Translating Married Heat To Our Marriages

Translating Married Heat – How do Christians apply sexual stories in accordance with obedience? We should all be interested in the answer to that question. We want to please the Lord.

It is possible for someone to read Song of Solomon and misuse it. But how? It is the Bible. Well, if a woman was reading Song of Solomon and then fantasized about having sex with her best friend’s husband – that would be sin.

Of course, it takes discipline. We must exercise self-control when reading Song of Solomon. I translate that experience to my life with my beloved wife. I ponder her breasts and pussy – not someone else’s. Is there temptation to think of others? There can be. This is why walking with God and being fed by His word constantly is so important in living a yielded life – by the Holy Spirit’s power within us.

The stories in Marriage Heat are real. Blondie does her best to post only stories that are consistent with monogamous, biblical marriage. We who partake of this site have a responsibility. We must exercise spiritual discipline as we partake. Yes, we must be even careful translating married heat to our marriages.

We use this site in obedience to God when we translate the experiences into our own marriages.

Think of walking into a nice furniture store. They set up living rooms and bedrooms – fully decked out! Most customers don’t purchase the whole setup and reproduce it in their homes. It would be too expensive for most people. They purchase part of the whole setup and make it fit the best they can in their already existing home decor.

We must do the same with Marriage Heat. We are all different. Yet, this site teaches us things from each other’s experiences – that frankly, make us want to try them out. Yet, we must bring them in to an already existing relationship. This takes wisdom.

My wife and I cannot reproduce running naked in the snow in our backyard – we live in too warm a climate. Yet, there are ways for us to translate that experience. We have fun thinking about how to translate Ben and Gina’s experiences. As well as K and Kay’s. Or Blondie’s. I just read BlackLace’s story and want to translate the mirror experience. We love to translate car sex when we travel. We are not creative geniuses – this is why we love the ideas that come (cum) from Marriage Heat.

My wife and I love each other deeply – and are very contented by the ways God has grown us sexually. It mirrors the rest of our relationship. God is constantly at work in us – conforming us to the image of Christ. The Bible makes us expect that we will continue to grow and develop.

Many times, the agency that God uses to change us – is seeing something someone else is doing right – and then we want to copy it. We might see the way a parent dealt gently with their child – and want to imitate it.

We could never have believed we would become who we are now sexually 25 years ago! God didn’t take us to where we are immediately. It has been a wonderful journey! It was not a race to get to this point. Our sex lives are the best they have ever been. We are hornier in our late 40’s than we have ever been. The world would wonder how that could be possible?!. I give credit to God. Sex simply is NOT getting old – it seems to be getting new.

I think the unique contribution of Marriage Heat is that it helps us to see translations from Song of Solomon in fellow believers – but in an appropriate forum. We could not reproduce this in person at a “Marriage Heat” conference. The contributor’s faces and bodies would likely become a lustful temptation that would end up being stumbling block for the rest of our lives.

The good news is – Marriage Heat (like reading Song of Solomon) does not give us pictures of the participants. We are left to translate to our own covenant spouses. When I read of Gina or Marriage Joy masturbating, I have no idea what they look like or where they live. It is not difficult for me to translate their experience to thinking of my wife, on our bed, playing with her cunt. Yet, their stories inflame or motivate me to ponder in this direction. I am heartened that many other Christian women are just like my wife. It gets me hot!

My wife can identify with the other Christian ladies who like to watch their husband masturbate. It has helped her to feel more free to not deny what she enjoys. She knows she is not a freak for enjoying watching me jerk off. She knows she is like other women who also love the Lord!

So, I encourage you to be careful. We are susceptible to weakness. But, God’s power can give us self-control. Be a part of Marriage Heat – using the site in the kind of ways that is consistent with right translation. I’m finding this to be a great blessing. Thank you all for the way you encourage my wife and I. You are applications of Song of Solomon!

I am interested to know if many of you feel the same way. Please let me know. I know that I desire to be an encouragement to you all. God bless.



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18 replies
  1. Anonymous says:

    We really appreciate the fun, creativity and inspiration that comes from Marriageheat. Thanks so much to all of the contributors. You do a fine job. We do however find the use of names a distraction. Whilst we don’t know what the ‘characters’ look like we are still led to imagine the scene with people with different names to our own and therefore possibly different faces other than our spouse. That’s not somewhere we prefer to go! Perhaps this is being picky but we don’t want to cause others to stumble, so why not create guidelines that suggest authors refer to “my love, my beloved, my honey” or whatever nameless description of your spouse you may naturally use so we can all focusoin the one we should be focused on?

