I am wondering if there are seniors here who can help me with an issue I am experiencing. My wife and I are in our early 60s and retired. We should be enjoying life at this stage. Some of our activities are enjoyable and I’m pretty satisfied with most aspects of our life together. But when it comes to sex, my wife and I are miles apart.
She claims her vagina is dry, which I can understand. However, I have no issue with the use of lube and even find using it somewhat of a turn-on in our love making.
She will not agree to trying positions other than missionary, while I want to experience as many positions as possible.
I have suggested we masturbate together, but she outright refuses to even try. She has no problem with me masturbating in front of her but will not do so in front of me claiming she has no reason to do so.
We have sex about once a week, while I would like to have sex two to three times a week.
So you see, we are far apart in our needs and desires. My wife will not discuss our sex life; she seems to think its perfectly okay. Yet I have told her many times of my preferences.
On a positive note, we never have sex when she doesn’t experience an orgasm and enjoys doing so. Yet she seems to be indifferent to experiencing other pleasures. I do not understand why she is like this and, when I ask, she puts up her defenses and claims I just don’t understand.
Is there someone who can help me deal with this matter in such a way that she might become more willing to help me. I do love my wife dearly and want us both to be happy.