Questions
Hey MH, Dean here again. Hope you’re all good. Long time, no see, but I’ve been around here. The year’s almost over before we go into a new one! Time really does fly.
I want to put two questions out to the community regarding sex (duh), but more importantly, God. Here’s what I want to ask.
Q1: In your younger days, how did you balance your faith in God (if that was the case) and sexual curiosity?
Q2: How do you prioritize God in your marriage and family life?
I am very curious to see what the MH community’s responses to these questions are. You may wonder, “Why are you asking these questions, Dean?”
I’m curious how in younger teen days we balanced or wrestled with the idea of sex along with faith. And how now in marriage we make God the top priority in everything that comes with marriage, family, and life.
Thanks, stay sexy, and God bless.
Dean
I grew up in a quasi-fundamentalist environment. Add the purity culture of the 90s… and God and sex did not coexist if you weren’t married (in theory). Of course I developed into a sexual person with lots of curiosity, but my sexual development (biology, nudity, masturbation, etc) was done in secret and with much spiritual shame looming over me. • Today I don’t compartmentalize God. He is Lord over everything, even our sexuality. It’s not about putting God and “spiritual things” first, it’s about making God the *center*. He flow through all aspects of life. The #1 way I can honor God is NOT by going to church or reading my Bible or some sort of “sacred” act. ALL is sacred… so the #1 way to honor God is how I love and honor my wife and children. It’s an earthly example of dying to oneself and living sacrificially for others.
I agree with PacMan. I was a teen in the 60s, but grew up in a devout Christian home and a rather legalistic church. About all I was told about sex was that it was bad and we should stay away from it. I was very curious, and read everything I could get my hands on. But still, I grew up without having a positive and beneficial perspective about sex. Growing into a truly godly perspective about sex has been a lifelong process, and even in my 60s, I feel like I am not as far along that path as I would like to be. Sites like this help.
Good Questions. We read a lot of books, blogs, and newsletters to come out of our sheltered environment. In our younger days, God and sex WERE compartmentalized, but now they are part of our marriage.
Lol the picture makes this more serious than it actually is.