    • Gina G. says:

      Anonymous, I can understand where u are coming from. I’M not gonna say I disagree with you, but I also cannot say I agree with you either.

      I use mine and my husband’s name in my stories because basically it is about our love and passion. Personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable “generalizing ” something that is such a precious memory. They are written out of a deep love of my husband and our marriage.

      I do not intend for them to come across as like reading a “dirty book” as dear SWEET honeygirl refered. I write my stories the only way I know how, the way my heart tells me.

      BEN has told me, if I were to change or give in to others opinions, then he would just as soon that I stop posting all together.

      I know you are not talking about my stories specifically, but I just felt the need to comment. Be blessed!

    • HoneyGirl says:

      I LOVE your stories Gina G! Please don’t stop writing! I really have only just begun to read several of the “older” stories and I just wasn’t sure how to phrase it. I definitely wasn’t referring to any particular story by anyone specifically, but I was remembering a few rare stories that I ended up skimming certain parts– maybe it was just too personal for me at that moment. Whatever it is, I like names in the stories, but I like not overusing them 🙂 Hope that all makes a little more sense.

    • Gina G. says:

      Honeygirl, I am so glad you enjoy my stories! Please do not feel I was being critical of you! I understand what you meant and know you were not specifically talking about any specific story or contributor.

      I was just trying to make a point on why I use our names in my stories. I truly enjoy your stories as well. Be blessed!

  2. 76servant says:

    Kudos! It’s been awhile since visiting MH and I am very encouraged that MH staff are walking with us through the wonderful design of the intimate Life Dance with our spouses! Thank you all for putting Christ first!!

    Again I post this reminder to us all today…

    Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:22-33 ESV)

    You are loved!!

    Warmly in Christ,

  3. HoneyGirl says:

    I agree Anonymous! Some work with names & if only mentioned a couple times are fine, but sometimes it is a bit distracting and I feel more like I’m reading “a dirty book” instead of trying to imagine my hubby & me. It’s why although hubby & I both call each other Honey & Hon depending on the conversation, I write myself as Honeygirl & him as Hon/Honey.
    Other less loveydovey but still good nameless terms include: my beautiful/hot wife, my sexy husband/hubby, etc 🙂

  4. doctemp2 says:

    LovingHusband, thank you for the reality check. Everything must be taken in perspective and we cant give the enemy a foothold. We love the honesty of MH stories and the ability of writers to provide feedback to each other–rather it be positive or constructive. (We admit to getting a little carried away at times and will try to use more restraint moving forward.) As you stated, we can all learn from oneanother and see what works and what doesn’t. We are encouraged by knowing many other Christian couples are as hot and horny as we are–and that others use naughty words together on their marriage beds too. We don’t feel like such sexual outcasts now. Again, great insights sir!

  5. doctemp2 says:

    HoneyGirl, we love your stories and posts. We appreciate your openness and honesty and the heat you and your husband so well write about. Please know we were not singling your out either. Take good care! Kay & K.

  6. HoneyGirl says:

    No offense taken here! 🙂 I was worried i came across as stepping on others’ toes. I’m glad we can all be so open & honest about such an important topic. I’m very thankful for the original post & the subsequent discussion 🙂

  7. Lovinghusband says:

    Thank you Harper. Admittedly, this is not always easy to do, is it? I still think the benefits of learning from other like-minded couples is a tremendous blessing. And as you know – I love your stories!

  8. PassionateForChrist says:

    This is a must-read for everyone browsing through MH!

    Big hearty thank you to the one (you know who you are), who pointed me to it!! I needed the wake-up call. God bless you for boldly looking after me and caring to protect me from the Enemy’s schemes and attacks! Thank you to Lovinghusband as well for having written it so truthfully and on-point! I pray that everyone would take the words you speak to heart, for they are filled with biblical love and truth and wisdom.

    “Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.” (Galatians 6:1-2 NLT)

    • Lovinghusband says:

      Hi Passionate,

      I was looking back at old stories and never saw your comment – over a year ago! Thank you for your encouraging words. God bless you! LH

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