou’s ego, at 53. After several minutes of foreplay with mutual oral he penetrated me and humped for more than 16 minutes before his first orgasm and the next night for almost the same amount of time. He definitely has stamina as we have read that the actual act is generally not that long.  I have never had trouble with vaginal penetration orgasms because he takes his time to warm me up and can last the needed amount of time in the humping phase.  We also bought some new toys.  I was too afraid to buy them back home. But figured no one would see me that I know in Pigeon Forge.  (I am shy in that way).  We had an incredible anniversary and came away with great memories and a commitment to communication that is truly a door opener to greater pleasure.  One that we are both looking forward to is when he can give me oral to the point of orgasm.  I am still working on the ticklish part of that and have only just began, but it is exciting to realize that it is possible to overcome obstacles like ticklishness.  By the way Lou is a real counselor and I am a very blessed wife. Happy anniversary sweetheart! I love you!  D